Memorial Wall : victims of domestic abuse

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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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May 6th:
Ronke Shonde
died on May 6th, 2016

Mrs Ronke Shonde from Lagos, Nigeria, often complained to her family about domestic violence. The family fought about the money, and both accused each other of cheating. At some point they even signed an agreement at a police station that they would not be involved in further domestic disputes no matter what happened - at the insistence of their relatives, pastor, and landlady. Physical abuse continued, but Ronke stayed with her husband for the sake of the children (aged six and four). On May 6th, Ronke's husband told their nanny she wouldn't be needed on that day, didn't send the kids to school, and locked himself, Ronke, and the children inside the house. The neighbors broke the door because the children were screaming, and found Ronke's dead body on the floor. The husband fled the scene but eventually turned himself in and was charged with murder. No family member or relative of his was present at Ronke's funeral.


Posted by Manya on March 19th, 2017
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May 10th:
Dolores Moritz
died on May 10th, 2014

When Melbourne police officers arrived at the home they found Dolores Moritz dead. Detectives said she was in an emaciated state, and lying in feces and urine. Dolores died due to lack of care, according to the medical examiner. Law enforcement officials determined 66-year-old her son was the primary caregiver and had neglected his mother. He was arrested on charges of aggravated manslaughter of an elderly person and neglect of an elderly person.


Posted by Jane on June 15th, 2018
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May 15th:
Morsal Obeidi
died on May 15th, 2008

16yo Afghan born Morsal lived in Hamburg, Germany with her family of five siblings. She went to high school and dressed as German girls her age: uncovered hair, makeup, and jeans. Her family felt she "dressed like a slut" and frequently beat her up for it, on one occasion knocking out her tooth. Morsal was a regular visitor at Child and Youth Services welfare center, and was offered housing away from her family, but kept returning back home against the advice of social workers; they described her family relationships as "highly ambivalent".

In May of 2007, Morsal's family sent her to Afghanistan for 9 months to be "re-educated" about religion and culture, and only allowed her to return to Germany after she promised "to be obedient". And in May of 2008, 16yo Morsal was stabbed and beaten to death at a parking lot by her 23yo brother. He was sentenced to life imprisonment. When the verdict was read out in court, he yelled that had the trial taken place in Afghanistan, he would have already been released long ago. Click on Morsal's name to read a very interesting article about her life and death.


Posted by Manya on March 20th, 2017
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May 16th:
Ruby Isabella Knox
died on May 16th, 2016

Ruby Isabella Knox, born on January 8, 1996, was severely intellectually disabled and diagnosed with severe autism spectrum disorder. She also suffered from a litany of health problems, including chronic constipation and haemorrhoids, incontinence, spina bifida, gastroesophageal reflux and hip pain. She couldn't talk, nor did she have any ability to empathise. The pair couldn't enjoy play dates or socialise with other families. Instead, they were all alone in their house. But none of that ever seemed to bother her mum. Their family GP said that in more than 150 consultations, he never saw Donella adversely react to Ruby's violent and sudden outbursts. Instead, all he saw was a mother who loved her daughter dearly; one who was fighting tooth and nail to get the best health care for her that she could. Donella Knox felt endlessly helpless, and hopeless, about Ruby's deteriorating health and suffering. She felt forgotten about and ignored by the health and care systems. She doted on her daughter. She gave her only child unadulterated love and care. In return, she was bitten, headbutted, scratched, tackled, and ignored by a big, strong girl. On May 16th, 2016 Donella drugged and suffocated Ruby.


Posted by Jane on July 4th, 2018
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Graziella Dailler
died on May 16th, 2014

48yo Mrs Dailler, originally from France, lived in Australia and worked as a beauty therapist. "She was like a sister to me. She was a very stoic person, she had a lot of dignity and pride. She took great pride in her own appearance and she loved making other women feel good about who they were," her boss said. Mrs Dailler had three adult children and an abusive boyfriend, and both she and her children have been in contact with the police about the situation.

On May 16th, 2014, Mrs Dailler's daughters came to check on her because she missed her daughter's birthday and didn't show up to work. They discovered the bodies of their mother and her boyfriend, who killed her and then himself.

"Anyone who is experiencing domestic violence, please seek what help is out there and get yourself out of the situation before your family is grieving like ours is." ~ Mrs Dailler's children


Posted by Manya on July 8th, 2016
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May 18th:
Anthony Tirrell Murray
died on May 18th, 2014

30yo Anthony from Georgia, USA, was stabbed to death by his girlfriend during an argument. She said the knife "just seemed to puncture his chest." A medical examiner, however, testified the blade cracked a rib and punctured Murray's lung, aorta and pulmonary artery. The woman was acquitted of murder, but found guilty of aggravated assault and sentenced to 15 years in prison. Sergeant Joe Harris with Columbus Police testified at the trial, stating that domestic violence has a tendency to be highly under-reported, especially by male victims. The woman who killed Anthony had prior reports of domestic violence on other boyfriends, including one in which she was alleged to have beaten a man with a crowbar. Anthony had two children. She had four.


Posted by Manya on March 20th, 2017
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May 21st:
Sabia Rani
died on May 21st, 2006

Sabia was a Pakistani girl beaten to death by her husband. It was an arranged marriage; after the marriage certificate was signed, Sabia stayed in Pakistan for three more years while her husband and his family lived in UK. When Sabia was 19, she came to UK to stay with them. She didn't speak a word of English, didn't know anyone in the country, and never went outside alone. Her husband didn't like how she made his lunch, that she struggled figuring out how to apply makeup, and that she didn't know how to buy groceries. Five months after her move to UK Sabia was dead.

There were four adults in the household aside from Sabia and her husband. He was beating her for at least three weeks. 90% of her body was covered in bruises. She had 15 bone fractures. The family said they saw no injuries on her body, didn't realize she was in pain, and that she must have been killed by "evil spirits".


Posted by Manya on February 19th, 2016
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May 22nd:
Teneya Little
died on May 22nd, 2016

40yo Mrs Little, from Wisconsin, USA, was a nurse at the Milwaukee Area Technical College and mother of two teenagers. Her boyfriend was on parole for drug related charges, and had an arrest warrant for battery. "She was just looking scared," her sister said, "like she was scared, like, 'I'm just tired,' and when I seen her I was like, 'He's going to kill you,' and she just looked at me. (...) I think she always attracted people that needed help. That's what it was. She felt like he was good - that he just needed someone there for him or to love him." When Mrs Little pressed charges against him for domestic violence, he tried to convince her to drop the charges. They had an argument, and she died of a gunshot wound to the head. Her children were at home at the time and unharmed. The man told them, "I just blew your mama's brains out. I forgot it was loaded. I shouldn't have put the bullets in."


Posted by Manya on March 21st, 2017
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May 27th:
Burulai Turdaaly Kyzy
died on May 27th, 2018

20yo Burulai from Kyrgyzstan was about to graduate from medical school, and to marry her fiance. However, a local cab driver was infatuated with her. He subjected her to a practice called ala kachu, which is a bride kidnapping followed by a forced marriage, but Burulai's father was able to rescue her. The cab driver was continuing to pressure for marriage and making death threats, so Burulai moved to another district, to stay with her aunt, for safety. However, on May 27th she visited her parents to help her mother during the holy month of Ramadan, and went to the store to buy yogurt for her father. As soon as Burulai left the house, the cab driver abducted her. Her father saw it happen, but couldn't intervene in time. He contacted the police, both Burulai and her abductor were detained, and her father was told to come pick her up from the police station. However, Burulai was held in the same room with her abductor, and he stabbed her to death while the police were "distracted".


Posted by Manya on May 4th, 2019
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Farzana Parveen
died on May 27th, 2014

30yo Farzana from Pakistan was bludgeoned to death by her family for marrying her husband. They loved each other, she was pregnant by him, and her family initially approved of the marriage, but withdrew their consent after her husband refused to pay more than the agreed-upon bride price. Farzana's father accused him of abducting her, and she testified to the police that she had married her husband of her own free will. Her family then stoned her to death in front of a police station. Her father said, "I killed my daughter as she had insulted all of our family by marrying a man without our consent, and I have no regret over it."


Posted by Manya on March 21st, 2017
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May 28th:
Brittany-Jane Royal
died on May 28th, 2013

25yo Brittany-Jane from California, USA, lived with her boyfriend in a tent on a lava field in Hawaii; they were hoping to start an organic farm. Brittany-Jane was 10 weeks pregnant when her boyfriend strangled her during a domestic dispute. "Brittany's life was about peace (and) love," her mother wrote. "We can all learn from her. She was searching for the perfect place to call home and to raise a child. She is now in that ultimate paradise."


Posted by Manya on May 11th, 2017
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Phil Hartman
died on May 28th, 1998

Phil Hartman was an actor and a comedian, most known for his work on Saturday Night Live. He was also known to his family and friends as a loving father of two children. He was hard working, but also enjoyed spending time on his boat and out in nature. Phil experienced domestic violence while married to his third wife, who shot and killed him in the early morning of May 28, 1998.


Posted by Tasha1701D on September 24th, 2019
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May 30th:
Lisa Isham
died on May 30th, 2015

52yo Lisa Isham from Minnesota, USA, was stabbed to death by her on-and-off boyfriend. She was a "bubbly" person who generally kept to herself (according to her friends), and he had a history of domestic violence, including several felony assaults. He pleaded guilty and was sentenced to 30 years in prison.


Posted by Manya on May 11th, 2017
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