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curios lils

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hi i hope its ok we is littles from a did system. we have been looking around at severl sites. trying to figure out where the best place for us be. the thing is we have bigs but we feel weerd talking to them becuz we are pretty new and dont know them well. and we dont know what they think of us. so one problem is they could be on one of the sites we is looking at. which is ok but we dont know if they is on one if we could join too. one site was interresting but it has alot of adds which is annoying. and some could have been nice but wasnt active much.

so im writing this site becuz its the only one i can ask my questions.

so first is this site really active?
is it safe for lils to be on here?
can lils pertisipate in most disscusions?
is there a place for lils talkin to lils?
if we got a acount can we if bigs is on here alredy? cuz we dont know bigs well yet.
i dont know if we has been abused or not so i dont know if we can join.
does your site have lots a adds?
does it cost money to register?
we can ask bigs bodys bday but is it ok if we have a email that is different cuz bigs could be here but i dont know.
can bigs join later after us if this terns out to be a good site?

sorry for all the questions its just really hard trying to find a good site.
 

Manya

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hey curios lils :)

so first is this site really active?
forums average around 150 new posts per day, there are 5000+ registered members, and about 100 of them log in more or less daily.

is it safe for lils to be on here?
you can avoid triggery topics because they are all in their separate folders/rooms, so if you dont wanna hear about them - just dont browse their folders. unpleasant people you can put on ignore and/or call mods, they'll take care of it so nobody bothers you.

can lils pertisipate in most disscusions?
yes, lils are welcome in all forum folders and chat rooms except for three that are for grownups only.

is there a place for lils talkin to lils?
yes, we have kids corner section thats for littles but that grownups can view and respond if they wish - but we also have a did youth folder in it thats accessible to kids only, and a weekly chat that is for kids only as well.

if we got a acount can we if bigs is on here alredy? cuz we dont know bigs well yet.
yes, alters are treated as equal community members, no discrimination and no preferential treatment. you dont have to say who your bigs are either.

i dont know if we has been abused or not so i dont know if we can join.
fort is for people who have been abused only.

does your site have lots a adds?
no, we have no ads at all.

does it cost money to register?
no, fort is free.

we can ask bigs bodys bday but is it ok if we have a email that is different cuz bigs could be here but i dont know.
which email to use is entirely up to you, but date of birth you enter at registration is a legal matter and has to be real.

can bigs join later after us if this terns out to be a good site?
sure.

hope this helps :)
 

Jane

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Hi CeruleanSea

From a systems setup perspective I reckon Fort is as safe as any on-line site can be...admins and mods are the only ones who have access to your registration details including your password and email/IP details and this info remains inaccessible to anyone else...will not be shared (unless this is legally required).

The site is also moderated and any breaches of the guidelines acted on as appropriate to minimise the impact on and enjoyment of the site by other members.

Like with any on-line group it is important for you to also do your bit to maintain your safety...not share your password with anyone else...leave your pc unattended when logged into the site or let anyone else access your account.

I hope this info helps. :rs:rs
 

sunspark

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hello. i think this site is safe. everyone has been really supportive. and its been nice. i like the did section too alot. and theres a section for lils as well and its really nice. plus theres other interesting topics to check out too. and if a certain thing is triggering then we dont have to go into that section. so its really good. hope you like being on this site.
 
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I love these set of questions because its helpful for new members who arent so sure about fort refuge. I remember when I was new to the site. I wasnt sure of what to think. But soon I found out my answers. The fort is the best! Its the only place Ive felt safe enough to open up about my DID without worrying about being judged or hurt or laughed at. I got support and now Ive been a member for awhile and havent left yet. This is the safest site I have ever been to. And I hope for both of you it ends up being that great for you as well.
 
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Safe site :)

Hi this is a good question for people new to fort yes this is a safe site, it doesn't cost and lils are safe here I'm also glad I found this site it has helped me a lot and I sure you will find this site helpful and supportive also
 

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Thank you

Hi thank you for the information. The questions and answer s were helpful for us too. We are new where too and a little worried too about privacy and how it works. Thanks
 

Jane

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Just some extra thing...we have the facility for you to put people on "ignore" your choice under your control. Means if for any reason you wish you can block a persons posts showing - not a permanent thing - can choose to take them off ignore whenever you wish. Will be no indication to anyone else if you use this option.

Also have a folder where you can privately escalate concerns to the mods...you and mods will be the only ones who see and can respond to your concern.

Additionally all posts have an alert button (at the bottom) that you can use to anomynously report any concerns you have about the post. Any such reports will be investigated by the staff and if necessary action taken to deal with any issues.

Just a quick precis of things we have in place to keep the site safe and comfortable for us all.
 
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