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How do you process the recent retrieval of incest and parent sexual abuse? Just looking for how others have handled it

Manya

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hey tova

i see you have registered an account at fort, so you have access to our child abuse forum. you might get more responses in there, as opposed to here in public forum, cuz incest is a sensitive topic that many survivors can be uncomfortable discussing in public. up to you though :bf

ps: how do you mean "retrieval"?
 

Jane

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Am I right in thinking that you are using the term retrieval to refer to letting historical traumatic memories raise to the surface so you can process them. I'm happy to share a little of how I approached this...

Until well into my adult years I pushed the memories of my abuse under the surface - they were just too overwhelming for me to deal with. This worked (to a large degree) enabled me to get on with my life - school, career, parenting and such. However when my life became a little less busy the memories started to resurface - did this to the extent that they caused me symptom - nightmares, anxiety. In the beginning I tried to ignore them...deal with them on my own...was not very successful.

Long story short in the end I made the decision to work with a trauma therapist - was a help. She had the skill to help me pace the work I needed to do and good ideas on how to keep myself as functional as possible during the process. If you are interested in this approach you could contact your family doctor - as they may be able to write you a referral.

Hope what I have shared helps. :rs:rs
 

Couragetofly

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Hi,

I got this after being confronted at work by manager who wanted a sexual relationship with me - I made complaints and management accepted his apology and I had to put up with guy that wanted added bonus at work - I ended up leaving. After this I got memories fast and left relationship I was in. I thought there more tried as much as i could but nothing further. I closed that door saying there is nothing further after many years. I went straight into seeing a specialist counsellor in this. She was running local group for survivors and found her Phamplet. Ended up doing a lot of things from there. It's long ago that I talk about this.
 
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