Fort Refuge - Abuse Survivors Support Group

Terms Of Service

Users must be at least 16 years of legal age to participate in our Community.

Below is the fancy wording and legalese but I will put it in simple terms for folks like myself who get through the first sentence thinking, "Ya, I'm really gonna read that. I think Not." So, basically what it says is this:
We may change this page from time to time and it's up to you to come back and read it. (Like I'm changing it now to add this.) Even if you dont read it, you're still responsible for abiding by the rules.
We cant guarantee anything at all on this site, including that aliens wont land in your backyard or it will not begin raining gumdrops. If your computer blows up, we aren't liable. However if it does, please feel free to let us know if you suspect anything to do with this site and especially feel free to share the story even if it isn't but it's way interesting!
Fort Refuge is just created by some regular people, is not liable for any advice you decide to take or anyone affiliated with you, (you know what they say about friends jumping off bridges).
You agree to not do anything illegal (and please dont be a Troll either because we dont like that).
You agree to use the areas of the website for what they are intended for and the subjects they are intended for. (SI goes in SI, Abuse in Abuse, etc.)
No harrassing, cybersex, pornography, spamming and trollish behaviour anywhere on this site is allowed.
We have the right to do what we want to your account, posts, communications that we want including but not limited to: editing, deleting, not deleting, following court orders to turn over chat transcripts and IP addresses, etc. We can also ban you from accessing your account. (Please just follow the guidelines, we hate doing that.)
You agree that you are aware that nothing you do on the internet is really 100% private so it's better to think of "private" on this site to mean "more private than lots of other places or means of communication". There is always a way for someone to possibly see what you are "saying" or doing on the net.
You agree that although we try really really hard to handle all inappropriate activities, we cant guarantee that you will not someday view a spam in the forums or troll in the chat room posting/saying terrible stuff.
Fort Refuge (Basically Lala and Kevin) has to follow all the laws as well. However, we are just people that own it, build it, pay all the bills, etc and The Fort is a place built and ran by many so we have no official spokesman and we ask that you keep in mind that our opinions do not necessarily reflect the opinions of The Fort as a whole. It's just our opinion.
You may see lots of links to other sites, information, etc but Fort Refuge does not endorse anything. We just make it available to you. You need to review all other sites TOS for their own fine print.
You acknowledge that made up stuff such as names and places aren't "real" and aren't expected to be believed to be "real". (No, my Real name isn't Lala.) Enjoy!

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This Web site contains one or more of the following services: bulletin boards, chat areas, social groups, forums, and/or other message or communication facilities. You agree to use such services only to send and receive messages and material that are proper and related to the particular service, area, group, forum, or other message or communication facility. In addition to any other terms or conditions of use of any bulletin board services, chat areas, social groups, forums and/or other message or communication facilities, you agree that when using one, you will not: post any messages that are obscene, vulgar, sexually-oriented, hateful, threatening, or otherwise violate any laws.

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Privacy Policy

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Information collected during voluntary submissions
In order to provide you access to interactive areas/features of our website (forums and chat), we need to have your date of birth and email address. Date of birth satisfies a legal requirement (because we need to know that you're over 16yo). Email address is needed so that we can contact you (for example, if you forget your password and need to recover it). This information is recorded when/if you choose to register an account. Aside from that, your IP is recorded every time you submit something to this website: a forum post, a chatroom message, a comment on a library page, etc (whether you're a registered user or a guest visitor). All of this information is deemed private and is never shared by Fort Refuge with anyone without your explicit consent except when required by law. Registration and participation is optional, by choosing it you consent to the collection and use of this information by

Information you choose to share with other users
We provide a platform for our users to communicate with each other, but are not responsible for results of such communications. For example, we will never ask you for your phone number; if you chose to post it on your profile and end up receiving unpleasant phone calls - this isn't our responsibility. If you take legal action towards the user who is harassing you and authorities contact us for his/her private information, we'll comply as required by law. Please use discretion when sharing your personal information online. Fort Refuge allows you anonymity - do your part, protect your privacy.

Ignorant men raise questions that wise men answered a thousand years ago.
~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
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