Fort Refuge - Abuse Survivors Support Group

Upcoming Chats


Our chatrooms are open 24/7, for unstructured conversations about abuse or its aftermath. Aside from that, we also host three chats every week; these are one hour long group discussions focused on a specific topic and facilitated by a moderator. To participate, see times, locations, and topics below, and hop into the applicable room at the time listed. All times are given for Reykjavik, Iceland, current time is 2:28PM, December 5th, 2016. If this is incorrect, please select your location in the menu above.

Dealing with medical appointments.

At 3:00AM on 11/03/15 with WeepingWillow
For various reasons survivors have a hard time with medical appointments. This chat will give us the chance to discuss those common fears and share strategies to cope with thesel

Tough Times Chat occurs every Wednesday at 3:00AM in "Got Keys" room, and is focused on various abuse and aftermath issues except for dissociation. Feel free to browse previous topics to see what it's like.

DID Goals

At 3:00AM on 10/08/15 with Manya
yay guys, chat is finally back, looking forward to it :) what are your goals regarding DID? integration? better cooperation within system? better coping with symptoms (like timeloss) just for yourself, and your others can do what they like? better communication, something you need your others to know/understand/accommodate? are these long-term or short-term goals? where do you see yourself dissociation-wise in a year?

Many Minds Chat occurs every Friday at 3:00AM in "Got Keys" room, and is focused on dissociative issues (i.e. DID/MPD). Feel free to browse previous topics to see what it's like.

On Break

At 1:30AM on 01/13/16 with Tasha1701D
Youth Chat is currently on break.

DID Youth Chat occurs every Thursday at 1:30AM in "DID Youth" room (which makes it littles/middles only), and is focused on a variety of topics that our youth members find interesting and useful to discuss. Feel free to browse previous topics to see what it's like.

How do I join a hosted chat?
If you have keys - just hop into the room. If you do it a few minutes earlier you'll get to catch up on how everyone is doing before the topic discussion starts. To get keys you need to actively participate on forums for the past 30 days and send a keys request (takes a few days to process).
What happens there?
A one hour long group discussion focused is on a pre-set topic relevant to abuse and/or its aftermath. There are no speakers, moderator only facilitates the chat: keeping the conversation on topic, asking questions, etc. Chats are focused on topics that are interesting to everyone in the room, and that everyone is welcome to comment on. We do not alternate "supporting" anyone specific, even if they are having a bad day. Rooms are open 24/7, if you need support - you are welcome to stay in the room after the chat is over and continue the discussion or talk of something more pressing.
How is it different from the rest of the chat?
Outside of hosted chats people come and go, topics fluctuate, and nobody knows what's being discussed in a room unless they are there, so many members miss out on an interesting topic that took place while they were in another room or browsing forums. Hosted chats provide the opportunity to focus on a specific topic, without distractions, and to know from beforehand what the topic will be. Finally, keys are only given to people who have been on Fort for a while and understand and follow our guidelines, so hosted chats offer a generally calmer environment.
Can I suggest a topic?
Absolutely. Many topics come from your suggestions. Just say it before/after the chat, send a pm to the host, or post your idea in corresponding forum folder.
What is the netiquette?
Format is casual, feel free to participate as much or as little as you wish, as long as you're not being disruptive (e.g. with off-topic remarks or repeatedly going in and out of the room). Interrupting the chat with your status updates is considered bad manners: if you came in late, need to leave early, or are going on brb - just do it quietly.

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