Fort Refuge - Abuse Survivors Support Group

Many Minds Chat

Open to those struggling with Dissociative Identity Disorder issues
hosted by Manya every Thursday at 10:00PM Eastern Time

The focus of the group is to share experiences, help multiples function more effectively and to simply provide a safe space for support. Discussions have included: working with alters, dealing with flashbacks, finding co-consciousness, managing traumatic memories and coping with the effects of violence and emotional abuse. 13+. Get keys to the room. You can also suggest a topic.


On 10/08/15 with Manya
DID Goals
yay guys, chat is finally back, looking forward to it :)

what are your goals regarding DID? integration? better cooperation within system? better coping with symptoms (like timeloss) just for yourself, and your others can do what they like? better communication, something you need your others to know/understand/accommodate?

are these long-term or short-term goals? where do you see yourself dissociation-wise in a year?

On 05/30/2015 with Manya
On summer break till September
Looking forward to resuming our chats :)

On 12/29/2014 with Manya
Chat is on break till further notice
Guys, my laptop crashed. Will resume chat as soon as I can repair it. Feel free to gather in the room and discuss one of the old topics :)

On 12/25/2014 with Manya
Fun Stuff
if you aren't celebrating, feel free to hop into the room and hang out; we'll just talk easy fun stuff - what are your funniest DID memories?
did you travel somewhere warm? got yourself a new spouse? found a friend to build sandcastles with on a beach? ordered more than five pizzas at once? quit an office job to become a skydiving instructor? lets exchange notes :D

On 12/18/2014 with Manya
Staying Grounded
when youre triggered, what grounding techniques do you use? we have a bunch of them listed in library, but which are your favorites? do you have some unusual ones that work real well that you youd like to share? what music helps you ground? what food? scenery? clothing? activity? do you knit, cook, watch Frasier, sing in shower?

On 12/11/2014 with Manya
Handling Crises
how does your system do it? do you have a plan B for when things don't go the right way and you fall apart? what happens then? who handles it? what do they do?
do you have a list of numbers to call and things to do, in case of emergency, that is accessible to everyone in the system, even if they weren't present when you wrote the list? do your littles know what to do if they are afraid you might be a danger to self or others?

On 12/04/2014 with Manya
triggery thing for many of us, so how do we manage this time of year?
why are holidays upsetting? did something bad happen during them before, or are you lonely, or stressed out about seeing family members you dont like, or spending too much on gifts?
how do you cope with all this stress? what helps? what doesnt? what kinda support do you need from those around you?
is there anything good about the season at all? any way to create some positive memories, some routines to implement, that would help you reclaim holiday season as a good time of the year?

On 11/27/2014 with Manya
i.e. perceiving the external environment as unreal
is it mostly when you're triggered, stressed, scared, upset, angry? or just happens at random sometimes? pleasurable or uncomfortable? does it happen often? less than used to or about the same?

On 11/20/2014 with Manya
i.e. feeling disconnected or detached from one’s body and thoughts
does it happen to you? did it happen during abuse? what does it feel like? is it a good or a bad thing during abuse? during regular life outside of abuse? how do you cope with it when it happens? do you try to ground or enjoy the experience?

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