Memorial Wall : victims of domestic abuse

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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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November 3rd:
Jiang Ge
died on November 3rd, 2016

24yo Jiang Ge from China was studying for her master's degree at Hosei University in Japan, and sharing housing with a roommate, Liu Xin. Liu had an ex-boyfriend she was trying to avoid. On November 3rd he came to their doorstep, and killed Jiang when Liu refused to see him. Liu claimed that she was unable to open the door when Jiang was being attacked and pleading for help. "I had no idea of what happened outside and I was really unaware that [he] was carrying out a murder at the time," she said, "I was indeed intimidated so that I did not step outside until the police arrived." Jiang was not involved in her roommate's abusive relationship, but died as a result of it.


Posted by Manya on February 11th, 2018
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November 6th:
Edward Miller
died on November 6th, 2013

Eddie was a 20yo man from UK who was murdered by his girlfriend, an older and much more experienced woman. They met two years prior to that, and she was emotionally and physically abusive. On multiple occasions she broke things around the house, gave him a black eye, even attacked him with a knife, but Eddie dismissed it, saying "Look at the size of her. What could she do to hurt me? It was only a small knife anyway."

She claimed to have been sexually abused as a child, and physically abused by her prior romantic partners, and Eddie told his mom "I want to help her, I want to support her. She hasn't had it easy and she is facing up to her demons.". Forensic psychologist Emma Kenny testified at the trial, "The reason that [she] tells him this information is so that when her behaviour is unreasonable, she can say, ‘but it's not because of who I am, it's because of what's happened to me'. So she takes away responsibility of herself and she puts it on the responsibility of the people who've done these things to her. And that is quite powerful because what that says to Eddie is, ‘if you let me down, if you hurt me, if you reject me, all you're going to do is be one of those horrible people that's made me the way I am. Can you please heal me, can you help me?' And that's clever because it means that she'll get what she wants."

On November 6th the woman killed Eddie by stabbing him 24 times, till the knife went 9 inches into his body and the blade broke off. The judge said, "Throughout this trial you have tried to portray yourself as a serial victim of domestic violence, that picture is not an accurate one."


Posted by Manya on February 27th, 2016
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November 7th:
Anne-Marie Birch
died on November 7th, 2013

47yo Mrs Birch from Kent, UK, ran a dog walking firm and had an estranged husband of 20 years who was stalking her. She had a restraining order and an NMO against him, and he kept violating both. On one occasion he slipped a copy of the restraining order, with a threatening message handwritten across it, under her door. In the two months prior to her death, Mrs Birch called the police nine times about the stalking. During one such call she said, "I got the order against him, you know, it's with a power of arrest, but they said any, any time he contacts you, to phone and we'll get him arrested, but it's just not happening, there's nothing happening, you know." The last time Mrs Birch called the police was on November 7th at 8:32AM, she was concerned about her ex husband following her while she was dog walking. At 2:04PM on the same day someone called the police because they found her body on the path where she walked the dogs.


Posted by Manya on July 18th, 2016
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November 8th:
Johnny Richards
died on November 8th, 2015

Johnny Richards was killed on 11/08/2015. Family members said they can't understand why anyone would want to hurt Richards, who is an amputee in a wheelchair. “He didn't deserve to die, like that's terrible,” said his sister-in-law, A.D. Askew. "He's a very calm, nice person. I don't understand. Crime is up these days...I don't know if he brought these people home with him or what happened but this is a secure building so they just couldn't walk in." Officials from the Cincinnati Police Department's Homicide Unit arrested and charged Richard's daughter, Shevelle Richards, 36, with aggravated murder for Richards' death.


Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
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November 9th:
Julina Gale Gibson and Nicholas Jeffery Mitchell
died on November 9th, 2017

Julina Gale Gibson 25 and her son, Nicholas Jeffery Mitchell 4, passed away November 9, 2017. She was a family and friend oriented person who worked as a home healthcare provider and loved to take care of people with disabilities. But, to her the best job ever was being a mother Julina’s mother reported that when her daughter's ex-boyfriend, came to their house the pair argued about visitation of their 4-year-old son Nicholas. "The baby's dad had the baby overnight, and he came to drop the baby off," said Julina’s mom,. "…he called my daughter. My daughter went outside to get him, which was unusual because usually he comes in the house." He then shot both Julina and her son Nicholas.


Posted by Jane on July 7th, 2018
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November 12th:
Mia Williams
died on November 12th, 2012

Mia was a 41yo nurse from Virginia, USA. She was an army veteran, married to another army veteran (no criminal record), and they had two kids. The marriage was rocky, Mia had an emergency order of protection against her husband once, but didn't renew it when it expired. On September 12th, 2012, Mia and her husband had an argument, she said she wanted a divorce. A few hours later he stabbed her more than two dozen times in front of both kids. They threw things at him to try to get him to stop, and called 911, but their mom died. The man pleaded guilty to spare the kids the trauma of testifying in court. The kids are with their grandma, Mia's mother. She says: "They're in school, and they go through good moments and bad moments, just like us. That's why we want to get this behind us, so we can move forward."


Posted by Manya on June 26th, 2016
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November 15th:
Agnes Caviston
died on November 15th, 2014

Agnes Caviston was bedridden and suffering from dementia. On the last day of her life an ambulance took her from the foreclosed Grovetown home where she lived with her son to a rental house. There was no furniture, said Adam Patterson, one of the Capital City Ambulance employees who transported Ms. Caviston. It was a very cold day, he remembered, and when they got to the house, Caviston told them to put the elderly woman on the bare floor. He wouldn’t have left her but Caviston insisted he had movers coming with their furniture, Patterson testified. No movers came. Caviston testified that he borrowed a home health care aide’s vehicle to gather as many possessions as possible from the Grovetown house. When he got back to Wicklow Drive, his mother’s aide warned him the fire in the fireplace was dangerous without a screen. He told the jury he moved his mother from the den to the living room with dozens of blankets. A spark from the fire must have lodged into a blanket because he soon heard his mother scream, Caviston said. Richmond County authorities have booked aviston on murder and arson charges in the death of his elderly mother.


Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
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November 24th:
Dwight Tobyne
died on November 24th, 2009

57yo Mr Tobyne from Arizona, USA, had three kids and two grandkids. He owned and operated a financial services company, was involved in youth sports, coaching his daughter's softball team, caddying for his son's golf tournaments and refereeing basketball games with his oldest daughter. He enjoyed bicycling, camping, snowshoeing, hunting and especially enjoyed exploring the mountains of Colorado. In November of 2009 Mr Tobyne was divorcing his wife and moving out. The night before the move, she shot him in the head, dismembered his body, scattered it around three counties, and used his email and cellphone to make their kids and family believe he was still alive. The children reported him missing in July, because, while emails kept coming, he missed Christmas with family and the birth of a grandson.


Posted by Manya on July 8th, 2016
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November 26th:
Devon Wade
died on November 26th, 2017

29yo Devone from Texas, USA, was raised by his grandparents because both his mom and dad were in prison. While a high school student, Devone enrolled in No More Victims, a program for young people whose parents are incarcerated. He eventually became an honors graduate at Louisiana State University, a Harry S. Truman scholar and then a doctoral student at Columbia in New York City, studying sociology. On November 26th Devone was shot to death by his boyfriend during a domestic dispute. "Devon Wade was a force, an angel amongst men. He was a gentle spirit, who generated electricity in all spaces he dwelled," said Jeffrey McCune of Washington University in St. Louis, a mentor and friend to Wade. "His life’s work, examining the impact of incarcerated parents on children, was to be a shape-shifter to the sociology of education. He is sorely missed."


Posted by Manya on June 30th
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December 2nd:
Brian Nees
died on December 2nd, 2017

Brian Nees, 64, was killed on Dec. 2, 2017. Detectives quickly identified Tyler Nees as the suspect. Police have not said why Nees killed his father. The DA's Office filed paperwork indicating that if they are able to get a conviction, they will be seeking an enhanced sentence. The Multnomah County Chief Deputy District Attorney wrote that Tyler Nees had previously been convicted of attempted second-degree assault...had attacked a disabled man whom he encountered on a TriMet bus. Nees hit the man in with a champagne bottle in what was described as an unprovoked attack. He had also previously attacked his father, jail inmates and staff within Multnomah County.


Posted by Jane on June 16th, 2018
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