Memorial Wall : victims of domestic abuse

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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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November 24th:
Dwight Tobyne
died on November 24th, 2009

57yo Mr Tobyne from Arizona, USA, had three kids and two grandkids. He owned and operated a financial services company, was involved in youth sports, coaching his daughter's softball team, caddying for his son's golf tournaments and refereeing basketball games with his oldest daughter. He enjoyed bicycling, camping, snowshoeing, hunting and especially enjoyed exploring the mountains of Colorado. In November of 2009 Mr Tobyne was divorcing his wife and moving out. The night before the move, she shot him in the head, dismembered his body, scattered it around three counties, and used his email and cellphone to make their kids and family believe he was still alive. The children reported him missing in July, because, while emails kept coming, he missed Christmas with family and the birth of a grandson.


Posted by Manya on July 8th, 2016
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November 26th:
Devon Wade
died on November 26th, 2017

29yo Devone from Texas, USA, was raised by his grandparents because both his mom and dad were in prison. While a high school student, Devone enrolled in No More Victims, a program for young people whose parents are incarcerated. He eventually became an honors graduate at Louisiana State University, a Harry S. Truman scholar and then a doctoral student at Columbia in New York City, studying sociology. On November 26th Devone was shot to death by his boyfriend during a domestic dispute. "Devon Wade was a force, an angel amongst men. He was a gentle spirit, who generated electricity in all spaces he dwelled," said Jeffrey McCune of Washington University in St. Louis, a mentor and friend to Wade. "His life’s work, examining the impact of incarcerated parents on children, was to be a shape-shifter to the sociology of education. He is sorely missed."


Posted by Manya on June 30th
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December 2nd:
Brian Nees
died on December 2nd, 2017

Brian Nees, 64, was killed on Dec. 2, 2017. Detectives quickly identified Tyler Nees as the suspect. Police have not said why Nees killed his father. The DA's Office filed paperwork indicating that if they are able to get a conviction, they will be seeking an enhanced sentence. The Multnomah County Chief Deputy District Attorney wrote that Tyler Nees had previously been convicted of attempted second-degree assault...had attacked a disabled man whom he encountered on a TriMet bus. Nees hit the man in with a champagne bottle in what was described as an unprovoked attack. He had also previously attacked his father, jail inmates and staff within Multnomah County.


Posted by Jane on June 16th, 2018
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December 7th:
Antonio Tucci
died on December 7th, 2015

71yo Mr Tucci from Italy, a wheel-chair bound retired pastry chef, was beaten to death by his nephew. The newphew was cut off from his family due to violent outbursts and theft. Mr Tucci took him home, hoping to provide stable housing and employment, but eventually had to ask him to leave. They often argued because the nephew was demanding Mr Tucci's pension money. On December 7th Mr Tucci was found in his kitchen, with a broken skull. The nephew tried to flee the country, but was arrested.


Posted by Jane on June 15th, 2018
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December 11th:
Danny Fernandez
died on December 11th, 2016

Initial reports told police 66-year-old Danny Fernandez fell from his wheel chair causing life-threatening head injuries. Family members later told police they thought Mathews was responsible for beating her step-father over money issues. Christina Mathews has been charged with three-counts of First-Degree Murder, after originally being picked up on Aggravated Battery counts.


Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
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December 15th:
Laronda Becker
died on December 15th, 2008

Laronda was shot by her ex-boyfriend, two years after she and their two children were granted a permanent order of protection against him due to domestic violence. He was to never contact her or the kids again. On December 15th he broke into her apartment (Florida, USA). Laronda, her mom (who was living there with her), and the two children barricaded themselves in the bedroom and called 911. He broke the door, shot Laronda in the head in front of the kids, tried to shoot their grandma as well (the gun malfunctioned), and finally shot himself too, when the police arrived. He survived, plead guilty to murder.


Posted by Manya on February 10th, 2016
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December 16th:
Jack Jetton
died on December 16th, 2015

38yo Mr Jetton, a former Midlander living in Tennessee, USA, worked for a roofing company and had four children, five siblings, and many nieces, nephews, and cousins. At 4:44PM on December 16th he was at home with his wife and three children (aged 2, 3, and 12). The couple got into an argument, and Mr Jetton's wife shot him in the chest. She then called 911 and admitted to killing him.


Posted by Manya on December 13th, 2017
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December 19th:
Carol and Wayne Parker
died on December 19th, 2013

Mr and Mrs Parker from Virginia, USA, were killed by their only son, 16yo honor-roll 10th grader with no criminal or psychiatric record. "I just remember getting mad," he told investigators. "It's all from my dad. All this stuff like my dad taking away my iPod and stuff." The teen left school early, pepper-sprayed his mom, stabbed her and beat her with a crowbar, then waited for his dad to return home and stabbed and beat him with a crowbar as well. "I feel that he killed his parents because he wanted to have his own lifestyle," his uncle said. "He wanted to be able to do what he wanted to do, and he felt like even though they were very good parents, he felt like that wasn't good enough for him."


Posted by Manya on December 13th, 2017
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December 21st:
Jade Morris
died on December 21st, 2012

10yo Jade, straight-A fifth-grader from Las Vegas, USA, went Christmas shopping with her dad's fiancee. As they were leaving, Jade's mom said "Have fun. I love you." The fiancee killed Jade by inflicting 40 stab wounds, and then attempted to slash a woman she believed Jade's father was dating. "Her life growing up was very, very difficult," her lawyer said. "She hopes to take the rest of her life, that she knows will be in prison, and try to give guidance to the younger prisoners."

Now Jade's mom listens to the last recordings Jade left on her phone. The girl sang "If I Ain't Got You" by Alicia Keys. She would sneak messages when her mother was asleep. "I got your phone," she said. "I love you, Mommy."


Posted by Manya on December 13th, 2017
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December 28th:
Lucinda Knoll
died on December 28th, 2013

39yo mother of three from New York, USA, Mrs Knoll was murdered by her ex-boyfriend. He tried make it look like a robbery, so that she would die and he would get the custody of one of the children, the one they had in common. Mrs Knoll was "a happy and outgoing person who loved giving help to people in need," according to her family and friends.


Posted by Manya on December 13th, 2017
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