Memorial Wall : victims of domestic abuse

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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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June 4th:
Shaun Corey
died on June 4th, 2011

Shaun, 42, lived in Rochdale before leaving to make a new future for himself in London. He met his killer Karen Otmani through an internet dating site. Their relationship, was tempestuous. Despite repeated pleas from his relatives to return home, Shaun stayed because he was worried about what she might do and not wanting to leave his child. On June 4 last year Karen drugged and suffocated him. Shaun's mum Joyce Townsend felt Otmani's minimum 17-year sentence should have been much longer. "I feel angry," said Joyce. "All he wanted was to be loved. He just wanted a family but he got in a relationship with the wrong person. He was a lovely lad. "If your child dies because he was ill maybe it is easier to come to terms with, but this was premeditated murder. His sister Dawn said the warning signs were there, but Shaun always saw the good in people.


Posted by Jane on June 16th, 2018
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Suvarna Naik
died on June 4th, 2011

26yo Suvarna from India was a victim of dowry death. She had a 6 months old daughter, but her husband and in-laws were harassing and abusing her, claiming that the dowry they received for her from her family wasn't sufficient. Suvarna hung herself in her bedroom. The police charged her husband and in-laws with abetment to suicide, harassment for dowry, and dowry death.


Posted by Manya on March 5th, 2017
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Travis Alexander
died on June 4th, 2008

Travis was a 30yo man from Arizona, USA, who worked as a salesman and motivational speaker for a legal services company. He was trying to break up with his girlfriend of two years, complained to his friends that she was stalking him and slashed his tires, and was about to leave to Mexico with another woman. The ex girlfriend drove nearly two thousand miles to his home, they had some private time that they took pictures of, then he took shower, which she took pictures of as well, and the next pictures on the camera, taken within minutes, are of his dead body in the bathtub full of blood, with 27 stab wounds, a slit throat, and a gunshot wound to the head.

It was a capital murder trial, i.e. the woman was risking a death sentence, so she told three separate versions of what happened. First, that she hasn't seen Travis in two months and doesn't know what happened to him. Then, that someone broke into his home, murdering him and attacking her. Her final version, which she first mentioned two years into the case, was that he was abusive to her and that she killed him in self-defense. She even wore a t-shirt that said "survivor" to trial, causing much controversy among Domestic Violence activists, some of whom view her as a victim, while others view her as a perpetrator. In the end she was convicted and sentenced to life without parole. Here's a quote from Travis' obituary:

Travis lived each day as if it were his last, with many accomplishments, dreams, travels, and successes. He was an amazing individual who sought out to save the world with his positive influence, his motivational speaking and his writing. He was well on his way to making all his dreams a reality. Travis has touched so many lives and will continue in our hearts forever and always. We can never express the unbearable pain from this tragedy.


Posted by Manya on July 18th, 2016
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June 7th:
Rania Alayed
died on June 7th, 2013

Rania was killed by her husband after trying to escape an abusive marriage. The couple was originally from Syria, but moved to Stockton-on-Tees, UK in 2004, and to Manchester five years later. Rania was 21, a mother of three, and her husband abused her physically, sexually, and financially. Once in Manchester, she started reaching out for help, and even hired a lawyer. She started college, made friends of both genders, and confided in them that she was living in a domestic violence situation. In May of 2013 Rania moved out with the kids, filed for divorce, and began dating another man.

Her husband seemed to agree to grant her divorce, but on June 7th he asked to meet her at a neutral territory, so that she could drop off the kids to visit with him for the weekend. Once there, he murdered her, while their kids were in another room, dressed in her clothing and left the building like that (to make it look like she left, on security cameras), and was telling everyone they have divorced and Rania is alive and in Turkey.


Posted by Manya on February 19th, 2016
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June 8th:
Zeenat Rafiq
died on June 8th, 2016

16yo Zeenat from Pakistan was in love with a boy she met in school. Her family didn't approve and rejected several marriage proposals, so the young couple eloped (i.e. ran away from home and got married without family consent). Zeenat's mom said it was OK, invited Zeenat for a visit to celebrate her marriage, and assured her that she would not be harmed. When Zeenat came to her mom's house, mom beat her, strangled her, and then burnt her alive, for "dishonoring" her family. "I don't have any regrets," she said.


Posted by Manya on June 14th, 2018
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June 12th:
Barbara Bodine
died on June 12th, 2016

Mrs Barbara Bodine fell and struck her head after arguing with her son at her house, in Cooper Township, on April 24, 2016. She died 49 days later, on June 12. Her nephew, told police he could heard Mrs Bodine and her son arguing in the kitchen, then heard a thud. He went into the kitchen and found Mrs Bordine on the kitchen floor. A Sheriff's Deputy said in a report that her son "didn't seem emotionally distraught and didn't ask about his elderly mother's condition. Instead, he was straight faced and had no remorse for his actions."


Posted by Jane on July 22nd, 2018
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June 16th:
Asha Saini and Yogesh Jatav
died on June 16th, 2010

19yo Asha from India fell in love with a 19yo boy from her neighborhood, Yogesh Jatav. He was an orphan living with his aunt and uncle, and worked as a driver. She was a school drop out, helping her family with their vegetable selling business. However, Yogesh belonged to a Scheduled Caste, lower social class than Asha. When her parents discovered that, they tortured and killed both teens by electrocution. "She was crying loudly. She was pleading, 'Kill me, but please don't hurt him.' She loved him and they wanted to get married," a neighbor said.


Posted by Manya on March 23rd, 2017
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June 20th:
Samia Shahid
died on June 20th, 2016

Samia Shahid, a 28yo beautician from UK, divorced her first husband (the marriage was arranged by her family) and married someone else. Two years later she received a phone call, claiming that her father was critically ill in Pakistan. Her husband suspected it was a lie, but she flew to see her father anyway. Once there, Samia was raped by her first husband because he felt disappointed, as her decision to divorce him eliminated his chances of moving to the UK and becoming a British citizen. Samia ran out of the room, threatening to go to the British High Commission. Her father held her legs while her ex-husband strangled her with her scarf. The family claimed Samia died of a heart attack; local press agencies reported that she committed suicide due to depression over infertility. Samia's husband filed a complaint, and a few months later her ex-husband confessed to the murder.


Posted by Manya on May 12th, 2017
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June 22nd:
Trisha Sadler
died on June 22nd, 2011

29yo Trisha from Pennsylvania, USA, was raised by a loving family who adopted her as a preschooler. She was a cheerleading champion, a giving volunteer, and a popular employee at the bank where she worked. Trisha was living with her boyfriend of nine years. He had multiple prior convictions for assaults, was violent with her before, and she was supporting him financially. Their neighbors called police because of the noise, and Trisha's coworkers noticed her bruises. Two weeks before her death, Trisha gave her co-worker a warning: If I don't come to work, call the police. He's said he's going to kill me.

When Trisha didn't come to work and the police arrived to her house, they found Trisha's dismembered body in garbage bags, and her boyfriend who barricaded himself in one of the rooms and was screaming, "You won't take me alive." He suffers from schizophrenia and pleaded "guilty but mentally ill" to first degree murder; that doesn't change his sentence, but makes him eligible for treatment in prison.

"She was the baby of the family," Trisha's dad said. "As with any girl in the family, your brothers are very protective of you, and the loss of their only sister has hit them very hard."


Posted by Manya on June 26th, 2016
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June 23rd:
Joey Antonio Nesmith
died on June 23rd, 2006

Joey Antonio Nesmith, 26 yo was fatally injured during a domestic argument with his girl friend. Police found him stabbed several times in the stomach inside an apartment building in West Charlotte. Joey was transported to hospital where he was pronounced dead.


Posted by Jane on July 6th, 2018
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June 27th:
Julie Parkin
died on June 27th, 2017

39yo Julie Parker, primary school teacher from from UK, discovered that her husband had a sexual interest in a child and had made indecent videos. She confronted him, he packed his bags, but then "snapped" and stabbed her to death with a kitchen knife. "She was so sad when she found out what I really am," he said. "I should have killed myself. What is wrong with me? There is something wrong with me." His browsing history included "Cambodia child abuse," "teacher sexually assaulted," and "teacher viewing porn." Her browsing history included "what to do if you don't feel loved enough in your relationship", "top five signs your husband is demanding and controlling" and "fight for your marriage when your husband is emotionally distant from you".


Posted by Manya on June 15th, 2018
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June 28th:
Theodore Meyer
died on June 28th, 2014

Mr & Mrs Meyer from Oklahoma, USA, had been married for over 70 years and had three children, three grandchildren, and four great-grandchildren. At the age of 91, both Mr and Mrs Meyer suffered from dementia, and were cared for by their 63yo son. On June 26th, 2014, the son returned home intoxicated, and beat Mr Meyer with his cane, causing multiple broken ribs and a collapsed lung. Mr Meyer died two days later. Mrs Meyer survived her husband by two months.


Posted by Manya on May 12th, 2017
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