Memorial Wall : victims of domestic abuse

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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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January 18th:
Donald Parojinog
died on January 18th, 2011

83yo Mr Parojinog used to work for the US Postal Service, then for a barber shop. He and his wife were members of Nativity Catholic Church, and he also was an active member of a local Knights of Columbus chapter, serving for two years as the grand knight. Mr Parojinog suffered three strokes and became unable to care for himself, so his daughter began to care for him and his wife. On January 18th, 2011, she called 911 and said she had a deceased elderly person in her home. When the operator told her someone will be coming right over, she asked, "when they come, do they have to have all those bells and whistles going on?" The police officers found emaciated, naked body of Mr Parojinog, with more than a dozen of sores; five were so deep that the bones were exposed. His daughter told the judge she was following her father's wishes: "He didn't want to live if he could not get around on his own," she said. "I don't think he asked to die with bug larvae inside infected wounds," the prosecutor responded. "I don't think he asked to die in his own feces and urine, and live in that squalor." Mr Parojinog's daughter was sentenced to 12 months in a county jail for neglect. "There has to be some punishment imposed," said the judge. "There has to be some message sent that this type of conduct is unacceptable and it cannot be tolerated by our community. If you can't do what it takes, then initially you have to say no. You can't say yes and fail to act. It's that simple."


Posted by Manya on January 18th, 2018
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January 22nd:
Chloe Siokos
died on January 22nd, 2013

80yo Mrs Siokos lived with her husband in a house in North London, UK. They didn't get along, and separated the house into two flats; Mrs Siokos lived downstairs, and her husband lived upstairs. At 6AM on January 22nd, 2013, neighbors called 999 because the house was on fire. Inside was the body of Mrs Siokos with stab wounds, and the body of her husband with no injuries apart from those caused by the fire. The police doesn't believe anyone else was involved in the crime, and that the fire was intentional because petroleum was poured over the house first. "She was a wonderful, feisty woman who was great with my children. She had many tales of when she worked in the rag trade running a clothing factory. Everyone round here liked her and she will be missed, " said one of Mrs Siokos friends.


Posted by Manya on March 7th, 2016
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January 25th:
Anshu Singh
died on January 25th, 2010

Anshu was the middle girl among three sisters. She was bright, ambitious, and well educated. At the time of her murder she was working for a multi-national corporation in Delhi. She had met her husband through work, and they had been dating for 3 years before they got married. Initially there was some objection to their getting married from the man’s family because they were from different communities. But Anshu’s father said, “If the two of them are in love, why should we come in the way?” Leading up to Anshu's death (carried out at the behest of her in-laws and husband they had been putting pressure on her and her family to provide money by way of a dowry. And Anusha felt increasingly trapped and unhappy. When Anshu's husband called her father and informed him that she was unwell and may have fainted. Mr. Singh came right away and he knew immediately that she had been dead for quite some time. The Singh family was shocked. Their daughter had been married for barely a month! A traumatized Mr. Singh says, “It all happened so fast. Only 45 days that she was married and she was gone. We never thought something like this can happen to us. Anshu was a young, bright, modern girl with so many dreams. She was intelligent and strong. I don’t think even she ever thought that something like this can happen to her.”


Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
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January 26th:
Marilyn Gandert
died on January 26th, 2018

Marilyn Gandert’s burned body was discovered on January 27th on the mesa west of Rio Rancho. Marilyn a beloved postal worker had been renting her home on Taylor Ridge Rd to her daughter in law, Alissa Bickett, grandson, Drake Bickett and their roommate Annie Rael, police said and had evicted all three occupants on January 23rd, 2018. Investigations believe Bickett and Rael killed Marilyn inside the rental home on January 26th and then transported her body to Rio Rancho where they set her on fire.


Posted by Jane on June 29th, 2018
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January 27th:
Van Breda Family
died on January 27th, 2015

On 27 January 2015, a brutal murder occurred in the van Breda family home. It is alleged that the youngest son, Henri, of the van Breda family killed his parents, Martin and Teresa, and his brother, Rudi, with an axe. His younger sister was critically injured as well, but did survive the attack. Since 2015 it has been proved that Henri was addicted to drugs and has since been rehabilitated. The case is still ongoing and he has not yet been proven guilty. The van Breda family was a very kind family and did not deserve the brutal killing they had to endure. My heart goes out to Marli van Breda and I hope justice is served.


Posted by Anon on February 3rd, 2017
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January 28th:
Lareeb Khan
died on January 28th, 2015

Lareeb, a 19yo dental technician from Germany, was a victim of honour killing. Her mom said, "Lareeb stayed away from the home for several nights in a row and stopped wearing the headscarf. One day we received a letter from the police saying she had been caught trying to steal condoms. At this point it became clear that there was sexual contact. When I showed the letter to my husband he snapped." Lareeb was grounded and beaten, but continued seeing her boyfriend. One night her father strangled her to death with his bare hands. The judge said, "You lived in two cultural worlds. It is not the case that you may not be allowed to live in your own culture. But you must also deal with our values."


Posted by Manya on July 5th, 2016
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January 29th:
Adeline Hill
died on January 29th, 2018

A 66-year-old mother Adeline Hill and her 42-year-old daughter were found with gunshot wounds to their heads inside a home in the 1200 block of Greeby Street, just before 11:30 p.m. Monday. Police say Adeline, who was in a wheelchair, was found on the first floor and the daughter was found on the second floor. Both were pronounced dead at the scene. Police found a gun inside the home but it’s not clear if it’s the murder weapon. The daughter’s 39-year-old boyfriend who lives inside the home was taken for questioning.


Posted by Jane on June 18th, 2018
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February 1st:
Rebecca Eldemire
died on February 1st, 2015

21yo Rebecca from Ohio, USA, was a junior student at Miami University, geography major. She was killed by her boyfriend the day after they broke up. He took it hard, so hard that she called the police for protection when she discovered he's coming to her house the next day. But when he arrived and was frisked by the police (because she knew he had guns and was concerned about it) - they spoke some and she let him in and told the police officers all was fine. When the police left, he went back to his car, got his gun, shot Rebecca, and then himself. miamistudents.net published a great page titled "The Becca We Remember," with tons of people who knew Rebecca sharing what she was like. "We don't want her to be remembered just as the girl who died," said Alicia. "We want her to be known as the girl who lived; a girl who had a strong spirit and loved everything on the Earth."


Posted by Manya on June 26th, 2016
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February 4th:
Melvin Roberts
died on February 4th, 2010

Melvin Roberts was very successful. In the early 70s he'd served on the city council in York, South Carolina, then went on to be elected as the mayor. After a two-year term he carved out a career as a defense attorney. Melvin was very well known and respected in the community. His job made him wealthy. He had worked hard for his money in a career that spanned more than 50 years. Melvin's girlfriend of 10 years was Julia Phillips. Throughout their relationship he'd paid all her bills and treated her to luxuries such as beach holidays. After his death friends would claim that things between Melvin and Julia were tense. On February 4, 2010, Melvin was found strangled to death in his home. There was also a bullet hole in his clothes but the shot missed him. Julia told police that a man had broken into their home to rob them. It was later proven that she had staged the home invasion story...that she had murdered him.


Posted by Jane on June 15th, 2018
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February 8th:
Kelly Thompson
died on February 8th, 2014

Her family and friends say Kelly Thompson, 43, was always the first to dream up ideas, invite people along, share her life with those she loved. But in her last days the Point Cook woman was also terrified, stalked by her obsessive, jealous ex-partner, Wayne Wood. Such was her distress that on her last night alive Ms Thompson fell asleep with three kitchen knives on her bedside table, a talisman against fear. Her body was found in her home in February 2014, after Wood broke into her home, stabbed her to death and then took his own life.


Posted by Jane on June 18th, 2018
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