Memorial Wall

Filter results:

Add an entry:

This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
Add an entry


Embed a memorial on your site or blog:
Copy-paste the code below to your site to display a name and a photo of someone who died through abuse on today's date; you can click on the photo to read their story. The widget is transparent, uses no javascript, and can be resized to fit your layout; proportions are 3:5.

<iframe style=\"width:210px;height:350px;border:none;\" src=\"\"></iframe>
February 17th:
Nitish Katara
died on February 17th, 2002

Nitish Katara was abducted from the wedding of his classmate in Ghaziabad in February 2002 by cousins, Vikas and Vishal Yadav His abductors had observed Katara was friendly with Vikas' sister Bharti Yadav, and were allegedly opposed to this friendshp. With the help of a hired killer, Sukhdev Pehalwan, the duo " took Nitish home, then to an unknown place where they killed him and dumped his body" The murder was considered an honour killing, but a Supreme Court judge ruled that it was not, also that it could not be categorised as a crime that warrented the death penalty. The Delhi High Court sentenced the two Yadavs and Pehalwan to a 30-year jail term without remission.

Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
Back to top
Janani Luwum: A 20th Century Martyr
died on February 17th, 1977

Janani Luwum was born in the village of Mucwini in the Kitgum District Luwum converted to Christianity in 1948, and in 1949 he went to Theological College. He was ordained a deacon in 1953, and the following year he was ordained a priest. He served in the Upper Nile Diocese of Uganda and later in the Diocese of Mbale. In 1969 he was consecrated Bishop of the Diocese of Northern Uganda at Gulu. After five years he was appointed Archbishop of the Metropolitan Province of Uganda, Rwanda, Burundi, and Boga (in Zaire). He was a leading voice in criticising the excesses of the Idi Amin regime that assumed power in 1971. In 1977, Luwum delivered a note of protest to dictator Idi Amin against the policies of arbitrary killings and unexplained disappearances. Shortly afterwards the archbishop was accused of treason and of being an agent of the exiled former president and for planning to stage a coup. The next day, Radio Uganda announced that the three had been killed when the car transporting them to an interrogation center had collided with another vehicle. The accident, Radio Uganda reported, had occurred when the victims had tried to overpower the driver in an attempt to escape. He is recognised as a martyr by the Church of England and the Anglican Communion and his death is commemorated on 17 February as a Lesser Festival. Source: Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Date retrieved: 15 July 2018 08:42 UTC

Posted by Jane on July 15th, 2018
Back to top
February 18th:
Dwelle Jerome Clark
died on February 18th, 2014

55yo Dwelle Clark from New Jersey, USA, was stabbed to death by his ex-girlfriend. He caught her rummaging through his mother's handbag, asked her to stop it, she started hitting him with a walking cane, he left the room, and she followed him with a butcher knife and stabbed him in the chest. Mr Clark died three days later. Their daughter said, "My mom is a drug addict, but she hasn't been using lately because she's trying to get herself together. In a situation like that, it doesn't take much for (an addict) to snap. This is not the first time my mom has snapped like this." "I really don't know what to think," she added. "It's just a sad situation. She's locked up and he's no longer here." The woman has stabbed her previous boyfriend to death in 1980, and served prison time for it. "I'm guilty," she said. "So what else can I do?"

Posted by Manya on March 27th, 2016
Back to top
February 19th:
Karen Willmon
died on February 19th, 2017

Cherokee County School buses displaying white ribbons on the front of each vehicle in memory of one of the colleagues, Karen Willmon who was tragically murdered earlier in the week. The Cherokee County Board of Education, Superintendent of Education his sincere condolences on behalf of the Board of Education and extended thoughts and prayers to the family, friends and co-workers of Karen. Karen was also a former employee of the Cherokee County Parks and Recreation Board as an attendant at Cherokee Rock Village Park, the Parks and Rec Board issued a statement on their Facebook page saying "The Cherokee County Parks and Recreation Board offering its condolences to the family and friends of Karen Wilmon…"Karen was a former employee at Cherokee Rock Village and was a diligent and dedicated worker. Karen's unmatched work ethic was a tremendous contribution to the continued success of the park. We are all grieved by the tragic loss of this admirable lady".

Posted by Jane on July 21st, 2018
Back to top
Jeff Akers
died on February 19th, 2008

50yo Jeff Akers from UK was stabbed to death in a public bathroom because he was gay. Mr Akers worked as an accountant and volunteered for HIV/AIDS charities, counseling other gay people who had contacted the disease. "Guys like Jeff seem few and far between... he was gentle but firm when needed, kind and giving, non-judgmental and while he had a serious side he could make you laugh and brighten the moment with his wicked sense of humor. Jeff had a wealth of experience he never hesitated to share and encourage others with if called on for help. He took so little when giving so much to those around him." David Jack, friend.

Posted by Manya on June 26th, 2016
Back to top
February 20th:
Steve Rhinehart
died on February 20th, 2012

62yo Mr Rhinehart, a retired contractor and farmer from Georgia, USA, had a wife, two grown kids, and a cattle dog Sadie. His 36yo son struggled with depression, anxiety, and substance abuse, and moved back with his parents. As time went on, Mr Rhinehart insisted that he move out, because he would neither get a job nor receive treatment. The son felt his mom alone would take care of him, wanted them to divorce, and when that didn't happen, he killed his father. "I just pulled the gun out, continued to walk up the hill and around the corner and met him and just shot him, right in the chest," he said.

Posted by Manya on July 29th, 2016
Back to top
February 21st:
Savannah Hardin
died on February 21st, 2012

Savannah was a 9yo girl from Alabama, USA, ran to death by her grandmother over some fundraiser candy. Savannah took it from another girl on a schoolbus, ate it, left the wrapper at her seat, but told the bus driver she didn't do it. The bus driver told her grandmother. "I should have paid for those candy bars," the driver said in retrospect. Grandmother called the mother of the girl Savannah took the candy from, offering to pay for it and saying that Savannah is in a big trouble. The woman spoke to her daughter to get the story straight and called right back because she was concerned with grandmother's tone of voice; "I didn't want Savannah to get in trouble for something that didn't happen," she said.

The next day Savannah didn't take the bus to school, and the bus driver came by their house in the afternoon to check on the girl. Grandmother said Savannah was "gonna learn" not to lie and that she would "run until I tell her to stop.". Neighbors across the street saw Savannah running for more than three hours, while carrying firewood sticks, with her grandmother shouting: "I didn't tell you to stop!" They called 911 later on that evening, when Savannah was on the ground, vomiting, as her grandmother slapped her and shouted: "Get up! I better not have to tell you again!" Savannah had a seizure, was hospitalized, and died three days later from extreme physical exertion. Her grandmother was convicted of capital murder. "I wish I had done something a lot sooner," said the neighbor.

Posted by Manya on March 5th, 2016
Back to top
February 22nd:
Alexis Arensman
died on February 22nd, 2015

Alexis from Indiana, USA, was born while her mom was pending trial for battering Alexis' older sister (the three-months-old received four broken ribs and a broken leg). When Alexis was 16 months old, both girls were removed by CPS because their mom (while still pending trial) put Alexis in the care of someone with a known history of sexually assaulting a child. 18 months later mom finished doing her time for battery of Alexis' sister and regained custody of both girls. A year later CPS received multiple reports about child abuse suspicions because Alexis had a lot of bruises. Those reports were deemed "unsubstantiated" because mom said Alexis had hurt herself, and Alexis wouldn't answer when asked how did she receive the bruises. And three months later Alexis was found dead (battered child syndrome, 17 separate injuries), and her sister seriously injured. Mom and dad pleaded guilty to neglect and were sentenced to 32 and 35 years respectively.

Posted by Manya on May 5th, 2019
Back to top
Leota (Toni Lea) Antonnette Cheney
died on February 22nd, 2011

Toni Lea Cheney, 45 was brutally beaten and killed by her Ex-Boyfriend

Posted by Jane on July 6th, 2018
Back to top
Rosa Elena Carranza-Morales and Dayna Sofia Elamrani-Carranza
died on February 22nd, 2007

While attending an apartment fire firefighters discovered the bodies of Rosa Elena Carranza-Morales, 26, and Dayna Sofia Elamrani-Carranza, 11 months, her baby daughter in the apartment. The next day they discovered the body of her husband in a closet. He had died of a self-inflicted gunshot wounds and smoke inhalation. Rosa had taken out a restraining order against her husband a week or so before the fire, and had reported that he had a history of beating her and that she feared he would kill her.

Posted by Jane on July 7th, 2018
Back to top
February 23rd:
Patrick McSorley
died on February 23rd, 2004

Mc Sorley was sexually abused by clergy at the age of 12. When a priest stopped by his family's home to offer condolences on the death of his father. McSorley said the priest took him out for ice cream and then molested him. His lawsuit was among the first of hundreds eventually filed against the Catholic Archdiocese of Boston. Alexa MacPherson a friend of McSorley's said he abused drugs and alcohol and had been in and out of rehabilitation centers trying to break the habit. "The memories of what had happened to him -- he had to battle continuously" she said. "He would do almost anything to escape the pain." "From a very young age he had a lot of pitfalls thrown at him. I think the church stuff is what threw him over the edge" she said. "It really put him in a place that he just couldn't come back from."

Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
Back to top
February 24th:
Deborah Lohoski
died on February 24th, 2014

For the past four years, Deborah Lohoski, 59, had cared for her young granddaughter and tried to help her troubled son as he struggled with alcohol addiction. But her efforts ended violently Monday afternoon, when Matthew Lohoski, 33, killed her in the family's back yard. Clearwater police gave this account of Deborah Lohoski's slaying: While his 7-year-old daughter played a video game inside the home, Lohoski put his mother in a choke hold until she lost consciousness. Moments later Lohoski returned to the back yard, she was still breathing. With a pocket-style box cutter knife, Lohoski slashed his mother's throat...but she still clung to life. Lohoski tried to choke his mother again. In a final attempt to end his mother's life, Lohoski grabbed a sledgehammer and struck his mother's head at least three times, killing her, police said. Then Lohoski dropped his daughter off at a friend's house and turned himself in at the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office where detectives interviewed him and arrested him on a first-degree murder charge.

Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
Back to top
February 25th:
Victoria Climbie
died on February 25th, 2000

In November of 1998 6yo Victoria from Ivory Coast came to France to stay with her aunt (whom she never met before), so that the aunt would get social security benefits, and Victoria would get an education. Things didn't work out with social security in France, and next April they moved to UK. Victoria was abused and neglected, and numerous people saw that, but she never got the help she needed. For example, workers at social security offices (which the aunt frequently visited to apply for benefits) said that Victoria "looked like a child from an ActionAid advertisement", but they assumed it was an attempt to "persuade the authorities to hand out money." Doctors at the hospitals Victoria was taken to for her injuries reported the problem to CPS, but the aunt said Victoria had scabies, and CPS cancelled the follow. In August a social worker spoke with Victoria on four separate occasions for a total of less than 30 minutes (so about seven and a half minutes each time). This social worker visited their flat three more times between December and January, but received no answer and assumed they must have moved back to France. In February CPS wrote to the aunt saying that if she doesn't respond, they'll close the case. A week later they closed the case; it was February 25th, the same day that Victoria died.

8yo Victoria was forced to sleep in a bathtub in her own excrements, had been burnt with cigarettes, tied up for periods of longer than 24 hours, and hit with bike chains, hammers and wires. She died of hypothermia, multiple organ failure, and malnutrition, and had 128 separate injuries and scars on her body at the time of death. During her life in Britain, Victoria was known to four social services departments, three housing departments, two child protection police teams, two hospitals, an NSPCC centre, and a few local churches. Her death led to a public inquiry and produced major changes in child protection policies in the United Kingdom.

Posted by Manya on March 18th, 2016
Back to top
died on February 25th, 2009

Your suicide left us with so much hurt and pain. I hope you can forgive me for starting it all. RIP my brother. I love you now and for always.

Posted by Mickie2012 on August 17th, 2012
Back to top
February 26th:
Ash Haffner
died on February 26th, 2015

16yo Ash from North Carolina, USA, struggled figuring out their sexual orientation and gender identity, and committed suicide because of school bullying. "if i die, i don't want to be remembered as the sad person i was ok. i don't want to be remembered as the faggot gay girl with all the scars on her arm. unfortunately thats who i am to alot of people. if those people would have just stayed silent and kept their ignorant thoughts in their heads then maybe i wouldn't have those scars on my arm. maybe. it wasn't always about what they had in their heads, it was what was inside of mine too. i just didn't understand why i felt the way i did when i had a decent life."

Posted by Manya on March 11th, 2017
Back to top
Johnny Blu
died on February 26th, 2022

My son was killed senselessly by someone struggling with drug addiction. My son died due to a drug overdose on Fentanyl. He was only one years old. I was in a bad domestic situation with my son's father that ultimately got me and my 2 kids evicted with no where to go. There were no emergancy services to help me at the moment. I ultimately found myself staying with friends, hotels and even people I just barely met. People that I had no idea would choose their addiction over the life of my innocent beautiful son. His death could have been prevented. I needed help. I reached out. I called 211 911 there was no one. Johnny was so precious to me and my only son. I wanted him so much! Despite my horrible relationship I was determined to get away and give my kids the best life that I could. I grew up around domestic violence and never seen a healthy relationship with a man. I wanted to raise my son healthy and good and a protector of women. A good man. A man of God. I felt I was finally going to have that man in my family. He was precious!!! You could tell just by looking at him how calm and sweet he was. Truly God sent. The pain, the grief is unbearable. The injustice of how I couldn't find the help when I needed it. How unexpected and unfair. I was Robbed! All I can do is scream and cry out. I WANT MY SON!!! JOHNNY BLU I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. I MISS YOU WITH EVERY PAINFUL BREATH.

Posted by Trisha Willard on June 16th, 2022
Back to top