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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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March 14th:
Ayden Olson
died on March 14th, 2013

Ayden's mom said he was "bullied to death" in school, because he was gay and because he was part Japanese. 14yo Ayden committed suicide by medication overdose. He researched suicide methods online (bypassing the block his parents put on his laptop), and left two notes explaining his reasons. His mom is a prominent child abuse campaigner; she said, "My job is to protect kids online but I could not keep my own son safe".


Posted by Manya on February 14th, 2016
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March 15th:
Jackie Ohide
died on March 15th, 2015

27yo Jackie from Australia worked in senior care and lived with her boyfriend and two sons. "They kept to themselves a lot but seemed nice," neighbors said. Another neighbor remembered that the boys liked to play on the trampoline. "They are lovely children, they are always respectful," she said. At 4AM on March 15th the boys, aged seven and two, found the body of their mother in her car, and honked and screamed until the neighbors came out to assist them. Jackies boyfriend has been arrested on murder charges. "It is an eerie feeling to think that could happen without anyone hearing anything," the neighbors said.


Posted by Manya on March 6th, 2017
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March 16th:
James Levier
died on March 16th, 2001

60yo Mr Levier from Maine, USA, lost his hearing when he was about 6 years old, and his parents sent him to the Baxter School for the Deaf, a state-run boarding school, so that he could learn sign language and get an education. He was sexually abused by staff there. Sexual abuse in schools for the deaf is widespread because the children have extra difficulties reaching out for help. Here's how one survivor explains it:

"There was a busy road with a playground and there'd be people walking past but we had no communication because we couldn't speak, we couldn't sign and they couldn't understand our voices. We'd try and write notes but our vocabulary was limited. The only word we knew was 'rude'. We'd make paper aeroplanes and throw them. People would pick them up, laugh and wave and go on their way and we would feel frustrated."

Mr Levier left the school at 17, married and had two daughters, enjoyed hiking in the woods, painting, carving, and even volunteered as an art teacher at Baxter. Still, he struggled emotionally and tried to kill himself several times. Mr Levier wanted justice for himself and other survivors of the school. Multiple abuse allegations against the school were corroborated by the police investigation, but no charges were pressed due to the statute of limitations. On March 7th, a spokesman for then-Gov. Angus King testified that there was no money budgeted to pay victims and questioned the appropriateness of an official apology. Nine days later Mr Levier commited suicide by cop. Within days, Gov. King issued an apology to the state's deaf community for the abuse that had occurred at Baxter years before. The Legislature also began approving compensation for victims, ultimately appropriating more than $17 million.


Posted by Manya on July 29th, 2016
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March 17th:
Max and Saga Jangestig
died on March 17th, 2008

3yo Max and 1yo Saga Jangestig from Sweden lived with their mom and stepdad in a suburb of Stockholm. The stepdad was stalked by a woman he had a two-week affair with on a vacation trip to Greece. She followed him to Sweden, came to his house with a hammer, and when Max's and Saga's mom answered the door - the woman struck her on the head 15 times, and then did the same to both kids. Max and Saga died, their mom survived.


Posted by Manya on March 9th, 2017
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March 18th:
Raheel Siddiqui
died on March 18th, 2016

Minutes before Raheel Siddiqui, a Muslim Marine recruit, jumped to his death during the early phases of boot camp at Parris Island, S.C., he was hazed and struck by his drill instructor, Marine Corps officials said Thursday. Raheel, 20, a Pakistani American arrived at Parris Island on March 7 and had been with his training company for only a day when he reported on March 13 that he wanted to commit suicide, Marine officials said. The first week or so of Marine boot camp is known as “forming” and involves recruits going through a series of medical evaluations and uniform issues before training. After forming, recruits are “picked up” by their drill instructors in an infamous ceremony that introduces recruits to their company and the intensity of recruit training. Raheel told his drill instructor that his throat hurt, officials said, and after failing to respond to the drill instructor, he fell to the floor, apparently in pain. When Raheel continued to not respond, the drill instructor “forcefully” slapped him between one and three times. He then ran down the length of the barracks and vaulted a railing, falling to his death. It is against training regulations for a drill instructor to strike a recruit. The drill instructor who officials say hazed and slapped Raheel had already been under investigation in connection with the ill treatment of another Muslim recruit and for reportedly consuming alcohol around the trainees.


Posted by Jane on July 4th, 2018
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Kyleigh Mae McDaniel Robinson
died on March 18th, 2010

1yo Kyleigh from Vermont, USA, was "a very cheerful, happy baby, always smiling and bringing joy to those around her," according to her family. "Her loving spirit and joyful attitude are a wonderful memory for those who loved her." Her mom's boyfriend was babysitting her, got drunk, and was playing with Kyleigh by tossing her up in the air and catching her. At one point he dropped her and she began to cry. He was unable to quiet her, became frustrated, and slammed her down several times to stop her from crying. The medical examiner said it's likely death came quickly, right after the beating.


Posted by Manya on March 9th, 2017
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March 19th:
Adrian Langlais
died on March 19th, 2015

2yo Adrian from Texas, USA, was taken to hospital on his birthday. His mom's boyfriend put him on a timeout, which involved yelling, then silence, and then Adrian had a black eye and other bruises on his face. Adrian's mom went to work the next day even though the child could barely move and only opened his eyes when she kissed him good-bye. The boyfriend spent 14 hours online, searching for "how to tell if someone has went brain-dead," "toddler can't walk or use right side after hitting head," and other such. When he finally called 911 and Adrian was taken to the hospital, the child was vomiting, showing signs of a seizure, had swelling around his eyes, neck, and head, and bite marks on his body. Adrian died the next day.


Posted by Manya on March 9th, 2017
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March 20th:
Caylee Hoehne
died on March 20th, 2016

4yo Caylee from Nebraska, USA, "was the type of girl that gave others something to look forward to," according to her dad. "Not trying to boast her or anything, she always wanted to help her daddy and mom with whatever we were doing. She always tested her waters to see how far she could push you, but she'd make it up to you by flirting with you. She was the type of girl that would impact your day and impact your life forever with her smile. She was a daredevil. She always wanted to go further. I remember being at the park with her when she was only two, and she was swinging on monkey bars scaring her mother and me." Caylee died of skull fracture and other injuries after her mom "tossed her into bed three times and squeezed her around her torso." Medical examiners, on the other hand, felt that at least some of the bruising must have been caused by hitting the child with some type of wire. The mother is in jail awaiting trial.


Posted by Manya on March 9th, 2017
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March 21st:
Abida Ahmed
died on March 21st, 2018

25yo Abida from Pakistan was a student of MA in English at Faisalabad Government College University, a gold medalist and scholarship holder. "During her educational career," her parents said, "she got a laptop through the Chief Minister Scheme and Quaid-e-Azam Scholarship." Abida was kidnapped when she was returning home from the university, raped, strangled to death, and dumped in a nearby canal. "My sister cannot come back but we are raising our voice for we don't want other girls to go through the same," Abida's brother said at her funeral.


Posted by Manya on June 25th, 2018
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Zahra Abrahimzadeh
died on March 21st, 2010

44yo Mrs Abrahimzadeh had three children and an abusive husband. The family moved from Iran to Australia, where she was able to seek help, and eventually moved with her kids to a domestic violence shelter. The four lived in hiding, but the next year Mrs Abrahimzadeh went to a Persian New Years function at a local convention centre, where her husband killed her in front of about 300 witnesses. "He was controlling, domineering, regularly resorted to verbal abuse and to violence," said their son. "He was very well-respected in the community (and) people would say 'your father is a gentleman',but obviously, they did not know about what happened behind closed doors. For my mother, there was nothing much to do... if you have got a bully over your head, beating you up, you just sit there and cry."


Posted by Manya on July 18th, 2016
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March 22nd:
Liam Fee
died on March 22nd, 2014

2yo Liam from UK was murdered by his mom and mom's girlfriend, who initially blamed his death on another boy. Liam suffered more than 30 injuries, including a broken leg, a broken arm, and a fatal blow to his abdomen that ruptured his heart. Two other children in the household were abused as well: one boy was forced to sleep in a cage, and another - in a room with rats and snakes which he was told "ate little boys."

Det Insp Rory Hamilton, of Police Scotland, said: "During joint interviews with specially-trained detectives and officials from Fife Council, the evidence began to build towards a picture of horrendous abuse which directly contributed to the version of events being put forward by the two accused being utterly discredited. This was a complex, challenging and sensitive investigation which involved interviewing two young children to establish the level of abuse and neglect both they and Liam Fee had been subjected to. It was because of their courage that detectives were able to identify Rachel and Nyomi Fee as being responsible for a wide range of serious offences against three children."


Posted by Manya on March 9th, 2017
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March 23rd:
Shaylyn Ammerman
died on March 23rd, 2016

1yo Shaylyn from Indiana, USA, was raped and murdered by a friend of her dad. He came over for a night of drinking, took Shaylyn from her bed, and drove to a rural area where he assaulted and killed her. A medical examiner called the trauma to Shaylyn's body the "worst case of sexual trauma" she had seen in her career. "When I heard all the horrible things he did to my precious girl I wanted to die too," said Shaylyn's dad.


Posted by Manya on March 10th, 2017
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