Memorial Wall

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Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.
~George Santayana

June 13th:
Birthday of Truddi Chase
born on June 13th, 1935

Truddi Chase. American author of "When Rabbit Howls" In her autobiography Chase tells of having been sexually and physically abused by her stepfather and of being neglected and beaten by her mother. This she stated led her to developing DID with 90 or so alters that she referred to as "the Troops" During her life she gave many interviews on the subject with one of the most well known being on the Oprah Winfrey show. She also gave talks to convicted child abusers to explain her abuse history and to warn them that child abuse is psychologically devastating. In her book Creature of Healing...a journey she tried to deal with her PTSD and also tries to tie in human experiences of pain to come to a better understanding and empathy for others. She died at 70.


Posted by eagle22 on October 10th, 2015

Adrianna Maria Cram
died on June 13th, 2005

4yo Adrianna from Oregon, USA, was removed from her mom's home due to neglect when she was one year old. Her mom was only 17 at the time, and struggled with a drug addiction. Adrianna spent three years in foster care, and then sent to her paternal aunt and uncle in Mexico, weeks before her fourth birthday. Adrianna was beat and tortured to death. Both adults were sentenced for the murder.


Posted by Manya on March 23rd, 2017

June 15th:
World Elder Abuse Awareness Day
June 15th, 2011

"The distressing crime of elder abuse often occurs in quiet, private settings, making a vocal, public response that much more important. Let us strengthen our resolve to end this problem as part of our broader efforts to create a life of dignity for all." ~ UN Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon


Posted by Manya on June 15th, 2015

Kelsey Jeter
died on June 15th, 2009

Parents of 12yo Kelsey and 13yo Kiersten divorced, and the girls stayed with their dad. On the first visitation with mom, mom said she had a surprise for them. She took them to an abandoned house and slashed their throats. Kiersten was critically injured, but survived. Kelsey died. Their dad said this must have been about the custody; mom felt that killing both girls was the best way around, if she couldn't have the custody. She plead guilty to get life in prison instead of capital punishment, and to spare Kiersten the trauma of having to testify.


Posted by Manya on February 14th, 2016

June 16th:
Asha Saini and Yogesh Jatav
died on June 16th, 2010

19yo Asha from India fell in love with a 19yo boy from her neighborhood, Yogesh Jatav. He was an orphan living with his aunt and uncle, and worked as a driver. She was a school drop out, helping her family with their vegetable selling business. However, Yogesh belonged to a Scheduled Caste, lower social class than Asha. When her parents discovered that, they tortured and killed both teens by electrocution. "She was crying loudly. She was pleading, 'Kill me, but please don't hurt him.' She loved him and they wanted to get married," a neighbor said.


Posted by Manya on March 23rd, 2017

June 18th:
Twins Chris and Cru Kahui
died on June 18th, 2006

Chris and Cru Kahui were 84 days old when it happened. Someone close to them - someone who should have been protecting and loving them - either picked them up and hit or threw them against a hard surface or shook them violently. The boys suffered traumatic brain injuries, the result of severe impact forces to their tiny heads. They died later that week after all efforts to save them were exhausted. To this day nothing more despite an extensive investigation and trial it is still not proved how the twins sustained their fatal injuries or why.


Posted by Jane on March 21st, 2016

June 20th:
lil brother james
died on June 20th, 2009

james i miss you so much you were always there for me even when you were feeling terrible you always put on a smile for me. i hope your in peace now away from all the evil in the world just like you wanted us both to be. missing you x


Posted by Hannah(worthlessangel) on September 22nd, 2009

June 22nd:
Trisha Sadler
died on June 22nd, 2011

29yo Trisha from Pennsylvania, USA, was raised by a loving family who adopted her as a preschooler. She was a cheerleading champion, a giving volunteer, and a popular employee at the bank where she worked. Trisha was living with her boyfriend of nine years. He had multiple prior convictions for assaults, was violent with her before, and she was supporting him financially. Their neighbors called police because of the noise, and Trisha's coworkers noticed her bruises. Two weeks before her death, Trisha gave her co-worker a warning: If I don't come to work, call the police. He's said he's going to kill me.

When Trisha didn't come to work and the police arrived to her house, they found Trisha's dismembered body in garbage bags, and her boyfriend who barricaded himself in one of the rooms and was screaming, "You won't take me alive." He suffers from schizophrenia and pleaded "guilty but mentally ill" to first degree murder; that doesn't change his sentence, but makes him eligible for treatment in prison.

"She was the baby of the family," Trisha's dad said. "As with any girl in the family, your brothers are very protective of you, and the loss of their only sister has hit them very hard."


Posted by Manya on June 26th, 2016

June 26th:
International Day in Support of Victims of Torture
June 26th, 1987

Torture seeks to annihilate the victim’s personality and denies the inherent dignity of the human being. The United Nations has condemned torture from the outset as one of the vilest acts perpetrated by human beings on their fellow human beings. Torture is a crime under international law, regardless of whether a State has ratified international treaties in which torture is expressly prohibited. The systematic or widespread practice of torture constitutes a crime against humanity.
UN Convention against Torture and Other Cruel, Inhuman or Degrading Treatment or Punishment entered into force on this day.


Posted by Manya on June 26th, 2013

June 30th:
Shafia Family Murders
June 30th, 2009

Mohammad Shafia had two wives, Rona (on the photo) and Tooba, and seven children. The family went from Afghanistan to Pakistan, then to Australia, then to United Arab Emirates, and finally to Montreal, Canada. Rona felt trapped in an abusive marriage, and feared for her life. Tooba, the second wife, allegedly said to Rona, "You are a slave, you are a servant." She and their husband held on to Rona's IDs and passport, so Rona felt she couldn't flee from them. She was also worried about her legal status, because she came to Canada as a domestic servant, on a visitor's visa, and was introduced as an aunt, not a wife.

On June 30th, a car that belonged to the Shafia family was discovered submerged at the nearby canal, with four bodies found inside: Rona Amir Mohammad, and three teenage daughters of the family, 19yo Zainab, 17yo Sahar, and 13yo Geeti. Mohammad Shafia, his wife Tooba Mohammad Yahya, and their 20yo son Hamed, were found guilty on four counts of first degree murder each. The remaining three children (a boy and two girls) were placed with social services, and a publication ban was placed on the case, to not disclose their names.


Posted by Manya on February 10th, 2016

July 1st:
Kenny Pierce
died on July 1st, 1990

Too a little brother I never got to share my life with whose existence was ignored until death came upon you from ignorance and lack of compassion. To a brother I often cry out of pain and the shear sadness of missing you and the day I get money I will be the one to get you an official memorial site and stone with your name. I love you and I miss you so much. Blessed be


Posted by Chris(Pagan Warrior) on February 11th, 2011

Sarah Payne
died on July 1st, 2000

Sarah was an 8yo UK girl murdered by a convicted sex offender who served two and a half years for abduction and sexual assault on another 8yo girl in 1995. The case influenced the campaign for Sarah's Law, that would allow controlled access to the Sex Offenders Register, so that parents with young children could know if a child sex-offender was living in their area.


Posted by Manya on June 2nd, 2015

July 4th:
Kati Earnest
died on July 4th, 2009

5yo Kati from Texas, USA, was killed by her mom's boyfriend. He hit her, spanked her with a toy boat she made in Sunday school, punched her with his fist, and repeatedly stepped on her with his whole body weight as she was lying on the floor, as per his orders. His relationship with Kati's mom was short, but very violent, as were his multiple prior relationships.


Posted by Manya on March 27th, 2016

July 5th:
Muhtahina Jannat
died on July 5th, 2011

Ruma (family nickname of Muhtahina) was 16 when she married her older husband. She liked reading, took college courses and driving lessons, and he wasn't happy about it. He abused her for 13 years. On one occasion he kicked her in the stomach after a c-section and her stitches came apart. Ruma tolerated the abuse while she was the only victim, but when he started hurting the children too, she sought help. They were having a long divorce/custody dispute, during which a judge told Ruma she was "being silly" when she said she feared for her life. Ruma's husband strangled her with her scarf.


Posted by Manya on July 5th, 2016

Jack Garcia
died on July 5th, 2015

Jack was a 9yo boy from California. He was smart, but stubborn and uncommunicative. Mom used to put him on timeout, and his school felt he was doing better. In spring of 2015 Jack's mom met a man online, picked up Jack, and moved with him to Maryland, to stay with this new boyfriend. She didn't enroll Jack in school, stopped the timeouts, and instead allowed her brother (Jack's uncle) and her boyfriend to discipline Jack in ways that prosecution described as torture. Four months later Jack was dead: his uncle and stepfather beat him, handcuffed him, and tied him to a chair with a bike chain, because he ate a piece of a birthday cake that belonged to his new stepsister.


Posted by Manya on May 20th, 2016

July 8th:
Elijah Strickland
died on July 8th, 2008

Elijah was a 3yo boy from Pennsylvania, USA, who was killed by his mom's boyfriend three hours after she left to work. The man claimed that Elijah's injuries resulted from CPR he tried to perform on the boy, but the jury found this argument unconvincing.


Posted by Manya on February 12th, 2016

July 12th:
Gary DeToma
died on July 12th, 2010

Parents of 5yo Gary and 4yo Will from Georgia, USA, were divorcing, and fighting over custody. When their dad felt that he was about to lose the battle, he attempted to both the kids and himself. His coworkers became concerned when he didn't show up to work the next day, so they came by his house in the afternoon, and 4yo Will opened the door for them. They found dead Gary with a plastic bag around his head, and unconscious but alive father beside him. He pled guilty to murder, to avoid death penalty, but then tried to reverse his plea.


Posted by Manya on February 27th, 2016

July 14th:
Assia Newton
died on July 14th, 2013

44yo Assia Newton from UK has been married to her husband for 23 years, and they had three daughters. The girls describe their dad as "violent, controlling, and jealous". "He controlled her and didn't like her having any friends or going out anywhere. He was never really nice to her." In 2013 mom and one daughter went on a holiday abroad to celebrate the girl's 18th birthday. Mrs Newton fell in love with another man there, stayed in touch over the internet, and visited him again. "Mum came home from her first holiday in Tunisia and said the people out there were really friendly," her daughter said. "Mum talked to me about Mohammed everyday after the second trip. He would listen to her and she was just happy that someone was paying her nice attention." Mrs Newton asked her husband for divorce, and he strangled her with a dog lead.

Assia Newton's story was included in the BBC2 Documentary "Love You To Death" that features interviews with friends and relatives of 86 UK women killed by their romantic partners in 2013.


Posted by Manya on March 7th, 2016

July 15th:
Jordan Gonsioroski
died on July 15th, 2006

Jordan was a 10yo girl from Minnesota, and her parents divorced. She stayed with her mom at first, but complained that her mom's boyfriend molested her, so CPS removed her from mom's home and placed her with her dad instead. On July 15th Jordan (who was malnourished) sneaked some nacho chips into her clothing. Her father and his girlfriend punished Jordan by placing her in scalding water. Jordan had burns on 73% of her body, she was barely conscious and her skin was coming off, but nobody called 911. Her father was smoking pot outside, and his girlfriend gave her a Tylenol. Jordan died a few hours later.


Posted by Manya on February 13th, 2016


 

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