Memorial Wall

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Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.
~George Santayana

June 6th:
Farmer vs. Brennan ruling
June 6th, 1994

Dee Farmer is a trans woman who was incarcerated with the general male population. She was repeatedly raped and beaten by the other inmates and acquired HIV as a result. Ms Farmer felt that the warden of the prison, Edward Brenner, should have done something to protect her, and filed a lawsuit. Supreme Court of the United States ruled that a prison official's "deliberate indifference" to a substantial risk of serious harm to an inmate violates the cruel and unusual punishment clause of the Eighth Amendment:

We [...] hold that a prison official may be held liable under the Eighth Amendment for denying humane conditions of confinement only if he knows that inmates face a substantial risk of serious harm and disregards that risk by failing to take reasonable measures to abate it.

This means that if you're in prison, are getting hurt, and the prison staff knows about it - they can't just not care. They have to protect you, because it's not OK to knowingly put people in harm's way, while they have no way to escape.


Posted by Manya on March 7th, 2016

Kalief Browder
died on June 6th, 2015

Kalief was a 22yo man from Bronx, NY, who survived abuse but committed suicide because of its aftermath. He was arrested at 16 andheld at the Riker's Island jail for three years, not convicted of any crime. He was abused by both inmates and staff at Rikers, but refused to plead guilty and be sentenced to time served; he said he wasn't guilty and wanted to go to trial. Once released, Kalief tried to rebuild his life: got a job, went to college, but he couldn't cope with the emotional aftermath of his jail experience, the flashbacks, the anxiety, the hypervigilance, and eventually paranoia and psychosis.

Being home is way better than being in jail, but in my mind right now I feel like I’m still in jail, because I’m still feeling the side effects from what happened in there. I’m trying to break out of my shell, but I guess there is no shell. I guess this is just how I am - I’m just quiet and distant. I don’t like being this way, but it’s just natural to me now. (...) I might be attacked; I might be robbed, because, believe me, in jail you know there’s all type of criminal stuff that goes on. Before I went to jail, I didn’t know about a lot of stuff, and, now that I’m aware, I’m paranoid. (...) People tell me because I have this case against the city I’m all right. But I’m not all right. I’m messed up. I know that I might see some money from this case, but that’s not going to help me mentally. I’m mentally scarred right now. That’s how I feel. Because there are certain things that changed about me and they might not go back.

Kalief killed himself on June 6th, 2015. The day before, he told his mother, "Ma, I can't take it anymore."


Posted by Manya on March 7th, 2016

June 7th:
Rania Alayed
died on June 7th, 2013

Rania was killed by her husband after trying to escape an abusive marriage. The couple was originally from Syria, but moved to Stockton-on-Tees, UK in 2004, and to Manchester five years later. Rania was 21, a mother of three, and her husband abused her physically, sexually, and financially. Once in Manchester, she started reaching out for help, and even hired a lawyer. She started college, made friends of both genders, and confided in them that she was living in a domestic violence situation. In May of 2013 Rania moved out with the kids, filed for divorce, and began dating another man.

Her husband seemed to agree to grant her divorce, but on June 7th he asked to meet her at a neutral territory, so that she could drop off the kids to visit with him for the weekend. Once there, he murdered her, while their kids were in another room, dressed in her clothing and left the building like that (to make it look like she left, on security cameras), and was telling everyone they have divorced and Rania is alive and in Turkey.


Posted by Manya on February 19th, 2016

June 9th:
Suhair Al-Bataa
died on June 9th, 2013

13yo Suhail from Egypt died of FGM, Female Genital Mutilation, a practice that 90% of Egyptian girls are subjected to, that consists of partial or full surgical removal of external genitalia. Suhail's dad took her to a clinic for this procedure, and she died during it. Her grandfather said, "It is God's will. We are not angry with the doctor. The doctor does not want to kill anyone. We are all sorry, and definitely we regret this." While her uncle said, "It has been done in the countryside for a long time. People here are used to it. Without circumcision, girls are full of lust."


Posted by Manya on July 8th, 2016

June 11th:
Maleeya Marie Murley Avalon
died on June 11th, 2011

17-month-old Maleeya from Tennessee, USA, lived with her mom and visited with her dad. During one of the visits she was raped, bitten, and thrown against the table by her dad's girlfriend; dad was not involved in any of it. Maleeya died of brain injury.


Posted by Manya on July 18th, 2016

Carly Sawyer
died on June 11th, 2009

Carly was a 5yo girl from Virginia, USA, whose parents fought for her custody for 2.5 years. At the end Carly stayed with her dad and stepmom. They punished her for bed wetting by spanking, withholding food, tying her hands (so that she couldn't get food from the fridge while they weren't looking), and keeping her tied up in a cardboard box. Carly died of blunt-force trauma with contributing factors that included starvation, ligature restraint and medical neglect. Her dad set up an obituary where he referred to Carly as "God's newest angel," and the stepmom said that Carly caused herself the brain injury by throwing herself on the floor because she was upset. Both pleaded guilty to first degree murder.


Posted by Manya on May 20th, 2016

Phoenix Sinclair
died on June 11th, 2005

Phoenix was a 5yo girl from Manitoba, Canada, who was murdered by her mom and stepdad. When she was born, both of her parents had a history with Child Protective Services, and initially she was removed from them right after birth, as they were deemed unprepared to care for a baby. They were allowed to visit with her, and six months later they took her home. There was domestic violence in the household, and Phoenix' little sister died of respiratory infection, but Phoenix wasn't removed from the house. Her parents broke up, she stayed with dad, and there were multiple abuse and neglect reports; for example, once Phoenix was taken to a hospital because she had a piece of styrofoam in her nose for three months, and the doctors weren't sure her dad would consistently give her antibiotics to cure the resulting infection; she mostly stayed with a family friend. When Phoenix was four, her dad moved to another province, and soon her mom took her from the family friend. Her mom had a new husband by then, with one child they had together and two more children the man had from a previous marriage. A year later Phoenix died of physical abuse and neglect. She was made to sleep in a cold basement, was given very little food, forced to eat her own vomit, shot with a BB gun, and played a "game" with, in which her stepdad strangled her till she passed out. On the day Phoenix died, the man was beating her continuously for over 15 minutes while her mom looked on. When the couple finally left the house, Phoenix' 12yo brother checked if she was OK, and discovered she was dead. The couple didn't report her death, and continued to claim her welfare benefits for another 8 months; they were arrested when they tried to pass another girl as Phoenix, after the boy reported her death to police.


Posted by Manya on March 18th, 2016

June 12th:
Enrique L Rios
died on June 12th, 2016

25yo Enrique from Brooklyn, NY, was one of the Orlando shooting victims. He was a social work student, working as a coordinator at a home healthcare agency, and active in his church. On June 12th 2016 a gunman killed 49 people and injured 53 others inside Pulse, a gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida, USA. Enrique was visiting Florida for a friend's birthday, and was one of the 49 killed. "Enrique was a wonderful person. He loved everybody and everybody who knew him loved him," said his mom.


Posted by Manya on July 5th, 2016

Tyler Gene McMillan
died on June 12th, 2008

13yo Tyler from North Carolina, USA, enjoyed reading, fishing, karate, playing outdoors with his cousins, being a Boy Scout and watching Professional Wrestling. He was homeschooled by his dad and stepmom (after his mom died of cancer several years prior). On June 11th Tyler's dad died him to a tree in the backyard, with his hands and feet restrained by zipties, because Tyler was "being disobedient". He released him the next morning, but tied him back to the tree again a few hours later. According to local news, it was 90 degrees outside, and "the area was blanketed in dense, acrid smoke from the Pocosin Lakes wildfire to the east. State officials had warned residents to stay indoors because of the smoke's health threat." Tyler died of cardiac arrest.


Posted by Manya on July 5th, 2016

June 13th:
Birthday of Truddi Chase
born on June 13th, 1935

Truddi Chase. American author of "When Rabbit Howls" In her autobiography Chase tells of having been sexually and physically abused by her stepfather and of being neglected and beaten by her mother. This she stated led her to developing DID with 90 or so alters that she referred to as "the Troops" During her life she gave many interviews on the subject with one of the most well known being on the Oprah Winfrey show. She also gave talks to convicted child abusers to explain her abuse history and to warn them that child abuse is psychologically devastating. In her book Creature of Healing...a journey she tried to deal with her PTSD and also tries to tie in human experiences of pain to come to a better understanding and empathy for others. She died at 70.


Posted by eagle22 on October 10th, 2015

June 15th:
World Elder Abuse Awareness Day
June 15th, 2011

"The distressing crime of elder abuse often occurs in quiet, private settings, making a vocal, public response that much more important. Let us strengthen our resolve to end this problem as part of our broader efforts to create a life of dignity for all." ~ UN Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon


Posted by Manya on June 15th, 2015

Kelsey Jeter
died on June 15th, 2009

Parents of 12yo Kelsey and 13yo Kiersten divorced, and the girls stayed with their dad. On the first visitation with mom, mom said she had a surprise for them. She took them to an abandoned house and slashed their throats. Kiersten was critically injured, but survived. Kelsey died. Their dad said this must have been about the custody; mom felt that killing both girls was the best way around, if she couldn't have the custody. She plead guilty to get life in prison instead of capital punishment, and to spare Kiersten the trauma of having to testify.


Posted by Manya on February 14th, 2016

June 18th:
Twins Chris and Cru Kahui
died on June 18th, 2006

Chris and Cru Kahui were 84 days old when it happened. Someone close to them - someone who should have been protecting and loving them - either picked them up and hit or threw them against a hard surface or shook them violently. The boys suffered traumatic brain injuries, the result of severe impact forces to their tiny heads. They died later that week after all efforts to save them were exhausted. To this day nothing more despite an extensive investigation and trial it is still not proved how the twins sustained their fatal injuries or why.


Posted by Jane on March 21st, 2016

June 20th:
lil brother james
died on June 20th, 2009

james i miss you so much you were always there for me even when you were feeling terrible you always put on a smile for me. i hope your in peace now away from all the evil in the world just like you wanted us both to be. missing you x


Posted by Hannah(worthlessangel) on September 22nd, 2009

June 22nd:
Trisha Sadler
died on June 22nd, 2011

29yo Trisha from Pennsylvania, USA, was raised by a loving family who adopted her as a preschooler. She was a cheerleading champion, a giving volunteer, and a popular employee at the bank where she worked. Trisha was living with her boyfriend of nine years. He had multiple prior convictions for assaults, was violent with her before, and she was supporting him financially. Their neighbors called police because of the noise, and Trisha's coworkers noticed her bruises. Two weeks before her death, Trisha gave her co-worker a warning: If I don't come to work, call the police. He's said he's going to kill me.

When Trisha didn't come to work and the police arrived to her house, they found Trisha's dismembered body in garbage bags, and her boyfriend who barricaded himself in one of the rooms and was screaming, "You won't take me alive." He suffers from schizophrenia and pleaded "guilty but mentally ill" to first degree murder; that doesn't change his sentence, but makes him eligible for treatment in prison.

"She was the baby of the family," Trisha's dad said. "As with any girl in the family, your brothers are very protective of you, and the loss of their only sister has hit them very hard."


Posted by Manya on June 26th, 2016

June 26th:
International Day in Support of Victims of Torture
June 26th, 1987

Torture seeks to annihilate the victim’s personality and denies the inherent dignity of the human being. The United Nations has condemned torture from the outset as one of the vilest acts perpetrated by human beings on their fellow human beings. Torture is a crime under international law, regardless of whether a State has ratified international treaties in which torture is expressly prohibited. The systematic or widespread practice of torture constitutes a crime against humanity.
UN Convention against Torture and Other Cruel, Inhuman or Degrading Treatment or Punishment entered into force on this day.


Posted by Manya on June 26th, 2013

June 30th:
Shafia Family Murders
June 30th, 2009

Mohammad Shafia had two wives, Rona (on the photo) and Tooba, and seven children. The family went from Afghanistan to Pakistan, then to Australia, then to United Arab Emirates, and finally to Montreal, Canada. Rona felt trapped in an abusive marriage, and feared for her life. Tooba, the second wife, allegedly said to Rona, "You are a slave, you are a servant." She and their husband held on to Rona's IDs and passport, so Rona felt she couldn't flee from them. She was also worried about her legal status, because she came to Canada as a domestic servant, on a visitor's visa, and was introduced as an aunt, not a wife.

On June 30th, a car that belonged to the Shafia family was discovered submerged at the nearby canal, with four bodies found inside: Rona Amir Mohammad, and three teenage daughters of the family, 19yo Zainab, 17yo Sahar, and 13yo Geeti. Mohammad Shafia, his wife Tooba Mohammad Yahya, and their 20yo son Hamed, were found guilty on four counts of first degree murder each. The remaining three children (a boy and two girls) were placed with social services, and a publication ban was placed on the case, to not disclose their names.


Posted by Manya on February 10th, 2016

July 1st:
Kenny Pierce
died on July 1st, 1990

Too a little brother I never got to share my life with whose existence was ignored until death came upon you from ignorance and lack of compassion. To a brother I often cry out of pain and the shear sadness of missing you and the day I get money I will be the one to get you an official memorial site and stone with your name. I love you and I miss you so much. Blessed be


Posted by Chris(Pagan Warrior) on February 11th, 2011

Sarah Payne
died on July 1st, 2000

Sarah was an 8yo UK girl murdered by a convicted sex offender who served two and a half years for abduction and sexual assault on another 8yo girl in 1995. The case influenced the campaign for Sarah's Law, that would allow controlled access to the Sex Offenders Register, so that parents with young children could know if a child sex-offender was living in their area.


Posted by Manya on June 2nd, 2015

July 4th:
Kati Earnest
died on July 4th, 2009

5yo Kati from Texas, USA, was killed by her mom's boyfriend. He hit her, spanked her with a toy boat she made in Sunday school, punched her with his fist, and repeatedly stepped on her with his whole body weight as she was lying on the floor, as per his orders. His relationship with Kati's mom was short, but very violent, as were his multiple prior relationships.


Posted by Manya on March 27th, 2016

July 5th:
Muhtahina Jannat
died on July 5th, 2011

Ruma (family nickname of Muhtahina) was 16 when she married her older husband. She liked reading, took college courses and driving lessons, and he wasn't happy about it. He abused her for 13 years. On one occasion he kicked her in the stomach after a c-section and her stitches came apart. Ruma tolerated the abuse while she was the only victim, but when he started hurting the children too, she sought help. They were having a long divorce/custody dispute, during which a judge told Ruma she was "being silly" when she said she feared for her life. Ruma's husband strangled her with her scarf.


Posted by Manya on July 5th, 2016

Jack Garcia
died on July 5th, 2015

Jack was a 9yo boy from California. He was smart, but stubborn and uncommunicative. Mom used to put him on timeout, and his school felt he was doing better. In spring of 2015 Jack's mom met a man online, picked up Jack, and moved with him to Maryland, to stay with this new boyfriend. She didn't enroll Jack in school, stopped the timeouts, and instead allowed her brother (Jack's uncle) and her boyfriend to discipline Jack in ways that prosecution described as torture. Four months later Jack was dead: his uncle and stepfather beat him, handcuffed him, and tied him to a chair with a bike chain, because he ate a piece of a birthday cake that belonged to his new stepsister.


Posted by Manya on May 20th, 2016


 

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