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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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June 29th:
Linzi Ashton
died on June 29th, 2013

25yo Linzi from UK had two children and worked as a bar maid. "Everybody loved her," the father of Linzi's daughter said. "She was devoted to the kids, she was everyone's friend, she put everybody first and she was a one-off." Linzi was involved in an abusive relationship for the last nine months of her life; she filed two police reports against her boyfriend, one for rape and the other for physical assault. Linzi withdrew both complaints and the relationship continued, until her boyfriend beat her to death; she suffered 108 separate injuries during the attack.


Posted by Manya on May 13th, 2017
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June 30th:
Shafia Family
died on June 30th, 2009

Mohammad Shafia had two wives, Rona (on the photo) and Tooba, and seven children. The family went from Afghanistan to Pakistan, then to Australia, then to United Arab Emirates, and finally to Montreal, Canada. Rona felt trapped in an abusive marriage, and feared for her life. Tooba, the second wife, allegedly said to Rona, "You are a slave, you are a servant." She and their husband held on to Rona's IDs and passport, so Rona felt she couldn't flee from them. She was also worried about her legal status, because she came to Canada as a domestic servant, on a visitor's visa, and was introduced as an aunt, not a wife.

On June 30th, a car that belonged to the Shafia family was discovered submerged at the nearby canal, with four bodies found inside: Rona Amir Mohammad, and three teenage daughters of the family, 19yo Zainab, 17yo Sahar, and 13yo Geeti. Mohammad Shafia, his wife Tooba Mohammad Yahya, and their 20yo son Hamed, were found guilty on four counts of first degree murder each. The remaining three children (a boy and two girls) were placed with social services, and a publication ban was placed on the case, to not disclose their names.


Posted by Manya on February 10th, 2016
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July 1st:
Harkirat Singh
died on July 1st, 2018

6yo Harkirat from India was the only child, and attended first grade in a private school. On July 1st, Sunday, the family had breakfast, and after that, around 10AM, Harkirat's mom took him to a bath, while his dad was washing their car and his grandpa was resting at a veranda. Harkirat didn't want to bathe, and when he started shouting, his mom strangled him to death with a washcloth. His dad and grandpa rushed him to a hospital, but it was too late


Posted by Manya on April 20th, 2019
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Anthony Haynes
died on July 1st, 2001

Anthony Haynes died July 1 2001 while at an Arizona boot camp operated by the America's Buffalo Soldiers Re-enactors Association. The investigation into his death is ongoing, but sources close to the camp said Anthony was also deprived of food and water and forced to stand in the sun for hours without water. Former camp drill instructors have said that counselors often kicked the youths, and the boys' daily diet consisted of only an apple, a carrot and a bowl of beans. On Sunday July 1st 2001 staff reportedly beat and bruised kids in the hot desert sun. But the worst was yet to come for Anthony Haynes. The kids say that after several hours in the sun, Anthony began to hallucinate. "He said he saw Indians and water," He was also eating dirt. By sundown, they say Anthony had gotten worse. "He was passed out. His face was just pale." But when contacted Colonel said Anthony was faking his sickness. "I've seen Anthony do the very same thing before." The staff took Anthony to a motel and put him in a bathtub and turned on the shower. They then reportedly left him alone for five to ten minutes. When they returned, according to some witnesses, Anthony was face down in the water and barely responsive. An instructor called Colonel Long. Despite that call, Long was convinced Anthony was faking, and ordered his staff to bring him back to camp. That's where Colonel Long finally got concerned and tried to revive Anthony. His wife called 911. At this point, Anthony Haynes was not breathing and died soon after being airlifted to hospital.


Posted by Jane on July 3rd, 2018
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Sarah Payne
died on July 1st, 2000

Sarah was an 8yo UK girl murdered by a convicted sex offender who served two and a half years for abduction and sexual assault on another 8yo girl in 1995. The case influenced the campaign for Sarah's Law, that would allow controlled access to the Sex Offenders Register, so that parents with young children could know if a child sex-offender was living in their area.


Posted by Manya on June 2nd, 2015
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Kenny Pierce
died on July 1st, 1990

Too a little brother I never got to share my life with whose existence was ignored until death came upon you from ignorance and lack of compassion. To a brother I often cry out of pain and the shear sadness of missing you and the day I get money I will be the one to get you an official memorial site and stone with your name. I love you and I miss you so much. Blessed be


Posted by Chris(Pagan Warrior) on February 11th, 2011
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July 2nd:
Nina Hilt
died on July 2nd, 2005

2yo Nina (originally named Vika) was adopted from a Russian orphanage by a Californian couple. At first Nina hoarded food and ate so little that her parents took her to a doctor, but in a few months overcame these difficulties. She also struggled with potty training, and preferred non-verbal communication (English being her second language at the age of two), but enjoyed physical activities and games (click on her name to read about her "Monster Walk"). On July 1st, Nina's adoptive mother beat her to death. "I hurt Nina," she told the police. "I choked her and I hit her and hit her... She was not behaving and not listening and just crying. I was so angry so angry. I got up to her bedroom and I said stop it, stop it! I dropped her on the floor and I kicked her." She then put Nina back in bed and continued punching her on the back with a closed fist. She could not say how many times she hit Nina or if the child cried. "Since I brought Nina home we never bonded," she explained. Nina died the next day of blunt trauma to the abdomen. The woman pleaded guilty to murder and was sentenced to 35 years in prison.


Posted by Manya on May 13th, 2017
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July 3rd:
Decarol Deloney-Cain
died on July 3rd, 2013

54yo Mrs Deloney-Cain from Illinois, USA, worked as a flight attendant for United Airlines for 28 years and had a husband, three children, and two grandchildren. When her 17yo daughter told her she was pregnant, Mrs Deloney-Cain told her she wanted her to get an abortion. The teen wanted to keep the baby so as to be together with her boyfriend as a family. They argued about it for a few days, and then the teen and the boyfriend murdered her by luring her into the basement, putting a pillow case over her head, and repeatedly hitting and stabbing her. They had two friends help them dispose of her body, and paid them with cash the teen withdrew from her mom's credit card. The next day they pawned mom's computer and bought an engagement ring. The teens were caught a few days later and eventually pleaded guilty to murder.


Posted by Manya on May 13th, 2017
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July 4th:
Kati Earnest
died on July 4th, 2009

5yo Kati from Texas, USA, was killed by her mom's boyfriend. He hit her, spanked her with a toy boat she made in Sunday school, punched her with his fist, and repeatedly stepped on her with his whole body weight as she was lying on the floor, as per his orders. His relationship with Kati's mom was short, but very violent, as were his multiple prior relationships.


Posted by Manya on March 27th, 2016
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Zina Linnik
died on July 4th, 2007

Zina was a 12yo girl from Washington, USA, who was kidnapped, raped, and murdered by a stranger, registered sex offender. She was watching the Independence Day fireworks behind her home, when her dad heard a scream, ran to the back, and found one of Zina's flip-flops and saw a van driving off.


Posted by Manya on February 10th, 2016
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July 5th:
Jack Garcia
died on July 5th, 2015

Jack was a 9yo boy from California. He was smart, but stubborn and uncommunicative. Mom used to put him on timeout, and his school felt he was doing better. In spring of 2015 Jack's mom met a man online, picked up Jack, and moved with him to Maryland, to stay with this new boyfriend. She didn't enroll Jack in school, stopped the timeouts, and instead allowed her brother (Jack's uncle) and her boyfriend to discipline Jack in ways that prosecution described as torture. Four months later Jack was dead: his uncle and stepfather beat him, handcuffed him, and tied him to a chair with a bike chain, because he ate a piece of a birthday cake that belonged to his new stepsister.


Posted by Manya on May 20th, 2016
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Muhtahina Jannat
died on July 5th, 2011

Ruma (family nickname of Muhtahina) was 16 when she married her older husband. She liked reading, took college courses and driving lessons, and he wasn't happy about it. He abused her for 13 years. On one occasion he kicked her in the stomach after a c-section and her stitches came apart. Ruma tolerated the abuse while she was the only victim, but when he started hurting the children too, she sought help. They were having a long divorce/custody dispute, during which a judge told Ruma she was "being silly" when she said she feared for her life. Ruma's husband strangled her with her scarf.


Posted by Manya on July 5th, 2016
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July 6th:
Patricia Kearney
died on July 6th, 2016

On the evening of July 6, 2016, Patricia Kearney's siblings got an email from the boyfriend with whom she had spent years sailing across the South Pacific. "Dean here from Tonga. There is no easy way to say this…. Trish passed away in her sleep," he wrote. "She went peacefully." Though devastated by the news, the family found comfort in the knowledge she didn't have to suffer anymore. The 56-year-old had lived with an incurable nerve disorder that had worsened over time. Patricia was always a bit of a "tomboy," said her family and friends — adventurous and a free spirit. Even as she battled a medical disorder that causes numbness, tingling and muscle weakness, Kearney pursued passions like softball and scuba diving. Days later, the B.C. family's grief turned to shock. The boyfriend, Dean Fletcher, then 54, was taken into custody by Tongan police, accused of viciously beating Kearney to death.


Posted by Jane on June 16th, 2018
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Bernard Revell
died on July 6th, 2012

7yo Bernard from NYC, USA, was killed by his mom. She had 33 prior arrests and served two prison sentences: attempted robbery, attempted burglary, multiple prostitution charges. She discovered she had cancer, and killed "Little B." (as she called her son) to spare him the tough life she has endured since being dumped in the streets at about the same age, according to her lawyer. At first she tried electrocuting 7yo Bernard by dropping appliances into his bathwater, and when that didn't work she beat him with a hammer, and chocked him with her hands and belt.


Posted by Manya on May 13th, 2017
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Rodricus Williams
died on July 6th, 2010

On or about June 6, 2010 2 yo Rodricus Williams died after being beaten and abused by his father. His body was later found in a trashcan filled with concrete and dumped behind an abandoned trailer near Vance in Orangeburg County.


Posted by Jane on July 22nd, 2018
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July 7th:
Meah Weidner
died on July 7th, 2009

10yo Meah from South Carolina, USA, had mom, dad, brother, and three sisters. She played in the Carolina Miracle League, an adaptive form of baseball for children with special needs; Meah had cerebral palsy and was in a wheelchair during the games. "A smile was about all she could give you, but she loved playing," her coach said. "She required a buddy to help her hit, but really enjoyed it." Meah was killed by her mom's boyfriend, an EMT and a volunteer firefighter. He broke Meah's arm, shook her, and dropped her on head while her mom was at work. Meah's coach said Miracle League workers sometimes experience the death of a player because of natural causes, but the circumstances of Meah's death were tough. "It was a shock. You don't want to think abuse is going on... She needed protecting."


Posted by Manya on May 13th, 2017
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July 8th:
Laiba Umar
died on July 8th, 2017

8yo Laiba from Kasur, Pakistan, was kidnapped on her way to Madrasa (religious school), raped, strangled to death, and dumped at a construction site. Her rapist and murderer was caught about a month later; he raped and killed 6 other young girls in the same area in the months prior to Laiba's death.


Posted by Manya on December 7th, 2018
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Elijah Strickland
died on July 8th, 2008

Elijah was a 3yo boy from Pennsylvania, USA, who was killed by his mom's boyfriend three hours after she left to work. The man claimed that Elijah's injuries resulted from CPR he tried to perform on the boy, but the jury found this argument unconvincing.


Posted by Manya on February 12th, 2016
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