Memorial Wall

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Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.
~George Santayana

May 3rd:
Yeardley Love
died on May 3rd, 2010

Yeardley Love was a 22yo student of University of Virginia, majoring in government and minoring in Spanish. She played women's lacrosse and field hockey, and dated a boy from the same school, also a lacrosse/hockey player. He had a drinking problem, and assaulted her while drunk. They broke up, but on May 3rd he broke into her apartment and "shook Love, and her head repeatedly hit the wall" (according to his testimony). Yeardley died.

Yeardley's family established the One Love Foundation to honor her memory (Yeardley wore jersey number "1" while playing lacrosse). "The mission of the foundation is to encourage and develop in children and young adults four qualities of character that Yeardley exemplified… service, kindness, humility and sportsmanship… that together add up to One Love," said Yeardley's mom.


Posted by Manya on February 14th, 2016

May 5th:
Zella
died on May 5th, 2007

I never told you that I loved you or that you were my best friend. Thank you for being my mother figure and being my constant security in life. I am who I am now because of you. I vow to live each day as you would want me to live it because you loved me and now live in my heart forever. I love you, Krisjewel


Posted by Krisjewel on February 19th, 2012

Jean Halfpenny
died on May 5th, 2010

77yo Jean Halfpenny was one of the Orchid View residents. Orchid View was a care home for the elderly in West Sussex, UK, that was operating from 2009 to 2011, charged £3000 per month, and provided "sub-optimal" care that was deemed "institutionalized abuse" and resulted in the death of five of its residents.

Mrs Halfpenny stayed at Orchid View from November 2009 to May 2010, and on a few occasions were found naked in her bed, crying, cold, hungry, and thirsty. Her daughter wasn't allowed to visit in the morning or during meal times, and was reprimanded for bringing food for her mother. In April Mrs Halfpenny was administered three times her regular dose of the blood thinning drug Warfarin over the course of 17 days; she was hospitalized twice after that, and passed away on May 5th.


Posted by Manya on March 5th, 2016

May 8th:
World Red Cross Red Crescent Day
May 8th, 1863

World Red Cross Day is celebrated on the birthday of its founder, the Swiss businessman Jean-Henry Dunant. In 1859 he was traveling through Italy on a business trip and saw a battlefield in the small town of Solferino. About 40K soldiers were left dead or wounded on that field in a single day, without much medical attention or even basic care. Jean-Henry Dunant abandoned his business plans and attended to the needs of the wounded soldiers, as well as motivated and organized the local villagers to help them without discrimination as to which side they fought on. When he returned home to Geneva, he wrote a book titled "A memory of Solferino", published it with his own money, and sent a copy to various political and military leaders throughout Europe. He explicitly advocated the formation of national voluntary relief organizations to help nurse wounded soldiers in the case of war. In addition, he called for the development of international treaties to guarantee the protection of neutral medics and field hospitals for soldiers wounded on the battlefield. In 1864 the International Committee Of The Red Cross was founded, which led to the Geneva Conventions, the cornerstone of contemporary international humanitarian law.

Currently, the International Red Cross and Red Crescent Movement is the largest humanitarian network in the world. Its mission is to alleviate human suffering, protect life and health, and uphold human dignity, especially during armed conflicts and other emergencies. It is present in every country and supported by millions of volunteers.


Posted by Manya on July 8th, 2016

May 9th:
Rodney Hulin, Jr
died on May 9th, 1996

Rodney was about to turn 17yo when he "caused a small fire in a pile of empty cans against the outside wall of the residence", according to an incident report. He was a juvenile tried as an adult, and took a plea agreement of 8 years in prison with the possibility of parole in 2 years. In less than a year he was gang-raped. Rodney reported it and a medical examination corroborated the claim, but no charges were filed against the offenders. Two months later Rodney hanged himself. Medics restored his heartbeat, and from that point on he was transferred from one prison hospital to another, until he died on May 9th, 1996. His dad had applied for a medical parole on his son's behalf, and it was granted; Rodney was scheduled to move to a nursing home on May 11th.


Posted by Manya on February 5th, 2016

May 11th:
Ethan Stacy
died on May 11th, 2010

Ethan was a 4yo boy who had been sent to visit his mom in Utah, USA, for the summer, as part of a custody agreement. He arrived to her and her boyfriend's home on April 28th, and she felt that her ex has "destroyed my boy." She asked her boyfriend to "teach him (Ethan) to be a man" by beating him or "whatever it took to get her boy back." It's unclear how exactly they went about it, but, bottom line, Ethan died ten days later. He had no food in his stomach, was dehydrated, and had various drugs in his system, bruises, lacerations, aspiration pneumonia, and his skin was "falling off" (according to medical examiner) because of burns he couldn't have acquired by accident. Aspiration pneumonia is caused by an inhalation of foreign materials into the lungs, potentially vomit, or as prosecutors suggested, fecal matter that the boy allegedly was forced to eat, according to prior police testimony.

The couple disfigured Ethan's body, buried it in a shallow grave, and sprinkled dog food on it. Mother reported her son missing three days later.


Posted by Manya on February 4th, 2016

May 12th:
Hana Williams
died on May 12th, 2011

Hana was a 13yo girl adopted from Ethiopia by a couple from Washington, USA. According to them, Hana "enjoyed knitting and crocheting, reading, drawing and various crafts, playing soccer and riding her bicycle." Aside from Hana, the couple had seven biological children and one more adopted son, also from Ethiopia. The children were home-schooled. The family had a copy of the controversial parenting book To Train Up a Child, and, according to witnesses, followed the book recommendations "to use a switch, cold baths, withhold food and force children outside in cold weather as punishment."

According to Hana's adoptive mother, on the evening of May 12th Hana was outside (it was raining), and started removing her clothes and throwing herself onto the ground, hitting her head. The mother and eight children watched Hana's agony from inside the house, and, according to one of the kids, laughed at it. When the mother finally called 911, she said, "I think my daughter just killed herself... She's really rebellious."

Hana weighed 76lbs in 2008, 108lbs in 2009, and only 78lbs in 2011 when she died of hypothermia, malnutrition, and gastritis. She had marks on her body, from previous beatings.


Posted by Manya on February 10th, 2016

May 16th:
Graziella Dailler
died on May 16th, 2014

48yo Mrs Dailler, originally from France, lived in Australia and worked as a beauty therapist. "She was like a sister to me. She was a very stoic person, she had a lot of dignity and pride. She took great pride in her own appearance and she loved making other women feel good about who they were," her boss said. Mrs Dailler had three adult children and an abusive boyfriend, and both she and her children have been in contact with the police about the situation.

On May 16th, 2014, Mrs Dailler's daughters came to check on her because she missed her daughter's birthday and didn't show up to work. They discovered the bodies of their mother and her boyfriend, who killed her and then himself.

"Anyone who is experiencing domestic violence, please seek what help is out there and get yourself out of the situation before your family is grieving like ours is." ~ Mrs Dailler's children


Posted by Manya on July 8th, 2016

May 17th:
Khyra Ishaq
died on May 17th, 2008

Khyra was a 7yo girl from Birmingham, UK, who was beaten and starved to death by her mom and stepfather. Two other children in the household were also abused in the same way, but survived. The family has been causing concern for years prior to Khyra's death. Children were emaciated and, until they were taken out of school, were constantly begging for food, searching for it, or stealing it from other children. Neighbors believe they saw Khyra eating out of a bird feeder. One of the children recalls, "Khyra stole bread from the kitchen or something from the cooker. Junaid (the stepfather) told her 'you've won a prize, you've got a nice treat'. He gave her a jar of chocolate and told her to eat it all. It made her feel really ill and it made her vomit."

There was plenty of food in the house. The court ruling said the following about the mother: "Food was an issue for her and she seemed unable to understand that whilst it may well have been appropriate for her to lose weight, it was certainly not appropriate for these growing children to do the same." The stepfather was punished by being deprived of meals as a child, and said his father beat his 3yo sister to death for failing to flush the toilet. The court ruling also mentioned his "strong belief" in evil spirits. Detective inspector who investigated Khyra's death, said the following:

"The defendants created a situation in which the children, who were being educated at home, had been kept away from their extended family, friends and the outside world. They were also prevented from doing the things that an ordinary child does. Khyra's untimely death was ultimately caused by an overwhelming infection brought on by severe malnutrition – a cause of death you don't expect to see in the western world, let alone Birmingham, in the 21st century."


Posted by Manya on February 4th, 2016

May 20th:
Heaven Woods
died on May 20th, 2014

Heaven was a 5yo girl from Georgia, who lived with her abusive mom. Her dad petitioned for primary custody of Heaven back in 2012, when she was 3yo, telling the court that visitation with her mom should be limited because of violence towards the child. Mom responded that he was the violent one. He continued his battle for custody, petitioning the court again in 2013 and in January of 2014. On May 20th, 2014, Heaven was beat to death by her mom and mom's boyfriend, for soiling her pants, which she couldn't help due to her injuries. Cause of death was blunt-force trauma to the abdomen and extreme blood loss that had accumulated in the child’s stomach.Autopsy revealed Heaven suffered long-term physical abuse before she died.

"I cannot express what you took from me. I will never understand why you did this to my Heaven, an innocent child who could not defend herself. She was playful, she was loving, she was understanding," said Heaven's dad in court.


Posted by Manya on February 27th, 2016

May 21st:
Levai Bonnar
died on May 21st, 2013

Levai was a 7yo boy from Australia who was abused and killed by his mom and her boyfriend. The man was a Christian hip-hop music producer, referred to himself as being "the General of the Army of the Helpers" and said the army "carried out the will of God". He physically and sexually abused Levai and his siblings under the guise of "punishment" in accordance with a "bizarre" discipline regime inspired by religion and a movie about Spartan soldiers called 300. Levai's mother sometimes participated, and sometimes recorded the abuse on her phone. Levai died of fractured skull and bleeding to his brain, and post-mortem found dozens of bruises, abrasions, scars, and fractures on his body.


Posted by Manya on May 20th, 2016

Sabia Rani
died on May 21st, 2006

Sabia was a Pakistani girl beaten to death by her husband. It was an arranged marriage; after the marriage certificate was signed, Sabia stayed in Pakistan for three more years while her husband and his family lived in UK. When Sabia was 19, she came to UK to stay with them. She didn't speak a word of English, didn't know anyone in the country, and never went outside alone. Her husband didn't like how she made his lunch, that she struggled figuring out how to apply makeup, and that she didn't know how to buy groceries. Five months after her move to UK Sabia was dead.

There were four adults in the household aside from Sabia and her husband. He was beating her for at least three weeks. 90% of her body was covered in bruises. She had 15 bone fractures. The family said they saw no injuries on her body, didn't realize she was in pain, and that she must have been killed by "evil spirits".


Posted by Manya on February 19th, 2016

May 24th:
Hope Arismandez
died on May 24th, 2008

Hope was an 8yo girl from Trinidad who liked to read and wanted to be a teacher when she grows up. "She is very intelligent and knows what she is about and is very aware as to what is happening around her. She was taught right from wrong and knew how she was to be treated by anyone, whether they were man or woman," said her dad. Hope was raped and murdered by her mom's boyfriend. He tried to rape her but she fought back and he realized he can't let her live because she'll tell on him, so he slashed her throat. Hope's relative said, "I really don't know why an innocent child like this had to go in such a brutal and inhumane manner. What did she ever do to deserve this?"


Posted by Manya on March 5th, 2016

Gabriel Fernandez
died on May 24th, 2013

Gabriel was an 8yo boy from LA, who died of child abuse and neglect. According to his brother, Gabriel was kept locked in a closet with a sock stuffed into his mouth to gag him, not allowed to go to the bathroom, and forced to eat rotten spinach, cat feces, and his own vomit. He was sent to school in girl's clothes, called gay, and beaten with a club, bat, metal hanger, and belt buckle. He had his teeth knocked out, and went to school with torn lip and black eye. Gabriel's teacher called Child Protective Services several times, but to no avail. On May 22nd, his mother called 911 because he wasn't breathing. When paramedics arrived, they found Gabriel naked in a bedroom, with a cracked skull, three broken ribs and BB pellets embedded in his lung and groin. Gabriel died two days later.

Eight-year-old Gabriel once wrote a suicide note, but authorities dismissed it because it did not include a specific plan to carry out a suicide.


Posted by Manya on February 2nd, 2016

May 26th:
Mackenzie Maison
died on May 26th, 2015

5yo Mackenzie and her 3yo sister Makayla from Detroit were starved by their parents. Makayla survived, weighing 17 pounds (she was bigger as an 8 month old baby than as a 3yo child), and Mackenzie passed away. Her grandma said that her parents never withheld food, she was just picky. When her mom called 911, she initially also said that she's calling because Mackenzie refuses to eat, and only later admitted the 5yo wasn't breathing. Medical experts have testified Mackenzie was bruised, malnourished, dehydrated and had pneumonia. She weighed 25 pounds. Both parents were found guilty of felony murder in Mackenzie's death, and first-degree child abuse and torture of both girls.


Posted by Manya on February 2nd, 2016

May 29th:
Brandon
died on May 29th, 1998

I'm sorry i wasn't there for you when you needed me.I'm sorry for letting you down.I'm sorry for the events that occurred that night that lead to you taking your life.I blame myself and will never forgive myself.I will live with till the day i die.I loved you so much and still do.There isn't a night that i don't think of you or a day i don't cry for you.I hope you have found peace.


Posted by Jennifer on October 23rd, 2013

Asher Lesyshen-Kirlan
died on May 29th, 2013

Asher was a 9yo boy from Colorado who played violin, enjoyed ski jumping, hiking, camping, fishing, and soccer. His parents were living together, but were estranged. On May 27th Asher's mom found out his dad was having an affair. They had an argument where she struck him multiple times, but they seemed to work it out in the end, and he agreed to not divorce her immediately, so that she could keep his health insurance. The the next day seemed to go on as usual, with her going to work and the family eating together, but at 3AM, while her husband was sleeping in the basement, she went to Asher's room and shot the sleeping boy to death, leaving a note to her husband that said, "Remember you are responsible for what has happened here and you are the person that caused it." It was signed, "Lisa & Asher". She then attempted to kill herself too, but survived (though paralyzed), and eventually pled guilty to the murder.

"We did a lot of hiking, a lot of backpack trips. Those are incredibly powerful memories for me," said Asher's dad. "I know every town worth passing through, but what good does knowing do with no one to show it to? I kind of feel that way about Asher."


Posted by Manya on February 27th, 2016

June 2nd:
Elaina Steinfurth
died on June 2nd, 2013

Elaina was an 18-month-old baby from Ohio, USA, killed by her mom and mom's boyfriend. Elaina was crying, and mom threw her against the wall and then called her boyfriend, who suffocated the baby and hid the body in his garage. Here's a quote from Elaina's father statement to court:

I would like to start by telling the court what kind of sweet baby Elaina was. She was a playful little girl who was full of energy. She loved to swing and would chase her older sister Kylie around for hours. She was also a very loving baby who loved to be held and cuddled. She would lay and nap with me for hours during the day while I slept for work on third shift.

I have many memories I will always keep of Elaina; memories of her playing in the sprinkler in the backyard, memories of her running around at Chuck E. Cheese and playing games. But what I remember most about Elaina is she was a fighter. Due to being born with problems with her feet, doctors said it would take her longer than normal to be able to learn to walk. But Elaina went through months of physical therapy and was walking by her first birthday. Elaina was strong and very determined and that I will never forget about my little girl.



Posted by Manya on June 26th, 2016

June 4th:
Travis Alexander
died on June 4th, 2008

Travis was a 30yo man from Arizona, USA, who worked as a salesman and motivational speaker for a legal services company. He was trying to break up with his girlfriend of two years, complained to his friends that she was stalking him and slashed his tires, and was about to leave to Mexico with another woman. The ex girlfriend drove nearly two thousand miles to his home, they had some private time that they took pictures of, then he took shower, which she took pictures of as well, and the next pictures on the camera, taken within minutes, are of his dead body in the bathtub full of blood, with 27 stab wounds, a slit throat, and a gunshot wound to the head.

It was a capital murder trial, i.e. the woman was risking a death sentence, so she told three separate versions of what happened. First, that she hasn't seen Travis in two months and doesn't know what happened to him. Then, that someone broke into his home, murdering him and attacking her. Her final version, which she first mentioned two years into the case, was that he was abusive to her and that she killed him in self-defense. She even wore a t-shirt that said "survivor" to trial, causing much controversy among Domestic Violence activists, some of whom view her as a victim, while others view her as a perpetrator. In the end she was convicted and sentenced to life without parole. Here's a quote from Travis' obituary:

Travis lived each day as if it were his last, with many accomplishments, dreams, travels, and successes. He was an amazing individual who sought out to save the world with his positive influence, his motivational speaking and his writing. He was well on his way to making all his dreams a reality. Travis has touched so many lives and will continue in our hearts forever and always. We can never express the unbearable pain from this tragedy.


Posted by Manya on July 18th, 2016

Zina Linnik
died on June 4th, 2007

Zina was a 12yo girl from Washington, USA, who was kidnapped, raped, and murdered by a stranger, registered sex offender. She was watching the Independence Day fireworks behind her home, when her dad heard a scream, ran to the back, and found one of Zina's flip-flops and saw a van driving off.


Posted by Manya on February 10th, 2016


 

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