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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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September 17th:
Thomas Cressman
died on September 17th, 2000

39yo Thomas Cressman from UK was murdered by his girlfriend. They dated for two years, and she was staying in his flat because of her financial hardships. In September of 2000 he took her on a holiday to Italy and his family's villa on the French Riviera; she hoped he would propose to her, and he didn't, and told her he had no intention of marrying her, when she confronted him. The argument continued when they returned back home, and Mr Cressman called police saying that "somebody is going to get hurt", but police never came to his apartment. That night while he was sleeping, his girlfriend smashed him with a cricket bat and then stabbed him with a knife.


Posted by Manya on March 27th, 2016
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September 18th:
Varsha
died on September 18th, 2018

3yo Varsha from India was beaten to death. Her mom wanted a son, and used to beat up Varsha and not feed her. When Varsha died of injuries and malnutrition, her mom was pregnant, and told their neighbors that if the baby turns out to be a girl again - she'll beat her to death as well.


Posted by Manya on May 6th, 2019
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Hiawayi Robinson
died on September 18th, 2014

8yo Hiawayi from Alabama, USA, attended a third grade and "lived her life to the fullest, unafraid and full of joy," according to family and friends. Five days before her 9th birthday, she went to visit her dad to pick up $150 that he wanted to give her as a birthday gift. She never returned home; her dead body was found behind an abandoned building in the neighborhood, and coroners report stated that she died during rape. Her dad was charged with sodomy and murder, and is pending trial while serving a different sentence in federal prison.

"The pain is still the same, nothing can change the pain I feel for my loss," Hiawayi's mom said. "But, to see all these people here, it helps with my comfort, to see people come together, and love and support one another... Love your family, stay close, time is short, that's what I pretty much got from this situation - life can really be short, (so) love your people while you can."


Posted by Manya on August 27th, 2016
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Jamey Rodemeyer
died on September 18th, 2011

14yo Jamey from New York, USA, was bullied for being bisexual. He was a fan of Lady Gaga and did a lot of activism against homofobia on his YouTube channel, including a video for the "It Gets Better project, a website dedicated to preventing teen suicide. Jamey committed suicide by hanging. His death made a large impact on the society; Lady Gaga dedicated a song to him and met with President Barack Obama to discuss school bullying prevention. New York state launched its Cyberbully Census. Multiple celebrities came out as gay, to help eradicate the stigma.


Posted by Manya on August 27th, 2016
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Kelsey
died on September 18th, 2004

I miss you everyday, We suffered everything together, so it isn't fair you were the one who had to die..I guess life isn't fair but just remember I love you and miss with every breath and heartbeat.


Posted by Hania on May 28th, 2008
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September 19th:
Bernice Rice Hensley
died on September 19th, 2016

Bernice Rice Hensley 86 yo was shot and killed by her husband. Their daughter said that he has suffered from dementia for several years. “Her daughter who’s parents had been married for 62 years said. “They were the best parents you could ever have.”


Posted by Jane on July 6th, 2018
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Teresa Tysinger
died on September 19th, 2004

Investigators say 24 yo Teresa Tysinger's body was found inside her home on Burlington Mills Road. They are calling her death suspicious. Teresa, 34, had lived at the residence for about three weeks. Family members reported her missing on Sunday when she did not answer the door. Monday afternoon, the Sheriff's Office issued a warrant for felonious assult on a female for her boyfriend.


Posted by Jane on July 6th, 2018
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September 20th:
Daniel Whitworth
died on September 20th, 2014

21yo Daniel from Kent, UK, was "an active and intelligent outdoors boy who loved days on his bike exploring leafy byways", according to his father. Daniel was passionate about cooking, worked as a chef, and had been in a relationship with a live-in boyfriend for three years. He was raped and killed by a serial killer who had a fetish of having sex with unconscious young men. He met his victims through gay dating sites, lured them to his flat, spiked their drinks with GHB (date rape drug), and four of them, including Daniel, died of overdose. The man was convicted of 22 crimes total, and sentenced to life in prison.


Posted by Manya on July 29th, 2018
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Amanda Bach
died on September 20th, 2011

The marquee outside of Nativity of Our Savior Catholic Church's school read, "Amanda Bach: Remember A Life." Hundreds of mourners did just that Friday morning, filling the church's pews to recall Amanda who was killed Sept. 16. She was described as the apple of her parents' eye, a young woman who lived life to the fullest, who hoped to study nursing in college, who liked country music and rap, hiking and going to the beach, and spending time with family and friends. Amanda's death, the Rev. Andrew Corona said during the funeral Mass, is like having the lights go out unexpectedly. Losing Amanda "is like being thrown into the darkness without the slightest warning".


Posted by Jane on June 16th, 2018
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Posted by budafli on August 23rd, 2011
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William Taylor Wild

im sorry i didnt text u that day, i was a day late. im sorry for all you went through. i love you willy-boy. ill never forget you. hope you found what you needed. RIP


Posted by tigger on August 2nd, 2013
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The 3 MPD people

For "D"; "G"; "M"; "E"; "L"; "...."; "...."; "the farm lady" and another "...." ...you know who you are...for my uncle and young "D" who died in gun deaths...for "M" and "G" who experienced sexual & physical abuses.....and the "farm lady" next door when I was six years old who hung herself in a grainery.....I wish life hadn't been soo very hard and difficult for you all. It's still unreal that 6 of you suicided...and another was extremely questionable. So much pain and hurt...wish that I could have said or done... something/anything... that would have changed this. And off course I couldn't...all I can do...is to wish you all peace...and all others visiting that finite road to...please...just don't go there. Talk to someone until you feel heard. In gentleness and caring...Jay.


Posted by Jay on January 24th, 2014
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My Brother

I would Like to say thank- you to my Biological brother who died of a cracked skull when he was a teenager, I want to thank him for standing up for me even though he knew he was going to get hurt, I was only three but I still remember him. I am 17 now and I Know he died because of me.


Posted by Januaryhorse on December 21st, 2010
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Leon

My world will never be the same, though as long as you're no longer in pain... Rest in peace young man. You are you're mummies world, she adores you more then anything. You are no longer with us, we will pray you go to the one who Blessed us with you're presence, for such a short but Joyful time. I thank you for giving me so many smiles, and so many laughs. I thank you for filling my life with Joy and happiness, in times in which I needed it most. You truely are special, and will be missed. Rest In Peace, Leon J .H.


Posted by S. on April 22nd, 2008
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Jimmy

As family we lost touch with you all when your dad died. With excitement we were reconnect in June 2010. It was then that we learned the news, after serving your country, the emotional toll, the roller coaster of depression became too much for you. Wish I had known, wish I could have made a difference. I trust you are at peace now.


Posted by cathyd on September 29th, 2011
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Ian (My brother)

I miss you so much. I don't know how I'm ever going to get over what you did. I will never forget the wonderful support you were to me...It just makes your suicide so much more confusing. I miss you. I love you.


Posted by Yasmine (Yazzy) on June 12th, 2012
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David

David I hope you have a friend in Jesus and that you have found your wings, I want you to know that I am trying to lay charges on our birth parents and that they pay for what they did to all of us. I hope I can be stong so I can get the job down because I know they need to know that what they did was not right. I love you David.


Posted by L. Lee Ramey on February 17th, 2011
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Bob

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Posted by Kami on December 28th, 2009
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Anyone who has died at their own hands.

Love and peace to everyone who has chosen suicide. It is never the right choice. but, i truely hope you have found peace. i love you..


Posted by Jade on April 11th, 2011
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Alex

Your a Survivor in my eyes. Now your flying with the Angels, and peaking through the Windows of the Stars looking down on me and I know your smiling. Love you Always. RIP


Posted by S. on April 25th, 2008
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A girl from my first grade

She commited suicide after our fight, we were so young, i blame myself, my dear freind live long in God's hands....


Posted by Serena (Lanfan) on December 9th, 2012
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a young woman at my college

this candle is for the woman at my school who was killed due to domestic violence.


Posted by CD on April 20th, 2012
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Luke

I loved you so much and that night it happened...i can still see you when i close my eyes...but your not the only one who died that night. you shouldn't have let them get to you, you shouldn't have listened to them...they were wrong.


Posted by Dante on September 9th, 2011
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My Mom (1954-2005)

Dear Mom, I wish we could have become better friends before you took your life. I am really going through a lot of things right now and so much of it is the same as you did. I wish I could be talking to you about my problems right now because I feel so alone. I'm gonna try to make my life different though. Btw mom.. I found out I can't have children. Love Belinda


Posted by Belinda on July 26th, 2009
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Anjali Pease

My Dear Anjali, we were so close - why you didn't reach out to me at your time of death, I'll never know. My fear is you did and I missed it somehow due to my hectic schedule of a doc program and If I did miss all the signs/ symptoms, I truly am sorry. I miss you so... I think of you often and talk to you. I hope you are in a much better place now and not suffering anymore. I have tears as I write this about you because we were so close and at doc school they tried to bring up all our email correspondence to use against me somehow...I know if you had been around you would have never let SERC be so abusive to me. I miss your smile, your infectious laugh and brilliant humor. I miss your dear friendship and all our times together. You had so much to offer. I hope to see you when it is my turn to go to heaven. I love you now and I love you forever...there is no goodbye, Anjj, only love. Your Friend forever, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009
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Jimmers

Dear Jim, you were the best big brother to me. I looked up to you in so many ways. I know you were always hurting, hun. I know. You were so intelligent and always had wonderful, positive energy and I miss your laughter and smile and brilliance in the world. I have a photo from the last time we saw each other. I wish you had loved yourself and could have seen how others truly saw you and loved you. I know you are in a better place my "jimmers , my bro". I hope you come to greet me when it's my turn to go. I love you know and always, no goodbyes, only love. Your lil sis, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009
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Steven

Sorry. I miss you, you didn't deserve to die so young, the image of your last smile is forever tattoed in my mind. 1985-1990


Posted by S. on April 25th, 2008
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Jill D.Kline

Jill, Jill, Jill, why hun? I'll never really comprehend the fact that you called me just before you took your life and we just had be arguing and you and I both were still upset w/ each other - I didn't know that I was the last call you made before you killed yourself at Michaels. I didnt know you called to say "goodbye forever" ... I was in the hospital when you called me and I thought we could make all amends over breakfast the next morning. You were just down the street from me and shortly after we'd hung up the phone I heard the PFD and All the Sirens go down my street to Michaels.

You came from one of the most prominent families around and had so much to offer this planet/ world. We were young then but I must say - no matter how difficult things were between us at times, my friendship and love for you never ended as it remains intact to this very day. The music you turned me onto still reminds me of you. And all the times we shared and all we did together remain crystal clear to this day in my mind. You showed me a brilliant way of life that obviously wasn't as free and without care as you made it seem.

I pray you know how much you meant to me and I still have the cd's you gave me. You were so smart, fun, intelligent and seemingly carefree - always trying to bust balls w/ your tf$ - that was hilarious. You were generous as well. It's been all this time and you are still in the forefront of my mind, obviously, to this day. God Bless you, Jill and I just know you are at peace now and I hope to see you when it is my turn in heaven. Again, there is no goodbyes, only love. Your friend forever, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009
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Sandy

Dear Sweet Sandy, You took me into your home when I had no place to go and assimilated me into all aspects of your family, for that I will always be truly grateful, appreciative and thankful. I remember all our fun times together going down to SD, camping, all the holidays, you even saved MY life that one night at Dr H's. You always believed in me...honey, why did you just give up on yourself? I'm sorry if I wasn't there enough for you - if you even wanted me around then. I regret with all my heart not being able to attend your services, for that I will always regret. I love you, Sandy-mom, no goodbyes, only love, Your xtra kid, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009
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My Sister, Mary Margaret Weaver

My dear sweet Mary, you never had a chance at life. You went "missing" when you were only 14 Y/O and I was 10 y/o. How I wish you knew how much I wish I could have protected you, told the authorities, stood up for you, and all I wish I had done for you and how much I love you and feel for everything I saw you endure and for all I never did see but I know of. I am so sorry I didn't / couldn't do more for you out of my own fear of my own death. I pray you don't hate me or think of me as a coward. I pray for you and think of you often and on your Birthday, Nov 4th, every year. I am so sorry...I know you are in heaven now as you are much too beautiful of a person to have been here much anyway. I will always love you. I hope you forgive me for not doing more to help you. I am truly sorry. I Love you and Miss You All The Time. 4Ever your lil sis, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009
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grandmother

You endured mental and physical abuse. Had your baby stolen from you when just 16 and your marriage annulled.Then were locked up in an asylum.We know now you were bipolar mpd.Your suffering ended when you jumped off a bridge when just 36.You tried to raise a family and just coudnt.You had a beautiful smile.Wish we could have met you.Your family will always miss you .


Posted by kailima on May 27th, 2013
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