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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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May 16th:
Ruby Isabella Knox
died on May 16th, 2016

Ruby Isabella Knox, born on January 8, 1996, was severely intellectually disabled and diagnosed with severe autism spectrum disorder. She also suffered from a litany of health problems, including chronic constipation and haemorrhoids, incontinence, spina bifida, gastroesophageal reflux and hip pain. She couldn't talk, nor did she have any ability to empathise. The pair couldn't enjoy play dates or socialise with other families. Instead, they were all alone in their house. But none of that ever seemed to bother her mum. Their family GP said that in more than 150 consultations, he never saw Donella adversely react to Ruby's violent and sudden outbursts. Instead, all he saw was a mother who loved her daughter dearly; one who was fighting tooth and nail to get the best health care for her that she could. Donella Knox felt endlessly helpless, and hopeless, about Ruby's deteriorating health and suffering. She felt forgotten about and ignored by the health and care systems. She doted on her daughter. She gave her only child unadulterated love and care. In return, she was bitten, headbutted, scratched, tackled, and ignored by a big, strong girl. On May 16th, 2016 Donella drugged and suffocated Ruby.


Posted by Jane on July 4th, 2018
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Mahmoud Hrouk
died on May 16th, 2015

16yo Mahmoud from Australia aspired to own his own construction company and play professionally for the Bulldogs. He spent the day of May 16th working with his uncle, and had asked permission from his father to ride his bicycle to get dinner. At 6:22PM he was at a local fast food restaurant with someone he considered a friend. At 9:42PM Mahmoud spoke on the phone with his mom. "Where are you? Come home!" she said. "It's OK Mum, I'm with my friend... I've got my bike... I will come home," Mahmoud replied. His "friend" was a 24yo drug dealer with a violent criminal history who was released on bail on the condition that he reported to the local police station every day of the week and could not leave home unless in the company of his father. This man lured Mahmoud into a vacant property used by local youth as a hangout, raped him, and bashed him to death with a toaster.


Posted by Manya on June 25th, 2018
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Graziella Dailler
died on May 16th, 2014

48yo Mrs Dailler, originally from France, lived in Australia and worked as a beauty therapist. "She was like a sister to me. She was a very stoic person, she had a lot of dignity and pride. She took great pride in her own appearance and she loved making other women feel good about who they were," her boss said. Mrs Dailler had three adult children and an abusive boyfriend, and both she and her children have been in contact with the police about the situation.

On May 16th, 2014, Mrs Dailler's daughters came to check on her because she missed her daughter's birthday and didn't show up to work. They discovered the bodies of their mother and her boyfriend, who killed her and then himself.

"Anyone who is experiencing domestic violence, please seek what help is out there and get yourself out of the situation before your family is grieving like ours is." ~ Mrs Dailler's children


Posted by Manya on July 8th, 2016
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May 17th:
Khyra Ishaq
died on May 17th, 2008

Khyra was a 7yo girl from Birmingham, UK, who was beaten and starved to death by her mom and stepfather. Two other children in the household were also abused in the same way, but survived. The family has been causing concern for years prior to Khyra's death. Children were emaciated and, until they were taken out of school, were constantly begging for food, searching for it, or stealing it from other children. Neighbors believe they saw Khyra eating out of a bird feeder. One of the children recalls, "Khyra stole bread from the kitchen or something from the cooker. Junaid (the stepfather) told her 'you've won a prize, you've got a nice treat'. He gave her a jar of chocolate and told her to eat it all. It made her feel really ill and it made her vomit."

There was plenty of food in the house. The court ruling said the following about the mother: "Food was an issue for her and she seemed unable to understand that whilst it may well have been appropriate for her to lose weight, it was certainly not appropriate for these growing children to do the same." The stepfather was punished by being deprived of meals as a child, and said his father beat his 3yo sister to death for failing to flush the toilet. The court ruling also mentioned his "strong belief" in evil spirits. Detective inspector who investigated Khyra's death, said the following:

"The defendants created a situation in which the children, who were being educated at home, had been kept away from their extended family, friends and the outside world. They were also prevented from doing the things that an ordinary child does. Khyra's untimely death was ultimately caused by an overwhelming infection brought on by severe malnutrition – a cause of death you don't expect to see in the western world, let alone Birmingham, in the 21st century."


Posted by Manya on February 4th, 2016
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May 18th:
Anthony Tirrell Murray
died on May 18th, 2014

30yo Anthony from Georgia, USA, was stabbed to death by his girlfriend during an argument. She said the knife "just seemed to puncture his chest." A medical examiner, however, testified the blade cracked a rib and punctured Murray's lung, aorta and pulmonary artery. The woman was acquitted of murder, but found guilty of aggravated assault and sentenced to 15 years in prison. Sergeant Joe Harris with Columbus Police testified at the trial, stating that domestic violence has a tendency to be highly under-reported, especially by male victims. The woman who killed Anthony had prior reports of domestic violence on other boyfriends, including one in which she was alleged to have beaten a man with a crowbar. Anthony had two children. She had four.


Posted by Manya on March 20th, 2017
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May 19th:
Enna Isabel Barreto
died on May 19th, 2008

Mr and Mrs Barreto from Mississippi, USA, started adopting children from Guatemala in 2005. By 2008 they had a total of eight, most under the age of three, including 2yo Enna Isabel. The young children were kept in a separate mobile home, and locked at night. The children were fed cereal and bologna sandwiches, rarely bathed, forced to drink hot sauce as punishment and spent hours tied up with duct tape after they "were cutting up." One of the children was frequently locked overnight in a cage inside a closet. Another child was waterboarded on multiple occasions. The dwelling was littered with garbage, food, soiled diapers, dog feces, dirty laundry and spent needles Mrs Barreto used to administer diabetes medication; there was also a puppy mill in the backyard. Marainna, teen daughter of Mrs Barreto, had to drop out of high school in order to care for the children. According to her, adoption inspectors "just stayed in the living room or the dining room, dining room or the den, so nobody has ever, none of them has ever really been to the back trailer."

Enna died of physical abuse and neglect. 17yo Marainna served 5 years in prison. Mr and Mrs Barreto were on the U.S. Marshals Service's 15 Most Wanted Fugitives list for failure to appear on original charges of child neglect, child abuse, tampering with a witness, and manslaughter in the death of Enna and the abuse of six other children. They were on the run for six years, but eventually were caught. Mrs Barreto pleaded guilty and died in prison.


Posted by Manya on March 20th, 2017
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Posted by budafli on August 23rd, 2011
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William Taylor Wild

im sorry i didnt text u that day, i was a day late. im sorry for all you went through. i love you willy-boy. ill never forget you. hope you found what you needed. RIP


Posted by tigger on August 2nd, 2013
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The 3 MPD people

For "D"; "G"; "M"; "E"; "L"; "...."; "...."; "the farm lady" and another "...." ...you know who you are...for my uncle and young "D" who died in gun deaths...for "M" and "G" who experienced sexual & physical abuses.....and the "farm lady" next door when I was six years old who hung herself in a grainery.....I wish life hadn't been soo very hard and difficult for you all. It's still unreal that 6 of you suicided...and another was extremely questionable. So much pain and hurt...wish that I could have said or done... something/anything... that would have changed this. And off course I couldn't...all I can do...is to wish you all peace...and all others visiting that finite road to...please...just don't go there. Talk to someone until you feel heard. In gentleness and caring...Jay.


Posted by Jay on January 24th, 2014
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My Brother

I would Like to say thank- you to my Biological brother who died of a cracked skull when he was a teenager, I want to thank him for standing up for me even though he knew he was going to get hurt, I was only three but I still remember him. I am 17 now and I Know he died because of me.


Posted by Januaryhorse on December 21st, 2010
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Leon

My world will never be the same, though as long as you're no longer in pain... Rest in peace young man. You are you're mummies world, she adores you more then anything. You are no longer with us, we will pray you go to the one who Blessed us with you're presence, for such a short but Joyful time. I thank you for giving me so many smiles, and so many laughs. I thank you for filling my life with Joy and happiness, in times in which I needed it most. You truely are special, and will be missed. Rest In Peace, Leon J .H.


Posted by S. on April 22nd, 2008
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Jimmy

As family we lost touch with you all when your dad died. With excitement we were reconnect in June 2010. It was then that we learned the news, after serving your country, the emotional toll, the roller coaster of depression became too much for you. Wish I had known, wish I could have made a difference. I trust you are at peace now.


Posted by cathyd on September 29th, 2011
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Ian (My brother)

I miss you so much. I don't know how I'm ever going to get over what you did. I will never forget the wonderful support you were to me...It just makes your suicide so much more confusing. I miss you. I love you.


Posted by Yasmine (Yazzy) on June 12th, 2012
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David

David I hope you have a friend in Jesus and that you have found your wings, I want you to know that I am trying to lay charges on our birth parents and that they pay for what they did to all of us. I hope I can be stong so I can get the job down because I know they need to know that what they did was not right. I love you David.


Posted by L. Lee Ramey on February 17th, 2011
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Bob

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Posted by Kami on December 28th, 2009
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Anyone who has died at their own hands.

Love and peace to everyone who has chosen suicide. It is never the right choice. but, i truely hope you have found peace. i love you..


Posted by Jade on April 11th, 2011
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Alex

Your a Survivor in my eyes. Now your flying with the Angels, and peaking through the Windows of the Stars looking down on me and I know your smiling. Love you Always. RIP


Posted by S. on April 25th, 2008
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A girl from my first grade

She commited suicide after our fight, we were so young, i blame myself, my dear freind live long in God's hands....


Posted by Serena (Lanfan) on December 9th, 2012
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a young woman at my college

this candle is for the woman at my school who was killed due to domestic violence.


Posted by CD on April 20th, 2012
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Luke

I loved you so much and that night it happened...i can still see you when i close my eyes...but your not the only one who died that night. you shouldn't have let them get to you, you shouldn't have listened to them...they were wrong.


Posted by Dante on September 9th, 2011
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My Mom (1954-2005)

Dear Mom, I wish we could have become better friends before you took your life. I am really going through a lot of things right now and so much of it is the same as you did. I wish I could be talking to you about my problems right now because I feel so alone. I'm gonna try to make my life different though. Btw mom.. I found out I can't have children. Love Belinda


Posted by Belinda on July 26th, 2009
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Anjali Pease

My Dear Anjali, we were so close - why you didn't reach out to me at your time of death, I'll never know. My fear is you did and I missed it somehow due to my hectic schedule of a doc program and If I did miss all the signs/ symptoms, I truly am sorry. I miss you so... I think of you often and talk to you. I hope you are in a much better place now and not suffering anymore. I have tears as I write this about you because we were so close and at doc school they tried to bring up all our email correspondence to use against me somehow...I know if you had been around you would have never let SERC be so abusive to me. I miss your smile, your infectious laugh and brilliant humor. I miss your dear friendship and all our times together. You had so much to offer. I hope to see you when it is my turn to go to heaven. I love you now and I love you forever...there is no goodbye, Anjj, only love. Your Friend forever, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009
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Jimmers

Dear Jim, you were the best big brother to me. I looked up to you in so many ways. I know you were always hurting, hun. I know. You were so intelligent and always had wonderful, positive energy and I miss your laughter and smile and brilliance in the world. I have a photo from the last time we saw each other. I wish you had loved yourself and could have seen how others truly saw you and loved you. I know you are in a better place my "jimmers , my bro". I hope you come to greet me when it's my turn to go. I love you know and always, no goodbyes, only love. Your lil sis, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009
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Steven

Sorry. I miss you, you didn't deserve to die so young, the image of your last smile is forever tattoed in my mind. 1985-1990


Posted by S. on April 25th, 2008
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Jill D.Kline

Jill, Jill, Jill, why hun? I'll never really comprehend the fact that you called me just before you took your life and we just had be arguing and you and I both were still upset w/ each other - I didn't know that I was the last call you made before you killed yourself at Michaels. I didnt know you called to say "goodbye forever" ... I was in the hospital when you called me and I thought we could make all amends over breakfast the next morning. You were just down the street from me and shortly after we'd hung up the phone I heard the PFD and All the Sirens go down my street to Michaels.

You came from one of the most prominent families around and had so much to offer this planet/ world. We were young then but I must say - no matter how difficult things were between us at times, my friendship and love for you never ended as it remains intact to this very day. The music you turned me onto still reminds me of you. And all the times we shared and all we did together remain crystal clear to this day in my mind. You showed me a brilliant way of life that obviously wasn't as free and without care as you made it seem.

I pray you know how much you meant to me and I still have the cd's you gave me. You were so smart, fun, intelligent and seemingly carefree - always trying to bust balls w/ your tf$ - that was hilarious. You were generous as well. It's been all this time and you are still in the forefront of my mind, obviously, to this day. God Bless you, Jill and I just know you are at peace now and I hope to see you when it is my turn in heaven. Again, there is no goodbyes, only love. Your friend forever, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009
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Sandy

Dear Sweet Sandy, You took me into your home when I had no place to go and assimilated me into all aspects of your family, for that I will always be truly grateful, appreciative and thankful. I remember all our fun times together going down to SD, camping, all the holidays, you even saved MY life that one night at Dr H's. You always believed in me...honey, why did you just give up on yourself? I'm sorry if I wasn't there enough for you - if you even wanted me around then. I regret with all my heart not being able to attend your services, for that I will always regret. I love you, Sandy-mom, no goodbyes, only love, Your xtra kid, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009
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My Sister, Mary Margaret Weaver

My dear sweet Mary, you never had a chance at life. You went "missing" when you were only 14 Y/O and I was 10 y/o. How I wish you knew how much I wish I could have protected you, told the authorities, stood up for you, and all I wish I had done for you and how much I love you and feel for everything I saw you endure and for all I never did see but I know of. I am so sorry I didn't / couldn't do more for you out of my own fear of my own death. I pray you don't hate me or think of me as a coward. I pray for you and think of you often and on your Birthday, Nov 4th, every year. I am so sorry...I know you are in heaven now as you are much too beautiful of a person to have been here much anyway. I will always love you. I hope you forgive me for not doing more to help you. I am truly sorry. I Love you and Miss You All The Time. 4Ever your lil sis, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009
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grandmother

You endured mental and physical abuse. Had your baby stolen from you when just 16 and your marriage annulled.Then were locked up in an asylum.We know now you were bipolar mpd.Your suffering ended when you jumped off a bridge when just 36.You tried to raise a family and just coudnt.You had a beautiful smile.Wish we could have met you.Your family will always miss you .


Posted by kailima on May 27th, 2013
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