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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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July 10th:
Isaiah Buckner
died on July 10th, 2013

10yo Isaiah from Vermont, USA, loved video games, action figures, comic books, and anything to do with Sonic. His favorite food was chicken, popcorn, popsicles, Airheads, Fruity Pebbles & Lucky Charms. He could never get enough orange juice. He loved spending time with his friends at the Austine School for the Deaf, cuddling with his mom and dad, getting tickled, taking pictures, and giving everyone around him hugs and kisses. "He was a boy filled with curiosity for everything and a love that shined brighter than the largest star that warmed whomever's heart was lucky enough for it to shine its light upon it. There was not a hateful or angry bone in his beautiful body." Isaiah was beaten to death by his caregiver.


Posted by Manya on June 16th, 2017
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Shivani Kapoor
died on July 10th, 2013

35yo Shivani Kapoor, pediatric occupational therapist from UK, had a 1yo daughter and a husband with a gambling problem. He was 8,000 pounds in debt, pawning her and their daughter's jewelry, and about to lose his job at a bank. Mrs Kapoor was concerned, and even considered divorce, but decided to stay with her husband for the sake of their daughter. On July 10th, 2013, he strangled her and told the police she must have fell off a stool and hit her head.


Posted by Manya on July 28th, 2018
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July 11th:
Juliette Geurts
died on July 11th, 2008

2yo Juliette from Nebraska was living with her mom, twin sister, and mom's boyfriend. On July 10th she was feverish and even had a febrile seizure (which happens to toddlers sometimes). The next day she was still cranky, cried a lot, mom wouldn't come, and Juliette went to her mom's room herself. The adults were drunk and having sex, and mom's boyfriend beat Juliette to death for interrupting them. She died from damage to internal organs caused by blunt force trauma.


Posted by Manya on May 17th, 2017
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July 12th:
Gary DeToma
died on July 12th, 2010

Parents of 5yo Gary and 4yo Will from Georgia, USA, were divorcing, and fighting over custody. When their dad felt that he was about to lose the battle, he attempted to kill both the kids and himself. His coworkers became concerned when he didn't show up to work the next day, so they came by his house in the afternoon, and 4yo Will opened the door for them. They found dead Gary with a plastic bag around his head, and unconscious but alive father beside him. He pled guilty to murder, to avoid death penalty, but then tried to reverse his plea.


Posted by Manya on February 27th, 2016
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July 13th:
Conrad Roy
died on July 13th, 2014

18yo Conrad from Massachusetts, USA, worked at his family's marine salvage business for many years, and earned his captain's license in the spring of 2014. In June he graduated high school on the Honor Roll and had been accepted to Fitchburg State University, but decided not to go. Conrad had a long-distance girlfriend (they didn't live far away from each other but only met a few times, mostly texting, chatting, and videocalling). Both teens had mental health problems: she had an eating disorder and may have self-injured by cutting; he spoke of having been physically hit by his father and verbally abused by his grandfather, suffered from social anxiety and depression, and tried to kill himself in 2012 (he was taking an antidepressant, which lists suicidal urges as one of the side effects). At first the girlfriend used to discourage Conrad from committing suicide, but in July of 2014 she decided it would be a "good thing to help him die." They had numerous conversations where she was encouraging him to kill himself. On July 13th Conrad, while on the phone with his girlfriend, used a portable water pump to fill his truck with carbon monoxide. He got scared and wanted to leave the truck, but she texted him to get back in. The girlfriend was found guilty of involuntary manslaughter in Juvenile Court, after prosecutors successfully argued the then 17-year-old was an attention-seeking teen, desperate to play the grieving girlfriend. She was sentenced to 2.5 years. She "exploited my son's weaknesses and used him as a pawn," Conrad's father said. "She has not shown any remorse. The fact that she has convinced to him to kill himself is unimaginable. Where was her humanity? In what world is this behavior OK and acceptable?"


Posted by Manya on June 16th, 2018
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July 14th:
Assia Newton
died on July 14th, 2013

44yo Assia Newton from UK has been married to her husband for 23 years, and they had three daughters. The girls describe their dad as "violent, controlling, and jealous". "He controlled her and didn't like her having any friends or going out anywhere. He was never really nice to her." In 2013 mom and one daughter went on a holiday abroad to celebrate the girl's 18th birthday. Mrs Newton fell in love with another man there, stayed in touch over the internet, and visited him again. "Mum came home from her first holiday in Tunisia and said the people out there were really friendly," her daughter said. "Mum talked to me about Mohammed everyday after the second trip. He would listen to her and she was just happy that someone was paying her nice attention." Mrs Newton asked her husband for divorce, and he strangled her with a dog lead.

Assia Newton's story was included in the BBC2 Documentary "Love You To Death" that features interviews with friends and relatives of 86 UK women killed by their romantic partners in 2013.


Posted by Manya on March 7th, 2016
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July 15th:
Jordan Gonsioroski
died on July 15th, 2006

Jordan was a 10yo girl from Minnesota, and her parents divorced. She stayed with her mom at first, but complained that her mom's boyfriend molested her, so CPS removed her from mom's home and placed her with her dad instead. On July 15th Jordan (who was malnourished) sneaked some nacho chips into her clothing. Her father and his girlfriend punished Jordan by placing her in scalding water. Jordan had burns on 73% of her body, she was barely conscious and her skin was coming off, but nobody called 911. Her father was smoking pot outside, and his girlfriend gave her a Tylenol. Jordan died a few hours later.


Posted by Manya on February 13th, 2016
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July 16th:
Vika Demyanova
died on July 16th, 2018

14yo Vika from Perm, Russia, was a polite and friendly girl, according to neighbors and teachers. She was receiving good grades in school, and had many friends. Vika lived with her mom, who never said hello to her neighbors, always wore sunglasses, and wouldn't let anyone into their apartment. In spring of 2018 mom told Vika that she had cancer and diabetes, which should be cured by fasting. Vika's teachers became concerned with her weight loss and spoke to her mom, who responded that you only need to eat once or twice a week. In May Vika told her school friends that she needs to survive till September, when school (and the school cafeteria) re-opens after the summer break. Vika died of emaciation on July 16th. She didn't have either cancer or diabetes. When her mom was arrested, she blamed Vika's death on anorexia and said she didn't reach out for help for fear of losing custody of Vika.


Posted by Manya on December 7th, 2018
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Talia Williams
died on July 16th, 2005

5yo Talia from Hawaii, USA, lived with her dad, a former soldier, and his wife. They "disciplined" Talia for bathroom accidents by repeatedly punching her, commanding her to eat her own feces, depriving her of food, requiring strenuous exercise, and using duct tape to bind her to a bed post and cover her eyes as she was whipped with a belt. Talia's room had no mattress, blankets, or furniture, which were taken away as punishment, according to court documents. On July 16th Talia was beaten to death. Her dad was sentenced to life in prison, and her stepmom got 20 years, a plea deal to testify against her husband.


Posted by Manya on June 15th, 2018
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July 17th:
Kailey Vijil
died on July 17th, 2015

Kailey was a 12yo girl from Utah, USA. A 15yo boy knocked on her door around midnight and asked her for help looking for his lost car. Kailey's body was found hours later in a nearby horse pasture. According to court documents, the girl had been sexually assaulted and had a piece of clothing wrapped around her neck.


Posted by Manya on May 20th, 2016
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July 18th:
Meredith Jessie and Mark Weekly
died on July 18th, 2015

6yo Meredith and her 50yo grandpa were killed on or around July 18th, 2015. "She was a little tomboy," the girl's teacher said. "She would dress like a girl, but she was a tough girl." According to the police and relatives, Meredith was "a handful", kept getting in trouble with mom, and the grandpa loved his granddaughter. Meredith's mom was indicted in their deaths, though claimed self-defense. "The question is," said the police detective investigating the case, "did (Meredith) first witness the vicious murder of her grandfather…"


Posted by Manya on March 7th, 2016
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Jeffrey Dryden
died on July 18th, 2010

Early in the morning of July 18th in 2010, Jeffrey Dryden returned home after socialising with his twin brother. Within minutes, he was dead, stabbed in the neck by his girlfriend. She was arrested and charged with his second-degree murder. Over time details emerged that Jeff had been living with verbal and physical abuse...had been the male target of a violent female abuser.


Posted by Jane on June 14th, 2018
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July 19th:
Celine Dookhran
died on July 19th, 2017

Tributes have poured in for 20 yo Celine Dookhran whose body was found in a freezer after she was brutally raped and murdered by her uncle. South Londoner, Celine, an Indian Muslim, is reported to have been in a relationship with an Arab Muslim, who she was planning to marry. This situation is said to have angered some members of her family. Although her murder has been described as a suspected "honour killing", many have taken issue with the term and said that murder should be called just that. Friends as well as those who had never met her took to Twitter and Facebook to express their sorrow over her killing.


Posted by Jane on July 22nd, 2018
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Swapnil Sonawane
died on July 19th, 2016

15yo Swapnil from India has been dating a girl from a different caste since they were in 7th grade. On July 18th, Swapnil's first day of college, the girl's family discovered their secret and demanded that he shouldn't contact her again. They beat him up and took his phone and pen drive, to destroy all evidence of their relationship. Swapnil's parents, who also just heard of the relationship, ran to the police because they feared for their son's life, but were told "Why are you behaving like characters in the film Sairat. Your story will also become like the film's. There will be bloodshed in your home." Sairat, a Marathi film, tells the story of an inter-caste couple who are killed in the name of honour by the girl's family. "My complaint against the girl's brother was not registered. Had they taken action, my son would have been alive today," said Swapnil's dad.

The same night a group of 15-20 men came to Swapnil's house, at first threatening him and his dad, and then inviting them to come to the girl's house to settle the matter. Dad was reluctant, but Swapnil assured him it will be alright. "When I reached their home, the girl's father started saying casteist things about me and my son," said Swapnil's dad. "Both my son and I were slapped. The father called the girl and asked my son to apologise to her and call her his sister. My son was humiliated and was asked to fall at her feet. He even did that. But the girl's father kicked him. He was so scared that he ran out of the house. Four-five people ran behind him and beat him." Swapnil, his mom, and his dad tried to flee from the house, but were chased and beat up by the girl's family, while bystanders did not intervene. According to the police, "Swapnil was injured in his private parts and his chest. His skull was cracked and he was left bleeding on a street behind Nerul police station. He was taken to D Y Patil hospital but was declared dead on arrival." Swapnil's dad said he would always rue the moment he decided to take Swapnil to the girl's home. "I saw my son fall to the ground. I saw him die before my eyes," he said.


Posted by Manya on February 11th, 2018
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Teghan Skiba
died on July 19th, 2010

The wounds that covered the 40-pound body of four yo Teghan Skiba were so severe that they were "textbook examples" of torture, a forensic pediatrician testified. A jury found her mother's boyfriend guilty of torturing and murdering Teghan.


Posted by Jane on August 19th, 2018
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Lori Kay Soares Hacking
died on July 19th, 2004

Lori Kay Soares Hacking, was reported missing by her husband after he said she left her house to go for a run in Salt Lake City's Memory Grove. He eventually confessed to killing her and was ultimately sentenced to prison. On the 10 year anniversary of Lori death her mother shared that "people say, 'You need to do this, you need to do that. You need to get over it.' I wanted to slap them. Because you never get over it. I'm not over it now. I will never get over it. What you get over is the immediacy of it. You get over the shock and the disbelief and all of that panic — that desperation you feel when you can't find your child. You get over that as time passes. But you never get over the loss."


Posted by Jane on July 22nd, 2018
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