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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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December 20th:
Tyreke-Evans
died on December 20th, 2011

4yo Tyreke and his 3yo brother from Tennesee, USA, were beaten by their mom's boyfriend. The neighbors asked the mother about constant screaming coming from their apartment, and "she's say 'oh, he's just getting his *** whupped, you know. As in spanking." Child protective services were aware of the situation, but didn't have enough evidence to remove the children from this household. On December 20th the boys were taken to a hospital; the younger boy survived (though spent a long time in ICU). Tyreke died of multiple blunt force trauma: brain swelling, fractured ribs, lacerations to his liver and bowels, needle punctures, and multiple bruises.

The boys had a father and grandparents. "If you felt like you wanted [the boyfriend] to stay, you should have, out of concern for your kids, let them go," said one of the neighbors.


Posted by Manya on March 27th, 2016
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December 21st:
Jade Morris
died on December 21st, 2012

10yo Jade, straight-A fifth-grader from Las Vegas, USA, went Christmas shopping with her dad's fiancee. As they were leaving, Jade's mom said "Have fun. I love you." The fiancee killed Jade by inflicting 40 stab wounds, and then attempted to slash a woman she believed Jade's father was dating. "Her life growing up was very, very difficult," her lawyer said. "She hopes to take the rest of her life, that she knows will be in prison, and try to give guidance to the younger prisoners."

Now Jade's mom listens to the last recordings Jade left on her phone. The girl sang "If I Ain't Got You" by Alicia Keys. She would sneak messages when her mother was asleep. "I got your phone," she said. "I love you, Mommy."


Posted by Manya on December 13th, 2017
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December 22nd:
Maliyha Hope Garcia
died on December 22nd, 2016

5yo Maliyha from Oregon, USA, "was known for her big smile, beautiful eyes and her wonderful loving hugs," according to her family. Her mom lost custody due to meth addiction when Maliyha was 3 months old, and the girl was adopted by her aunt and uncle. They punished her by withholding food while locking Maliyha in her room; if she tried to escape, an alarm went off, alerting the couple. She was also forced to take cold showers or stand outside in the cold when she wet the bed. According to medical examiner, Maliyha died from "an intentional lack of food and medical attention." She was five years old, and weighted only 24 pounds, as much as a 20-month-old toddler. Her adoptive parents considered taking her to ER the day before she died, but decided against it. "To me urgent care is always less professorial like there doctors are always laid back," one of them texted the other. Both are pending trial on abuse and manslaughter charges.


Posted by Manya on December 13th, 2017
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December 23rd:
Alex Robinson
died on December 23rd, 2014

9yo Alex from Linconlnshire, UK, "was lovely, bright, bubbly, intelligent, everything you could wish for," said his mom. Alex lived with his mom and 4yo sister. His mentally ill grandpa was getting discharged from a psychiatric facility on December 11th, and wanted to stay with them because he didn't like living independently. Alex's mom felt he might pose danger to others because he had a history of hurting people to go inpatient, and even asked his facility to keep him in. Twelve days after his discharge, grandpa drowned Alex in bathtub while his mom was grocery shopping. Alex was on autistic spectrum, he didn't like water on his face.


Posted by Manya on December 13, 2017
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December 24th:
Ryan Lovell-Hancox
died on December 24th, 2008

Ryan was a 3yo boy from UK, and his mom wasn't coping too well, so she paid her cousin £40 a week to look after Ryan for a month before Christmas. This cousin, 19yo Kayley Boleyn, was living with her boyfriend, 25yo Christopher Taylor, and all three were "known" to statutory authorities. In fact, Taylor even visited his probation officer with Ryan, but somehow that never rang a bell. Ryan died of severe blow to his head. At the time of death he had 70 injuries on his body. Earlier that day, a social worker visited their house, saw Ryan covered with a bed sheet and heard him moaning. The social worker assumed the boy was just waking up, and didn't lift the sheet to look.


Posted by Manya on February 13th, 2016
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Ryon Smith
died on December 24th, 2005

Ryon was a 6yo boy from Missouri, USA, who didn't get along with his mom's boyfriend. The man locked Ryon in the closet because "he couldn't get any peace", and it was for so long that Ryon peed himself. Ryon called the man a racial slur (the man was black, Ryon's mom was white). As a punishment for that, the man beat the boy to death. The couple didn't call 911 till Ryon's body started to decompose.


Posted by Manya on February 12th, 2016
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December 25th:
Aniarael Macias
died on December 25th, 2013

Ania was a 13yo girl from Arizona, USA, whose parents were going through a rough divorce. Her mom didn't want her dad to have custody of the kids (Ania had three siblings). She left a suicide note saying that she will kill herself and the kids. On Christmas he was coming to pick them up, and she attacked him with a knife, causing multiple stab wounds. He drove away and called 911. The police found her sitting on the bed with three younger children, in the middle of a suicide attempt, and Ania's body in the bathroom. Children had trace amounts of narcotics in their system, and explained that their mom made them take her prescription medication, but Ania refused, and mom strangled her with her bare hands instead. The woman pled not guilty.


Posted by Manya on March 5th, 2016
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Kristy Bamu
died on December 25th, 2010

15yo Kristy and his four brothers and sisters came to London for Christmas, to visit with their older sister and her husband. The couple accused their visitors of practicing kindoki (African witchcraft/sorcery/voodoo) and decided they needed deliverance. To accomplish this goal, they were beating on the siblings for three days, refusing to let them eat, drink, or sleep, forcing them to admit that they were sorcerers, tell on each other, and hurt each other. Kristy was tortured to death. The details are too graphic to post here, you can read them if you click on his name. When the police arrived on scene, "All were standing in the living room, hysterical, terrified and soaking wet. None of them spoke any English. Both girls appeared to be injured," according to court testimony.


Posted by Manya on February 5th, 2016
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Kassie (Girlfriend)
died on December 25th, 2008

Kassie had bipolar. We had an argument which led her to go to an old roof where we used to hang out. She jumped. That was the moment I developed Dissociative Identity Disorder. I feel to blame for the incident. It's hard to keep going sometimes, but I know she wouldn't want me to waste my life as well. I just miss her, is all..


Posted by Luke on March 29th, 2013
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December 26th:
Aliahna Lemmon
died on December 26th, 2011

9yo Aliahna from Indiana, USA, had a grandpa who was a convicted child molester. He lived in a mobile home park of about two dozen homes, where 15 other child molesters lived. He was ill, and Aliahna's mom moved there to help care for him, because he assured her the kids will be in no danger. The day after Christmas she wasn't feeling well, and asked a neighbor (also an ex-convict) to babysit her girls, 9yo Aliahna and her 6yo sister. He killed Aliahna and dismembered her body.


Posted by Manya on July 5th, 2016
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December 27th:
Omaree Varela
died on December 27th, 2013

9yo Omaree from New Mexico, USA, lived with his mom, stepdad, and two siblings. Both parents had a history of drug-related offenses. Child Protective Services received multiple reports about suspected abuse of the children; Omaree showed up to school with bruises. In June he called 911 because his mom and step dad were yelling and threatening him, they could be heard on the background, and it was disturbing enough that the 911 operator dispatched police officers to Omaree's home. The officers, however, left without making a report. "You guys seem like a good family," one of them said to the parents. "A decent family. Just be careful what you guys say when you say stuff like that. I am going to overlook it right now." They promised to contact Child Protective Services, but never did. Omaree was stomped to death six months later. "I didn't do it," his mom said. "It wasn't intentional. It was an accident. I was disciplining him. I kicked him the wrong way. It was an accident." Both parents were found guilty and sentenced.


Posted by Manya on October 17th, 2017
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December 28th:
Lucinda Knoll
died on December 28th, 2013

39yo mother of three from New York, USA, Mrs Knoll was murdered by her ex-boyfriend. He tried make it look like a robbery, so that she would die and he would get the custody of one of the children, the one they had in common. Mrs Knoll was "a happy and outgoing person who loved giving help to people in need," according to her family and friends.


Posted by Manya on December 13th, 2017
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December 29th:
Jyoti Singh Pandey (Nirbhaya)
died on December 29th, 2012

Jyoti was a 23yo girl from Delhi, India. Her dad sold his farm land and worked double shifts to give her an education, because she wanted to study and he loved her. "It never entered our hearts to ever discriminate," - he said, - "How could I be happy if my son is happy and my daughter isn't? And it was impossible to refuse a little girl who loved going to school."

On December 16th, Jyoti and her male friend saw a movie together in South Delhi, and at 9:30PM took a bus home. There were six other people on that bus, they all assaulted Jyoti and her friend, broke his ribs and knocked him unconscious, and violently beaten and raped Jyoti with a metal rod, before throwing them both on the side of the road. Jyoti fought back, leaving bite marks on all of her assailants. The friend survived, while Jyoti died a week later, after undergoing multiple surgeries to remove her inflamed intestines and reproductive organs.

The incident (commonly referred to as "the 2012 Delhi gang rape") resulted in public protests against the state and central governments for failing to provide adequate security for women. The Indian government re-evaluated its laws concerning rape prosecutions, passed multiple new laws and set up six new courts. Critics argue that the legal system remains slow to hear and prosecute rape cases, but most agree that the case has resulted in a tremendous increase in the public discussion of crimes against women and statistics show that there has been an improvement in the number of women willing to file a crime report.

Indian laws forbid disclosing rape victims' identity to the public without consent of their family, so initially Jyoti was referred to as Nirbhaya, "fearless".


Posted by Manya on October 17th, 2015
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Lee-Ann Elizabeth Shannon
died on December 29th, 2012

Lee-Ann Shannon's drowning came on the day she was due to leave home at her husband's insistence, to be replaced by his young lover - a woman who had lived in the Shannons' home earlier for about a year after Lee-Ann invited her in when she was homeless. "Her and Tim had what I thought was a loving marriage," Lee=Ann's mother said of her daughter. "(They had) many problems, because Tim was what I thought was a very controlling young man, but they just seemed to love each other so much." She said the two met in school, at Spring Arbor College, and kept in contact for five years before Lee-Ann finally agreed to marry him. Chaffin spoke of how much she misses her daughter, whom she said was highly intelligent, well-traveled, compassionate and a committed Christian.


Posted by Jane on June 16th, 2018
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