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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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October 31st:
Autumn Elgersma
died on October 31st, 2013

Autumn suffered a skull fracture and brain trauma while in Sapp's care on Oct. 29. Autumn died two days later at a Sioux Falls hospital. Police have said that Sapp who ran the day care centre originally told investigators the child fell down the stairs at her daycare facility. They later determined that the girl's injuries were not consistent with that type of fall and that Sapp then admitted to throwing the child to the floor. Autumn's parents Phillip and Jennifer paid an emotional tribute to their beloved daughter at the time of her death. ‘Autumn was a joy in our lives and we are blessed to have called her ours. Sapp pleaded guilty to three counts resulting in a 100 year sentence.


Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
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November 1st:
Cayley Mandadi
died on November 1st, 2017

19yo Cayley from Texas, USA, was a sophomore at the Trinity University, majoring in communications, and enjoyed various hobbies: hiking, horseback riding, piano playing, acting, film-making, cheerleading, Chi Beta Epsilon sorority. For the last two months of her life Cayley was involved in an abusive relationship. Her college friends saw her boyfriend slam her head into a car window, wave a gun while threatening to shoot friends of her ex-boyfriend, and destroy her dorm room. The boyfriend was issued a criminal trespass order that barred him from the campus for a year.

On October 28th Cayley and her boyfriend had attended the Mala Luna music festival in San Antonio. They had an argument because Cayley saw her ex-boyfriend at the festival. Her boyfriend was seen forcibly grab her arm as they were leaving. The next morning he brought Cayley to a local hospital - bruised, unresponsive and partially nude. The investigators determined she was a victim of a violent sexual assault. He explained that they had "rough but consensual make up sex", after which she passed out and eventually stopped breathing. Cayley was pronounced brain-dead and taken off life support three days later; the autopsy concluded she had been beaten and died of a subdermal hematoma after suffering blunt force trauma to the head.


Posted by Manya on June 25th, 2018
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Erica Parsons
died on November 1st, 2011

Nearly seven years after Erica Parsons vanished - and five years after she was reported missing - authorities in North Carolina have indicted her adoptive parents in the child's death. A grand jury indicted the parents on counts of first-degree murder, and other charges. The Office of the Chief Medical Examiner concluded that Erica died of 'homicidal violence of undetermined means,' The report said fractures in various stages of healing were found in the teenager's nose, jaw, upper right arm, nine ribs and several vertebrae. Her smaller than normal, low-density bones showed a growth deficit consistent with malnourishment, according to the report. ‘There were other children in the home, but none of the other children were subjected to this treatment,' the documents stated. A week before her disappearance her siblings described Erica as ‘looking grey with sunken eyes, smelling bad with open, oozing cuts, very weak and complaining of not being able to breathe,' the report stated.


Posted by Jane on June 16th, 2018
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November 2nd:
Emani Moss
died on November 2nd, 2013

Emani Moss' body was found in a trash can at a Lawrenceville apartment complex Saturday. Her father, Eman Moss, and stepmother, Tiffany Moss, are accused of starving the 10-year-old and then trying to conceal her death by burning her body in the trash can. In court, Gwinnett County Police Detective Collin Flynn testified that after multiple stories, Eman Moss told him, "they put Emani to bed on Thursday and kept her there until the following Wednesday when she died and they didn't give her food and nourishment to survive during that seven-day period,"


Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
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November 3rd:
Jiang Ge
died on November 3rd, 2016

24yo Jiang Ge from China was studying for her master's degree at Hosei University in Japan, and sharing housing with a roommate, Liu Xin. Liu had an ex-boyfriend she was trying to avoid. On November 3rd he came to their doorstep, and killed Jiang when Liu refused to see him. Liu claimed that she was unable to open the door when Jiang was being attacked and pleading for help. "I had no idea of what happened outside and I was really unaware that [he] was carrying out a murder at the time," she said, "I was indeed intimidated so that I did not step outside until the police arrived." Jiang was not involved in her roommate's abusive relationship, but died as a result of it.


Posted by Manya on February 11th, 2018
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London McCabe
died on November 3rd, 2014

London was a 6yo boy from Oregon, USA. He liked big hats, stuffed animals, coloring, and cuddles with his mom and dad. He was autistic, and his mom couldn't cope with it, so she threw him off a bridge and called 911 on herself. His father said, "London was autistic, but he was important as a person. He didn't deserve to die. He wasn't suffering. A lot of the media like to portray people with autism as suffering. That the person who killed them have done a mercy. That is not the case."


Posted by Manya on May 20th, 2016
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November 4th:
Lisa Steinberg
died on November 4th, 1987

Lisa was a 6yo NYC girl who was illegally adopted: her mom hired an attorney to find Lisa adoptive parents, and the attorney simply took the girl home, bypassing all the laws, paperwork, and CPS checks. Lisa was physically and sexually abused and neglected for years. On November 1st the man was going out for dinner, Lisa wanted to come along, and he hit her on the head with a hammer and left for more than ten hours. Lisa died in a hospital four days later.


Posted by Manya on October 18th, 2015
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November 5th:
Ryan Weeks
died on November 5th, 2008

3yo Ryan from Oklahoma, USA, along with his mom and siblings, were known to child protective services. The first case was opened when Ryan was almost 1yo: the mother couldn't protect her children from drugs and violence in the home. Kids were moved between foster care, shelters, and her home multiple times. The last time they were sent back to live with her and her boyfriend, the judge reportedly said, "I hope I don't regret this." That's after he saw bruises on the kids and heard testimony of the kids, the foster parents, a doctor, and the DHS workers, stating that the children were being physically abused by the mother's boyfriend during unsupervised visitations. Ryan died of blunt force trauma to his head, which resulted in skull fracture and traumatic brain injury.


Posted by Manya on March 27th, 2016
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Jerry Darst
died on November 5th, 2012

Jerry, I miss and love you so much! You helped me and mom get though the day! I know your happier now, now you can be with your wife, But please always remember.... I love you! I have had a hard road to go down and since you been gone it seems to be harder! I know there's bumps in the road all the time but everything I have been through! Atleast you passed from old age! And a easy death! I love and miss you to the moon and back! I know your watching down on me! I love you! R.I.P!


Posted by Grace on January 13th, 2014
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November 6th:
Edward Miller
died on November 6th, 2013

Eddie was a 20yo man from UK who was murdered by his girlfriend, an older and much more experienced woman. They met two years prior to that, and she was emotionally and physically abusive. On multiple occasions she broke things around the house, gave him a black eye, even attacked him with a knife, but Eddie dismissed it, saying "Look at the size of her. What could she do to hurt me? It was only a small knife anyway."

She claimed to have been sexually abused as a child, and physically abused by her prior romantic partners, and Eddie told his mom "I want to help her, I want to support her. She hasn't had it easy and she is facing up to her demons.". Forensic psychologist Emma Kenny testified at the trial, "The reason that [she] tells him this information is so that when her behaviour is unreasonable, she can say, ‘but it's not because of who I am, it's because of what's happened to me'. So she takes away responsibility of herself and she puts it on the responsibility of the people who've done these things to her. And that is quite powerful because what that says to Eddie is, ‘if you let me down, if you hurt me, if you reject me, all you're going to do is be one of those horrible people that's made me the way I am. Can you please heal me, can you help me?' And that's clever because it means that she'll get what she wants."

On November 6th the woman killed Eddie by stabbing him 24 times, till the knife went 9 inches into his body and the blade broke off. The judge said, "Throughout this trial you have tried to portray yourself as a serial victim of domestic violence, that picture is not an accurate one."


Posted by Manya on February 27th, 2016
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November 7th:
Anne-Marie Birch
died on November 7th, 2013

47yo Mrs Birch from Kent, UK, ran a dog walking firm and had an estranged husband of 20 years who was stalking her. She had a restraining order and an NMO against him, and he kept violating both. On one occasion he slipped a copy of the restraining order, with a threatening message handwritten across it, under her door. In the two months prior to her death, Mrs Birch called the police nine times about the stalking. During one such call she said, "I got the order against him, you know, it's with a power of arrest, but they said any, any time he contacts you, to phone and we'll get him arrested, but it's just not happening, there's nothing happening, you know." The last time Mrs Birch called the police was on November 7th at 8:32AM, she was concerned about her ex husband following her while she was dog walking. At 2:04PM on the same day someone called the police because they found her body on the path where she walked the dogs.


Posted by Manya on July 18th, 2016
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November 8th:
Johnny Richards
died on November 8th, 2015

Johnny Richards was killed on 11/08/2015. Family members said they can't understand why anyone would want to hurt Richards, who is an amputee in a wheelchair. “He didn't deserve to die, like that's terrible,” said his sister-in-law, A.D. Askew. "He's a very calm, nice person. I don't understand. Crime is up these days...I don't know if he brought these people home with him or what happened but this is a secure building so they just couldn't walk in." Officials from the Cincinnati Police Department's Homicide Unit arrested and charged Richard's daughter, Shevelle Richards, 36, with aggravated murder for Richards' death.


Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
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November 9th:
Julina Gale Gibson and Nicholas Jeffery Mitchell
died on November 9th, 2017

Julina Gale Gibson 25 and her son, Nicholas Jeffery Mitchell 4, passed away November 9, 2017. She was a family and friend orientated person who worked as a home healthcare provider and loved to take care of people with disabilities. But, to her the best job ever was being a mother Julina’s mother reported that when her daughter's ex-boyfriend, came to their house the pair argued about visitation of their 4-year-old son Nicholas. "The baby's dad had the baby overnight, and he came to drop the baby off," said Julina’s mom,. "…he called my daughter. My daughter went outside to get him, which was unusual because usually he comes in the house." He then shot both Julina and her son Nicholas.


Posted by Jane on July 7th, 2018
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Victoria Rose
died on November 9th, 2010

Victoria Rose was lured to the house of her ex partner by a message he sent her claiming he was 'coughing blood'. When she arrived he shot her twice in the head before fatally shooting himself. Essentially, Victoria was lured to the property that morning on the pretence of bogus medical complaints," A message she took seriously and did not hesitate to responded to.


Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
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