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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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October 21st:
Yana and Anatoli Kolenda
died on October 21st, 2002

On October 20, 2002, Yana and Toli Kolenda, more than five years after their adoption, and their adoptive mother Gienia, were murdered by their depressed out-of-work adoptive father Richard Kolenda who then committed. suicide.


Posted by Jane on June 18th, 2018
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October 22nd:
Sherin Mathews
died on October 22nd, 2017

The owner of a now-closed orphanage in India where a young girl was living before a Texas couple adopted her last year says the child had no difficulty eating despite her adoptive father's account to police when reporting her missing. The body of 3-year-old Sherin Mathews was found on Sunday in suburban Dallas in a culvert under a road about a half-mile from her parents' home. Police and volunteers had been searching for the girl since 7 October. Investigators have said that her father, Wesley Mathews, initially told them he had sent the girl outside at 3 am on 7 October to stand near a tree across the alley from the family's fence because she refused to drink her milk. He said he went to check on her after about 15 minutes. Mathews told police the girl had been malnourished when she was adopted and needed to eat whenever she was awake to help her gain weight.


Posted by Jane on June 16th, 2018
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Lama Al Ghamdi
died on October 22nd, 2012

5yo Lama from Saudi Arabia was tortured to death by her father, a TV preacher, because he had doubts about her virginity. Lama's mom insisted that Lama was never molested by anyone, but her father felt she was "too flirty" for an innocent child. Lama suffered extensive injuries including broken ribs, a crushed skull, bruising and burns. She spend 8 months unconscious in hospital, before passing away. Her father was initially charged with rape and manslaughter and sentenced to 600 lashes and 8 years in prison, but was released a few months later because his semen was not found on Lama's body and his charges were reduced to "excessive disciplining that resulted in death."


Posted by Manya on June 16th, 2018
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October 23rd:
Priscilla Shelton Huffman
died on October 23rd, 2006

Priscilla Huffman 29 was killed On October 23rd 2006. Reportedly she made contact with the children’s school on Monday. Later the same day, a relative brought the Huffman’s children home from school. When no one responded to knocks on the door, the relative called police and they responded to the address again about 4:30 pm. Police made entry to the home and found Pricilla's husband dead in the garage and Priscilla in the bedroom. Police have said that Priscilla’s throat had been slashed and she had also been stabbed in the chest. They believe there was a dispute and that her husband stabbed Priscilla then went to the garage where he stabbed himself in the chest. Allegedly Priscilla may have wanted a divorce. Her partially packed bags were found on the bed.


Posted by Jane on July 6th, 2018
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October 24th:
Natalie Finn
died on October 24th, 2016

Natalie Finn, the West Des Moines teenager who starved to death in October, was wearing an adult diaper and lying on the linoleum floor of her bare bedroom when police and medics discovered her, according to newly unsealed court documents. The 16-year-old "appeared to have been laying on the floor ... in her own waste for some time," West Des Moines police Det. Chris Morgan wrote in an affidavit. She died a short time later at a hospital. The home reeked of both human and animal waste. Blankets that were "heavily soaked" in what officers believed was urine covered the floor of the room Natalie shared with two of her siblings, according to the documents. The room had no beds or furniture. "Many animals roamed freely, including well over a dozen kittens and cats," Morgan wrote. "There were numerous kennels with dogs scattered inside the residence." Dr. Francis Garrity, a forensic pathologist, testified that Natalie had little soft tissue, muscle or fat when she died. The 16-year-old weighed just 81 pounds at the time of her autopsy. Normal weight for a girl her height and age would have been 125 pounds, Garrity said. “She was in the fatal area, the lethal area,” he told the jury. Defense attorney Jennifer Larson suggested to Garrity that Natalie could have starved herself or had anorexia. But Garrity said he was given no information that suggested Natalie had tell-tale medical signs of anorexia.He also said he felt he had sufficient information to come to a cause of death. When asked how Natalie had died he answered “Likely as the result of cardiac arrest” from the starvation.


Posted by Jane on June 19th, 2018
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October 25th:
Ramis Jonuzi
died on October 25th, 2017

Ramis Jonuzi was in the process of leaving the Brighton East residence when he was attacked by three men. One was accused of sexually assaulting 33-year-old Jonuzi with an object. All three are charged with his murder. "He was definitely experiencing some problems, and he just needed a cheap and stable place to live," a pal of Jonuzi's told a reporter - he was paying $30 a night to stay in the home. While he met the suspects through Airbnb, he "did not hang out with these people," a friend said. Some online reviewers called the house where he stayed unsafe. Friends were unsure why Jonuzi was attacked, but tributes poured out for him on Facebook. "Rest in peace to one of the most genuine, loving guys I ever met," one person wrote.


Posted by Jane on July 8th, 2018
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Gabrielle Stanley
died on October 25th, 2015

28yo Gabrielle from UK had a boyfriend whom she kept trying to leave but kept coming back to. On October 25th she tried to leave him again, and he stabbed her to death and hanged himself. Gabrielle's story was included in the BBC2 Documentary "Love You To Death" that features interviews with friends and relatives of 86 UK women killed by their romantic partners in 2013


Posted by Manya on March 7th, 2016
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October 26th:
Poppie van der Merwe
died on October 26th, 2016

Poppie was a 3 year old, innocent girl, murdered at the hands of a monster. Her case is one of many, proving that not enough is done against Domestic Violence. Poppie's stepfather has been reported to Social Services before and nothing was done to her case. On 26th of October she was beaten to death by her stepfather. We will always remember those big beautiful eyes and may you have the life now, that you always deserved


Posted by Anon on January 12th, 2017
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October 27th:
Raijon Daniels
died on October 27th, 2006

Raijon was an 8yo boy from California, whose mom tortured and killed him because she was legally insane. She left him home alone, tied to his bed, beat him, water-hosed him, and poured household chemicals on his genitals to make him stop urinating. She was found not guilty by reason of insanity, and released from a psychiatric care facility three years later.

Raijon's father struggles understanding this. "How can three years pass and she be OK after the acts that she did? How could someone who put Pine-Sol in a child's food, allow a child to jump from a second-story building, how could they be a model patient?" he wonders. "I still have so many questions." "In the beginning, I really wanted to see her suffer because she had made him suffer. But I can't pass judgment, I wasn't in the home. I forgive her, as crazy as that may sound, because of the faith that I have. Who am I to beat her down and dog her?"


Posted by Manya on February 11th, 2016
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Stephanie
died on October 27th, 2006

Steph, You got out of your stepdad's home and had a bit of a chance at life. You were so hurt that your mom never believed you and chose him over you. I know that pain was so deep. Life just never worked out the way we all wanted it to for you. You left this earth in such an unusual way, I still don't know if it was by your own hand or not. I actually hope it was so that you finally had control over something in your world. I miss you. Your Laugh. Your goofiness. Your Nemo! You left this world at the tender age of 31. I wish it had been a more friendly earth for you. They say the good die young. Perhaps the innocent do as well. be.


Posted by BeBold on December 30th, 2011
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October 28th:
Ellie Butler
died on October 28th, 2014

Six-year-old Ellie was murdered by her father Ben Butler, 36, just 11 months after she was returned to his care following a custody battle. He inflicted catastrophic head injuries upon Ellie while looking after her at their home in Sutton, south-west London, in October 2013. He was also found guilty of child cruelty over a shoulder injury, as was Ellie's mother Jennie Gray.


Posted by Jane on June 18th, 2018
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October 29th:
Bence Szita
died on October 29th, 2012

11yo Bence from Hungary was a gentle, good-hearted, dutiful boy, according to his family. He enjoyed sports, of any kind, and was particularly talented in motorcycling; he won six trophies at it by the age of 7. Unfortunately, at that time his mom became ill and unable to care for him, so he moved to stay with his grandma. And then with his step dad, the ex-boyfriend of his mom, who by then was in a relationship with another woman. That woman became Bence's foster mom. When his step dad broke up with her (leaving Bence behind), she hired two homeless men to torture and kill the boy because she had "seen the devil" in his eyes. The details of Bence's death were not released to the public. The police commissioner said, "There is no such level in the TV programme rating system which would make the method of murder bearable for viewers."


Posted by Manya on March 25th, 2018
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October 30th:
Rosalia Garcia-Quintana
died on October 30th, 2007

Rosalia was found dead early on Oct. 31, 2007, in the La Junta home where she lived with her father Salvador Quintana and her stepmother Carmen Marquez. The couple was arrested the next day. Two forensic scientists testified that prior to her death, Rosalia was scalded by hot water, causing a second-degree burn 3 inches in width and extending from her right shoulder blade and down the front of her body. Marquez told authorities that Rosalia was burned by hot water in a shower at the family's home. The incident allegedly occurred about a month before Rosalia was found dead. Marquez said that shortly after Rosalia was burned, Quintana looked on the Internet to find out how to treat burns. She said that she repeatedly told Quintana to take the little girl to the hospital but that he wouldn't. Rosalia’s father, Salvador Quintana, and stepmother have been charged with child abuse causing death.


Posted by Jane on June 18th, 2018
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