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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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December 17th:
Melissa Stoddard
died on December 17th, 2012

11yo Melissa from North Carolina, USA, had to move from her mom's home to her dad's and stepmom's because her older brother molested her and the children had to be separated. Melissa struggled with the new environment (she had autism), but was making progress in school. At home, however, she kept getting in trouble with her stepmom, who punished her in odd ways. For example, she restrained Melissa by tying her legs to her head, or by tying her arms and legs with shoelaces to a board that had holes drilled in it, beating her, and taping her mouth with duct tape. That's how Melissa died, of suffocation while being restrained overnight and having her mouth duct taped. Click on her name above to read a great and very informative page about her life, including interviews with her teachers and neighbors. Melissa was a good kid, and she liked rules once she figured them out. She just needed structure and stability.


Posted by Manya on July 5th, 2016
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December 18th:
Kenneth White
died on December 18th, 2014

5yo Kenneth from New York, USA, and his two sisters (aged 4 and 5) were removed from their parents due to neglect, and lived in a mobile home with their aunt, 20yo cousin, 18yo family friend, ten cats, and five dogs.

On December 18th Kenneth's cousin was helping him with schoolwork but became frustrated when he kept giving wrong answers, and choked him till he became unresponsive. She dragged Kenneth across the street, threw him over a guardrail into a drainage ditch, and covered him with snow (knowing that he was still alive). She then made up a lie that Kenneth was kidnapped.

"I love my son more than anything in this world but I also love my niece and I know the kind of girl she was," Kenneth's mom said. "People need to realize the kind of girl that (she) really was with my children - because she was good with them. This is a tragedy and it hurts that nobody understands truly the person she really was."


Posted by Manya on September 13th, 2017
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Avery Glynn Bacon
died on December 18th, 2012

6-month-old Avery from Ohio, USA, lived with his mom and mom's roommate, who shared his apartment with her in exchange for sex. On December 16th Avery's mom dropped him to the floor and bashed his head against the wall twice, fracturing his skull. "I seen the baby leave her arms," her roommate said. "...It just tripped me out. I was like, wow, puzzled. I ran toward her but by the time I got to her, she'd already picked him up." After that Avery's mom left the house to engage in prostitution, while the roommate babysat Avery. When she returned home, he insisted they take the baby to the hospital. Avery died two days later.

There was a family who loved Avery, took care of him for much of his life, and was hoping to adopt him. "I can and will be the voice of Avery, and I know that deep down he has already forgiven you because Avery didn't know how to hate; he didn't know how to be mad at anyone!" they said. "All Avery knew how to do in his short, wonderful life was to love."


Posted by Manya on June 8th, 2017
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December 19th:
Carol and Wayne Parker
died on December 19th, 2013

Mr and Mrs Parker from Virginia, USA, were killed by their only son, 16yo honor-roll 10th grader with no criminal or psychiatric record. "I just remember getting mad," he told investigators. "It's all from my dad. All this stuff like my dad taking away my iPod and stuff." The teen left school early, pepper-sprayed his mom, stabbed her and beat her with a crowbar, then waited for his dad to return home and stabbed and beat him with a crowbar as well. "I feel that he killed his parents because he wanted to have his own lifestyle," his uncle said. "He wanted to be able to do what he wanted to do, and he felt like even though they were very good parents, he felt like that wasn't good enough for him."


Posted by Manya on December 13th, 2017
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December 20th:
Tyreke-Evans
died on December 20th, 2011

4yo Tyreke and his 3yo brother from Tennesee, USA, were beaten by their mom's boyfriend. The neighbors asked the mother about constant screaming coming from their apartment, and "she's say 'oh, he's just getting his *** whupped, you know. As in spanking." Child protective services were aware of the situation, but didn't have enough evidence to remove the children from this household. On December 20th the boys were taken to a hospital; the younger boy survived (though spent a long time in ICU). Tyreke died of multiple blunt force trauma: brain swelling, fractured ribs, lacerations to his liver and bowels, needle punctures, and multiple bruises.

The boys had a father and grandparents. "If you felt like you wanted [the boyfriend] to stay, you should have, out of concern for your kids, let them go," said one of the neighbors.


Posted by Manya on March 27th, 2016
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December 21st:
Jade Morris
died on December 21st, 2012

10yo Jade, straight-A fifth-grader from Las Vegas, USA, went Christmas shopping with her dad's fiancee. As they were leaving, Jade's mom said "Have fun. I love you." The fiancee killed Jade by inflicting 40 stab wounds, and then attempted to slash a woman she believed Jade's father was dating. "Her life growing up was very, very difficult," her lawyer said. "She hopes to take the rest of her life, that she knows will be in prison, and try to give guidance to the younger prisoners."

Now Jade's mom listens to the last recordings Jade left on her phone. The girl sang "If I Ain't Got You" by Alicia Keys. She would sneak messages when her mother was asleep. "I got your phone," she said. "I love you, Mommy."


Posted by Manya on December 13th, 2017
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December 22nd:
Maliyha Hope Garcia
died on December 22nd, 2016

5yo Maliyha from Oregon, USA, "was known for her big smile, beautiful eyes and her wonderful loving hugs," according to her family. Her mom lost custody due to meth addiction when Maliyha was 3 months old, and the girl was adopted by her aunt and uncle. They punished her by withholding food while locking Maliyha in her room; if she tried to escape, an alarm went off, alerting the couple. She was also forced to take cold showers or stand outside in the cold when she wet the bed. According to medical examiner, Maliyha died from "an intentional lack of food and medical attention." She was five years old, and weighted only 24 pounds, as much as a 20-month-old toddler. Her adoptive parents considered taking her to ER the day before she died, but decided against it. "To me urgent care is always less professorial like there doctors are always laid back," one of them texted the other. Both are pending trial on abuse and manslaughter charges.


Posted by Manya on December 13th, 2017
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December 23rd:
Alex Robinson
died on December 23rd, 2014

9yo Alex from Linconlnshire, UK, "was lovely, bright, bubbly, intelligent, everything you could wish for," said his mom. Alex lived with his mom and 4yo sister. His mentally ill grandpa was getting discharged from a psychiatric facility on December 11th, and wanted to stay with them because he didn't like living independently. Alex's mom felt he might pose danger to others because he had a history of hurting people to go inpatient, and even asked his facility to keep him in. Twelve days after his discharge, grandpa drowned Alex in bathtub while his mom was grocery shopping. Alex was on autistic spectrum, he didn't like water on his face.


Posted by Manya on December 13, 2017
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December 24th:
Ryan Lovell-Hancox
died on December 24th, 2008

Ryan was a 3yo boy from UK, and his mom wasn't coping too well, so she paid her cousin £40 a week to look after Ryan for a month before Christmas. This cousin, 19yo Kayley Boleyn, was living with her boyfriend, 25yo Christopher Taylor, and all three were "known" to statutory authorities. In fact, Taylor even visited his probation officer with Ryan, but somehow that never rang a bell. Ryan died of severe blow to his head. At the time of death he had 70 injuries on his body. Earlier that day, a social worker visited their house, saw Ryan covered with a bed sheet and heard him moaning. The social worker assumed the boy was just waking up, and didn't lift the sheet to look.


Posted by Manya on February 13th, 2016
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Ryon Smith
died on December 24th, 2005

Ryon was a 6yo boy from Missouri, USA, who didn't get along with his mom's boyfriend. The man locked Ryon in the closet because "he couldn't get any peace", and it was for so long that Ryon peed himself. Ryon called the man a racial slur (the man was black, Ryon's mom was white). As a punishment for that, the man beat the boy to death. The couple didn't call 911 till Ryon's body started to decompose.


Posted by Manya on February 12th, 2016
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December 25th:
Aniarael Macias
died on December 25th, 2013

Ania was a 13yo girl from Arizona, USA, whose parents were going through a rough divorce. Her mom didn't want her dad to have custody of the kids (Ania had three siblings). She left a suicide note saying that she will kill herself and the kids. On Christmas he was coming to pick them up, and she attacked him with a knife, causing multiple stab wounds. He drove away and called 911. The police found her sitting on the bed with three younger children, in the middle of a suicide attempt, and Ania's body in the bathroom. Children had trace amounts of narcotics in their system, and explained that their mom made them take her prescription medication, but Ania refused, and mom strangled her with her bare hands instead. The woman pled not guilty.


Posted by Manya on March 5th, 2016
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Kristy Bamu
died on December 25th, 2010

15yo Kristy and his four brothers and sisters came to London for Christmas, to visit with their older sister and her husband. The couple accused their visitors of practicing kindoki (African witchcraft/sorcery/voodoo) and decided they needed deliverance. To accomplish this goal, they were beating on the siblings for three days, refusing to let them eat, drink, or sleep, forcing them to admit that they were sorcerers, tell on each other, and hurt each other. Kristy was tortured to death. The details are too graphic to post here, you can read them if you click on his name. When the police arrived on scene, "All were standing in the living room, hysterical, terrified and soaking wet. None of them spoke any English. Both girls appeared to be injured," according to court testimony.


Posted by Manya on February 5th, 2016
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Kassie (Girlfriend)
died on December 25th, 2008

Kassie had bipolar. We had an argument which led her to go to an old roof where we used to hang out. She jumped. That was the moment I developed Dissociative Identity Disorder. I feel to blame for the incident. It's hard to keep going sometimes, but I know she wouldn't want me to waste my life as well. I just miss her, is all..


Posted by Luke on March 29th, 2013
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December 26th:
Aliahna Lemmon
died on December 26th, 2011

9yo Aliahna from Indiana, USA, had a grandpa who was a convicted child molester. He lived in a mobile home park of about two dozen homes, where 15 other child molesters lived. He was ill, and Aliahna's mom moved there to help care for him, because he assured her the kids will be in no danger. The day after Christmas she wasn't feeling well, and asked a neighbor (also an ex-convict) to babysit her girls, 9yo Aliahna and her 6yo sister. He killed Aliahna and dismembered her body.


Posted by Manya on July 5th, 2016
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