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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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January 16th:
Karina Moore
died on January 16th, 2009

Karina Janay Moore was 2 when she died Jan. 16, 2009, from injuries sustained 10 days earlier in her Post Falls foster home. According to police, her foster mother said the little girl fell down a flight of carpeted stairs. However, the Spokane County medical examiner ruled the death a homicide due to “blunt force” head trauma. The foster parents accepted a plea deal...pleaded guilty to lying to the court.


Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
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January 17th:
Cyrus Belt
died on January 17th, 2008

Cyrus was a 24-month-old boy from Hawaii. His mom was going to smoke crystal meth, so she left Cyrus with his dad and another man. That man was also high on meth, he took the baby to a three-story-high highway overpass bridge and threw him down, where Cyrus was then ran over by a delivery truck. Interestingly, his dad sued the state for failing to protect his son, because there were prior DHS reports about his mother's drug use.


Posted by Manya on February 10th, 2016
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January 18th:
Donald Parojinog
died on January 18th, 2011

83yo Mr Parojinog used to work for the US Postal Service, then for a barber shop. He and his wife were members of Nativity Catholic Church, and he also was an active member of a local Knights of Columbus chapter, serving for two years as the grand knight. Mr Parojinog suffered three strokes and became unable to care for himself, so his daughter began to care for him and his wife. On January 18th, 2011, she called 911 and said she had a deceased elderly person in her home. When the operator told her someone will be coming right over, she asked, "when they come, do they have to have all those bells and whistles going on?" The police officers found emaciated, naked body of Mr Parojinog, with more than a dozen of sores; five were so deep that the bones were exposed. His daughter told the judge she was following her father's wishes: "He didn't want to live if he could not get around on his own," she said. "I don't think he asked to die with bug larvae inside infected wounds," the prosecutor responded. "I don't think he asked to die in his own feces and urine, and live in that squalor." Mr Parojinog's daughter was sentenced to 12 months in a county jail for neglect. "There has to be some punishment imposed," said the judge. "There has to be some message sent that this type of conduct is unacceptable and it cannot be tolerated by our community. If you can't do what it takes, then initially you have to say no. You can't say yes and fail to act. It's that simple."


Posted by Manya on January 18th, 2018
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January 19th:
Laura Ashley Skinner
died on January 19th, 1987

3yo Laura from Ohio, USA, lived with her mom and mom's boyfriend. Mom worked two jobs, and the boyfriend was babysitting Laura. She was raped, sodomized, and battered to death. The boyfriend was sentenced to 12 years in prison for involuntary manslaughter; rape was never prosecuted. There's a bench in Antrim Park, in Columbus, Ohio, with a plaque in memory of Laura, with this quote from a song by Martina McBride, Concrete Angel:

A statue stands in a shaded place
An angel girl with an upturned face
A name is written on a polished rock
A broken heart that the world forgot

Through the wind and the rain
She stands hard as a stone
In a world that she can't rise above
But her dreams give her wings
And she flies to a place where she's loved


Posted by Manya on January 18th, 2018
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Chantal
died on January 19th, 2004

We didn't know each other long, but our fight was the same. Your suicide rocked me to the core. On one hand, I was so happy that you were not longer having to fight. On the other hand, I felt even more alone. I pray you have spent the last four years in peace. Miss you.


Posted by Bravehearts on January 4th, 2009
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January 20th:
Chloe Valentine
died on January 20th, 2012

4yo Chloe from Australia lived with her mom and mom's boyfriend. Mom had a problem with methamphetamine addiction, the house was unsanitary, Chloe witnessed domestic violence, and was often left unsupervised. Child protective services received 22 reports. Chloe's grandma wanted to take custody of her: her mom would drop her off at grandma's house for a few hours and not pick her up for a few days. "It was really hard knowing I had to give her back because I didn't know if she was going to come back the same way," said another woman who cared for Chloe while her mom was drinking. Yet Child Protective Services found no grounds for removal of the child from her mom's custody. Chloe died because she was forced to ride (and repeatedly crash) a motorbike, while her mom and mom's boyfriend were filming it. They only called for ambulance when Chloe stopped breathing, and left the hospital as soon as her life support was turned off, before she died. Chloe's grandma said in her victim impact statement, "They say people look peaceful in death. Chloe didn't. She looked battered and bruised and alone."


Posted by Manya on January 19th, 2018
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January 21st:
Malaya Faith Heun
died on January 21st, 2014

Malaya was a 15-month-old girl from North Carolina, who was beat to death. Her mom worked 18hr shifts 5-6 days a week, supporting the family, and left Malaya with her aunt. Malaya died of septic shock following blunt force trauma to the abdomen. The autopsy report listed several injuries including clavicle and rib fractures, some bruising on her head and hemorrhaging. "That was my sister. I left her with people I thought I could trust, " said Malaya's mom.


Posted by Manya on February 27th, 2016
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Sirita Sotelo
died on January 21st, 2005

Sirita was a 3yo girl from Seattle, USA, whose mom was incarcerated on drug charges. Sirita was placed with foster parents who loved her. She liked to sing, dance, dress up, and used to delay her bedtime by asking to look at Mars. She could point it out in the sky because her foster dad taught her how.

A year later Sirita was removed from her foster parents and placed with her dad and stepmom. And another year later Sirita was found dead, with a fractured skull and severed liver. "My intentions were to help Sirita, never to harm her in any way," said her stepmom. "I tried so hard... but she struggled every day, never smiled. (...) I do remember that I lost it; my mind went blank," she said.

The stepmom suffered from depression, PTSD, and other mental health issues, because she was sexually abused as a teenager, and had a drug-addicted father. However, the prosecutor said, "It is inconceivable anyone could be so depressed, so angry they would commit the acts of violence that the defendant did in this case."


Posted by Manya on February 15th, 2016
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January 22nd:
Chloe Siokos
died on January 22nd, 2013

80yo Mrs Siokos lived with her husband in a house in North London, UK. They didn't get along, and separated the house into two flats; Mrs Siokos lived downstairs, and her husband lived upstairs. At 6AM on January 22nd, 2013, neighbors called 999 because the house was on fire. Inside was the body of Mrs Siokos with stab wounds, and the body of her husband with no injuries apart from those caused by the fire. The police doesn't believe anyone else was involved in the crime, and that the fire was intentional because petroleum was poured over the house first. "She was a wonderful, feisty woman who was great with my children. She had many tales of when she worked in the rag trade running a clothing factory. Everyone round here liked her and she will be missed, " said one of Mrs Siokos friends.


Posted by Manya on March 7th, 2016
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January 23rd:
Garnett-Paul Spears
died on January 23rd, 2014

5yo Garnett, known online as "G", was killed by his mom for attention. Since the time he was born she kept blogging about his various illnesses, posting photos and prayer requests on social media, receiving sympathy as a single mother of a disabled child. Finally she filled his feeding bag with a lethal amount of salt, and kept blogging about her hardship as the boy was dying. "Throughout his five years, Garnett Spears was forced to suffer through repeated hospitalizations, unneeded surgical procedures and ultimately poisoning with salt, all at the hands of the one person who should have been his ultimate protector: his mother," said the District Attorney after the mother was convicted of second degree murder. "Using the child's 'illnesses' to self aggrandize herself, her actions directly lead to her son's tortured death," the prosecutor said.


Posted by Manya on July 8th, 2016
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January 24th:
Ahmad King
died on January 24th, 2006

3yo Ahmad from Georgia was killed by his foster mom. Apparently, he fought with his sister, foster mom sent him to his room, and he called her a name. For that she beat him with a belt (with a buckle) and a 2ft pipe. Ahmad died of multiple blunt force trauma. The woman said she didn't mean for that to happen, panicked, dumped his body in the woods, went to a local Walmart, and told the police that someone kidnapped Ahmad from her car while she was getting a shopping cart. She was sentenced to life in prison for the murder of Ahmad, and 20 years for beating his foster sister too.


Posted by Manya on January 19th, 2018
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January 25th:
Anshu Singh
died on January 25th, 2010

Anshu was the middle girl among three sisters. She was bright, ambitious, and well educated. At the time of her murder she was working for a multi-national corporation in Delhi. She had met her husband through work, and they had been dating for 3 years before they got married. Initially there was some objection to their getting married from the man’s family because they were from different communities. But Anshu’s father said, “If the two of them are in love, why should we come in the way?” Leading up to Anshu's death (carried out at the behest of her in-laws and husband they had been putting pressure on her and her family to provide money by way of a dowry. And Anusha felt increasingly trapped and unhappy. When Anshu's husband called her father and informed him that she was unwell and may have fainted. Mr. Singh came right away and he knew immediately that she had been dead for quite some time. The Singh family was shocked. Their daughter had been married for barely a month! A traumatized Mr. Singh says, “It all happened so fast. Only 45 days that she was married and she was gone. We never thought something like this can happen to us. Anshu was a young, bright, modern girl with so many dreams. She was intelligent and strong. I don’t think even she ever thought that something like this can happen to her.”


Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
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