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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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August 27th:
Michael Tyree
died on August 27th, 2015

31yo Michael struggled with bipolar disorder since childhood. He wrote poetry, his ex girlfriend said, "and loved with his whole heart. He really had a kind heart. He had the best smile. He was always seeking balance." One day Michael was standing on the steps of Trinity Cathedral in San Jose, California, throwing small pieces of tinfoil onto the steps. A police officer stopped him for littering and found a small amount of crystal meth wrapped in foil in his pocket. Michael could have had the charge stricken from his record if he complied with the court order to get treatment, but he didn't, so the judge ordered to hold him in jail until a bed becomes available in a treatment facility. Michael was beaten to death by the guards.

"It's a terrible way for somebody to die," said Michael's old girlfriend's sister, who works with children who have behavioral issues. "A lot of times people who should be in mental health facilities end up in jail, and I think it's sad. They don't get the treatment they need. They're not criminals. They're sick, and they need help." His sister said, "He touched people's lives. He mattered. <...> We looked at his corpse yesterday. I looked at my brother and I thought that is a corpse. He is gone, but he was naked. He was covered in feces and vomit and that's public now. You know, those are the last images of my brother and the last thing this man did for him was kick his head."


Posted by Manya on July 29th, 2016
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August 28th:
Carolyn Hyatt
died on August 28th, 2015

Carolyn Hyatt died of her injuries 3 weeks after being severely beaten and set on fire by her boyfriend David Dunstan. Carolyn who had only been in a relationship with Dunstan for a month. Pathologists told the court the victim had suffered 20 per cent burns to her back, arm, neck and face, while she also had two lacerations to her head. Forensics suggested she had been set on fire in the living room and she had rushed to the bathroom to put out the flames. Speaking after the hearing, Detective Chief Inspector Gareth Meadows from Derbyshire Police, said: ‘This was an abhorrent crime. Not only did Dunstan brutally attack Carolyn but he abused the trust she had placed in him as a very new partner. He also abused the trust of his own unsuspecting mother by committing the attack in her home while she was away on holiday, ‘Carolyn was a much-loved sister and her devastated family will live with the consequences of her loss for the rest of their lives...No one should ever suffer the way Carolyn did that night or during the time she spent in hospital.’


Posted by Jane on June 18th, 2018
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Gabriel Kovari
died on August 28th, 2014

22yo Gabriel was "a very inquisitive and special child, gifted in arts," according to his mom. "He was full of love and care for others," his friends said. Gabriel moved from Slovakia to UK because he felt people were "conservative and intolerant", and was raped and killed by a serial killer who had a fetish of having sex with unconscious young men. He met his victims through gay dating sites, lured them to his flat, spiked their drinks with GHB (date rape drug), and four of them, including Gabriel, died of overdose. The man was convicted of 22 crimes total, and sentenced to life in prison.


Posted by Manya on July 29th, 2018
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Yun-Mi Hoy
died on August 28th, 2013

47yo Yun-Mi Hoy from Colorado, USA, had an 18yo daughter from previous marriage and a new husband. Mother and daughter didn't get along, and one day the girl spat in her mother's face and sent her an email that said, "You will pay." Mrs Hoy called the police, who explained to the teen that her mom can kick her out of the house for her behavior, considering that she's 18yo and mom doesn't have to provide for her anymore. Teen's biological father also spoke to her, "we sat down in the backyard looking at the trees and the animals and I started to talk to her about the respect that people should have for their parents," he said. "And I was trying to let her know that she should be obedient to her parents, not rebellious, that she should try to listen more and everything was going fine. In the conversation, I thought that I made progress. But obviously it didn't do nothing, because hours later, this thing happened." Mrs Hoy returned home from work at a portrait studio she owned with her ex husband, and went to take a shower. Her husband heard a commotion in the bathroom and Mrs Hoy calling his name. His step daughter was in the bathroom, not letting him in, and he saw blood coming from under the door, so he went downstairs and called the police. Mrs Hoy was stabbed with a knife 151 times in her face and neck, and her throat was slashed.


Posted by Manya on July 29th, 2016
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August 29th:
Ayesha Ali
died on August 29th, 2013

8yo Ayesha lived with her mom and dad in Ilford, UK, and they had a bad neighbor, Kikki Muddar. Ms Muddar took romantic interest in Ayesha's mom, gained her sympathy by faking cancer, and gradually manipulated her into divorcing her husband, moving in together with her, and abusing and finally killing her daughter. To do that, she created multiple Facebook accounts, including a "Jimmy" whom Ayesha's mom thought she was cyberdating, and a "Skyman" the spiritual adviser. All of these imaginary online people were sending endless messages (more than 40,000) to Ayesha's mom about how her 8yo daughter has "bad blood", is "evil", a "witch", needs to be disciplined to get the "evil spirits" out of her, and how "You have no right to ever love or like your evil daughter". Ayesha's dad tried to protect his family and moved them, but Ms Muddar tracked them down.

Det Insp Donna Convery said: "It took us months to unpick and investigate the web of lies that Kiki Muddar had constructed. In the six months before her death, Ayesha was subjected to horrific levels of mental abuse, which during the summer holidays escalated to become physical. She was an innocent child who was caught up in the most bizarre set of events, manipulated by two adults who were intent on causing her harm." Ayesha died of a blow to her head, and had various marks on her body from previous beatings. Here's a quote from her journal:

"Being thought bad, naughty and mean it's getting to be very upsetting. I don't like hurting other people's feelings! I don't know how I make myself do these things! I hate getting punishments so I'm gonna make sure I change."


Posted by Manya on February 13th, 2016
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Christine Marie and Amber Grace Lundy
died on August 29th, 2000

Christine Marie Lundy, aged 38, was a devoted mother who was involved in many community activities such as Girl Guides and was well known within her community. Amber Grace Lundy, her 7 year old daughter was described as an outgoing, energetic and bright only child. As they walked home together from Amber’s school on Tuesday 29th August 2000, neither they nor those that saw them had any idea of the horror that would meet them before the night was through. Both were found the next morning violently attacked and murdered. Christine’s husband was convicted of her and their daughter’s murder.


Posted by Jane on July 6th, 2018
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August 30th:
Landon Robbins
died on August 30th, 2013

Landon was a 5yo boy from Tennessee, US, abused and murdered by his mom and her boyfriend. Mom called 911 when he stopped breathing, saying that he had a playing accident the day before. "There's just no telling what he went through. He was just a big bruise," Landon's grandfather said. Cause of death was multiple blunt force trauma. Both mom and boyfriend were charged with murder.


Posted by Manya on January 8th, 2016
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August 31st:
Alan Charpentier
died on August 31st, 2014

54yo Mr Charpentier from Nevada, USA, was a Navy veteran who worked for Social Security Administration as an IT tech and enjoyed photography as a hobby. He left his wife and moved to Washington state with another woman, but one Sunday he returned to his ex-wife's home to do the chores and some yard work. She was OK with him loving someone else, but didn't want a divorce, and stabbed him to death and then set the house on fire, attempting suicide.


Posted by Manya on August 27th, 2016
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September 1st:
Melonie Biddersingh
died on September 1st, 1994

Melonie Biddersingh's charred, malnourished body was found in a burning suitcase in an industrial parking lot north of Toronto in 1994. The teen's body went unidentified for years until 2011, when her stepmother told an Ontario pastor the girl had "died like a dog" after being confined and denied food and medication. Melonie's father, Everton Biddersingh, was found guilty in January of first-degree murder in his daughter's death. Elaine Biddersingh's Melonie's stepmother's defence lawyers was found guilty of second-degree murder in her stepdaughter's death.


Posted by Jane on June 18th, 2018
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September 2nd:
Naiya Villegas
died on September 2nd, 2014

5yo Gigi from Texas, USA, loved Disney movies, especially Frozen and Brave, coloring, playing guitar and singing, cooking with mom, and going to church with her grandparents. Gigi's mom had an abusive boyfriend. He assaulted her while on probation for an unrelated crime, but the judge released him again, prohibiting him all contact with Gigi's mom. Six days later, at 3AM, the man broke into Gigi's home. Her mom ran outside for help. When she returned, she found 5yo Gigi with a slit throat, and the man trying to cover the wound with paper towels.


Posted by Manya on July 18th, 2016
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Dominick Andujar
died on September 2nd, 2012

6yo Dominick from New Jersey, USA, died protecting his sister from a rapist who broke into their home the night before her 12th birthday. The man was convicted and sentenced to 110 years in prison for murder, attempted murder, aggravated sexual assault, burglary and terrorist threats. "There is no sentence or punishment harsh enough for this amoral individual," said the chief of police Scott Thompson. "The name that people should remember is that of Dominick Andujar, the 6-year-old murder victim who saved his 12-year-old sister's life through one of the most heroic acts of self-sacrifice that I have ever known."


Posted by Manya on June 26th, 2016
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September 3rd:
Ally Steinfeld
died on September 3rd, 2017

Ally Steinfeld, 17, was a trans female who said in May on her Instagram account that she was coming out. Less than five months later, she was gruesomely killed at her girlfriend’s house. The girlfriend, who is among three charged with first-degree murder and other crimes, wanted her dead, according to interviews conducted by Texas County Sheriff’s investigators. Briana Calderas, 24, began dating Steinfeld about a week before her death, according to Amber Steinfeld, the slain girl’s mother. “She was excited, talking about her and Briana meeting (the family),” Amber told The Star on Thursday. “She was happy.” Police believe Steinfeld was killed Sept. 3 in Calderas’ Cabool, Mo., home — where they found a burn pile, human remains and blood on the living room carpet. Andrew Vrba, 18, admitted that he tried to poison Steinfeld, police say. When she didn’t drink the liquid, he stabbed her multiple times, gouging out her eyes and stabbing her genitals, according to court documents. Calderas and Vrba’s friend Isis Schauer allegedly then traveled to a nearby Walmart to buy supplies to help burn the body. All three are charged with first-degree murder, abandonment of a corpse and armed criminal action.


Posted by Jane on July 4th, 2018
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Nina Reiser
died on September 3rd, 2006

31yo Nina was an OB/GYN from Russia who married an American computer programmer Hans Reiser and moved with him to California, USA. They had two children, but the marriage didn't work out and Nina filed for divorce five years later, stating that he was a workaholic spending too much time on business trips abroad. The divorce and custody hearings were heated, and she had a temporary order of protection against him, but he had visitation with kids on weekends. One such weekend they argued and he hit her on the face and strangled her while their kids were playing computer games downstairs.

At first he refused a plea bargain of 3 years, then accepted a plea bargain of 15 years to life, then filed a 300-page-long appeal, and then stated, "I ask that I be allowed to commission her being cloned, and the children allowed to help raise her so that she has a happy childhood filled with love. If the government will not pay for her to be cloned, then I will upon my release, if allowed."

The children are with their maternal grandmother in Russia, and a jury awarded them $60 million against their father for the death of their mom.


Posted by Manya on August 27th, 2016
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September 4th:
Sherry Charlie
died on September 4th, 2002

19 months old Sherry from Canada and her 3yo brother were removed from their parents because of their alcoholism, domestic violence, and neglect of children. They were placed with their aunt, whose husband had a history of 19 criminal offenses that included domestic violence, but there were no complaints of child abuse, and they had three biological children. Just a couple of weeks later the man killed Sherry because she wouldn't stop crying. He shook her, hit her head against the floor, and stomped on her stomach with his foot, in front of three other children. He then blamed Sherry's death on her 3yo brother.


Posted by Manya on August 27th, 2016
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September 5th:
Raashanai Coley
died on September 5th, 2014

11yo Raashanai From Illinois, USA, lived with her mom, stepdad, and two younger kids, her half-siblings. One day her mom called 911 because Raashanai was unresponsive. She died in hospital later on that night. Mom was charged with murder because Raashanai was malnourished, had scars and bruises, and died of a tear in her stomach caused by blunt force trauma. The neighbors were surprised to find out there was an 11yo girl living in the house; they saw the younger two children playing outside and taking school bus, but Raashanai was pulled out of school the previous year.


Posted by Manya on August 27th, 2016
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