Memorial Wall

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Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.
~George Santayana

February 27th:
Jessica Lunsford
died on February 27th, 2005

Jessica was a 9yo girl from Florida, USA, who was kidnapped, raped, and murdered by a neighbor. At 3AM he entered her home (the door wasn't locked), went into her bedroom, woke her up, told her "Don't yell or nothing,", and took her to his trailer about 100 yards away. There he raped her multiple times, and then locked her in the closet when he left for work in the morning. Three days later he told her to climb into two garbage bags because he was going to "take her home". Instead, he buried her alive. He confessed, then recanted, but was found guilty of all charges related to Jessica's death, and died on death row, maintaining his innocence.

Jessica's dad pushed for a new legislation, Jessica's Law, which now requires sex offenders in Florida, who violated children under 12yo, to serve a minimum of 25 years in prison, and to wear tracking devices for life.


Posted by Manya on February 4th, 2016

March 1st:
Self-Injry Awareness Day
March 1st, 1999

HSCIC estimates that about 13% of young people between 11 and 16 have hurt themselves on purpose at some point. However, the number could be much higher because people usually keep their self-injury secret, due to stigmas surrounding the issue. Self-Injury Awareness Day aims to break the silence, so that those who self-injure know that they aren't alone and that people care, and those who don't - would understand the issue better and be less judgmental and more supportive as a result.


Posted by Manya on January 8th, 2016

Russell
died on March 1st, 2012

Suicide is never the answer, but it's too late to say that. I just hope that you are happier now and the pain is gone. Rest in peace. Sweet 16 forever


Posted by Laura (busymom) on April 8th, 2012

Elijah Dillard
died on March 1st, 2014

6yo Elijah from Michigan, USA, was killed by his father. The man beat Elijah on his head and punched him in the stomach for two days, till Elijah passed out. Neither the man nor the mother of the child called 911 because the man believed Elijah was faking it so that CPS would come and remove him and his siblings from the house. Instead, he took the boy to shower (post mortem examination revealed burns), and when that didn't help, the mother (who was about to get certified as a medical assistant) wrapped him in blankets and took him to the bedroom. Elijah died three days later of internal bleeding and brain hemorrhage.


Posted by Manya on March 27th, 2016

Rowena Sharpe
died on March 1st, 2012

She was murdered by her husband, whom she had escaped from. She was living elsewhere, with her children, trying to rebuild her life. One day, her husband appeared and killed her, then himself. The children fled to their neighbour's house. Reading about this story in my local newspaper affected me very deeply, and my heart still goes out to the people of her community.


Posted by Red on August 13th, 2012

Delcelia Witika
died on March 1st, 1991

Authorities were first alerted to this case by a phone call on the night of 21 March 1991 from Tania Witika, Delcelia's mother. Witika made a call from a local video store to report in a matter-of-fact way that she had just arrived home after "a couple of hours" absence to find her two-year-old daughter dead.

When police arrived, Tania Witika sat outside in a patrol car with Detective Constable Caroline Fisher who says she's never forgotten the coolness and lack of emotion shown by the mother, who casually asked her for a cigarette.

Witika first met Eddie Smith in a South Auckland bar in June 1989. Within two weeks of meeting, Smith had already started to 'knock' Tania Witika around.

Tania kept a detailed diary, which often mentioned Smith belting her, but it also extensively mentioned an enjoyable life with him...Her diary also spoke of her own violence against her daughter. Initially she told police that she alone was responsible for beating Delcelia. Smith blamed Witika also. When Witika found out that Delcelia's injuries included massive sexual abuse, she changed her story claiming Smith was responsible for the major injuries.

The police photographs of the Delcelia's squalid bedroom and her tiny, tortured body remain to this day among the most harrowing, gut-wrenching evidence ever presented to a jury in a child abuse case in this country.

...photographs of the crime scene showed that Delcelia's body was used as a punching bag from one end of the house to the other. Her blood was splattered on walls and carpets. There was a large pool of blood on the sheet less, blanket less mattress she slept on. Vomit had dripped down the skirting board where the little child was sick during her final night alive. Burns aside, some close-up photos of Delcelia's neck showed vicious injuries caused by long fingernails. Photos of the inside of her mouth showed where teeth have been smashed out and the inside of her top lip ripped from the gum. Other photos showed scarring to her head where her hair has been violently pulled over several months.

During the trial Witika claimed she had gone partying with Smith while Delcelia was dying because Smith had threatened to 'waste her' with a steel bar if she didn't go and had also put a knife to her throat and threatened to kill her on the way there. But barrister Christopher Harder, representing Smith, was given a home video of that party which crown prosecutor Mike Ruffin screened in court the morning final addresses were made to the jury.

The video showed Witika happy, smiling and enjoying herself with Smith. It would have been influential to any juror. Witika and Smith were both found guilty of manslaughter and the other counts of neglect and ill treatment.

Both were sentenced to 16-year prison terms.



Posted by Jane on March 20th, 2015

Amina Filali
died on March 1st, 2012

16-year-old Amina committed suicide after being forced to marry her rapist. After submitting to the marriage, Amina confided to her mother that she was subjected to violent beatings from her husband; her mom simply asked her to be more patient. As a final resort to escape her violent marriage, Amina injested rat poison and ended her life.


Posted by Lala on August 11th, 2012

March 2nd:
Nicholaus Contreraz
died on March 2nd, 1998

Nicolaus (16yo) died of abuse and medical neglect at Arizona Boys Ranch bootcamp, where he was sent for shoplifting.

He had asthma, and was complaining of nausea, diarrhea, and chest pain. The staff believed he was faking it, so they restricted his use of inhalers and were making him do physical exercises till he fainted, punched him, shoved him against walls, and denied him the right to use the bathroom. Eventually he became unable to control his bladder and bowels, and vomited frequently. As a result, they made him sleep in the bathroom in his soiled clothes, and carry around a bucket with his waste (over which he was forced to do pushups).

Quote from Wikipedia:
On March 2, the day he died, he had collapsed repeatedly. He was told he "deserved an Academy Award", thrown to the ground, forced to do pushups, and bounced off a wall. Another boy was ordered to push him around in a wheelbarrow while Contreraz was ordered to mimic the sound of an ambulance siren. He continued to be accused by staff of faking his condition. At around 5:30 pm, he collapsed for the last time. According to witnesses later interviewed by Arizona Child Protective Services, after his final collapse and inability to move, he was ordered by staff to get up, to which he simply replied "No", which was his last spoken word. He was pronounced dead two hours later.

Nicolaus had a collapsed lung, massive lung infection from inhaling vomit, two and a half quarts of puss caused by staphylococcus (from doing pushups over raw waste), blood in his stomach, and 71 cuts and bruises. Cause of death was cardiac arrest.

The day before he died, he was heard saying "Lord, help me, I need help, I need help..."


Posted by Manya on March 17th, 2015

March 3rd:
Daniel Pelka
died on March 3rd, 2012

Daniel was a 4yo boy from UK, abused and murdered by his mom and her boyfriend. They starved the child, beat him, locked him in a room, force-fed him salt, and put his head underwater in the bath. Both the mother and the boyfriend were convicted of murder; the mother hung herself the day before his 8th birthday; the boyfriend died in prison as well.


Posted by Manya on January 3rd, 2016

March 4th:
Chantelle Barnsdale-Quean
died on March 4th, 2013

Chantelle was a 35yo mother of two from UK, strangled by her husband. He then cut himself and told the police that she attacked him and hung herself. The jury didn't find his story credible.


Posted by Manya on March 18th, 2016

Jahlil Clements
died on March 4th, 2012

Jahlil was an 11yo boy from Virginia, USA, who died trying to protect his mom from domestic violence. She was driving on an interstate, with her boyfriend and Jahlil in the car, and was having an argument with the boyfriend. She pulled over when he started hitting her. Jahlil ran into traffic to flag down help for his mom, and was killed. \“Kids are always affected by domestic violence when it goes on in the household, but I’ve never seen anything like this before -to this magnitude,\” said Elizabeth Crawford, director of the local Domestic Violence and Counseling Center.


Posted by Manya on February 27th, 2016

March 5th:
Soren Chilson
died on March 5th, 2013

5yo Soren from South Carolina, USA, died of brain injury while in the care of her mom's boyfriend. According to him, Sorren suddenly had a seizure and started coughing up blood, so he called 911. However, aside from broken skull, she also had bruises on her back, chest, and feet; the man was charged with murder. Soren's aunt said, "I would have taken her in a heartbeat. She was my family. She was my little buddy. Some people just shine. God bless her, everyday of her life, she shined."


Posted by Manya on March 27th, 2016

March 10th:
Louis
died on March 10th, 2008

My best fiend my honorary brother I love you and miss you. Your death caused me to leave but I wish you were still here. I love you forever.


Posted by Amanda on July 1st, 2011

March 12th:
Abeer al-Janabi
died on March 12th, 2006

Abeer was a 14yo Iraqi girl raped and killed by five US soldiers who were serving at a traffic checkpoint near her home. Abeer spent most of the time at home because she and her parents were worried about her safety, with the war going on. The soldiers watched Abeer as she was gardening, often stepped by the house, flirted with her, and showed thumbs up to her mom. Neighbors warned Abeer's dad to watch out, but he believed nothing could happen because she's just a a little girl.

On March 12th, in broad daylight, five soldiers of the six-man unit responsible for the checkpoint came to Abeer's house, one acted as a lookout and the other four killed Abeer's mom, dad, and 6yo sister, gang-raped Abeer, killed her, and set the house on fire.


Posted by Manya on February 18th, 2016

March 13th:
Sara Barrett
died on March 13th, 2013

Sara was my little sister, my beloved sister, a beloved mother of 3 boys, a beloved niece, a beloved aunt and friend to many but most important to her just before she was taken from us was becoming a grandma to a little baby girl that was her everything, she was a most beloved grandma. Were still all in shock over losing her and apart of us will always remain numb and empty without her to brighten our day with that eluminating smile that she always had on her face every single time anyone ever was around her. She was a angel here on earth to anyone and everyone that knew her or just met her but heaven called its angel home so little sister until my arms can hug you again and ill have you back when i enter heaven, i want you to know there will never be a day im not thinking of you or missing you,and ill love you even more with each passing day.


Posted by Cynthia Alex on June 25th, 2013

Monica Anne Anderson
died on March 13th, 2010

26yo Monica from California, USA, was killed by her girlfriend. Their relationship has been violent before, but no charges were pressed. On March 13th they had a fight over a cellphone charger, and the girlfriend stabbed Monica 91 times, causing her death. "She started running away from me, and that's when it happened," explained the woman. "I was just really pissed."

"People ask me sometimes how many children I have, and I don’t know how to answer that," said Monica's mother. "I had two, I have one left, or do I still have two, and one’s in the ground? How do I answer that?"


Posted by Manya on June 26th, 2016

Elli Perkins
died on March 13th, 2003

Elli Perkins was a mother of two, a professional glass artist, and a Scientologist from New York, USA. Her son Jeremy was mentally ill, but didn't receive treatment because Elli followed the Scientology ban on psychiatric medications. The Scientologist treatment turned out to be ineffective for Jeremy, he was banned from the church as a level III "Potential Trouble Source". Elli was advised by the church to give him vitamins and keep him busy with house chores. On March 13th, 2003, Jeremy attempted suicide and then stabbed his mom 77 times with a steak knife, as she was talking on the phone with a friend. He said, "When she made me take the shower this morning this was the last straw."

Jeremy Perkins was diagnosed with schizophrenia, found not responsible by reason of mental disease or defect, and placed in a secure facility. He was placed on medications, which court psychiatrists state have not cured him, but stabilized his condition. According to his attorney, "Jeremy himself told me that he firmly believes that if he had been taking these medications [earlier] that it would not have happened."


Posted by Manya on February 10th, 2016

March 14th:
Ayden Olson
died on March 14th, 2013

Ayden's mom said he was "bullied to death" in school, because he was gay and because he was part Japanese. 14yo Ayden committed suicide by medication overdose. He researched suicide methods online (bypassing the block his parents put on his laptop), and left two notes explaining his reasons. His mom is a prominent child abuse campaigner; she said, "My job is to protect kids online but I could not keep my own son safe".


Posted by Manya on February 14th, 2016

March 16th:
James Levier
died on March 16th, 2001

60yo Mr Levier from Maine, USA, lost his hearing when he was about 6 years old, and his parents sent him to the Baxter School for the Deaf, a state-run boarding school, so that he could learn sign language and get an education. He was sexually abused by staff there. Sexual abuse in schools for the deaf is widespread because the children have extra difficulties reaching out for help. Here's how one survivor explains it:

"There was a busy road with a playground and there'd be people walking past but we had no communication because we couldn't speak, we couldn't sign and they couldn't understand our voices. We'd try and write notes but our vocabulary was limited. The only word we knew was 'rude'. We'd make paper aeroplanes and throw them. People would pick them up, laugh and wave and go on their way and we would feel frustrated."

Mr Levier left the school at 17, married and had two daughters, enjoyed hiking in the woods, painting, carving, and even volunteered as an art teacher at Baxter. Still, he struggled emotionally and tried to kill himself several times. Mr Levier wanted justice for himself and other survivors of the school. Multiple abuse allegations against the school were corroborated by the police investigation, but no charges were pressed due to the statute of limitations. On March 7th, a spokesman for then-Gov. Angus King testified that there was no money budgeted to pay victims and questioned the appropriateness of an official apology. Nine days later Mr Levier commited suicide by cop. Within days, Gov. King issued an apology to the state’s deaf community for the abuse that had occurred at Baxter years before. The Legislature also began approving compensation for victims, ultimately appropriating more than $17 million.


Posted by Manya on July 29th, 2016

March 20th:
Birthday of Chester Bennington
born on March 20th, 1976

Chester Bennington. American musician,singer,songwriter and lead vocalist with Linkin Park. Born in Arizona to a nurse and a police detective who worked on child sex abuse cases Bennington became heavily into substance abuse after the divorce of his parents when he was 11yo.He would later denounce drug use. In an interview he later revealed he had suffered sexual abuse from an older male friend when he was 7yo.He said he had been afraid of seeking help because he didn't want people to think he was gay or lying,and so the abuse continued until he was 13. The situation was so bad that he often thought about running away.Finally,having told his father he chose not to continue with the case realising his abuser was a victim too. Bennington was physically bullied at high school and said of those times "...I was knocked around like a rag doll at school for being skinny and looking different.." Chester Bennington has been ranked 46 in the Top 100 Heavy Metal Vocalist list.


Posted by eagle22 on October 9th, 2015

March 21st:
Zahra Abrahimzadeh
died on March 21st, 2010

44yo Mrs Abrahimzadeh had three children and an abusive husband. The family moved from Iran to Australia, where she was able to seek help, and eventually moved with her kids to a domestic violence shelter. The four lived in hiding, but the next year Mrs Abrahimzadeh went to a Persian New Years function at a local convention centre, where her husband killed her in front of about 300 witnesses. "He was controlling, domineering, regularly resorted to verbal abuse and to violence," said their son. "He was very well-respected in the community (and) people would say 'your father is a gentleman',but obviously, they did not know about what happened behind closed doors. For my mother, there was nothing much to do... if you have got a bully over your head, beating you up, you just sit there and cry."


Posted by Manya on July 18th, 2016

March 25th:
International Day of Remembrance of the Victims of Slavery
March 25th, 2008

The day honours and remembers those who suffered and died as a consequence of the transatlantic slave trade, which has been called "the worst violation of human rights in history", in which over 400 years more than 15 million men, women and children were the victims.


Posted by Anonymous on March 25th, 2014

March 26th:
Michele Davis
died on March 26th, 2015

35yo Michelle from Arizona, USA, had seven children (ages 3 to 15) and an abusive husband who has been arrested at least four times for domestic violence and child abuse. She took care of the kids, was going to school to become a nurse, and was active at online support groups for abused women. "She was very compassionate," her dad said. "And she was very much a people person that wanted to be there for people."

On March 25th the whole family was at home, the father got upset with one of the kids for playing video games, and struck him on the face. The boy complained to mom, Michelle confronted her husband, and soon 911 received two phone calls at the same time: one from the children, pleading for help, and one from the father, crying hysterically and apologizing for killing his wife. Michelle was found with 13 stab wounds, and died in a hospital the next day. The man is held on murder charges, the kids are with their grandma, Michelle's mom.

"There’s times when you’re going throughout your day trying to get done what needs to get done, and then it all of a sudden dawns on you that she’s really gone, and then quickly comes into my mind those kids and what some of them saw," her family says.


Posted by Manya on July 18th, 2016


 

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