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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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October 27th:
Raijon Daniels
died on October 27th, 2006

Raijon was an 8yo boy from California, whose mom tortured and killed him because she was legally insane. She left him home alone, tied to his bed, beat him, water-hosed him, and poured household chemicals on his genitals to make him stop urinating. She was found not guilty by reason of insanity, and released from a psychiatric care facility three years later.

Raijon's father struggles understanding this. "How can three years pass and she be OK after the acts that she did? How could someone who put Pine-Sol in a child's food, allow a child to jump from a second-story building, how could they be a model patient?" he wonders. "I still have so many questions." "In the beginning, I really wanted to see her suffer because she had made him suffer. But I can't pass judgment, I wasn't in the home. I forgive her, as crazy as that may sound, because of the faith that I have. Who am I to beat her down and dog her?"


Posted by Manya on February 11th, 2016
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Stephanie
died on October 27th, 2006

Steph, You got out of your stepdad's home and had a bit of a chance at life. You were so hurt that your mom never believed you and chose him over you. I know that pain was so deep. Life just never worked out the way we all wanted it to for you. You left this earth in such an unusual way, I still don't know if it was by your own hand or not. I actually hope it was so that you finally had control over something in your world. I miss you. Your Laugh. Your goofiness. Your Nemo! You left this world at the tender age of 31. I wish it had been a more friendly earth for you. They say the good die young. Perhaps the innocent do as well. be.


Posted by BeBold on December 30th, 2011
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October 28th:
Ellie Butler
died on October 28th, 2014

Six-year-old Ellie was murdered by her father Ben Butler, 36, just 11 months after she was returned to his care following a custody battle. He inflicted catastrophic head injuries upon Ellie while looking after her at their home in Sutton, south-west London, in October 2013. He was also found guilty of child cruelty over a shoulder injury, as was Ellie's mother Jennie Gray.


Posted by Jane on June 18th, 2018
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October 29th:
Bence Szita
died on October 29th, 2012

11yo Bence from Hungary was a gentle, good-hearted, dutiful boy, according to his family. He enjoyed sports, of any kind, and was particularly talented in motorcycling; he won six trophies at it by the age of 7. Unfortunately, at that time his mom became ill and unable to care for him, so he moved to stay with his grandma. And then with his step dad, the ex-boyfriend of his mom, who by then was in a relationship with another woman. That woman became Bence's foster mom. When his step dad broke up with her (leaving Bence behind), she hired two homeless men to torture and kill the boy because she had "seen the devil" in his eyes. The details of Bence's death were not released to the public. The police commissioner said, "There is no such level in the TV programme rating system which would make the method of murder bearable for viewers."


Posted by Manya on March 25th, 2018
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October 30th:
Rosalia Garcia-Quintana
died on October 30th, 2007

Rosalia was found dead early on Oct. 31, 2007, in the La Junta home where she lived with her father Salvador Quintana and her stepmother Carmen Marquez. The couple was arrested the next day. Two forensic scientists testified that prior to her death, Rosalia was scalded by hot water, causing a second-degree burn 3 inches in width and extending from her right shoulder blade and down the front of her body. Marquez told authorities that Rosalia was burned by hot water in a shower at the family's home. The incident allegedly occurred about a month before Rosalia was found dead. Marquez said that shortly after Rosalia was burned, Quintana looked on the Internet to find out how to treat burns. She said that she repeatedly told Quintana to take the little girl to the hospital but that he wouldn't. Rosalia’s father, Salvador Quintana, and stepmother have been charged with child abuse causing death.


Posted by Jane on June 18th, 2018
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October 31st:
Autumn Elgersma
died on October 31st, 2013

Autumn suffered a skull fracture and brain trauma while in Sapp's care on Oct. 29. Autumn died two days later at a Sioux Falls hospital. Police have said that Sapp who ran the day care centre originally told investigators the child fell down the stairs at her daycare facility. They later determined that the girl's injuries were not consistent with that type of fall and that Sapp then admitted to throwing the child to the floor. Autumn's parents Phillip and Jennifer paid an emotional tribute to their beloved daughter at the time of her death. ‘Autumn was a joy in our lives and we are blessed to have called her ours. Sapp pleaded guilty to three counts resulting in a 100 year sentence.


Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
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November 1st:
Cayley Mandadi
died on November 1st, 2017

19yo Cayley from Texas, USA, was a sophomore at the Trinity University, majoring in communications, and enjoyed various hobbies: hiking, horseback riding, piano playing, acting, film-making, cheerleading, Chi Beta Epsilon sorority. For the last two months of her life Cayley was involved in an abusive relationship. Her college friends saw her boyfriend slam her head into a car window, wave a gun while threatening to shoot friends of her ex-boyfriend, and destroy her dorm room. The boyfriend was issued a criminal trespass order that barred him from the campus for a year.

On October 28th Cayley and her boyfriend had attended the Mala Luna music festival in San Antonio. They had an argument because Cayley saw her ex-boyfriend at the festival. Her boyfriend was seen forcibly grab her arm as they were leaving. The next morning he brought Cayley to a local hospital - bruised, unresponsive and partially nude. The investigators determined she was a victim of a violent sexual assault. He explained that they had "rough but consensual make up sex", after which she passed out and eventually stopped breathing. Cayley was pronounced brain-dead and taken off life support three days later; the autopsy concluded she had been beaten and died of a subdermal hematoma after suffering blunt force trauma to the head.


Posted by Manya on June 25th, 2018
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Erica Parsons
died on November 1st, 2011

Nearly seven years after Erica Parsons vanished - and five years after she was reported missing - authorities in North Carolina have indicted her adoptive parents in the child's death. A grand jury indicted the parents on counts of first-degree murder, and other charges. The Office of the Chief Medical Examiner concluded that Erica died of 'homicidal violence of undetermined means,' The report said fractures in various stages of healing were found in the teenager's nose, jaw, upper right arm, nine ribs and several vertebrae. Her smaller than normal, low-density bones showed a growth deficit consistent with malnourishment, according to the report. ‘There were other children in the home, but none of the other children were subjected to this treatment,' the documents stated. A week before her disappearance her siblings described Erica as ‘looking grey with sunken eyes, smelling bad with open, oozing cuts, very weak and complaining of not being able to breathe,' the report stated.


Posted by Jane on June 16th, 2018
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November 2nd:
Emani Moss
died on November 2nd, 2013

Emani Moss' body was found in a trash can at a Lawrenceville apartment complex Saturday. Her father, Eman Moss, and stepmother, Tiffany Moss, are accused of starving the 10-year-old and then trying to conceal her death by burning her body in the trash can. In court, Gwinnett County Police Detective Collin Flynn testified that after multiple stories, Eman Moss told him, "they put Emani to bed on Thursday and kept her there until the following Wednesday when she died and they didn't give her food and nourishment to survive during that seven-day period,"


Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
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November 3rd:
Jiang Ge
died on November 3rd, 2016

24yo Jiang Ge from China was studying for her master's degree at Hosei University in Japan, and sharing housing with a roommate, Liu Xin. Liu had an ex-boyfriend she was trying to avoid. On November 3rd he came to their doorstep, and killed Jiang when Liu refused to see him. Liu claimed that she was unable to open the door when Jiang was being attacked and pleading for help. "I had no idea of what happened outside and I was really unaware that [he] was carrying out a murder at the time," she said, "I was indeed intimidated so that I did not step outside until the police arrived." Jiang was not involved in her roommate's abusive relationship, but died as a result of it.


Posted by Manya on February 11th, 2018
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London McCabe
died on November 3rd, 2014

London was a 6yo boy from Oregon, USA. He liked big hats, stuffed animals, coloring, and cuddles with his mom and dad. He was autistic, and his mom couldn't cope with it, so she threw him off a bridge and called 911 on herself. His father said, "London was autistic, but he was important as a person. He didn't deserve to die. He wasn't suffering. A lot of the media like to portray people with autism as suffering. That the person who killed them have done a mercy. That is not the case."


Posted by Manya on May 20th, 2016
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November 4th:
Lisa Steinberg
died on November 4th, 1987

Lisa was a 6yo NYC girl who was illegally adopted: her mom hired an attorney to find Lisa adoptive parents, and the attorney simply took the girl home, bypassing all the laws, paperwork, and CPS checks. Lisa was physically and sexually abused and neglected for years. On November 1st the man was going out for dinner, Lisa wanted to come along, and he hit her on the head with a hammer and left for more than ten hours. Lisa died in a hospital four days later.


Posted by Manya on October 18th, 2015
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November 5th:
Ryan Weeks
died on November 5th, 2008

3yo Ryan from Oklahoma, USA, along with his mom and siblings, were known to child protective services. The first case was opened when Ryan was almost 1yo: the mother couldn't protect her children from drugs and violence in the home. Kids were moved between foster care, shelters, and her home multiple times. The last time they were sent back to live with her and her boyfriend, the judge reportedly said, "I hope I don't regret this." That's after he saw bruises on the kids and heard testimony of the kids, the foster parents, a doctor, and the DHS workers, stating that the children were being physically abused by the mother's boyfriend during unsupervised visitations. Ryan died of blunt force trauma to his head, which resulted in skull fracture and traumatic brain injury.


Posted by Manya on March 27th, 2016
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Jerry Darst
died on November 5th, 2012

Jerry, I miss and love you so much! You helped me and mom get though the day! I know your happier now, now you can be with your wife, But please always remember.... I love you! I have had a hard road to go down and since you been gone it seems to be harder! I know there's bumps in the road all the time but everything I have been through! Atleast you passed from old age! And a easy death! I love and miss you to the moon and back! I know your watching down on me! I love you! R.I.P!


Posted by Grace on January 13th, 2014
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