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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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August 18th:
Roshelle Clayborne
died on August 18th, 1997

Roshelle Clayborne was put facedown in a prone hold on August 18, 1997. She complained she couldn't breathe, but staff ignored her and shot her full of Thorazine. They stood around and watched as Clayborne lost control of her bowels and grew still, blood trickling from her mouth. Later, they rolled her onto a blanket and dragged her into an 8-by-10-foot seclusion room, where she died alone. Roshelle's death, was investigated by the Texas Department of Protective and Regulatory Services (TDPRS), the state agency that regulates treatment centers for mentally ill youths they cited the facility for numerous rules infractions, concluding that the restraint used on Roshelle was improper and carried out by mental health care workers who were inadequately trained and supervised.


Posted by Jane on June 18th, 2018
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August 19th:
Ebony Jane Simpson
died on August 19th, 1992

The murder of 9 yo Ebony Jane Simpson occurred on 19 August 1992 in Bargo, New South Wales, Australia. Ebony was abducted, raped, and murdered by asphyxiation when Andrew Peter Garforth drowned her. On 19 August 1992, Ebony disembarked from her school bus. Her mother, who usually met her at the bus stop, was busy that day and had arranged for her older brother to meet her and accompany her home, after his bus reached the bus stop. But his bus arrived later than usual and Simpson was not there. Ebony not seeing her brother at the bus stop decided to start the walk home, which was only a short distance away. and see him at home. With her house in sight, Simpson passed a parked car that appeared to be broken down. The car’s driver, Garforth, grabbed her, threw her in the boot and drove off to a remote dam. Once there, he bound her with wire, raped her, weighted her schoolbag and threw her into the dam's reservoir where she drowned. Garforth pleaded guilty to the crimes and was sentenced to life imprisonment without the possibility of parole.


Posted by Jane on July 4th, 2018
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Kendy Patricia Funez
died on August 19th, 2010

Kendy Patricia Funez 25 was shot in the head on August 19, 2010 Her boyfriend who was convicted of her shooting first told investigators the two thought they heard someone poking around outside and he took his shotgun as he looked around the house. He said Kendy walked toward him inside the master bedroom as he had the gun pointed. She pushed the gun away from her face and it “just went off.” He later told Salisbury Police detectives the two argued prior to the shooting.


Posted by Jane on July 6th, 2018
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August 20th:
Lakesha Victor
died on August 20th, 2006

A special education teacher saw signs that something was wrong with 10-year-old Lakesha Victor. She was skinny, and sometimes the girl's diaper stayed dry all day, suggesting she was underfed. Her wheelchair was sometimes caked in ice, as if it had been left outside in the harsh northern Minnesota winter. The teacher's lingering questions were answered three years later, when authorities charged Ludusky Sue Hotchkiss, 29, with second-degree murder and second-degree manslaughter in the 2006 death of her disabled daughter. Lakesha weighed just 31 pounds when she died, and prosecutors allege her mother let her die by not feeding her enough for as long as four months.


Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
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Naziat Khan
died on August 20th, 2001

Mrs Naziat Khan from UK had three daugthers, a son, and a husband of 16 years whom she didn't love because it was an arranged marriage. He didn't contribute to the household financially, so she filed for divorce. The husband decided that his honour was slighted, sent their son away for a few days, and strangled Mrs Khan in front of their three daughters, threatening to do the same to them if they speak up about what they saw. Then he dropped them off with a friend and fled the country. When their son returned home from his trip, he found his mother's body.


Posted by Manya on March 5th, 2017
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Alayna Ertl
died on August 20th, 2016

Five year old, Alayna's overnight disappearance from her home sparked an Amber Alert in August 2016. An adult family friend was later convicted of her kidnapping, sexual assault and murder. In her funeral home obituary she is remembered as "always having a smile and kind words to say...an animal lover, princess, singer, great friend and "our peanut," the obituary continued. She enjoyed learning from her brother and "always gave the best hugs."


Posted by Jane on January 27th, 2019
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August 21st:
Huranieh Altantawi
died on August 21st, 2017

Huranieh, a 35yo personal fitness trainer, was in the middle of a divorce with her husband, and lived in the home alone with her 16-year-old son and two daughters, ages 14 and 12. On August 21st she died from injuries suffered in a fall from a second-floor window. Initially, detectives thought that Huranieh fell accidentally. After reviewing evidence, authorities felt that the teen boy deliberately pushed his mother to her death. Huranieh’s divorce attorney, said her client was estranged from her husband and in the middle of a divorce at the time of her death. She believes the teen sympathized with his father and thought his mother was becoming too Americanized and leaving behind Muslim tradition. “I’m just shocked,” neighbor Toni Jones said. “I’m totally speechless. I can’t imagine. “Can you imagine what the rest of the family is going through? I cannot. It would be devastating.”


Posted by Jane on July 1st, 2018
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Jayden-Lee Green
died on August 21st, 2011

23-month-old Jayden-Lee from UK died of methadone overdose. His parents were addicted to crack cocaine and heroin and wouldn't cooperate with drug agencies, midwives, housing officials, health visitors, and social workers. They regularly missed appointments and weren't home when visits were made. There were bags of rubbish lying around their one-bedroom ground-floor rented flat, as well as drug paraphernalia kept in cupboards and crack pipes under the sink. A rolled-up cigarette was found in a child's cot. "What was lacking was the authoritative challenge to this lack of co-operation," the report on Jayden-Lee's death stated. "There was a lack of enforcement of consequences. There was a lack of challenge by practitioners across the range of agencies. (...) The only way that [Jayden-Lee's] death would definitely have been prevented was if he had been placed away from his parents. The opportunity to do this was lost due to the failure to follow through on the initiation of care proceedings."


Posted by Manya on June 16th, 2018
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August 22nd:
Zahree Thomas
died on August 22nd, 2012

Mom of 2yo Zahree from New Jersey, USA, struggled with mental health issues and drug addiction. When he was 10 months old, she left him in a locked car and told CPS she was smoking "wet" (combination of street drugs) and didn't remember where she left her baby. She lost custody but gained it back. Neighbors said she was nice but kept to herself, though they saw her walking around, cursing to herself, and sitting on her front steps topless. On August 22nd she called 911 and said that she has hurt her son. Her speech was incoherent, but the police went to check on her and Zahree. Zahree was decapitated, and his mom slashed her throat right after placing the 911 call.


Posted by Manya on July 5th, 2016
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August 23rd:
Ho Yan Hui
died on August 23rd, 2013

5yo Ho Yan Hui from Malaysia was beat to death by her mother. They lived in a poor neighborhood, and it's culturally acceptable there to hit children for misbehaving, even with a cane. However, Ho Yan Hui had over 100 wounds, including one on her head. She didn't scream or fight while getting beat by her mother, but developed fever, fell into coma, and died 11 days later. The mother was found guilty of manslaughter and child abuse; the judge said, "That the child is naughty and difficult to control coupled with the stresses of life cannot be an excuse to be beaten to death as one needs to find alternatives to handle such a matter. Injuries sustained by the victim showed she died a slow and painful death."


Posted by Manya on March 27th, 2016
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August 24th:
Carter Lizar
died on August 24th, 2015

Carter's mom was a meth addict, and all of her previous 5 children were taken away from her by child protective services. On August 22nd she left Carter with a couple she used to do drugs with, and went to Kansas City to get meth. She returned two days later, and all three of them got high, with Carter still in the house. She went to a convenience store, and when she returned, Carter was dying from having been violently shaken by one of her acquaintances. It was his first birthday.


Posted by Manya on March 27th, 2016
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Loretta Hooker
died on August 24th, 2011

89yo Mrs Hooker died of cardiovascular disease and hyperthermia at a California assisted-care facility designed for residents with Alzheimer's disease and dementia. A week prior to that, her son came for his twice-a-week visit with her and found her outside, sitting on a concrete patio, "alone and under the hot summer sun with no shade or supervision," according to his elder abuse and wrongful death lawsuit. "She was in obvious discomfort, appeared weak and was sweating profusely." Mrs Hooker was unable to open patio doors by herself even if they were unlocked. He brought her inside and complained to supervisors, but the next week found her alone on the patio again. "This time, however, she was unresponsive, drenched with perspiration and in obvious respiratory distress," the suit said. Paramedics took Mrs Hooker to a hospital emergency room, where doctors determined she was in cardiac arrest. They tried to cool her body but she was pronounced dead at the hospital.


Posted by Manya on February 27th, 2016
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August 25th:
Terrance Cottrell Jr
died on August 25th, 2003

Terrance Cottrell an 8-year-old autistic boy who died at a prayer service where church members tried to heal him of "spirits" was suffocated, the medical examiner's office said Monday. Terrance went to a prayer service Friday with his mother, who prayed over him with a pastor and other church members. By the time the two-hour service was over, Terrance was dead. A neighbor described Terrance's mother as a zealous church convert who once said the evil spirit had spoken through her son at the church. "She said he said, 'Kill me, take me, kill me,'" neighbor Denise Allison said. "I was like, are you serious? I couldn't really believe that." Ray Hemphill a pastor at the storefront church and the brother of head Pastor David Hemphill -- was arrested early Saturday on suspicion of child abuse and is awaiting formal charges. Asked whether church members could have confused Terrance's autism with evil spirits, David Hemphill said "no it wasn't confused,"..."Terrance "had spirits in him," and church members simply asked God to "deliver him."


Posted by Jane on June 18th, 2018
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August 26th:
Jody Meyers
died on August 26th, 2015

The heartbroken family of alleged murder victim Jody Meyers have paid tribute to the young mother, after her body was found buried under a garden shed and her boyfriend charged with her death. The 20-year-old South Australian was last seen at 7.30pm on August 26 and a desperate and tireless search continued for four weeks until her remains were finally found. In the wake of the shocking discovery, Ms Meyers' sister Tania Parsons described her despair and anguish after Ms Meyers' body was found under a cement slab in the backyard belonging to the parents of her accused killer. 'My mum lost a daughter, and I lost a sister, my kids lost their aunty and (your child) lost (their) mummy. We will forever miss her,' Ms Parsons wrote in a Facebook post on Friday night, according to The Advertiser. Police have alleged the young woman's death was a consequence of domestic violence.


Posted by Jane on June 18th, 2018
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August 27th:
Michael Tyree
died on August 27th, 2015

31yo Michael struggled with bipolar disorder since childhood. He wrote poetry, his ex girlfriend said, "and loved with his whole heart. He really had a kind heart. He had the best smile. He was always seeking balance." One day Michael was standing on the steps of Trinity Cathedral in San Jose, California, throwing small pieces of tinfoil onto the steps. A police officer stopped him for littering and found a small amount of crystal meth wrapped in foil in his pocket. Michael could have had the charge stricken from his record if he complied with the court order to get treatment, but he didn't, so the judge ordered to hold him in jail until a bed becomes available in a treatment facility. Michael was beaten to death by the guards.

"It's a terrible way for somebody to die," said Michael's old girlfriend's sister, who works with children who have behavioral issues. "A lot of times people who should be in mental health facilities end up in jail, and I think it's sad. They don't get the treatment they need. They're not criminals. They're sick, and they need help." His sister said, "He touched people's lives. He mattered. <...> We looked at his corpse yesterday. I looked at my brother and I thought that is a corpse. He is gone, but he was naked. He was covered in feces and vomit and that's public now. You know, those are the last images of my brother and the last thing this man did for him was kick his head."


Posted by Manya on July 29th, 2016
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