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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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April 12th:
Dominick Calhoun
died on April 12th, 2010

Dominick was a 4yo boy from Michigan, USA. He liked cards, snowmobiling, and dancing, and lived with his mom, 8yo brother, and moms boyfriend in what police called a "drug house" - the boyfriend had several prior convictions for drugs and assaults, and used to beat up Dominick's mom too.

On April 10th 4yo Dominick had an accident, wetting his pants and the couch he was sitting on. The moms boyfriend asked him who was going to pay for the soiled couch, and hit and kicked him for three days, till the boy died. He beat Dominick about the head, kicked him in his privates, pocked him in the eyes with his fingers, and slammed his head against a wall.

During these three days Dominick was heard screaming "Make him stop" to his mom. She tried to interfere, but her boyfriend hit her too, and pulled out chunks of her hair. None of the neighbors called 911. Argentine Township police Chief Dan Allen said a phone call could have saved Dominick's life. "A normal person would call law enforcement," he said. "That could have made the difference."


Posted by Manya on February 4th, 2016
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April 13th:
Honey Veus
died on April 13th, 2013

1yo Honey from Florida, USA, was killed by her father. He confessed to throwing her on the floor, burning her feet with a lighted cigar, forcing her to eat cinnamon, pulling her hair, and pushing her down - because he had thoughts of harming her, and felt relief when he caused her pain or discomfort. His mother said she never thought her son would abuse his own child but suspected something wasn't right. "I asked him 'what's going on?' He said he don't know. I said, 'what did you do with the baby, I see something on her feet?' - 'He say he don't know'." On April 10th, grandma found the baby unconscious and rushed her to hospital, but Honey remained in coma, suffering from bleeding on the brain, and died three days later.


Posted by Manya on March 11th, 2017
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Holly Bobo
died on April 13th, 2011

20yo Holly from Tennessee, USA, studied nursing at the University of Tennessee, sang in her church choir, and loved animals. Holly was living with her parents and brother. In the morning of April 13th Holly was studying for an exam, her parents were at work, and her brother was asleep. Around 7:40AM neighbors heard her screaming, and her brother saw her arguing in the carport with a man (whom he mistook for Holly's boyfriend at first), and eventually leaving with him. Holly's body wasn't found till September 2014. Six man have been implicated, three were charged with aggravated kidnapping, murder, and rape, two were sentenced.


Posted by Manya on June 27th, 2018
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April 14th:
Sophia Mae Caraveo
died on April 14th, 2017

4yo Sophia from California, USA, was strangled to death while visiting her grandma for a sleepover; her aunt was charged with murder and child abuse resulting in death. "She was our princess," her grandma said. "Everywhere she would go, she would bring everybody up. She was loved by everybody."


Posted by Manya on May 11th, 2017
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Armaney Cotton
died on April 14th, 2012

The mom of 2yo Armaney from Chicago, USA, worked as a housekeeper at a downtown hotel. At 7AM on March 14th, she dropped her daughter off at her boyfriend's house, which was their usual babysitting arrangement. Armaney had a cold, but was fine otherwise. Hours later Armaney was bitten and beaten to death. "Babies fall all the time. They don't get cuts and bruises and bites," her mother said. "She did not fall...Somebody tortured my child, and they beat her to death. This was someone I loved and trusted to protect her, not harm her. I don't understand why this happened to her. It is eating me up inside."


Posted by Manya on March 11th, 2017
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April 15th:
Nigel Hardy
died on April 15th, 2013

13yo Nigel from Indiana, USA, enjoyed cheerleading, music, football (runningback), basketball, surfing and singing. He moved to California 12 weeks before his death, and was bullied in the new school for being a cheerleader. "He was a happy kid," his best friend said. "But they used to make fun of him." On Friday Nigel was suspended for punching another student who was picking on him. On Monday he left a suicide note and shot himself.


Posted by Manya on March 11th, 2017
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April 16th:
Kelly-Anne Bates
died on April 16th, 1996

14yo Kelly Ann from UK was babysitting for friends when she first met her future murderer (44yo at the time). They were secretly dating, and two years later moved in together. "As soon as I saw (him) the hairs on the back of my neck went up," said her mom. "I tried everything I could to get Kelly Anne away from him." Over the next year the parents started noticing bruising on their daughter (which she explained as accidents); she quit her part-time job, became socially withdrawn. Kelly Ann's body was found on April 16th. What he did to her is too graphic to describe here (you can read the details if you click on her name above). The pathologist who examined her body said, "In my career, I have examined almost 600 victims of homicide but I have never come across injuries so extensive." The prosecutor said, "It was as if he deliberately disfigured her, causing her the utmost pain, distress and degradation ... The injuries were not the result of one sudden eruption of violence, they must have been caused over a long period (and) were so extensive and so terrible that the defendant must have deliberately and systematically tortured the girl ... Her death must have been a merciful end to her torment."


Posted by Manya on March 19th, 2017
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April 17th:
Ronald Oliver
died on April 17th, 2013

75yo Mr Oliver from Missouri, USA, was an army veteran, commercial truck driver, father of four, and a grandfather and great-grandfather of a few dozen. He enjoyed listening to gospel, country, jazz and rhythm and blues. According to his family, "Ronnie did what he could sharing his love with all that were under his roof, in his neighborhood and especially throughout his family. He was a community assistant to anyone who needed care." Mr Oliver's 80yo wife of 38 years broke his skull with a baseball bat because he "began talking smart to her."


Posted by Manya on July 18th, 2016
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Madhu Yadav
died on April 17th, 2012

One phone call could have saved 29-year-old Madhu Yadav's life. That call was never made. On Monday night, the marketing professional was murdered by her in-laws. Hours before, Madhu had tried calling her sister Mamta poor phone reception defeated that effort. Madhu then called up my father in Delhi," said Mamta. According to Madhu's family members, she was weeping incessantly over the phone and appeared to be in a terrible state of mind. Her father advised her to remain in the house of her in-laws, till they came to pick her up. Next morning, the family received a call stating that Madhu had committed suicide. "Sameep (the victim's husband) phoned me and asked to come to Mumbai. As I listened, I asked only one question to him: ‘Have you killed my Madhu?" said CH Yadav, the deceased's father. When her relatives saw Madhu's body, they found certain marks on her neck. Medical reports finally confirmed she was murdered.


Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
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April 18th:
Keith Clayton
died on April 18th, 2014

55yo Keith Clayton from Texas, USA, worked as a truck driver and enjoyed roller skating. He had four children and a grandson, but was staying with his elderly parents because he was suffering from schizophrenia. Mr Clayton's family became concerned for his wellbeing when he started talking of suicide. They felt unable to care for him, and sent him to an inpatient facility. Three days later Mr Clayton was restrained by two hospital employees, and died of spleen laceration caused by blunt force trauma. After much consideration the police ruled his death accidental; Mr Clayton's family was told he died during a scuffle with another patient. However, Adult Protective Services found it to be physical abuse; one of the hospital employees was fired; the other received a warning letter, explaining to them the proper use of restraints.


Posted by Manya on June 8th, 2017
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Candace Newmaker
died on April 18th, 2000

Candace was 10 when she was killed by her therapist and adoptive mom. She was adopted at 7 (bio parents lost parental rights due to neglect), and within months her adoptive mom started taking her to psychiatrists, complaining of her behavior and attitude at home. Finally in April 2000 she took Candace to another state for a two-week "intensive" session of attachment therapy.

During the 70min therapy session 10yo girl was wrapped in a flannel sheet and told to free herself, while four adults held her down with their hands, feet, and pillows. This was called "rebirthing" and was expected to help Candace "attach" to her adoptive mother.

For the first forty minutes Candace begged to be released, screamed, pleaded, and said several times that she could not breathe and was dying, to which the therapist responded, "You want to die? OK, then die. Go ahead, die right now".

Candace died of asphyxia.


Posted by Manya on November 8th, 2009
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April 19th:
Ritu Uppal
died on April 19th, 2015

29yo Jet Airways hostes Ritu from India was watching a sitcom on TV when her drunk husband returned home with a friend and some takeout food. He wanted Ritu to serve the food and switch the channel because he wanted to watch a cricket match. Ritu refused and, during the argument, spat on her husband's face and slapped him. He started beating her up and told his friend to leave the house and not interfere in their personal matter. "As she continued to abuse my family members, I lost cool and pressed a pillow on her face to make her quiet," the husband explained. "However, a little later I realised that she was not moving and had become unconscious. I immediately called her father and after his arrival, took her to a hospital, where she was declared brought dead."


Posted by Manya on March 11th, 2017
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April 20th:
Chantille Truss
died on April 20th, 2018

Chantille Truss of Kansas City a 45-year-old woman was shot and killed by her husband on 20th April 2018 while at her place of work. Her killer fled the scene before committing suicide. Friends and co-worker were not aware of any problems within Chantile and her husband's relationship – rather describe them as appearing to be the "perfect couple".


Posted by Jane on June 29th, 2018
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April 21st:
Aaliyah Lewis
died on April 21st, 2016

2yo Aaliyah from Florida, USA, died hours after her mom's boyfriend "gave her a whooping" because she had an accident on his bed. "Why? Why would you beat her like that?" Aaliyah's mom said. "She was my only child. She was my everything and I lost her...The only thing she kept (saying) ... 'Mah!' I said 'Liyah!'... 'Mah!'... She was in pain. And I couldn't do nothing about it. I tried, I tried. And she took her last breath in my arms."


Posted by Manya on March 11th, 2017
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