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Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.
~George Santayana

November 14th:
Meika Jordan
died on November 14th, 2011

Meika was a 6yo girl from Calgary, Canada. Her parents were divorced, and shared custody. On November 10th her father and stepmother didn't return her to her mom because a few days prior they burnt her hand with a lighter and didn't want her mom to see that. Over the following weekend they beat her to death. Here's how her stepmother explained this decision:

"I woke up at about four o'clock, it was the same thing again, you get the same screaming, the spanking, probably pulling on ears, you know, just the same regular normal stuff that we normally do. She acted up the whole entire day. So that's why she was being spanked and that's why she was getting even more riled up, more angry because it wasn't stopping... we kinda decided to shove her and try to give her motivational speech and yell at her and, you know, just get her going. And she wasn't doing what she was told."

Meika sustained multiple injuries, including brain trauma from being thrown down the stairs. She was clinically dead the when paramedics arrived, but was resuscitated and rushed to a hospital, where she died the next day. "My only saving grace is they were able to get her to the hospital just long enough for us to say those final goodbyes," said her mom.


Posted by Manya on May 20th, 2016

Jasmine McClain
died on November 14th, 2011

Jasmine was a 10yo elementary school student who was bullied because she didn't have brand-name clothing. Jasmine hanged herself. Her mom said, "I just lost it because she took her last breath in my arms. She was a loving child. I just don't understand."


Posted by Manya on February 5th, 2016

November 19th:
International Day for Prevention of Child Abuse
November 19th, 2001

Child abuse kills more than 3 children every day in America. Almost 80 percent of the perpetrators are parents. Physical abuse permanently disables 18,000 children and youth every year and seriously injures 565,000. If you have trouble controlling your temper around your kid, or feel frustrated with parenting him/her - please reach out for help.


Posted by Manya on November 19th, 2009

November 22nd:
Ivy Atkin
died on November 22nd, 2012

86yo Ivy Atkin from Nottinghamshire, UK, died as a result of abuse in the carehome she was placed in for only 48 days. Lead investigator said, "Sherwood Rise Ltd took on responsibility for a number of elderly people who should be well cared for and should be trusted to look after them. This is not a case where they, and the director and manager Mohammed Khan, have let standards slip slightly. Standards were almost non-existent. As far as Ivy Atkin was concerned, there were appalling failures to provide her with the care she deserved. She spent 48 days inside that care home and during that time her health plummeted. When she was eventually rescued - and that's the word we have used throughout the investigation - she was emaciated, she was dehydrated, she was malnourished and she had the most horrific bed sore to the lower part of her back which had plainly not been cared for. It is right that people have been brought to justice over her death and this case shows that the care of the elderly and vulnerable is not something that people should take lightly." Ivy Atkin's case was, nationally, the first conviction of corporate manslaughter and gross negligence manslaughter together.


Posted by Manya on March 5th, 2016

November 23rd:
Athena Angeles
died on November 23rd, 2011

3yo Athena from Connecticut, USA, was living with her mom, older sister, and mom's boyfriend. In October the man punched Athena in the face because she refused to eat. A family advocate from her preschool was making a home visit on October 18th and noted that her eyes "were both black, and her face was so swollen that Athena could barely open her eyes". In November Athena had to go to a hospital to get staples for cuts on her head that her mom's boyfriend inflicted. And when Athena was discharged, he punched her in the stomach, which resulted in internal bleeding that led to her death.


Posted by Manya on March 7th, 2016

November 24th:
Birthday of Billy Connolly
born on November 24th, 1942

Billy Connolly Scottish comedian,musician and actor. At the age of 4 Billy's mother abandoned him and his sister whilst their father was serving in RAF in Burma. They went to live with two aunts both of who resented having to look after the children. He was frequently belittled by them and was often called stupid. He would later say " I'm a happy man now but I still have the scars of that". In Connolly's biography "Billy" written with his wife Pamela Stephenson he speaks of the return of his father from war and the subsequent physical and sexual abuse he suffered from him for 10-15 yrs old. Throughout his life he was an alcoholic until he became teetotal in 1985. In 2013 he underwent surgery for early stage prostate cancer and was also treated for Parkinson's Disease. He has received many awards throughout his career including a BAFTA life time achievement and CBE. He has also been voted number one in the "world's greatest stand up comedian" category twice. He is Patron for the National Association for Bikers with a Disability.


Posted by eagle22 on October 7th, 2015

Dwight Tobyne
died on November 24th, 2009

57yo Mr Tobyne from Arizona, USA, had three kids and two grandkids. He owned and operated a financial services company, was involved in youth sports, coaching his daughter's softball team, caddying for his son's golf tournaments and refereeing basketball games with his oldest daughter. He enjoyed bicycling, camping, snowshoeing, hunting and especially enjoyed exploring the mountains of Colorado. In November of 2009 Mr Tobyne was divorcing his wife and moving out. The night before the move, she shot him in the head, dismembered his body, scattered it around three counties, and used his email and cellphone to make their kids and family believe he was still alive. The children reported him missing in July, because, while emails kept coming, he missed Christmas with family and the birth of a grandson.


Posted by Manya on July 8th, 2016

Miranda Crockett
died on November 24th, 2012

Miranda was a 10yo girl from Oregon, USA, who lived with her dad, stepmom, and stepmom's kids. She was homeschooled, and neighbors were surprised to find out she lived there. The stepmother punished Miranda in strange ways, for example - by making her sleep in a closed box that was placed in the bathroom. On November 24th she tied the child up and placed her in an ice bath. Miranda drowned.


Posted by Manya on March 7th, 2016

Unknown date:
Dorothy Rowe

Dorothy Rowe Australian born psychologist and author.Main area of interest is depression. Dr Rowe was born during the Great Depression to an abusive mother. After leaving her faithless husband she emigrated to the UK where she has worked ever since. She has worked tirelessly in her field and has offered huge insights into the way women view themselves and how society has helped shaped that view. Through her treatment of the depressed patient she has come to reject the medical model of mental illness preferring instead to work with "personal construct theory" She believes depression is a result of beliefs that do not able a person to live comfortably with themselves or the world. She is the author of many self help books on this and other subjects.


Posted by eagle22 on October 12th, 2015

Birthday of Waris Dirie

Waris Dirie Somali model,author,actress and activist. 1997-2003 served as UN Special Ambassador for the elimination of Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) and also founded the Desert Flower Foundation to offer help to girls and to campaign for an end to this practice. At the height of her modelling career Waris was brave enough to speak of her own FGM at around aged 5. She has also spoken of fleeing an arranged marriage at 13 yo and of women's rights. She has ceaselessly campaigned for a better awareness of just how FGM harms women and girls and has written an autobiography "Desert Flower"


Posted by eagle22 on October 7th, 2015

Birthday of Kim Noble

Kim Noble British artist. From the age of 14 she spent 20 yrs in and out of hospitals until she made contact with Dr. Valerie Sinason and Dr. Rob Hale at the Tavistock and Portman Clinics. After beginning therapy in 1995 she was diagnosed with DID. As part of this therapy she developed an interest in art and although she has no formal training Kim and 13 of her personalities started painting. Her 12 artists have distinct styles and themes of their own and she and they have gone on to have many exhibitions. Kim herself has no recollection of the abuse she suffered but clearly her alter artists know. Kim has spoken about her DID via the media. Please be advised to exercise caution in viewing her art work as some may find it disturbing and triggering.


Posted by eagle22 on October 7th, 2015

The 3 MPD people

For "D"; "G"; "M"; "E"; "L"; "...."; "...."; "the farm lady" and another "...." ...you know who you are...for my uncle and young "D" who died in gun deaths...for "M" and "G" who experienced sexual & physical abuses.....and the "farm lady" next door when I was six years old who hung herself in a grainery.....I wish life hadn't been soo very hard and difficult for you all. It's still unreal that 6 of you suicided...and another was extremely questionable. So much pain and hurt...wish that I could have said or done... something/anything... that would have changed this. And off course I couldn't...all I can do...is to wish you all peace...and all others visiting that finite road to...please...just don't go there. Talk to someone until you feel heard. In gentleness and caring...Jay.


Posted by Jay on January 24th, 2014

William Taylor Wild

im sorry i didnt text u that day, i was a day late. im sorry for all you went through. i love you willy-boy. ill never forget you. hope you found what you needed. RIP


Posted by tigger on August 2nd, 2013

grandmother

You endured mental and physical abuse. Had your baby stolen from you when just 16 and your marriage annulled.Then were locked up in an asylum.We know now you were bipolar mpd.Your suffering ended when you jumped off a bridge when just 36.You tried to raise a family and just coudnt.You had a beautiful smile.Wish we could have met you.Your family will always miss you .


Posted by kailima on May 27th, 2013

A girl from my first grade

She commited suicide after our fight, we were so young, i blame myself, my dear freind live long in God's hands....


Posted by Serena (Lanfan) on December 9th, 2012

Ian (My brother)

I miss you so much. I don't know how I'm ever going to get over what you did. I will never forget the wonderful support you were to me...It just makes your suicide so much more confusing. I miss you. I love you.


Posted by Yasmine (Yazzy) on June 12th, 2012

a young woman at my college

this candle is for the woman at my school who was killed due to domestic violence.


Posted by CD on April 20th, 2012

Jimmy

As family we lost touch with you all when your dad died. With excitement we were reconnect in June 2010. It was then that we learned the news, after serving your country, the emotional toll, the roller coaster of depression became too much for you. Wish I had known, wish I could have made a difference. I trust you are at peace now.


Posted by cathyd on September 29th, 2011

Luke

I loved you so much and that night it happened...i can still see you when i close my eyes...but your not the only one who died that night. you shouldn't have let them get to you, you shouldn't have listened to them...they were wrong.


Posted by Dante on September 9th, 2011

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Posted by budafli on August 23rd, 2011

Anyone who has died at their own hands.

Love and peace to everyone who has chosen suicide. It is never the right choice. but, i truely hope you have found peace. i love you..


Posted by Jade on April 11th, 2011

David

David I hope you have a friend in Jesus and that you have found your wings, I want you to know that I am trying to lay charges on our birth parents and that they pay for what they did to all of us. I hope I can be stong so I can get the job down because I know they need to know that what they did was not right. I love you David.


Posted by L. Lee Ramey on February 17th, 2011

My Brother

I would Like to say thank- you to my Biological brother who died of a cracked skull when he was a teenager, I want to thank him for standing up for me even though he knew he was going to get hurt, I was only three but I still remember him. I am 17 now and I Know he died because of me.


Posted by Januaryhorse on December 21st, 2010

Bob

Bob you wer a graat frend an mi mis you so muschs litl thengs lwaas sem to remiind me of you liek seen you on ahoo or wen sendeen emaels owt seen yous emael adres stil in mi adres buk soemtiems mi stil ges mad that you hads go awaa liek you doeds but ofer tiems mi jus sads that mi koldnt help yous you maekeds tha dseshen to flii awaa to tha angels mi hoep you fiinlee bes at pees up thers an no loger so sads mi loev you an wil nevr forges you loev kami


Posted by Kami on December 28th, 2009

My Mom (1954-2005)

Dear Mom, I wish we could have become better friends before you took your life. I am really going through a lot of things right now and so much of it is the same as you did. I wish I could be talking to you about my problems right now because I feel so alone. I'm gonna try to make my life different though. Btw mom.. I found out I can't have children. Love Belinda


Posted by Belinda on July 26th, 2009

Jimmers

Dear Jim, you were the best big brother to me. I looked up to you in so many ways. I know you were always hurting, hun. I know. You were so intelligent and always had wonderful, positive energy and I miss your laughter and smile and brilliance in the world. I have a photo from the last time we saw each other. I wish you had loved yourself and could have seen how others truly saw you and loved you. I know you are in a better place my "jimmers , my bro". I hope you come to greet me when it's my turn to go. I love you know and always, no goodbyes, only love. Your lil sis, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009

Jill D.Kline

Jill, Jill, Jill, why hun? I'll never really comprehend the fact that you called me just before you took your life and we just had be arguing and you and I both were still upset w/ each other - I didn't know that I was the last call you made before you killed yourself at Michaels. I didnt know you called to say "goodbye forever" ... I was in the hospital when you called me and I thought we could make all amends over breakfast the next morning. You were just down the street from me and shortly after we'd hung up the phone I heard the PFD and All the Sirens go down my street to Michaels.

You came from one of the most prominent families around and had so much to offer this planet/ world. We were young then but I must say - no matter how difficult things were between us at times, my friendship and love for you never ended as it remains intact to this very day. The music you turned me onto still reminds me of you. And all the times we shared and all we did together remain crystal clear to this day in my mind. You showed me a brilliant way of life that obviously wasn't as free and without care as you made it seem.

I pray you know how much you meant to me and I still have the cd's you gave me. You were so smart, fun, intelligent and seemingly carefree - always trying to bust balls w/ your tf$ - that was hilarious. You were generous as well. It's been all this time and you are still in the forefront of my mind, obviously, to this day. God Bless you, Jill and I just know you are at peace now and I hope to see you when it is my turn in heaven. Again, there is no goodbyes, only love. Your friend forever, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009

Sandy

Dear Sweet Sandy, You took me into your home when I had no place to go and assimilated me into all aspects of your family, for that I will always be truly grateful, appreciative and thankful. I remember all our fun times together going down to SD, camping, all the holidays, you even saved MY life that one night at Dr H's. You always believed in me...honey, why did you just give up on yourself? I'm sorry if I wasn't there enough for you - if you even wanted me around then. I regret with all my heart not being able to attend your services, for that I will always regret. I love you, Sandy-mom, no goodbyes, only love, Your xtra kid, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009

My Sister, Mary Margaret Weaver

My dear sweet Mary, you never had a chance at life. You went "missing" when you were only 14 Y/O and I was 10 y/o. How I wish you knew how much I wish I could have protected you, told the authorities, stood up for you, and all I wish I had done for you and how much I love you and feel for everything I saw you endure and for all I never did see but I know of. I am so sorry I didn't / couldn't do more for you out of my own fear of my own death. I pray you don't hate me or think of me as a coward. I pray for you and think of you often and on your Birthday, Nov 4th, every year. I am so sorry...I know you are in heaven now as you are much too beautiful of a person to have been here much anyway. I will always love you. I hope you forgive me for not doing more to help you. I am truly sorry. I Love you and Miss You All The Time. 4Ever your lil sis, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009

Anjali Pease

My Dear Anjali, we were so close - why you didn't reach out to me at your time of death, I'll never know. My fear is you did and I missed it somehow due to my hectic schedule of a doc program and If I did miss all the signs/ symptoms, I truly am sorry. I miss you so... I think of you often and talk to you. I hope you are in a much better place now and not suffering anymore. I have tears as I write this about you because we were so close and at doc school they tried to bring up all our email correspondence to use against me somehow...I know if you had been around you would have never let SERC be so abusive to me. I miss your smile, your infectious laugh and brilliant humor. I miss your dear friendship and all our times together. You had so much to offer. I hope to see you when it is my turn to go to heaven. I love you now and I love you forever...there is no goodbye, Anjj, only love. Your Friend forever, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009

Steven

Sorry. I miss you, you didn't deserve to die so young, the image of your last smile is forever tattoed in my mind. 1985-1990


Posted by S. on April 25th, 2008

Alex

Your a Survivor in my eyes. Now your flying with the Angels, and peaking through the Windows of the Stars looking down on me and I know your smiling. Love you Always. RIP


Posted by S. on April 25th, 2008

Leon

My world will never be the same, though as long as you're no longer in pain... Rest in peace young man. You are you're mummies world, she adores you more then anything. You are no longer with us, we will pray you go to the one who Blessed us with you're presence, for such a short but Joyful time. I thank you for giving me so many smiles, and so many laughs. I thank you for filling my life with Joy and happiness, in times in which I needed it most. You truely are special, and will be missed. Rest In Peace, Leon J .H.


Posted by S. on April 22nd, 2008


 

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