Memorial Wall

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Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.
~George Santayana

December 29th:
Jyoti Singh Pandey (Nirbhaya)
died on December 29th, 2012

Jyoti was a 23yo girl from Delhi, India. Her dad sold his farm land and worked double shifts to give her an education, because she wanted to study and he loved her. "It never entered our hearts to ever discriminate," - he said, - "How could I be happy if my son is happy and my daughter isn't? And it was impossible to refuse a little girl who loved going to school."

On December 16th, Jyoti and her male friend saw a movie together in South Delhi, and at 9:30PM took a bus home. There were six other people on that bus, they all assaulted Jyoti and her friend, broke his ribs and knocked him unconscious, and violently beaten and raped Jyoti with a metal rod, before throwing them both on the side of the road. Jyoti fought back, leaving bite marks on all of her assailants. The friend survived, while Jyoti died a week later, after undergoing multiple surgeries to remove her inflamed intestines and reproductive organs.

The incident (commonly referred to as "the 2012 Delhi gang rape") resulted in public protests against the state and central governments for failing to provide adequate security for women. The Indian government re-evaluated its laws concerning rape prosecutions, passed multiple new laws and set up six new courts. Critics argue that the legal system remains slow to hear and prosecute rape cases, but most agree that the case has resulted in a tremendous increase in the public discussion of crimes against women and statistics show that there has been an improvement in the number of women willing to file a crime report.

Indian laws forbid disclosing rape victims' identity to the public without consent of their family, so initially Jyoti was referred to as Nirbhaya, "fearless".


Posted by Manya on October 17th, 2015

December 31st:
Virginia
died on December 31st, 2008

She was the most courageous and outgoing person I knew, and I wish I had been there more for her. She took her own life two days after my birthday.


Posted by Casey on July 17th, 2009

Laura Aceves
died on December 31st, 2012

Laura was a 21yo mother from Arkansas, USA. She worked at a Tyson Foods plant, deboning chicken. Her apartment complex manager describes her as a "very, very sweet girl". "She went to work, and came home, and took care of her son," he said, "I don't think I ever saw her without a smile."

Laura had a violent ex, Victor Acuna-Sanchez, the father of her 4 months old son. He was out on bail, awaiting trial for previous attacks on Laura, including a felony for aggravated assault. Victor was under court order to have no contact with Laura and to check in with probation by phone twice week. He followed neither order, kept threatening to kill Laura, physically assaulting her, and damaging her property. She kept calling the police, but somehow they were unable to protect her. Laura's body was found in her apartment, with a gunshot wound to her head, and her 4 months old son covered in her blood. Victor was arrested the same evening in his mom's house, hiding in the shower with a .22-caliber handgun.


Posted by Manya on February 2nd, 2016

January 3rd:
T.M.
died on January 3rd, 1999

May you rest in peace.


Posted by secretsouls on May 9th, 2008

Alexa Linboom
died on January 3rd, 2012

5yo Alexa from Tennessee, USA, stole a sip of grape soda from her stepmom on New Year's Day. For that, her dad and stepmom forced her to drink two and a half liters of soda and water over one-to-two hours. Alexa went unconscious and died in the hospital two days later. Both adults pled guilty to murder.


Posted by Manya on July 29th, 2016

January 4th:
Junko Furuta
died on January 4th, 1989

Junko was a 16yo highschool student from Tokyo, Japan. She was walking home from school when abducted by four boys roughly her age (all under 18), that she didn't know, and was raped, tortured, and mutilated for six weeks, before they killed her and disposed of the body by placing it in a 55 gallon drum filled with concrete.

They never met her before and had no grudge against her - they picked her at random, just because they could. What they did to her during those 44 days is too graphic to post here (click on her name if you want to read about it), but another disturbing part of the story is that this was happening in the home of one of the boys, with his parents present at least some of the time. They said they thought Junko was his girlfriend, and/or they were too scared of their son to say anything.



Posted by Zoe on July 28th, 2009

January 11th:
Nixzmary Brown
died on January 11th, 2006

Nicky was a 7yo girl from Brooklyn, NY, who was repeatedly beaten, molested, and tortured, and finally murdered by her stepdad, while her mom ignored it and/or participated. There were numerous reports to Child Protective services, starting from back when Nicky was 5yo. Neighbors called, and school called too, when she came to classes with a black eye. At the time CPS was "swamped" with cases and the reports weren't followed up. Nicky was kept in a locked room with a cat litter box and a chair, to which Nicky was often tied and/or duct taped. Her head was hit against a bathtub. She was molested by more than one person. On January 11th she was beaten to death for stealing a cup of yogurt. She did not take that yogurt, it was still there in the fridge, when the police arrived.

The case resulted in public outrage and a few changes in CPS administration. Specifically, 525 more social workers were hired, and a police officer is now assigned to each case, to serve as a link between law enforcement, child protective services, and school.


Posted by Manya on December 22nd, 2015

January 17th:
Cyrus Belt
died on January 17th, 2008

Cyrus was a 24-month-old boy from Hawaii. His mom was going to smoke crystal meth, so she left Cyrus with his dad and another man. That man was also high on meth, he took the baby to a three-story-high highway overpass bridge and threw him down, where Cyrus was then ran over by a delivery truck. Interestingly, his dad sued the state for failing to protect his son, because there were prior DHS reports about his mother's drug use.


Posted by Manya on February 10th, 2016

January 19th:
Chantal
died on January 19th, 2004

We didn't know each other long, but our fight was the same. Your suicide rocked me to the core. On one hand, I was so happy that you were not longer having to fight. On the other hand, I felt even more alone. I pray you have spent the last four years in peace. Miss you.


Posted by Bravehearts on January 4th, 2009

January 21st:
Malaya Faith Heun
died on January 21st, 2014

Malaya was a 15-month-old girl from North Carolina, who was beat to death. Her mom worked 18hr shifts 5-6 days a week, supporting the family, and left Malaya with her aunt. Malaya died of septic shock following blunt force trauma to the abdomen. The autopsy report listed several injuries including clavicle and rib fractures, some bruising on her head and hemorrhaging. "That was my sister. I left her with people I thought I could trust, " said Malaya's mom.


Posted by Manya on February 27th, 2016

Sirita Sotelo
died on January 21st, 2005

Sirita was a 3yo girl from Seattle, USA, whose mom was incarcerated on drug charges. Sirita was placed with foster parents who loved her. She liked to sing, dance, dress up, and used to delay her bedtime by asking to look at Mars. She could point it out in the sky because her foster dad taught her how.

A year later Sirita was removed from her foster parents and placed with her dad and stepmom. And another year later Sirita was found dead, with a fractured skull and severed liver. "My intentions were to help Sirita, never to harm her in any way," said her stepmom. "I tried so hard... but she struggled every day, never smiled. (...) I do remember that I lost it; my mind went blank," she said.

The stepmom suffered from depression, PTSD, and other mental health issues, because she was sexually abused as a teenager, and had a drug-addicted father. However, the prosecutor said, "It is inconceivable anyone could be so depressed, so angry they would commit the acts of violence that the defendant did in this case."


Posted by Manya on February 15th, 2016

January 22nd:
Chloe Siokos
died on January 22nd, 2013

80yo Mrs Siokos lived with her husband in a house in North London, UK. They didn't get along, and separated the house into two flats; Mrs Siokos lived downstairs, and her husband lived upstairs. At 6AM on January 22nd, 2013, neighbors called 999 because the house was on fire. Inside was the body of Mrs Siokos with stab wounds, and the body of her husband with no injuries apart from those caused by the fire. The police doesn't believe anyone else was involved in the crime, and that the fire was intentional because petroleum was poured over the house first. "She was a wonderful, feisty woman who was great with my children. She had many tales of when she worked in the rag trade running a clothing factory. Everyone round here liked her and she will be missed, " said one of Mrs Siokos friends.


Posted by Manya on March 7th, 2016

January 23rd:
Garnett-Paul Spears
died on January 23rd, 2014

5yo Garnett, known online as "G", was killed by his mom for attention. Since the time he was born she kept blogging about his various illnesses, posting photos and prayer requests on social media, receiving sympathy as a single mother of a disabled child. Finally she filled his feeding bag with a lethal amount of salt, and kept blogging about her hardship as the boy was dying. "Throughout his five years, Garnett Spears was forced to suffer through repeated hospitalizations, unneeded surgical procedures and ultimately poisoning with salt, all at the hands of the one person who should have been his ultimate protector: his mother," said the District Attorney after the mother was convicted of second degree murder. "Using the child's 'illnesses' to self aggrandize herself, her actions directly lead to her son's tortured death," the prosecutor said.


Posted by Manya on July 8th, 2016

Unknown date:
Dorothy Rowe

Dorothy Rowe Australian born psychologist and author.Main area of interest is depression. Dr Rowe was born during the Great Depression to an abusive mother. After leaving her faithless husband she emigrated to the UK where she has worked ever since. She has worked tirelessly in her field and has offered huge insights into the way women view themselves and how society has helped shaped that view. Through her treatment of the depressed patient she has come to reject the medical model of mental illness preferring instead to work with "personal construct theory" She believes depression is a result of beliefs that do not able a person to live comfortably with themselves or the world. She is the author of many self help books on this and other subjects.


Posted by eagle22 on October 12th, 2015

Birthday of Waris Dirie

Waris Dirie Somali model,author,actress and activist. 1997-2003 served as UN Special Ambassador for the elimination of Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) and also founded the Desert Flower Foundation to offer help to girls and to campaign for an end to this practice. At the height of her modelling career Waris was brave enough to speak of her own FGM at around aged 5. She has also spoken of fleeing an arranged marriage at 13 yo and of women's rights. She has ceaselessly campaigned for a better awareness of just how FGM harms women and girls and has written an autobiography "Desert Flower"


Posted by eagle22 on October 7th, 2015

Birthday of Kim Noble

Kim Noble British artist. From the age of 14 she spent 20 yrs in and out of hospitals until she made contact with Dr. Valerie Sinason and Dr. Rob Hale at the Tavistock and Portman Clinics. After beginning therapy in 1995 she was diagnosed with DID. As part of this therapy she developed an interest in art and although she has no formal training Kim and 13 of her personalities started painting. Her 12 artists have distinct styles and themes of their own and she and they have gone on to have many exhibitions. Kim herself has no recollection of the abuse she suffered but clearly her alter artists know. Kim has spoken about her DID via the media. Please be advised to exercise caution in viewing her art work as some may find it disturbing and triggering.


Posted by eagle22 on October 7th, 2015

The 3 MPD people

For "D"; "G"; "M"; "E"; "L"; "...."; "...."; "the farm lady" and another "...." ...you know who you are...for my uncle and young "D" who died in gun deaths...for "M" and "G" who experienced sexual & physical abuses.....and the "farm lady" next door when I was six years old who hung herself in a grainery.....I wish life hadn't been soo very hard and difficult for you all. It's still unreal that 6 of you suicided...and another was extremely questionable. So much pain and hurt...wish that I could have said or done... something/anything... that would have changed this. And off course I couldn't...all I can do...is to wish you all peace...and all others visiting that finite road to...please...just don't go there. Talk to someone until you feel heard. In gentleness and caring...Jay.


Posted by Jay on January 24th, 2014

William Taylor Wild

im sorry i didnt text u that day, i was a day late. im sorry for all you went through. i love you willy-boy. ill never forget you. hope you found what you needed. RIP


Posted by tigger on August 2nd, 2013

grandmother

You endured mental and physical abuse. Had your baby stolen from you when just 16 and your marriage annulled.Then were locked up in an asylum.We know now you were bipolar mpd.Your suffering ended when you jumped off a bridge when just 36.You tried to raise a family and just coudnt.You had a beautiful smile.Wish we could have met you.Your family will always miss you .


Posted by kailima on May 27th, 2013

A girl from my first grade

She commited suicide after our fight, we were so young, i blame myself, my dear freind live long in God's hands....


Posted by Serena (Lanfan) on December 9th, 2012

Ian (My brother)

I miss you so much. I don't know how I'm ever going to get over what you did. I will never forget the wonderful support you were to me...It just makes your suicide so much more confusing. I miss you. I love you.


Posted by Yasmine (Yazzy) on June 12th, 2012

a young woman at my college

this candle is for the woman at my school who was killed due to domestic violence.


Posted by CD on April 20th, 2012

Jimmy

As family we lost touch with you all when your dad died. With excitement we were reconnect in June 2010. It was then that we learned the news, after serving your country, the emotional toll, the roller coaster of depression became too much for you. Wish I had known, wish I could have made a difference. I trust you are at peace now.


Posted by cathyd on September 29th, 2011

Luke

I loved you so much and that night it happened...i can still see you when i close my eyes...but your not the only one who died that night. you shouldn't have let them get to you, you shouldn't have listened to them...they were wrong.


Posted by Dante on September 9th, 2011

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Posted by budafli on August 23rd, 2011

Anyone who has died at their own hands.

Love and peace to everyone who has chosen suicide. It is never the right choice. but, i truely hope you have found peace. i love you..


Posted by Jade on April 11th, 2011

David

David I hope you have a friend in Jesus and that you have found your wings, I want you to know that I am trying to lay charges on our birth parents and that they pay for what they did to all of us. I hope I can be stong so I can get the job down because I know they need to know that what they did was not right. I love you David.


Posted by L. Lee Ramey on February 17th, 2011

My Brother

I would Like to say thank- you to my Biological brother who died of a cracked skull when he was a teenager, I want to thank him for standing up for me even though he knew he was going to get hurt, I was only three but I still remember him. I am 17 now and I Know he died because of me.


Posted by Januaryhorse on December 21st, 2010

Bob

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Posted by Kami on December 28th, 2009

My Mom (1954-2005)

Dear Mom, I wish we could have become better friends before you took your life. I am really going through a lot of things right now and so much of it is the same as you did. I wish I could be talking to you about my problems right now because I feel so alone. I'm gonna try to make my life different though. Btw mom.. I found out I can't have children. Love Belinda


Posted by Belinda on July 26th, 2009

Jimmers

Dear Jim, you were the best big brother to me. I looked up to you in so many ways. I know you were always hurting, hun. I know. You were so intelligent and always had wonderful, positive energy and I miss your laughter and smile and brilliance in the world. I have a photo from the last time we saw each other. I wish you had loved yourself and could have seen how others truly saw you and loved you. I know you are in a better place my "jimmers , my bro". I hope you come to greet me when it's my turn to go. I love you know and always, no goodbyes, only love. Your lil sis, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009

Jill D.Kline

Jill, Jill, Jill, why hun? I'll never really comprehend the fact that you called me just before you took your life and we just had be arguing and you and I both were still upset w/ each other - I didn't know that I was the last call you made before you killed yourself at Michaels. I didnt know you called to say "goodbye forever" ... I was in the hospital when you called me and I thought we could make all amends over breakfast the next morning. You were just down the street from me and shortly after we'd hung up the phone I heard the PFD and All the Sirens go down my street to Michaels.

You came from one of the most prominent families around and had so much to offer this planet/ world. We were young then but I must say - no matter how difficult things were between us at times, my friendship and love for you never ended as it remains intact to this very day. The music you turned me onto still reminds me of you. And all the times we shared and all we did together remain crystal clear to this day in my mind. You showed me a brilliant way of life that obviously wasn't as free and without care as you made it seem.

I pray you know how much you meant to me and I still have the cd's you gave me. You were so smart, fun, intelligent and seemingly carefree - always trying to bust balls w/ your tf$ - that was hilarious. You were generous as well. It's been all this time and you are still in the forefront of my mind, obviously, to this day. God Bless you, Jill and I just know you are at peace now and I hope to see you when it is my turn in heaven. Again, there is no goodbyes, only love. Your friend forever, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009

Sandy

Dear Sweet Sandy, You took me into your home when I had no place to go and assimilated me into all aspects of your family, for that I will always be truly grateful, appreciative and thankful. I remember all our fun times together going down to SD, camping, all the holidays, you even saved MY life that one night at Dr H's. You always believed in me...honey, why did you just give up on yourself? I'm sorry if I wasn't there enough for you - if you even wanted me around then. I regret with all my heart not being able to attend your services, for that I will always regret. I love you, Sandy-mom, no goodbyes, only love, Your xtra kid, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009

My Sister, Mary Margaret Weaver

My dear sweet Mary, you never had a chance at life. You went "missing" when you were only 14 Y/O and I was 10 y/o. How I wish you knew how much I wish I could have protected you, told the authorities, stood up for you, and all I wish I had done for you and how much I love you and feel for everything I saw you endure and for all I never did see but I know of. I am so sorry I didn't / couldn't do more for you out of my own fear of my own death. I pray you don't hate me or think of me as a coward. I pray for you and think of you often and on your Birthday, Nov 4th, every year. I am so sorry...I know you are in heaven now as you are much too beautiful of a person to have been here much anyway. I will always love you. I hope you forgive me for not doing more to help you. I am truly sorry. I Love you and Miss You All The Time. 4Ever your lil sis, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009

Anjali Pease

My Dear Anjali, we were so close - why you didn't reach out to me at your time of death, I'll never know. My fear is you did and I missed it somehow due to my hectic schedule of a doc program and If I did miss all the signs/ symptoms, I truly am sorry. I miss you so... I think of you often and talk to you. I hope you are in a much better place now and not suffering anymore. I have tears as I write this about you because we were so close and at doc school they tried to bring up all our email correspondence to use against me somehow...I know if you had been around you would have never let SERC be so abusive to me. I miss your smile, your infectious laugh and brilliant humor. I miss your dear friendship and all our times together. You had so much to offer. I hope to see you when it is my turn to go to heaven. I love you now and I love you forever...there is no goodbye, Anjj, only love. Your Friend forever, Millie


Posted by Millie on March 30th, 2009

Steven

Sorry. I miss you, you didn't deserve to die so young, the image of your last smile is forever tattoed in my mind. 1985-1990


Posted by S. on April 25th, 2008

Alex

Your a Survivor in my eyes. Now your flying with the Angels, and peaking through the Windows of the Stars looking down on me and I know your smiling. Love you Always. RIP


Posted by S. on April 25th, 2008

Leon

My world will never be the same, though as long as you're no longer in pain... Rest in peace young man. You are you're mummies world, she adores you more then anything. You are no longer with us, we will pray you go to the one who Blessed us with you're presence, for such a short but Joyful time. I thank you for giving me so many smiles, and so many laughs. I thank you for filling my life with Joy and happiness, in times in which I needed it most. You truely are special, and will be missed. Rest In Peace, Leon J .H.


Posted by S. on April 22nd, 2008


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