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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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November 22nd:
Ivy Atkin
died on November 22nd, 2012

86yo Ivy Atkin from Nottinghamshire, UK, died as a result of abuse in the carehome she was placed in for only 48 days. Lead investigator said, "Sherwood Rise Ltd took on responsibility for a number of elderly people who should be well cared for and should be trusted to look after them. This is not a case where they, and the director and manager Mohammed Khan, have let standards slip slightly. Standards were almost non-existent. As far as Ivy Atkin was concerned, there were appalling failures to provide her with the care she deserved. She spent 48 days inside that care home and during that time her health plummeted. When she was eventually rescued - and that's the word we have used throughout the investigation - she was emaciated, she was dehydrated, she was malnourished and she had the most horrific bed sore to the lower part of her back which had plainly not been cared for. It is right that people have been brought to justice over her death and this case shows that the care of the elderly and vulnerable is not something that people should take lightly." Ivy Atkin's case was, nationally, the first conviction of corporate manslaughter and gross negligence manslaughter together.


Posted by Manya on March 5th, 2016
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November 23rd:
Athena Angeles
died on November 23rd, 2011

3yo Athena from Connecticut, USA, was living with her mom, older sister, and mom's boyfriend. In October the man punched Athena in the face because she refused to eat. A family advocate from her preschool was making a home visit on October 18th and noted that her eyes "were both black, and her face was so swollen that Athena could barely open her eyes". In November Athena had to go to a hospital to get staples for cuts on her head that her mom's boyfriend inflicted. And when Athena was discharged, he punched her in the stomach, which resulted in internal bleeding that led to her death.


Posted by Manya on March 7th, 2016
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November 24th:
Andrea Ruth
died on November 24th, 2012

12yo Andrea from Tennessee, USA, died of infected bedsores and gangrene. She had special needs, a history of asthma, hypertension and obesity. Andrea was scheduled to have her legs amputated because of the gangrene, but the family missed that and apparently all subsequent medical appointments. At the time of the Andrea's death paramedics reported that the girl's sores were so advanced that bones in her toes were visible. Her father was convicted of criminally negligent homicide and aggravated child neglect. Her mother and a health care worker were charged with her first-degree murder.


Posted by Jane on June 15th, 2018
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Miranda Crockett
died on November 24th, 2012

Miranda was a 10yo girl from Oregon, USA, who lived with her dad, stepmom, and stepmom's kids. She was homeschooled, and neighbors were surprised to find out she lived there. The stepmother punished Miranda in strange ways, for example - by making her sleep in a closed box that was placed in the bathroom. On November 24th she tied the child up and placed her in an ice bath. Miranda drowned.


Posted by Manya on March 7th, 2016
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Dwight Tobyne
died on November 24th, 2009

57yo Mr Tobyne from Arizona, USA, had three kids and two grandkids. He owned and operated a financial services company, was involved in youth sports, coaching his daughter's softball team, caddying for his son's golf tournaments and refereeing basketball games with his oldest daughter. He enjoyed bicycling, camping, snowshoeing, hunting and especially enjoyed exploring the mountains of Colorado. In November of 2009 Mr Tobyne was divorcing his wife and moving out. The night before the move, she shot him in the head, dismembered his body, scattered it around three counties, and used his email and cellphone to make their kids and family believe he was still alive. The children reported him missing in July, because, while emails kept coming, he missed Christmas with family and the birth of a grandson.


Posted by Manya on July 8th, 2016
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November 25th:
Adrian Jones
died on November 25th, 2015

7yo Adrian from Kansas, USA, lived with his dad, stepmom, and 7 sisters. All the children were homeschooled, and the police is investigating allegations of physical abuse, neglect, unsanitary conditions, food deprivation, and torture (Adrian was forced to stand in stress positions for hours at a time). The boy disappeared sometime in September but the police only learned of it when they came to the house because of an unrelated domestic violence call. They believe Adrian's body was fed to pigs the couple purchased around the time of his disappearance. The parents were charged with murder, the surviving children were removed from the house.

"He was so sweet, and these big eyes just filled with wonderment, very inquisitive and begged, begged for love and attention," Adrian's nanny said.


Posted by Manya on July 8th, 2016
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Christopher Valdez
died on November 25th, 2011

4yo Christopher from Chicago, USA, was a happy, appealing boy, who loved Spiderman, according to his grandpa. "He also had this little rabbit that he would squeeze and it would sing a song. He would walk around with it all day," the grandpa said. Christopher lived with his mom and mom's boyfriend, and attended a Thanksgiving family dinner with a black eye covered with concealer, wearing a hoodie, and not eating. The family notified police of suspected child abuse, meanwhile preparing for Christopher's birthday party, with a cake and presents. Police found the boy dead, he was beaten to death on his 4th birthday.


Posted by Manya on July 8th, 2016
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Marie-France Comeau
died on November 25th, 2009

37yo Mrs Comeau from Canada was a corporal in the Canadian Forces and a flight attendant with the 437 transport squadron at CFB Trenton. "She was a fun person who loved life and seemed to find the best about everything she did," according to her friends and coworkers. "She was an absolutely beautiful person and friend. She was always so happy and positive... Her smile will forever live on in the hearts of those who knew her and were lucky enough to call her a friend."

Mrs Comeau was raped and murdered by a Canadian Forces colonel. As commander, he had access to her personal information including schedule, phone number, etc. He once broke into her house while she was on a trip and took pictures of himself while posing in her underwear. On November 25th he broke into her house again, concealed himself near the furnace area, and waited for Mrs Comeau to go to bed. However, she noticed him because her cat was standing next to him and staring. Mrs Comeau tried to escape, and he brutally raped, tortured, and murdered her.


Posted by Manya on June 25th, 2018
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November 26th:
Devon Wade
died on November 26th, 2017

29yo Devone from Texas, USA, was raised by his grandparents because both his mom and dad were in prison. While a high school student, Devone enrolled in No More Victims, a program for young people whose parents are incarcerated. He eventually became an honors graduate at Louisiana State University, a Harry S. Truman scholar and then a doctoral student at Columbia in New York City, studying sociology. On November 26th Devone was shot to death by his boyfriend during a domestic dispute. "Devon Wade was a force, an angel amongst men. He was a gentle spirit, who generated electricity in all spaces he dwelled," said Jeffrey McCune of Washington University in St. Louis, a mentor and friend to Wade. "His life’s work, examining the impact of incarcerated parents on children, was to be a shape-shifter to the sociology of education. He is sorely missed."


Posted by Manya on June 30th
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Naomi Hill
died on November 26th, 2007

4yo Naomi from Wales, UK, was drowned by her mom, Joanne, in a bathtub. Naomi had mild cerebral palsy, and Joanne said she was ashamed of her daughter's disability. Joanne was having mental health issues since she was 17, but her treatment was discontinued three months prior to Naomi's death because NHS felt she didn't need it any longer. Naomi's dad said, "Joanne is a non-swimmer with a fear of water. To be held under water is her biggest fear. What she did to my princess Naomi was evil. There's not a minute that goes by without me wishing that [Naomi] was still here. She was my constant companion, she was my best friend, she was my little princess.".


Posted by Manya on March 5th, 2016
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November 27th:
Eleanore Tibble
died on November 27th, 2000

Eleanore joined Australian Defence Force as a cadet when she was 14. She was sexually abused by her superior officer (30yo guy), and told to either resign or get dishonorably discharged. On November 12th a wing commander decided that she should not be charged with fraternization - but nobody updated 15yo Eleanore on this decision. Two weeks later she committed suicide. Her mom said, "Not a day goes by that I don't think about my daughter and the abject waste of her life. She died probably thinking she was doing something honourable, saving her family the shame of a dishonourable discharge."


Posted by Manya on July 5th, 2016
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November 28th:
Conner Conley
died on November 28th, 2009

10yo Conner from Indiana, USA, was killed by his 17yo brother who wanted to be like Dexter, a fictional serial killer from a TV show. He choked Conner, dragged him into the kitchen unconscious, strangled him there for 20 minutes, and then wrapped Conner's head in two plastic bags and sealed them with electrical tape. Conner might have been alive at that point. The brother then put him in his truck, drove to his girlfriends house, and they watched a movie about a man on death row for murdering a child. Here's how he explained what happened: "Like I had to… like when people have something like they are hungry and there is a hamburger sitting there and they knew they had to have it and I was sitting there and it just happened." The teen was obviously mentally unwell, and yet the parents were comfortable leaving the 10yo alone with him. Moreover, when he dumped Conner's body in the fields, he explained to the parents that Conner is visiting with grandparents and will be spending the night - and the parents didn't think to double-check.


Posted by Manya on June 26th, 2016
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November 29th:
Trevion Winningham
died on November 29th, 2016

7yo Trevion from Arkansas, USA, and his 9yo brother were staying with their mom's cousin and another woman she shared household with. The brothers were malnourished and regularly tied up and severely beaten with extension cords, belts, and shoes. When other children in the house were allowed to have something to eat, the brothers were told "you can't have crap." Trevion died of severe malnutrition and injuries "too numerous to count" according to medical examiner. "These children, these babies almost didn't even look human," said the judge, while comparing them to the Holocaust victims. "This is not me, I am not a monster," the defendant said. "I'm not a criminal, I don't have a criminal record, I'm not messed up in the head. I got plenty of sense, sir."


Posted by Manya on June 16th, 2018
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November 30th:
Roderick RJ Arrington, Jr
died on November 30th, 2012

RJ was a 7yo boy from Las Vegas beaten to death by his parents, Dina and Markiece Palmer, because he didn't finish his homework and lied about reading the Bible. Investigators said that his mom "stood by and let her husband" shake and beat RJ to death. When admitted to the hospital, he had extensive bruising and abrasions all over his body, from previous beatings (some of which were inflicted by his mom as well), and brain swelling. RJ died the following afternoon.


Posted by Manya on December 4th, 2015
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Jeffrey Baldwin
died on November 30th, 2002

Jeffrey was a 5yo boy from Toronto, Canada who died of neglect. There's a bronze statue in Greenwood Park, Toronto depicting Jeffrey dressed as Superman, a superhero he loved. When he was 1yo, his parents lost custody due to allegations of abuse, and he and his older sister went to live with their grandparents.

According to later court testimony, Jeffrey and his sister were kept in a locked room at night with furnace vents shut, and when released were forced to eat with their hands from a mat on the floor. The boyfriend of Jeffrey's aunt who also lived in the house, declared that Jeffrey's grandmother did not love him or his sister, and that they were purely a "dollars and cents" matter, as his grandparents received social assistance for their care.

Jeffrey was covered in sores, bruises, and cuts, and died of septic shock. His weight at death was slightly less than his weight at his first birthday, almost five years earlier.


Posted by Manya on April 19th, 2012
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December 1st:
Dione Payne
died on December 1st, 2013

16yo Dione from Ohio, USA, was raped and beaten to death by two full-grown men. He used to deal drugs, they were addicts, and wanted his stash. After a lot of beating they found $260 and some cocaine, got high, but believed Dione must have had more, so they beat him more. At 10:30AM on the next morning they dropped Dione off at a hospital, where he passed away.


Posted by Jane on June 15th, 2018
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