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This Memorial Wall is our tributes to those who have died as a result of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, religious abuse, or other types of abuse. Some of these people we knew personally, others we only heard of. Abuse is not a theoretical concept, it happens to real people, and costs lives. It's important to honor those we lost to abuse by telling their stories, so that the secret that killed them does not remain secret, and so that other lives might be saved, as a result of increased awareness.
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January 19th:
Laura Ashley Skinner
died on January 19th, 1987

3yo Laura from Ohio, USA, lived with her mom and mom's boyfriend. Mom worked two jobs, and the boyfriend was babysitting Laura. She was raped, sodomized, and battered to death. The boyfriend was sentenced to 12 years in prison for involuntary manslaughter; rape was never prosecuted. There's a bench in Antrim Park, in Columbus, Ohio, with a plaque in memory of Laura, with this quote from a song by Martina McBride, Concrete Angel:

A statue stands in a shaded place
An angel girl with an upturned face
A name is written on a polished rock
A broken heart that the world forgot

Through the wind and the rain
She stands hard as a stone
In a world that she can't rise above
But her dreams give her wings
And she flies to a place where she's loved


Posted by Manya on January 18th, 2018
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Chantal
died on January 19th, 2004

We didn't know each other long, but our fight was the same. Your suicide rocked me to the core. On one hand, I was so happy that you were not longer having to fight. On the other hand, I felt even more alone. I pray you have spent the last four years in peace. Miss you.


Posted by Bravehearts on January 4th, 2009
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January 20th:
Chloe Valentine
died on January 20th, 2012

4yo Chloe from Australia lived with her mom and mom's boyfriend. Mom had a problem with methamphetamine addiction, the house was unsanitary, Chloe witnessed domestic violence, and was often left unsupervised. Child protective services received 22 reports. Chloe's grandma wanted to take custody of her: her mom would drop her off at grandma's house for a few hours and not pick her up for a few days. "It was really hard knowing I had to give her back because I didn't know if she was going to come back the same way," said another woman who cared for Chloe while her mom was drinking. Yet Child Protective Services found no grounds for removal of the child from her mom's custody. Chloe died because she was forced to ride (and repeatedly crash) a motorbike, while her mom and mom's boyfriend were filming it. They only called for ambulance when Chloe stopped breathing, and left the hospital as soon as her life support was turned off, before she died. Chloe's grandma said in her victim impact statement, "They say people look peaceful in death. Chloe didn't. She looked battered and bruised and alone."


Posted by Manya on January 19th, 2018
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January 21st:
Malaya Faith Heun
died on January 21st, 2014

Malaya was a 15-month-old girl from North Carolina, who was beat to death. Her mom worked 18hr shifts 5-6 days a week, supporting the family, and left Malaya with her aunt. Malaya died of septic shock following blunt force trauma to the abdomen. The autopsy report listed several injuries including clavicle and rib fractures, some bruising on her head and hemorrhaging. "That was my sister. I left her with people I thought I could trust, " said Malaya's mom.


Posted by Manya on February 27th, 2016
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Sirita Sotelo
died on January 21st, 2005

Sirita was a 3yo girl from Seattle, USA, whose mom was incarcerated on drug charges. Sirita was placed with foster parents who loved her. She liked to sing, dance, dress up, and used to delay her bedtime by asking to look at Mars. She could point it out in the sky because her foster dad taught her how.

A year later Sirita was removed from her foster parents and placed with her dad and stepmom. And another year later Sirita was found dead, with a fractured skull and severed liver. "My intentions were to help Sirita, never to harm her in any way," said her stepmom. "I tried so hard... but she struggled every day, never smiled. (...) I do remember that I lost it; my mind went blank," she said.

The stepmom suffered from depression, PTSD, and other mental health issues, because she was sexually abused as a teenager, and had a drug-addicted father. However, the prosecutor said, "It is inconceivable anyone could be so depressed, so angry they would commit the acts of violence that the defendant did in this case."


Posted by Manya on February 15th, 2016
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January 22nd:
Chloe Siokos
died on January 22nd, 2013

80yo Mrs Siokos lived with her husband in a house in North London, UK. They didn't get along, and separated the house into two flats; Mrs Siokos lived downstairs, and her husband lived upstairs. At 6AM on January 22nd, 2013, neighbors called 999 because the house was on fire. Inside was the body of Mrs Siokos with stab wounds, and the body of her husband with no injuries apart from those caused by the fire. The police doesn't believe anyone else was involved in the crime, and that the fire was intentional because petroleum was poured over the house first. "She was a wonderful, feisty woman who was great with my children. She had many tales of when she worked in the rag trade running a clothing factory. Everyone round here liked her and she will be missed, " said one of Mrs Siokos friends.


Posted by Manya on March 7th, 2016
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January 23rd:
Garnett-Paul Spears
died on January 23rd, 2014

5yo Garnett, known online as "G", was killed by his mom for attention. Since the time he was born she kept blogging about his various illnesses, posting photos and prayer requests on social media, receiving sympathy as a single mother of a disabled child. Finally she filled his feeding bag with a lethal amount of salt, and kept blogging about her hardship as the boy was dying. "Throughout his five years, Garnett Spears was forced to suffer through repeated hospitalizations, unneeded surgical procedures and ultimately poisoning with salt, all at the hands of the one person who should have been his ultimate protector: his mother," said the District Attorney after the mother was convicted of second degree murder. "Using the child's 'illnesses' to self aggrandize herself, her actions directly lead to her son's tortured death," the prosecutor said.


Posted by Manya on July 8th, 2016
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January 24th:
Ahmad King
died on January 24th, 2006

3yo Ahmad from Georgia was killed by his foster mom. Apparently, he fought with his sister, foster mom sent him to his room, and he called her a name. For that she beat him with a belt (with a buckle) and a 2ft pipe. Ahmad died of multiple blunt force trauma. The woman said she didn't mean for that to happen, panicked, dumped his body in the woods, went to a local Walmart, and told the police that someone kidnapped Ahmad from her car while she was getting a shopping cart. She was sentenced to life in prison for the murder of Ahmad, and 20 years for beating his foster sister too.


Posted by Manya on January 19th, 2018
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January 25th:
Anshu Singh
died on January 25th, 2010

Anshu was the middle girl among three sisters. She was bright, ambitious, and well educated. At the time of her murder she was working for a multi-national corporation in Delhi. She had met her husband through work, and they had been dating for 3 years before they got married. Initially there was some objection to their getting married from the man’s family because they were from different communities. But Anshu’s father said, “If the two of them are in love, why should we come in the way?” Leading up to Anshu's death (carried out at the behest of her in-laws and husband they had been putting pressure on her and her family to provide money by way of a dowry. And Anusha felt increasingly trapped and unhappy. When Anshu's husband called her father and informed him that she was unwell and may have fainted. Mr. Singh came right away and he knew immediately that she had been dead for quite some time. The Singh family was shocked. Their daughter had been married for barely a month! A traumatized Mr. Singh says, “It all happened so fast. Only 45 days that she was married and she was gone. We never thought something like this can happen to us. Anshu was a young, bright, modern girl with so many dreams. She was intelligent and strong. I don’t think even she ever thought that something like this can happen to her.”


Posted by Jane on June 17th, 2018
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January 26th:
Marilyn Gandert
died on January 26th, 2018

Marilyn Gandert’s burned body was discovered on January 27th on the mesa west of Rio Rancho. Marilyn a beloved postal worker had been renting her home on Taylor Ridge Rd to her daughter in law, Alissa Bickett, grandson, Drake Bickett and their roommate Annie Rael, police said and had evicted all three occupants on January 23rd, 2018. Investigations believe Bickett and Rael killed Marilyn inside the rental home on January 26th and then transported her body to Rio Rancho where they set her on fire.


Posted by Jane on June 29th, 2018
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January 27th:
Van Breda Family
died on January 27th, 2015

On 27 January 2015, a brutal murder occurred in the van Breda family home. It is alleged that the youngest son, Henri, of the van Breda family killed his parents, Martin and Teresa, and his brother, Rudi, with an axe. His younger sister was critically injured as well, but did survive the attack. Since 2015 it has been proved that Henri was addicted to drugs and has since been rehabilitated. The case is still ongoing and he has not yet been proven guilty. The van Breda family was a very kind family and did not deserve the brutal killing they had to endure. My heart goes out to Marli van Breda and I hope justice is served.


Posted by Anon on February 3rd, 2017
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January 28th:
Lareeb Khan
died on January 28th, 2015

Lareeb, a 19yo dental technician from Germany, was a victim of honour killing. Her mom said, "Lareeb stayed away from the home for several nights in a row and stopped wearing the headscarf. One day we received a letter from the police saying she had been caught trying to steal condoms. At this point it became clear that there was sexual contact. When I showed the letter to my husband he snapped." Lareeb was grounded and beaten, but continued seeing her boyfriend. One night her father strangled her to death with his bare hands. The judge said, "You lived in two cultural worlds. It is not the case that you may not be allowed to live in your own culture. But you must also deal with our values."


Posted by Manya on July 5th, 2016
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T.J
died on January 28th, 2011

We spent grade ten art class together, we sat at the same table, we talked and were friends. Words cannot express how tragic it was when you went missing, and no one expected that it would end this way. I mean, people go missing and show up just fine in this town all the time, right? I had to leave the town, I couldn't stand going pas that place they found you, such a well known place, it just blows my mind. RIP


Posted by S on November 13th, 2013
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