Memorial Wall

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Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.
~George Santayana

November 28th:
Conner Conley
died on November 28th, 2009

10yo Conner from Indiana, USA, was killed by his 17yo brother who wanted to be like Dexter, a fictional serial killer from a TV show. He choked Conner, dragged him into the kitchen unconscious, strangled him there for 20 minutes, and then wrapped Conner's head in two plastic bags and sealed them with electrical tape. Conner might have been alive at that point. The brother then put him in his truck, drove to his girlfriends house, and they watched a movie about a man on death row for murdering a child. Here's how he explained what happened: "Like I had to… like when people have something like they are hungry and there is a hamburger sitting there and they knew they had to have it and I was sitting there and it just happened." The teen was obviously mentally unwell, and yet the parents were comfortable leaving the 10yo alone with him. Moreover, when he dumped Conner's body in the fields, he explained to the parents that Conner is visiting with grandparents and will be spending the night - and the parents didn't think to double-check.


Posted by Manya on June 26th, 2016

November 30th:
Roderick RJ Arrington, Jr
died on November 30th, 2012

RJ was a 7yo boy from Las Vegas beaten to death by his parents, Dina and Markiece Palmer, because he didn't finish his homework and lied about reading the Bible. Investigators said that his mom "stood by and let her husband" shake and beat RJ to death. When admitted to the hospital, he had extensive bruising and abrasions all over his body, from previous beatings (some of which were inflicted by his mom as well), and brain swelling. RJ died the following afternoon.


Posted by Manya on December 4th, 2015

Jeffrey Baldwin
died on November 30th, 2002

Jeffrey was a 5yo boy from Toronto, Canada who died of neglect. There's a bronze statue in Greenwood Park, Toronto depicting Jeffrey dressed as Superman, a superhero he loved. When he was 1yo, his parents lost custody due to allegations of abuse, and he and his older sister went to live with their grandparents.

According to later court testimony, Jeffrey and his sister were kept in a locked room at night with furnace vents shut, and when released were forced to eat with their hands from a mat on the floor. The boyfriend of Jeffrey's aunt who also lived in the house, declared that Jeffrey's grandmother did not love him or his sister, and that they were purely a "dollars and cents" matter, as his grandparents received social assistance for their care.

Jeffrey was covered in sores, bruises, and cuts, and died of septic shock. His weight at death was slightly less than his weight at his first birthday, almost five years earlier.


Posted by Manya on April 19th, 2012

December 3rd:
Birthday of Ozzy Osbourne
born on December 3rd, 1948

John Michael "Ozzy" Osbourne. English singer,songerwriter and TV Personality and lead singer with Black Sabbath. Ozzy was born in Birmingham,England. Throughout his childhood he struggled with dyslexia,attention deficit disorder snd various learning disabilities. In an interview with The Daily Mirror he would say he had been sexually abused as a school boy. He told of how "two boys used to wait for me to come home from school.The felt me and touched me.It became a regular thing on the way home from school..it seemed to go on forever.." His personal life is well documented as is his drug and alcohol abuse.He has often commented on being puzzled how he has managed to survive 40 yrs of this abuse and gives credit to his wife Sharon for trying to help him overcome it. He has received numerous accolades including a Grammy Award,and being in the UK Music Hall of Fame.


Posted by eagle22 on October 9th, 2015

Ronin Shimizu
died on December 3rd, 2014

Ronin was a 12yo boy from California who committed suicide because he was bullied for being the only male cheerleader on the team. Here's the statement of his parents:

The tragic loss of our son has and will forever change our life. The love and support that we received from family, friends and the Folsom community has been immeasurable and words cannot begin to express our gratitude through this most difficult grieving process. The people close to our family know exactly who Ronin was, but since the story of this tragedy has spread worldwide, we want to take a minute to let the world know who he was. Ronin was one of the most loving, compassionate, empathetic, artistic and funny kids to grace this earth. Ronin was a child who was not afraid to follow his heart, and we as his parents did everything in our power to allow him to pursue his passions, while protecting him from the minority that could not understand the specialness he possessed. As you already know, Ronin loved to do Cheer, but he also loved art, fashion, being a Scout and most recently crew/rowing. It is true that because of his specialness, Ronin was a target of bullying by individuals that could not understand or accept his uniqueness. Ronin was not just a target of bullying because of his participation in cheer, but for him just being Ronin. We as his parents always knew that he would make an impact on the world, we just thought it would be in something like fashion design or art related. We had no idea that God and Buddha had a more important role for him, and we as his parents will make it our mission in life to turn this tragedy into something positive and hopefully prevent another senseless tragedy. In closing, please remember that education in regards to bullying prevention does not only need to occur in our schools but also in the home.

Thank you,
Brandon and Danielle Shimizu


Posted by Manya on February 27th, 2016

December 5th:
Nelson Mandela
died on December 5th, 2013

Nelson Mandela was a black South African anti-apartheid activist and later politician who became the first black President of South Africa (1994-1999). In 1962 he was convicted of the conspiracy to overthrow the state and sentenced to 27 yrs in prison. He served this sentence in Robbin Island and then later in Polismoor prison and Victor Verster prison. After an international campaign he was released in 1990 and so began his rise in public political life .

Mandela faced huge hardships during his years in prison. He suffered a brutal regime in prison,and experienced near starvation during those apartheid years.


Posted by eagle22 on September 29th, 2015

December 8th:
Birthday of Teri Hatcher
born on December 8th, 1964

Teri Hatcher American actress and writer,best known for "Desperate housewives". In March 2006 she revealed in an interview with Vanity fair that she had been sexually abused from the age of 7 by an uncle in marriage. In 2002 she had assisted Santa Clara county prosecutors with their indictment of the man for a more recent molestation that had led to his female victim to commit suicide at the age of 14. Hatcher said she had told the prosecutors about her own abuse because she was haunted by the thought of the 14 yo girl who had shot herself,and she feared the abuser would escape conviction.He went on to plead 4 counts of child molestation and was sentenced to 14 years in prison. Teri Hatcher has received many awards including a Golden Globe Award, 3 Screen Actor Guild Awards and a Primetime Emmy.


Posted by eagle22 on October 10th, 2015

December 10th:
Aqsa (Axa) Parvez
died on December 10th, 2007

Axa was a 16yo girl from Canada who didn't want to wear hijab. She was a teenager, wanted to look like everybody else, and women in hijabs sometimes get looks, especially after the 911 attacks. Axa was from a Muslim family of Pakistani origin, and her dad wanted her to wear hijab while outside. According to friends, she sometimes would change her clothing once she got to school, and then change back before going home. There was tension in the family, and a week before her murder Axa moved in with another family in the neighborhood. Around 8AM on December 10th, her father called 911 and said he had just killed his daughter. Axa was still alive when the police arrived, but died shortly after in a hospital. It was later discovered that it was her brother who strangled her. Both were sentenced to life imprisonment. Her father said, "My community will say you have not been able to control your daughter. This is my insult. She is making me naked." Axa was buried in an unmarked grave, and her family refused a donation of a gravestone and a memorial.


Posted by Manya on February 10th, 2016

December 11th:
Birthday of Mo'Nique
born on December 11th, 1967

Monique Angela Hicks...Mo'Nique American actress and comedienne. In an interview in 2008 she revealed she had suffered sexual abuse from the ages of 7 until 11 at the hands of her brother. He would later abuse another child and be sentenced to 12 yrs in prison. Mo'Nique received critical acclaim for her role as an abusive mother in the film Precious


Posted by eagle22 on October 8th, 2015

December 14th:
Maria Lauterbach
died on December 14th, 2007

The mother of US Marine Lance Corporal Maria Lauterbach told police that Maria "claimed she had been raped by a senior Marine at her command, and that the investigation had gone sour.". Maria was eight months pregnant and preparing to testify against him, when he killed her with a crowbar and burnt her remains.


Posted by Manya on February 10th, 2016

December 15th:
Laronda Becker
died on December 15th, 2008

Laronda was shot by her ex-boyfriend, two years after she and their two children were granted a permanent order of protection against him due to domestic violence. He was to never contact her or the kids again. On December 15th he broke into her apartment (Florida, USA). Laronda, her mom (who was living there with her), and the two children barricaded themselves in the bedroom and called 911. He broke the door, shot Laronda in the head in front of the kids, tried to shoot their grandma as well (the gun malfunctioned), and finally shot himself too, when the police arrived. He survived, plead guilty to murder.


Posted by Manya on February 10th, 2016

December 17th:
Melissa Stoddard
died on December 17th, 2012

11yo Melissa from North Carolina, USA, had to move from her mom's home to her dad's and stepmom's because her older brother molested her and the children had to be separated. Melissa struggled with the new environment (she had autism), but was making progress in school. At home, however, she kept getting in trouble with her stepmom, who punished her in odd ways. For example, she restrained Melissa by tying her legs to her head, or by tying her arms and legs with shoelaces to a board that had holes drilled in it, beating her, and taping her mouth with duct tape. That's how Melissa died, of suffocation while being restrained overnight and having her mouth duct taped. Click on her name above to read a great and very informative page about her life, including interviews with her teachers and neighbors. Melissa was a good kid, and she liked rules once she figured them out. She just needed structure and stability.


Posted by Manya on July 5th, 2016

December 20th:
Gillick competence ruling
December 20th, 1984

The initial case was on whether doctors can prescribe contraceptives to youth under 16 without parental consent, initiated by Mrs. Victoria Gillick who was against it. The final ruling is broader in scope than merely medical consent. It lays down that the authority of parents to make decisions for their minor children is not absolute, but diminishes with the child's evolving maturity; except in situations that are regulated otherwise by statute, the right to make a decision on any particular matter concerning the child shifts from the parent to the child when the child reaches sufficient maturity to be capable of making up his or her own mind on the matter requiring decision. The case is binding in England and Wales, and has been approved in Australia, Canada and New Zealand.


Posted by Manya on September 8th, 2015

Tyreke-Evans
died on December 20th, 2011

4yo Tyreke and his 3yo brother from Tennesee, USA, were beaten by their mom's boyfriend. The neighbors asked the mother about constant screaming coming from their apartment, and "she's say 'oh, he's just getting his *** whupped, you know. As in spanking." Child protective services were aware of the situation, but didn't have enough evidence to remove the children from this household. On December 20th the boys were taken to a hospital; the younger boy survived (though spent a long time in ICU). Tyreke died of multiple blunt force trauma: brain swelling, fractured ribs, lacerations to his liver and bowels, needle punctures, and multiple bruises.

The boys had a father and grandparents. "If you felt like you wanted [the boyfriend] to stay, you should have, out of concern for your kids, let them go," said one of the neighbors.


Posted by Manya on March 27th, 2016

December 24th:
Ryon Smith
died on December 24th, 2005

Ryon was a 6yo boy from Missouri, USA, who didn't get along with his mom's boyfriend. The man locked Ryon in the closet because "he couldn't get any peace", and it was for so long that Ryon peed himself. Ryon called the man a racial slur (the man was black, Ryon's mom was white). As a punishment for that, the man beat the boy to death. The couple didn't call 911 till Ryon's body started to decompose.


Posted by Manya on February 12th, 2016

Ryan Lovell-Hancox
died on December 24th, 2008

Ryan was a 3yo boy from UK, and his mom wasn't coping too well, so she paid her cousin £40 a week to look after Ryan for a month before Christmas. This cousin, 19yo Kayley Boleyn, was living with her boyfriend, 25yo Christopher Taylor, and all three were "known" to statutory authorities. In fact, Taylor even visited his probation officer with Ryan, but somehow that never rang a bell. Ryan died of severe blow to his head. At the time of death he had 70 injuries on his body. Earlier that day, a social worker visited their house, saw Ryan covered with a bed sheet and heard him moaning. The social worker assumed the boy was just waking up, and didn't lift the sheet to look.


Posted by Manya on February 13th, 2016

December 25th:
Kassie (Girlfriend)
died on December 25th, 2008

Kassie had bipolar. We had an argument which led her to go to an old roof where we used to hang out. She jumped. That was the moment I developed Dissociative Identity Disorder. I feel to blame for the incident. It's hard to keep going sometimes, but I know she wouldn't want me to waste my life as well. I just miss her, is all..


Posted by Luke on March 29th, 2013

Aniarael Macias
died on December 25th, 2013

Ania was a 13yo girl from Arizona, USA, whose parents were going through a rough divorce. Her mom didn't want her dad to have custody of the kids (Ania had three siblings). She left a suicide note saying that she will kill herself and the kids. On Christmas he was coming to pick them up, and she attacked him with a knife, causing multiple stab wounds. He drove away and called 911. The police found her sitting on the bed with three younger children, in the middle of a suicide attempt, and Ania's body in the bathroom. Children had trace amounts of narcotics in their system, and explained that their mom made them take her prescription medication, but Ania refused, and mom strangled her with her bare hands instead. The woman pled not guilty.


Posted by Manya on March 5th, 2016

Kristy Bamu
died on December 25th, 2010

15yo Kristy and his four brothers and sisters came to London for Christmas, to visit with their older sister and her husband. The couple accused their visitors of practicing kindoki (African witchcraft/sorcery/voodoo) and decided they needed deliverance. To accomplish this goal, they were beating on the siblings for three days, refusing to let them eat, drink, or sleep, forcing them to admit that they were sorcerers, tell on each other, and hurt each other. Kristy was tortured to death. The details are too graphic to post here, you can read them if you click on his name. When the police arrived on scene, "All were standing in the living room, hysterical, terrified and soaking wet. None of them spoke any English. Both girls appeared to be injured," according to court testimony.


Posted by Manya on February 5th, 2016

December 26th:
Aliahna Lemmon
died on December 26th, 2011

9yo Aliahna from Indiana, USA, had a grandpa who was a convicted child molester. He lived in a mobile home park of about two dozen homes, where 15 other child molesters lived. He was ill, and Aliahna's mom moved there to help care for him, because he assured her the kids will be in no danger. The day after Christmas she wasn't feeling well, and asked a neighbor (also an ex-convict) to babysit her girls, 9yo Aliahna and her 6yo sister. He killed Aliahna and dismembered her body.


Posted by Manya on July 5th, 2016

December 29th:
Jyoti Singh Pandey (Nirbhaya)
died on December 29th, 2012

Jyoti was a 23yo girl from Delhi, India. Her dad sold his farm land and worked double shifts to give her an education, because she wanted to study and he loved her. "It never entered our hearts to ever discriminate," - he said, - "How could I be happy if my son is happy and my daughter isn't? And it was impossible to refuse a little girl who loved going to school."

On December 16th, Jyoti and her male friend saw a movie together in South Delhi, and at 9:30PM took a bus home. There were six other people on that bus, they all assaulted Jyoti and her friend, broke his ribs and knocked him unconscious, and violently beaten and raped Jyoti with a metal rod, before throwing them both on the side of the road. Jyoti fought back, leaving bite marks on all of her assailants. The friend survived, while Jyoti died a week later, after undergoing multiple surgeries to remove her inflamed intestines and reproductive organs.

The incident (commonly referred to as "the 2012 Delhi gang rape") resulted in public protests against the state and central governments for failing to provide adequate security for women. The Indian government re-evaluated its laws concerning rape prosecutions, passed multiple new laws and set up six new courts. Critics argue that the legal system remains slow to hear and prosecute rape cases, but most agree that the case has resulted in a tremendous increase in the public discussion of crimes against women and statistics show that there has been an improvement in the number of women willing to file a crime report.

Indian laws forbid disclosing rape victims' identity to the public without consent of their family, so initially Jyoti was referred to as Nirbhaya, "fearless".


Posted by Manya on October 17th, 2015


 

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