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Abuse:
phoneDomestic Abuse
Help if you're involved in abuse inflicted on one adult by another, while both share the same household. For example, physical abuse by an intimate partner, or abuse of elderly parent by their adult child.| Emergency - 999 |
Someone to talk to:
0808 2000 247 - nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.ukHelpline for abused women.
0808 801 0327 - mensadviceline.org.ukHelpline for abused men (can be busy, but you can also leave a voicemail, use email, or chat some of the days.
0182 333 4244 - new.mankind.org.ukAnother helpline for men, opn weekdays 10am to 4pm.
0845 130 4010 - relate.org.ukHelpline and chatline for relationship problems, whether you consider them abuse or not.
0808 802 4040 - respectphoneline.org.ukHelpline for perpetrators of domestic abuse, women or men, straight or gay. |
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Escaping abuse:
hotpeachpages.netInternational directory of 3d help available to victims of domestic violence: shelters, lawyers, therapy, child care, support groups, etc.
solicitors.lawsociety.org.ukFind a solicitor near you.
entitledto.co.ukSee which benefits you might qualify for. |
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LGBTQ
0800 1000 143 (youth)
0845 330 30 30 |
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Mental Health:
phoneEmotional Crises
Hotlines, chatlines, find-a-therapist, various other organizations that can help if you're struggling with mental health but aren't acutely suicidal.
| Emergency - 999 |
Someone to talk to:
0300 304 7000 - sane.org.ukHelpline for anyone affected by mental illness, including family, friends and carers; 4:30pm to 10:30pm.
0170 876 5200 - supportline.org.ukHelpline for adults, teens, and kids.
0844 967 4848 - nopanic.org.ukPanic and anxiety helpline; 10am-10pm, 5p a minute. For teens: 0330 606 1174, 3pm-6pm.
7cups.com24/7 free one on one chat about anything that bothers you, with someone who will listen unconditionally. |
Practical help:
111 - nhs.ukA&E, referrals, etc.
0300 5000 927 - rethink.orgPractical help on issues such as the Mental Health Act, community care, welfare benefits, debt, criminal justice and carers rights.
0300 456 0300 - gov.ukOffice of The Public Guardian.
therapy-directory.org.ukdirectory of mental health professionals in the UK.
BetterHelp.comonline counseling by US-licensed mental health professionals, $35-70 per week flat price, talk to your counselor as much or as little as you wish: through messages, chat, voice, or video chat.
entitledto.co.ukSee which benefits you might qualify for. |
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Online Support:
phoneFort Members and Visitors
What we offer, how to contact us, guidelines, FAQ, TOS, lost passwords, etc
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IntroBasic info on what is abuse and how Fort is supposed to help with the aftermath of it.
What we offerAll the stuff we have here at Fort at a glance.
SitemapList of all the pages on this website.
Public ForumNo registration necessary, feel free to post as much or as little as you wish. Helpful for those who don't really want to join our community at this time, and for those who can't, for example secondary survivors.
GuidelinesCommunity rules, good to read if you're considering joining us.
Privacy PolicySo that you know what we record and why.
Terms of ServiceLegal stuffs.
Chats' scheduleTimes, locations, and topics of next hosted chats.
Lost passwordsLink to recover your account password if you forgot it.
FAQAll sorts of questions on how to use forums and chat: where to post, how to change your signature, what are the castles, why do people get banned, etc.
Speak To ModsOpen to registered users only - a place to reach moderators if something makes it uncomfortable for you to use the site: someone is bothering you, you can't find your inbox, aren't sure why your post was moved, etc. Posts are visible to you and mod team only, and it's the best way to communicate with us.
Contact usA way for you to get in touch with site admins; please keep in mind that we are not counselors, we only maintain this site.
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phoneAlternative sites
No site works for everyone; if Fort isn't a good match for you, see if the sites below might work better.
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7cups.comInstant chat with a "listener" about anything that bothers you. You can become a listener too, if you want to. Would work a lot better than Fort if you want to chat NOW, are looking to talk to people one-on-one, and like to give/receive advice. It's against our guidelines to tell anyone what to do, think, or feel - we believe in letting people make their own choices.
malesurvivor.orgWe have a lot of male members at Fort, but some things can feel too awkward to discuss in a mixed gender community. If that's how you feel - malesurvivor.org is a busy site that has men only, so you can have some privacy for those extra sensitive issues.
christiansurvivors.comOnline community for Christian survivors of any form of abuse. We recognize that faith is a powerful healing tool for many people, but Fort is a non-denominational site, many of us have had bad experiences with religion, so we limit all religious references to one forum folder only. If you like to bring up religion in most conversations (or if you're just more comfortable with people of the same faith) - christiansurvivors.com might be a good solution.
pandys.orgGreat site for survivors of rape or child sexual abuse: busy community and very good resources. Guidelines differ from Fort: no DID allowed, telling others what to do is encouraged, blocking people who get on your nerves is not allowed, foul language is OK within reasonable limits; there's a forum for supporters (aka secondary survivors) too.
survivorship.orgCommunity for survivors of ritual abuse, mind control, and torture. Membership is paid, but the site has some free resources too. We have a forum folder for religious abuse, but you have to be actively participating in other forums for a month to gain access to it, and the topic is off-limit in chat. Moreover, we believe that, although abuse perps often claim to have supernatural powers or secret technologies to manipulate your mind, in reality "mind control" is just not possible.
loveshack.orgCommunity focused on relationships, including (but not limited to) abusive ones. If you don't really want to leave your partner, but just have problems with how you're being treated (e.g. s/he lies, cheats, drinks, plays computer games too much, etc) - or if you're heartbroken after a breakup and don't know if you'll ever find love again - loveshack.org is a good place to discuss these issues.
psychopathfree.comCommunity dedicated to discussing psychopaths/narcissists in your life: learning to spot them, guesstimating what they are thinking and why they act the way they do, finding ways to manipulate their behavior, etc. We do not believe in this at Fort, and it's against our guidelines to talk of anyone other than yourself, so if this is what you're into - psychopathfree.com would be a better match.
suicideforum.comPro-life community focused on mental health, depression, and suicide prevention. Membership is free and anonymous, open to anyone over 13yo. Suicide threats or descriptions of SI not allowed.
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Fort Refuge forums and chatrooms do not substitute for crisis hotlines or professional counseling. We care, but we are a peer community, and can't offer advice, interventions, or referrals. Please see the numbers and links below: they have trained volunteers who can help.
This page was last updated on December 24th, 2018
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Thank you for this site. It has been very helpful and given me a new way to cope. And also made me check myself, as not to project whatever growing up with abuse has caused, onto my kids. ~Enlightened
