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Fort Refuge forums and chatrooms do not substitute for crisis hotlines or professional counseling. We care, but we are a peer community, and can't offer advice, interventions, or referrals. Please see the numbers and links below: they have trained volunteers who can help.
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Abuse:

phoneChild Abuse
Help if you're involved in abuse inflicted on a child (someone under 18yo) by an adult. It can be physical, sexual, emotional/verbal, or neglect.
Emergency - 999
Report Suspected Child Abuse:

0808 800 5000 - NSPCC
the place to call if you're concerned about a child's safety.
1-800-843-5678 - cybertipline.org
Report online sexual exploitation of children: solicitation, trafficking, child pornography, etc - things you bump into online and have no 3D information on.
Someone to talk to:

0800 1111 - childline.org.uk
Helpline and chatline for kids and teens: "Whatever your worry, we are here for you."
0800 800 2222 - familylives.org.uk
Helpline for parents.
0845 120 5204 - bullying.co.uk
Help for bullied kids and teens and their parents.
116 000 - runawayhelpline.org.uk
Helpline and chatline for homeless, trafficked, and runaway teens and kids - or their parents.
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phoneDomestic Abuse
Help if you're involved in abuse inflicted on one adult by another, while both share the same household. For example, physical abuse by an intimate partner, or abuse of elderly parent by their adult child.
Emergency - 999
Someone to talk to:

0808 2000 247 - nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk
Helpline for abused women.
0808 801 0327 - mensadviceline.org.uk
Helpline for abused men (can be busy, but you can also leave a voicemail, use email, or chat some of the days.
0182 333 4244 - new.mankind.org.uk
Another helpline for men, opn weekdays 10am to 4pm.
0845 130 4010 - relate.org.uk
Helpline and chatline for relationship problems, whether you consider them abuse or not.
0808 802 4040 - respectphoneline.org.uk
Helpline for perpetrators of domestic abuse, women or men, straight or gay.
Escaping abuse:

hotpeachpages.net
International directory of 3d help available to victims of domestic violence: shelters, lawyers, therapy, child care, support groups, etc.
solicitors.lawsociety.org.uk
Find a solicitor near you.
entitledto.co.uk
See which benefits you might qualify for.
LGBTQ
0800 1000 143 (youth)
0845 330 30 30
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phoneRape and Sexual Assault
Help if you're involved in non-consensual intercourse (vaginal or otherwise), where the perpetrator forces it on the victim against their will and the victim is helpless to escape.
Emergency - 999
Someone to talk to:

0808 802 9999 - rapecrisis.org.uk
Helpline for women and their supporters.
020 3322 1860 (text only) - survivorsuk.org
Chatline and textline for men.
Practical Help:

111 - nhs.uk
Emergency contraception, STI/AIDS testing, find your local A&E, etc.
0207 251 8887 or solicitors.lawsociety.org.uk
Find a solicitor near you.
Sex Offender Registry
List of registered sex offenders.
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Mental Health:

phoneSelf Inflictions
Help if you're struggling with suicide, self-harm, eating disorders, addictions, or any other non-accidental behaviors that are harmful to your body.
Emergency - 999
Suicide:

116 123 - samaritans.org
Phone, email, snail mail, or in-person support; social justice organization.
0800 58 58 58 - thecalmzone.net
CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably), helpline and chatline for men.
0808 808 4994 - themix.org.uk
Helpline and chatline for those under 25.
befrienders.org
worldwide directory of suicide hotlines.
0808 801 0677 - b-eat.co.uk
Eating disorders helpline, 4pm-10pm. For teens: 0808 801 0711.
Addictions:

0845 3881 543
0800 917 8282 (Alcohol)
0207 533 7640 (Drugs)
0800 776 600 (Drugs)
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phoneEmotional Crises
Hotlines, chatlines, find-a-therapist, various other organizations that can help if you're struggling with mental health but aren't acutely suicidal.
Emergency - 999
Someone to talk to:

0300 304 7000 - sane.org.uk
Helpline for anyone affected by mental illness, including family, friends and carers; 4:30pm to 10:30pm.
0170 876 5200 - supportline.org.uk
Helpline for adults, teens, and kids.
0844 967 4848 - nopanic.org.uk
Panic and anxiety helpline; 10am-10pm, 5p a minute. For teens: 0330 606 1174, 3pm-6pm.
7cups.com
24/7 free one on one chat about anything that bothers you, with someone who will listen unconditionally.
Practical help:

111 - nhs.uk
A&E, referrals, etc.
0300 5000 927 - rethink.org
Practical help on issues such as the Mental Health Act, community care, welfare benefits, debt, criminal justice and carers rights.
0300 456 0300 - gov.uk
Office of The Public Guardian.
therapy-directory.org.uk
directory of mental health professionals in the UK.
BetterHelp.com
online counseling by US-licensed mental health professionals, $35-70 per week flat price, talk to your counselor as much or as little as you wish: through messages, chat, voice, or video chat.
entitledto.co.uk
See which benefits you might qualify for.
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Online Support:

phoneOnline Safety
A few pages with basics on how to stay safe online and avoid getting cyberstalked.
Cyberstalking: Why and How
Who engages in online stalking, why, how, and what to do if you are a victim of internet harassment. Real life examples and links for further reading.
Cyberstalking: Staying Safe On Abuse Support Sites
Practical tips on avoiding online harassment, stalking, and trolls, while using online support groups for abuse survivors.
Top Five Scams On Abuse Support Sites
Real life examples of cons that abuse survivors are especially vulnerable to while using online support groups.
7 Tips On Choosing An Online Support Group
Basic things to look at, to avoid frustration and find the site that's a good match for you.
Glossary
Words commonly used on abuse sites that might leave you puzzled.
phoneFort Members and Visitors
What we offer, how to contact us, guidelines, FAQ, TOS, lost passwords, etc
Intro
Basic info on what is abuse and how Fort is supposed to help with the aftermath of it.
What we offer
All the stuff we have here at Fort at a glance.
Sitemap
List of all the pages on this website.
Public Forum
No registration necessary, feel free to post as much or as little as you wish. Helpful for those who don't really want to join our community at this time, and for those who can't, for example secondary survivors.
Guidelines
Community rules, good to read if you're considering joining us.
Privacy Policy
So that you know what we record and why.
Terms of Service
Legal stuffs.
Chats' schedule
Times, locations, and topics of next hosted chats.
Lost passwords
Link to recover your account password if you forgot it.
FAQ
All sorts of questions on how to use forums and chat: where to post, how to change your signature, what are the castles, why do people get banned, etc.
Speak To Mods
Open to registered users only - a place to reach moderators if something makes it uncomfortable for you to use the site: someone is bothering you, you can't find your inbox, aren't sure why your post was moved, etc. Posts are visible to you and mod team only, and it's the best way to communicate with us.
Contact us
A way for you to get in touch with site admins; please keep in mind that we are not counselors, we only maintain this site.
phoneAlternative sites
No site works for everyone; if Fort isn't a good match for you, see if the sites below might work better.
7cups.com
Instant chat with a "listener" about anything that bothers you. You can become a listener too, if you want to. Would work a lot better than Fort if you want to chat NOW, are looking to talk to people one-on-one, and like to give/receive advice. It's against our guidelines to tell anyone what to do, think, or feel - we believe in letting people make their own choices.
malesurvivor.org
We have a lot of male members at Fort, but some things can feel too awkward to discuss in a mixed gender community. If that's how you feel - malesurvivor.org is a busy site that has men only, so you can have some privacy for those extra sensitive issues.
christiansurvivors.com
Online community for Christian survivors of any form of abuse. We recognize that faith is a powerful healing tool for many people, but Fort is a non-denominational site, many of us have had bad experiences with religion, so we limit all religious references to one forum folder only. If you like to bring up religion in most conversations (or if you're just more comfortable with people of the same faith) - christiansurvivors.com might be a good solution.
pandys.org
Great site for survivors of rape or child sexual abuse: busy community and very good resources. Guidelines differ from Fort: no DID allowed, telling others what to do is encouraged, blocking people who get on your nerves is not allowed, foul language is OK within reasonable limits; there's a forum for supporters (aka secondary survivors) too.
survivorship.org
Community for survivors of ritual abuse, mind control, and torture. Membership is paid, but the site has some free resources too. We have a forum folder for religious abuse, but you have to be actively participating in other forums for a month to gain access to it, and the topic is off-limit in chat. Moreover, we believe that, although abuse perps often claim to have supernatural powers or secret technologies to manipulate your mind, in reality "mind control" is just not possible.
loveshack.org
Community focused on relationships, including (but not limited to) abusive ones. If you don't really want to leave your partner, but just have problems with how you're being treated (e.g. s/he lies, cheats, drinks, plays computer games too much, etc) - or if you're heartbroken after a breakup and don't know if you'll ever find love again - loveshack.org is a good place to discuss these issues.
psychopathfree.com
Community dedicated to discussing psychopaths/narcissists in your life: learning to spot them, guesstimating what they are thinking and why they act the way they do, finding ways to manipulate their behavior, etc. We do not believe in this at Fort, and it's against our guidelines to talk of anyone other than yourself, so if this is what you're into - psychopathfree.com would be a better match.
suicideforum.com
Pro-life community focused on mental health, depression, and suicide prevention. Membership is free and anonymous, open to anyone over 13yo. Suicide threats or descriptions of SI not allowed.

Remember you are just an extra in everyone else's play.
~ Franklin D. Roosevelt
This page was last updated on September 27th, 2017
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