+ Reply to Thread
Results 1 to 2 of 2

Thread: Why cant i let go of my abusive husband??? I just cant do it and im miserable

  1. #1
    Unregistered Guest

    Why cant i let go of my abusive husband??? I just cant do it and im miserable

    I have been with my husband for 11 years married almost 8. In the beginning it was amazing. He seemed soo caring and gard working in the small town where we met. He didnt work but in that town there were no jobs but he always made sure we had what we needed. Fast forward a few years i got a great job. I became the breadwinner of the family and he began drinking..... Before i got my job he became very abusive physically to me and controlling. Refusing to ever talk or communicate and using violence as a way to keep me in line. I have yet to feel safe to express anger or disappointment towards him. He is physically mentally emotionally abusive. He gas gone through spurts or honeymoon phases where ge wouldnt hit me but the neglect and name calling continued. I am last on his list and treated like ***. I finally called police and had him out then o kept feeling pressure from his family to bring him home and i did. I missed him..... why???? I dont know. I *** hate him amd love him i am soo confused but i know im only waiting for the inevitable..... divorce..... how do i get there. I am my own worst enemy.....

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Jun 2013
    Posts
    19,880
    Affection
    Kindness & hugs.
    Hear how hard it is to make a break from your partner. Was a bit like that for me too. Abuse kinda crept on me - his transition from loving to not ok behaviour was a gradual thing...and even at its worst parts of my relationship and his behaviour worked. Problem was the good times did not outweigh the bad and overall I felt rejected and unhappy.

    What helped me was to contact my local DV centre - staff there helped me to explore my options and when I did decide to leave helped me to plan for this...look at the help available for people in my situation. Thinking about leaving was hard, leaving harder, however now I look back and see that it was the best choice for me.
    Rest in my arms precious child; cradled and warm. You are safe. The war is over.

+ Reply to Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may post new threads
  • You may post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •