I've been doing quite a bit of reading on emotional abuse after having the realization that is probably what has been going on in my 27-yr marriage. I felt relieved to have found a cause for what I have been feeling for a long time. I told my therapist of my realization this morning in my second session with her. I feel she completely minimized it and didn't validate the abuse. She asked what I wanted to do with the information. When I said I thought my husband needed therapy she asked, "HE needs therapy?" I clarified yes, his own individual therapy based on my reading. She suggested some marriage encounters or spending a weekend away with him. Really? Everything I have read says "no" to such suggestions. Now I'm thinking that maybe I'm really not emotionally abused or maybe it's not as bad as I'm thinking... A phone consultation with another therapist for a second opinion of how to approach emotional abuse revealed about the same suggestions. Somehow I don't think validating feelings and parroting back my spouse's concerns is going to get to the heart of the issue. I'm at the point of having completely disconnected from my spouse. Maybe I am the cause of the majority of our issues, but how do I know what the reality is? Thoughts?