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    Like DID, BPD is known to be caused by childhood abuse. idk what all the stats are, but it's extremely common for someone with BPD to have a background of abuse growing up. imo it's probably because the kids in that environment don't learn how to regulate their emotions, no one is modeling that for them to learn. If I understand correctly the two are co-morbid frequently just because they are caused by similar reasons.

    I'm no professional, could be totally wrong. This is just stuff I found while looking into BPD when I was dxed with it.

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    Thank you!

    Thank you for posting this! I recently realized I had DID and it is so hard to find such comprehensive info anywhere.

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    Quote Originally Posted by XxLucxX View Post
    Thank you for posting this! I recently realized I had DID and it is so hard to find such comprehensive info anywhere.
    Hi Luc. Good to have you join us not sure if you have visited out library or DID folder lots of informatiom and interesting conversations on DID and related subjects you may find useful.
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    Thanks

    Thanks for posting this. I'm new here but I supposedly have DID. Started therapy over a year ago and the people around me don't really seem to understand any of it. I've lost my husband, quit college my senior year, and now just feel like I've lost my sanity as well. If more people knew what it was, maybe I wouldn't feel so alone.
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    The spouse of some one with DID.

    I'm a spouse of a woman with DID's I'm new to the diagnoses and found this thread helpful. The thing I find the hardest is when DID's in link up with major depression. As a spouse you try to help by exposing some of the errors of listening to one or more negative voices within your spouse. It seems to only lead to avoidance of the truth of damaging behaviors and deeper depression. Yes they are under the care of a trIned professional but live at home with me where they should be. It is just that all communications beyond shallow everyday simple ones end up in a confused avoidance fog bank, any suggestions?

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    Quote Originally Posted by George55 View Post
    As a spouse you try to help by exposing some of the errors of listening to one or more negative voices within your spouse. It seems to only lead to avoidance of the truth of damaging behaviors and deeper depression. Yes they are under the care of a trIned professional but live at home with me where they should be. It is just that all communications beyond shallow everyday simple ones end up in a confused avoidance fog bank, any suggestions?
    truly not trying to be mean, but could it be that exposing her errors is what causes her limiting communication with you to shallow every day stuff? cuz i know it does for me; i have a therapist whom i rely on for reality-checks and for confrontations and challenges and exposure of my mistakes and such. and i have a partner whom i rely on for acceptance, understanding, rooting for me, etc. if my partner constantly confronts me about my errors - whom do i go to for hugs? i dont need two therapists, i need one therapist and one partner. and i need a break from therapy work during the week, a timeout when im just living, cooking dinner, watching netflix, doing dishes, cuddling at night, etc. if this family time is tainted, i get depressed. just like seo's get depressed when they bring their work projects home. cuz home is supposed to be separate from work.
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    My experience is much like manya's.

    As a survivor of abuse my coping mechanisims including my DID is triggered by behaviours that replicate those I endured as a child. Especially those that make me feel lesser and rejected. Helps me to stay in my present personality...to be treated like an 'in control of my life and issues' adult. Doesn't mean my partner needs to pussy foot round me... can sure raise issues that my DID is causing her...however works best if she does this in a way that recognises that I am the one (maybe with her support if I ask for it) who is responsible for (and the only one who can) change my behaviour and if I have problems doing this? Well that's what I have a therapist for.

    Hope what I have shared helps.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jane View Post
    Hi

    My experience is much like manya's.

    As a survivor of abuse my coping mechanisims including my DID is triggered by behaviours that replicate those I endured as a child. Especially those that make me feel lesser and rejected. Helps me to stay in my present personality...to be treated like an 'in control of my life and issues' adult. Doesn't mean my partner needs to pussy foot round me... can sure raise issues that my DID is causing her...however works best if she does this in a way that recognises that I am the one (maybe with her support if I ask for it) who is responsible for (and the only one who can) change my behaviour and if I have problems doing this? Well that's what I have a therapist for.

    Hope what I have shared helps.
    Is it possible to have DID without childhood abuse?

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    Quote Originally Posted by AnyWoman View Post
    Is it possible to have DID without childhood abuse?
    From what I know and have read and been told DID is a result of childhood trauma--usually has to happen before a certain age. Some research says 6...some says 9...have heard 12....not sure what the exact answer is. But basically it happens because a young child's mind is not yet fully integrated. Which allows self states/alters to split off/form as a result of trauma.

    You asked about childhood abuse though--it's my understanding that it doesn't have to be abuse necessarily--just intense stress. Like I've heard of children developing DID from medical issues....other ongoing traumas...

    Dissociation, on the other hand, is something that kind of happens to everyone to an extent since it's a spectrum. So things like daydreaming and highway hypnosis--those are mild dissociation. Then there are things like depersonalization and derealization....dissociation is a response to stress so it can come with PTSD.

    But from what I've witnessed in trauma hospitals that I've been a patient in and how things have been explained to me and what I've read DID typically only occurs from childhood trauma--since the child's mind hasn't integrated fully yet. I know there are cases of iatrogenic DID and some people believe in a thing called natural multiplicity--I don't have enough understanding of those things for it to be fair for me try to explain or confirm/deny them.

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