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    1. Please read, might save all of us frustration and answer your basic questions about the Fort.

    2. Announcements

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      Important announcements from moderators regarding site usage.

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    3. Our Fort

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      Anything you want to know about Fort, or anything you want to add to it. Our history, news, parties, ideas, suggestions, concerns. Dedicated to Joey.

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      1. Off Topic,
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    1. Welcome

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      Welcome! Feel free to post a hey so that we know you're here. Share as much or as little about yourself as you wish - we respect your boundaries. Got some icebreakers too :)

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    2. Child Abuse

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      Child abuse means abuse inflicted on a child (someone under 18yo at the time) by an adult. It can be physical, sexual, emotional, or neglect.

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    3. Domestic Violence

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      Domestic violence means abuse inflicted on one adult by another, while both live together in the same household. Most often it's physical abuse by an intimate partner, but it can also be abuse of elderly parents by adult children, etc. Please - no perp-bashing.

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      1. Jane

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    4. Rape & Sexual Assault

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      Rape means non-consentual sex, where the perpetrator forces it on the victim against their will and the victim is helpless to escape. For discussions of your sex life, please post in Sex & Sexuality folder instead.

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      1. Jane

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    5. RA 🔑

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      Religious abuse means using a system of beliefs to inflict and/or justify abuse: physical, sexual, and/or emotional. Religious abuse might or might not take a form of a ritual, and can be perpetrated by an organized group of people or just a single person.

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      1. Jane

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    1. Hidden Shame

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      Emotions aren't always rational, and many of us do feel ashamed and embarrassed of having been abused. Speaking of it works better than sweeping it under the rug. You're not alone.

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      1. Tasha1701D

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    2. Survivor's Rage

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      Abuse wasn't fair, we didn't deserve it, and yet are stuck with the consequences for life. This folder contains pure rage and all sorts of language - it's therapeutic to quit walking on eggshells and voice how we really feel about having been violated.

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      1. Tasha1701D

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      1. Other Vents

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    3. Legacy of Grief

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      Even once it's over, abuse leaves us with plenty of things to grieve: a broken home, a ruined childhood, years lost to DV, opportunities missed due to mental health - acknowledging it is painful, but processing our grief helps us move forward.

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      1. Tasha1701D

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    4. Unsent Letters

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      Writing letters is a therapeutic exercise: it helps to sort through your thoughts and feelings. Feel free to share these letters, but please note that this is *NOT* a "rant" folder.

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      1. Tasha1701D

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    5. Poetry

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      Creative writing by abuse survivors. Highly graphic works belong in the social group "Inner Expressions".

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      1. Tasha1701D

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      1. Music,
      2. Art & Photography

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    6. Journals 🔑

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      Just join the group, start a thread, and post away - journaling is therapeutic. If you wish to comment on someone's journal entry - please use a separate thread unless the person specifically asked otherwise.

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    1. Emotional Health

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      Things that help us maintain emotional health: staying focused on what matters, detaching from what doesn't, managing our anger, anxiety, negativity, tips, tricks, questions, helpful articles, motivational quotes, etc.

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    2. Daily Living

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      Practical steps we take to take charge and feel good again. New Year's resolutions, time management, motivation, mastering activities in daily living, overcoming obstacles in staying physically active - anything that helps you put your life back on track.

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      1. Manya

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    3. Past abuse can certainly impact our current relationships. We might struggle with trust, boundaries, communication, or any other aspect that makes a relationship healthy and pleasurable. Post your struggles, questions, discoveries, interesting articles you found, or anything else relevant to relationships in the folders below.

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      1. Manya

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    4. Spirituality Topics

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      Place to discuss your struggles, insights, thoughts, and feelings regarding faith. Please note though - ALL religions and beliefs are welcome here. Fort is a multicultural community, please respect all of our members.

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      1. Manya

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    1. Therapy

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      Anything that has to do with Therapy, Counseling, PDocs. Struggles with transference, article on when to terminate, your opinion on EMDR, new meds you're on - let's discuss it here.

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      1. weepingwillow,
      2. ZJ

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    2. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is very common among abuse survivors. Post about your struggles with any PTSD symptoms such as flashbacks, avoidance, hypervigilance, etc.

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      1. weepingwillow,
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    3. Place to discuss how we cope with dissociative issues, from internal communication to money management within the system.

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      1. weepingwillow,
      2. ZJ

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    4. Self-Inflictions

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      Doing harmful things to one's body is not uncommon among abuse survivors. We hear your pain. Post your struggles, victories, insights, and questions here - but please refrain from extra graphic descriptions...

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      1. weepingwillow,
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    1. Youth Good Times

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      Let's talk about good things in life - share good news, post interesting youtubes for craft projects, cartoons, fun stories or games for kids. Talk of positive things that help you cope, bring smile to your face, and make your life better :)

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    2. Youth Struggles

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      Post about your struggles, confusions, questions, ponderings, hard topics you'd like to discuss with other kids on Fort. We all struggle sometimes, it's good to reach out for help :)

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    3. DID Youth Group 🔑

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      Place for kids under 13 who got keys to discuss anything they like, in private, including but not limited to their weekly chat. Only kids and moderators have access to this folder, no grownups here.

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 Latest Library Articles:

12-25-2015 - Rape of Men: Myths and Facts - Statistics, information, links for further reading.
12-03-2015 - It Ends With Me - a letter by an abuse survivor to her siblings and parents, sharing her perspective on the past and her feelings and hopes for the future.
11-23-2015 - My abuser and me: So much in common - letter written by a child abuse survivor to her father, contains empathy and acceptance rather than rage.
11-21-2015 - Emotional abuse - It's a confusing and controversial topic; this page attempts to clarify it.
11-20-2015 - Emotional Abuse Tactics - Common tactics emotional abusers use to hurt and intimidate their victims, with examples and explanations.

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