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Please read, might save all of us frustration and answer your basic questions about the Fort. Everyone can view this folder, including guests.

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Everything related to scheduled private hosted chats: info on how to join, passwords to private chatrooms, status updates, upcoming topics. Hope to see you in chat :)

Anything you'd like to share with those who haven't registered yet, but are considering it. Contains info on who are we, what to do if you're supporting a friend/family member, how to recover lost password, how to spam appropriately etc. Posts are moderated and may take a moment to appear.

Welcome! Post a quick message so that others may be able to welcome you as well. Feel free to share as much or as little about yourself as you wish. We respect your boundaries.

Light conversations between members on topics not related to abuse. Recipes, knitting patterns, funny joke you heard, picture of your new pair of shoes - share it with us! Posts made here do not add to your post count, but are a great way to socialize!

Abusive partner? Narcissistic mom? Bully at work/school? Whether you need validation, support, insight, or simply found an interesting article on the subject of emotional abuse - post here.

Let's work together to heal from this nightmare. Post your story, thoughts, facts you've discovered, questions for other people who went through this - anything at all related to the painful topic of domestic violence.

Reach out to other people who went through this horror. Let's share our struggles, our hopes, our healing efforts.

Break the silence. As children, many of us were unable to speak about what was happening. Now we can. Topics on any type of abuse inflicted on a child belong here: emotional, physical, sexual, neglect.

Please use caution when reading, as folder may contain triggery content. When posting, please try to avoid extra graphic descriptions of what happened. Folder is only visible to members of the group, due to sensitive nature of topic.

Though male survivors are welcome in each of our folders, this one is specifically for male survivor topics.

While we all post bits and pieces here and there, writing down the whole story at once can be a therapeutic/healing/liberating experience. Share your story with other members of this private group. Naturally, posts may contain strong content.

Letters to anyone and about anything: healing, love, strength, or any content you would like to share, but please note that this is *NOT* a "rant" folder.

Creative writings by abuse survivors. Highly graphic works belong in the social group "Inner Expressions".

We all need to let off the steam once in a while and get hugs in return. May contain strong language. Also for general struggles that don't belong in any other folder.

Just join the group, start a thread, and post away - journaling is therapeutic. If you wish to comment on someone's journal entry - please use a separate thread unless the person specifically asked otherwise.

Anything positive and healing for abuse survivors that you found and would like to share. Imagery scripts, meditation techniques, 100 things to do before I die, how to say "No!" to toxic thoughts - anything motivating & positive.

Let's come together to figure out how to work through these painful emotions that we all struggle with once in a while. Post your questions, interesting articles you found, helpful tricks you discovered, or simply your struggles with these feelings.

Past abuse can certainly impact our current relationships. We might struggle with trust, boundaries, communication, or any other aspect that makes a relationship healthy and pleasurable. Post your struggles, questions, discoveries, interesting articles you found, or anything else relevant to relationships in the folders below.

Articles on various topics related to survival from abuse. Posted directly on our site. Everyone can view, including guests.

Anything that has to do with Therapy, Counseling, PDocs. Struggles with transference, article on when to terminate, your opinion on EMDR, new meds you're on - let's discuss it here.

Discussions & articles on various psychiatric conditions. Please remain non-judgemental, even when discussing sociopaths, and please keep the discussions constructive. Post in Bucket if you need to rant :)

Everyone is welcome: lils, middles, bigs, non-humans, etc, and topics can range anywhere from internal communication to money management within the system. If it has to do with Dissociative Issues - post it here.

Doing harmful things to one's body is not uncommon among abuse survivors. We hear your pain. Post your struggles, victories, insights, and questions here - but please refrain from extra graphic descriptions...

Place to discuss your struggles, insights, thoughts, and feelings regarding religion. Please note though - ALL religions and beliefs are welcome here. Fort is a multicultural community, please respect all of our members.

This is where we ask each other for an extra thought or prayer to a situation. Feel free to request a prayer if you're going through a tough spot in life - we care about you!

Anything you find inspirational: a poem, a picture, a video, any expression of a spiritual nature.