Yesterday, 12:09 PM
I probably have been living with emotional abuse for over 5-6 years with my husband.
It started slow and then escalated. It's not something I've really have been thinking about. But I have had really tough times for example when he totally ignores me when I do something bad. Yell in a way that really scares me, and therefore I've always tried to do what he likes.
Anyways, I had a real bad breakdown from overworking, not sure how much my home
situation had to do with it, cause I've never really been thinking about it before. It's the people around me who reacts or say things isn't normal.
He have been aggressive yelling, saying bad things to me or about me in a scary voice, belittling me. He treats my like a child sometimes. He never does anything wrong. And I'm not sure if he's right or not. I'm so used to this I'm not sure what is normal or what, or maybe it is just me.
When I was hospitalized he didn't like it. He wanted me out of there and started calling me on the phone, screaming, threatening and so on.
After that I almost left him. But he cried and wanted to make amends so we gave it a shot. He really did try, I give him cred for that. It lasted for very long, although some patterns never faded away. Maybe I overlook the bad things when I see good things?
He slowly started to return to his old self. Saying I couldn't buy this or that. When I bought the wrong things he would yell at me because it was a waste of money. Freezing out, not being there. He snapped at one incident, opened my box because he was looking for a thing and just threw it out, went into the closet and did the same thing. Because I said i wanted to buy the thing I couldn't find. I had to clean my box. He yelled at me that it was all a mess and I shouldn't nag at him about cleaning and focusing one the wrong things.
Thinking about divorce. Suggested couple therapy in which he said we didn't have no problems, and the discussion ended with me feeling it was all my fault.
The day after and some days until now he has completely changed. Gives our child more attention, says that he loves me. He wants to watch movies together and drink wine. How long will this last? What am I doing? How could I ever have thought about divorce, everything is good now right?
When I thought about divorce all I could feel was relief ad hope. Now I am just confused.