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Books about abuse inflicted on a child (someone under 18yo) by an adult. It can be physical, sexual, emotional/verbal, or neglect.
The true story of a child in peril and the teacher who saved her
A little girl was living in a nightmare, and Torey Hayden responded in the only way she knew how - with courage, compassion, and dedication - demonstrating once again the tremendous power of love and the resilience of the human spirit.
|White on Black|
There is no self-pity here, no bitterness, only an unfailing regard for the truth. Gallego’s story is one of neglect and mistreatment but also of shared small pleasures, of courage, of the power of the human will, and of a child’s growing fascination with books and the worlds he finds in them.
The Memoir of an Unwanted Chinese Daughter
Adeline Yen Mah
''A compelling, painful, and ultimately triumphant story of a girl's journey into adulthood, Adeline's story is a testament to the most basic of human needs: acceptance, love, and understanding.''
|Daddy's Little Earner|
The shocking story of a young girl forced into prostitution by her own father, and her painful journey to escape her horrific childhood and build a new life for herself and her sons.
|Bury Me behind the Baseboard|
''An 8-year-old boy is torn - almost literally, at one point - between his mother and the grandparents who are raising him'' ''Touchingly naive, tragic, and incredibly funny at the same time.'' - Alina Bronsky
|A House Full of Whispers|
''A very honest account, and a very accurate view of the feelings, thoughts and behaviors of people traumatized in childhood and youth. If you suffered in childhood, or are in a helping position to those who have, then you must read this book.'' - Robert Rich, PhD
|A Stolen Life|
Jaycee chronicles her experience of being kidnapped at the age of 11 and held captive for 18 years, during which time she bore her captor two children. ''Reading the experience in her own words is a revelation.'' -The Washington Post
|Men In My Town|
Autobiographical crime story about a pedophile raping a 14yo boy in Rhode Island - and getting murdered by the local men.
|A Child Called ''It'':|
One Child's Courage to Survive
Dave was brutally beaten and starved by his emotionally unstable, alcoholic mother who played tortuous, unpredictable games - games that left him nearly dead. She no longer considered him a son, but a slave; and no longer a boy, but an ''it.''
|Help At Any Cost:|
How the Troubled-Teen Industry Cons Parents and Hurts Kids
A thourough investigation of the history and present state of this industry and its practices, a moving, often horrifying, first-person accounts of kids who made it through-as well as stories of those who didn't survive.
|The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog:|
And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook - What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us About Loss, Love, and Healing
Bruce Perry and Maia Szalavitz.
Stepping Out of the Shadow of Sexual Abuse and Living Your Dreams
A much needed book for the one in four people who have experienced child sexual abuse. It offers friendly and effective help and support from someone who really understands.
|Outgrowing the Pain:|
A Book for and About Adults Abused As Children
The book pinpoints typical problems abused children experience when they become adults.
|An Adult Child's Guide to What's 'Normal'|
John C. Friel Ph.D. & Linda D. Friel M.A.
a practical guide to living a healthy life, if your parents have not been able to teach you social skills.
|I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings|
''Here is a book as joyous and painful, as mysterious and memorable, as childhood itself. I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings captures the longing of lonely children, the brute insult of bigotry, and the wonder of words that can make the world right. Maya Angelou’s debut memoir is a modern American classic beloved worldwide.''
|More about Child Abuse: phone local_library theaters|
Books about abuse inflicted on one adult by another, while both share the same household. For example, physical abuse by an intimate partner, or abuse of elderly parent by their adult child.
|When Violence Begins at Home|
K.J. Wilson, Ed.D
A comprehensive guide to understanding and ending domestic abuse, written by a survivor for workers and survivors.
|Dark Confessions of an Extraordinary, Ordinary Woman|
The author's account of her life, from young child to teen to adulthood, and her struggles along the way when she finds herself in an abusive relationship. An inspirational story of strength in adversity.
|The House on Sunset|
Each chapter offers a different glimpse inside the cycle of intimate partner violence, where honeymoon phases and traumas coexist. Everyone could fall victim to abusers. This book bravely displays the reasons a quirky, twenty-something teacher would, and did.
|Next Time She'll Be Dead:|
Battering and How to Stop It
An excellent book that covers many dimensions of domestic violence in the USA.
The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence
Philip W. Cook
very informative book, covering a wide range of material, from interviews to support groups and legal advice.
|Why Does He Do That?:|
Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
Book by the former codirector of the nation's first program for abusive men, who has specialized in domestic violence for 15 years
|When She Was Bad...:|
Violent Women and the Myth of Innocence
shocking, yet carefully researched statistics of violence among females, and interesting conclusions. For example - the rate at which infants are murdered by women in the U.S. is higher than the rate at which women are murdered by men.
|More about Domestic Abuse: phone local_library theaters|
Books about non-consensual intercourse (vaginal or otherwise), where the perpetrator forces it on the victim against their will and the victim is helpless to escape.
Alice was raped as a college freshman, but the police said she was ''lucky.'' At least she wasn't murdered and dismembered like the girl before her. Now a journalist, Sebold describes the aftermath: PTSD, heroin addiction, and, finally, some measure of understanding.
The True Story of a Sex Trafficking Survivor
Katariina Rosenblatt, PhD
The author tells her story of being lured into trafficking, her experiences while being trapped, and her eventual escape. Stolen is a survival story with an inspirational message, although sometimes reading as a lecture.
|Fish: A Memoir of a Boy in a Man's Prison|
T. J. Parsell
An honest account of one teen's life in prison, and how his own choices contributed to the situations he found himself in. Explicitly adult and hard to read at times, but still interesting.
|Sexual Assault in the U.S. Military:|
The Battle within America's Armed Forces (Praeger Security International)
An in-depth analysis of sexual assault in the military from historical and contemporary perspectives, offering suggestions that could change the existing culture and approaches that will reduce or eliminate sexual assault in the armed forces.
|Recovering From Rape|
practical advice on overcoming the trauma and coping with police, hospitals, and the courts - for the survivors of sexual assault and their families, lovers, and friends.
|Sexual Assault: Will I Ever Feel Okay Again?|
a Christian survivors' guide to healing from sexual assault. Author shares the pain, fear, shame, self-loathing and doubt, but also the courage, faith, friendship, support, and growth of her pathway.
|I Never Called It Rape|
the MS. report on recognizing, fighting, and surviving date and acquaintance rape.
|Trauma and Recovery: From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror |
Judith Lewis Herman
an excellent classic.
|I Can't Get Over it:|
A Handbook for Trauma Survivors
Aphrodite Matsakis Ph.D
- explains PTSD thoroughly without jargon. Good sections on domestic violence and rape.
|More about Rape and Sexual Assault: phone local_library theaters|
Books about a pattern of using a system of beliefs to inflict and/or justify abuse: physical, sexual, and/or emotional. Religious abuse might or might not take a form of a ritual, and can be perpetrated by an organized group of people or just a single person.
|Safe Passage to Healing:|
A Guide for Survivors of Ritual Abuse
"A real gift to ritual abuse survivors who've only had crumbs in the recovery literature... poignant and insightful." ~ Laura Davis, coauthor of The Courage to Heal
|Girl at the End of the World:|
My Escape from Fundamentalism in Search of Faith with a Future
|Breaking Their Will:|
Shedding Light on Religious Child Maltreatment
A thoroughly researched book that exposes a dark side of faith that most Americans do not know exists - the religious maltreatment of children.
|Cartwheels in a Sari:|
A Memoir of Growing Up In A Cult
A memoir of growing up in a cult in mainstream America, being seen as the chosen one of prophesy, her decision to break free and build a new life, and the challenges she faced.
|Born into the Children of God:|
My life in a religious sex cult and my struggle for survival on the outside
A personal tale of trauma and recovery, and an exposé of the secret world of abuse hidden behind the commune walls.
|Confessions of a Teenage Jesus Jerk|
a surprisingly sweet coming-of-age story told through the eyes of a horny, Jehovah-battered, Watchtower-wielding, door-to-door proselytizer.
My Story of Growing Up in a Polygamous Sect, Becoming a Teenage Bride, and Breaking Free of Warren Jeffs
My Secret Life Inside Scientology and My Harrowing Escape
Jenna Miscavige Hill
In this memoir, the author offers an insider's profile of the beliefs, rituals, and secrets of the religion that has captured the fascination of millions.
|I Fired God:|
My Life Inside - and Escape from - the Secret World of the Independent Fundamental Baptist Cult
''This is one edgy, thought-provoking odyssey - from oppressed child to ultimate whistle-blower.'' - Booklist
|Call Me Evil, Let Me Go:|
A mother's struggle to save her children from a brutal religious cult
The author's story of being introduced to a cult early in life, marrying and having a family in the cult, then escaping with her own children.
Surviving My Years in the Westboro Baptist Church
This is the story of Lauren's introduction to the WBC, her adaptation to the life, and her fight to find herself amidst dramatic changes in a world of extremists and subsequently a life in exile.
The dramatic first-person account of life inside an ultra-fundamentalist American religious sect, and one woman's courageous flight to freedom with her eight children.
|Ritual Abuse and Mind Control:|
The Manipulation of Attachment Needs
Orit Badouk Epstein, Joseph Schwartz, and Rachel Wingfield Schwartz.
|More about Religious and Ritual Abuse: local_library theaters|
Repairing The Damage:
Books about stages of healing, anger management, identifying your feelings, knowing your needs, improving your self esteem, etc.
|The Gifts of Imperfection:|
Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
important book about the lifelong journey from 'What will people think?' to 'I am enough.'
|The Whole-Brain Child:|
12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind
Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
great for parenting your children or reparenting yourself after child abuse.
|Who Moved My Cheese:|
An A-Mazing Way to Deal With Change in Your Work and Your Life
Dr. Spencer Johnson
A tale focusing on change, how change is perceived, and its impact on life.
|Go Suck A Lemon:|
Strategies for Improving Your Emotional Intelligence
''Logical, simple (but not always easy) ideas are presented to help me become more intelligent. I've already started putting some ideas to practice. I have a long way to go, but thank goodness I bought this book on a whim and was made acutely aware of those behaviors I need to focus on adjusting.''
Revised and Expanded Edition, The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions
'In creative ways, author Dan Ariely puts rationality to the test.' ~ Boston Globe
|It's OK to Be Neurotic:|
Using Your Neuroses to Your Advantage
Explores twenty strategies for coping with and benefiting from neuroses.
|More about Emotional Health: local_library|
Books about things you can do to improve your quality of life: cleaning, cooking, sleeping, arts & crafts, etc
|The Habit Change Workbook:|
How to Break Bad Habits and Form Good Ones
James Claiborn and Cherry Pedrick R.N.
|Get Off Your ''But'':|
How to End Self-Sabotage and Stand Up for Yourself
empowering and uplifting throughout, and should prove helpful whether facing a lifelong challenge or a more immediate battle.
|The Time Trap: The Classic Book on Time Management|
Alec Mackenzie and Pat Nickerson
A self-help book offering a clear step-by-step ways to combat time management problems such as telephone interruptions, the inability to say ''no,'' and personal disorganization.
|The Joy of Less, A Minimalist Living Guide: How to Declutter, Organize, and Simplify Your Life|
Ten easy steps to rid your house of clutter, trim your to-do list and free up your time, and how saving space in your closets can save the planet.
A Mom's Twelve-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement
Kay Wills Wyma
''If you want your children to be more responsible, more self-assured, and more empathetic, Cleaning House is for you.'' ~Jim Daly, president of Focus on the Family
|How to Manage Your Money When You Don't Have Any|
Basic but still valid advice on budgeting. Rather than emphasizing wealth creation, this book teaches readers to do the best they can with their income no matter its size. Content rich, personal, and jargon free, the book is opinionated and at times humorous.
|You Are WHY You Eat:|
Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life
Dr. Ramani Durvasula
interesting book on emotional eating and learning how to quit, when to quit, when to walk away, and how to acknowledge when you're full.
|Home Improvement 1-2-3|
The Home Depot
Workbench classic on home repair, maintenance, and improvement. Clear, concise instructions accompanied by detailed how-to photographs ensure your success no matter what your skill level.
|More about Activities of Daily Living: local_library|
Books about healthy and unhealthy relationships, how to communicate with people, how to set boundaries, how to avoid drama, how to not abuse others, etc.
|Games People Play:|
The Psychology of Human Relationships
Eric Berne, MD
Classic book that has helped millions of people understand the dynamics of relationships. Crucial for abuse survivors.
|Born for Love:|
Why Empathy Is Essential - and Endangered
Bruce D. Perry and Maia Szalavitz
Explores how children learn to love - or not.
|The Sexual Healing Journey|
comprehensive guide to help survivors of sexual abuse improve their relationships and discover the joys of sexual intimacy.
|How to Hug a Porcupine:|
Dealing With Toxic and Difficult to Love Personalities
John L. Lund
''John's humor and down-to-earth approach makes this book very easy and enjoyable to read.'' ~ Travelin Trix
|Codependent No More:|
How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
''Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else's, you may be codependent - and you may find yourself in this book.''
|The Language of Letting Go:|
Hazelden Meditation Series
unique daily meditation book written especially for those of us who struggle with the issue of codependency.
|The Betrayal Bond:|
Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships
Patrick J. Carnes, PhD
Excellent resource for victims to detach from someone who is dangerous to them.
|Free Yourself from an Abusive Relationship:|
Seven Steps to Taking Back Your Life
Andrea Lissette and Richard Kraus Ph.D
for men and women - practical and down to earth, good advice on both leaving and healing afterwards.
|The Emotionally Abused Woman:|
Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself
A marriage, family, and child therapist guides you through a step-by-step recovery process to help you heal the damage done in the past.
|The Verbally Abusive Relationship:|
How to recognize it and how to respond
recognize abuse when it happens, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life.
How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal with People Who Try to Control You
Info not only on how to break free, but on why they do what they do.
|The Secret of Overcoming Verbal Abuse:|
Getting Off the Emotional Roller Coaster and Regaining Control of Your Life
Albert Ellis, PhD
Good resource whether you chose to stay or to leave.
|More about Relationships: local_library|
Books about abuse or mental health, written for children.
Books about therapy: how to choose a good therapist, what to talk about in their office, and when to quit.
|Overcoming Trauma and PTSD|
A Workbook Integrating Skills from ACT, DBT, and CBT
''An excellent resource for the many individuals suffering from emotional consequences of trauma that do not have access to, cannot afford, or prefer not to utilize traditional mental health services.'' - Matt J. Gray, PhD
|Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life:|
The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
Steven C. Hayes & Spencer Smith
Healing is not about resisting your emotions; it’s about feeling them completely and yet not turning your choices over to them.
|The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook|
Matthew McKay, Jeffrey C. Wood, Jeffrey Brantley
Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & Tolerance. A collaborative effort from three esteemed authors, offers straightforward, step-by-step exercises for learning these concepts and putting them to work for real and lasting change.
|The CBT Toolbox|
A Workbook for Clients and Clinicians
by Jeff Riggenbach
''Using many clear clinical examples, Riggenbach moves easily between theory, conceptualization, treatment planning, and the application of CBT techniques. It is well-written, user-friendly, and filled with the information and ideas that can only come from an expert clinician.'' - Arthur Freeman
|A Shining Affliction:|
A Story of Harm and Healing in Psychotherapy
Annie G. Rogers
''...what makes this book so extraordinary is her willingness to reveal exactly what goes on in the sometimes mysterious encounter between therapist and patient.'' ~ The Los Angeles Times.
Master Therapists Share Their Worst Failures
Jeffrey A. Kottler & Jon Carlson
20 of the world's most famous practitioners discuss their mistakes, misjudgements, and miscalculations on working with clients. Helps to have a perspective on the fact that therapists are human too. More understanding and less grudges this way.
|Weekends at Bellevue:|
Nine Years on the Night Shift at the Psych ER
admissions psychiatrist in NYC. Controversial, at times bordering on inappropriate, but still interesting.
|More about Therapy: phone local_library theaters|
Books about how to ground when you're triggered, dealing with panic attacks and flashbacks, managing phobias, etc.
Simple, Effective Techniques for Overcoming Traumatic Stress Symptoms
Mary Beth Williams PhD LCSW CTS, Soili Poijula PhD
This book is designed to give you the emotional resilience you need to get your life back together after a traumatic event.
|The Body Keeps The Score:|
Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
''An astonishing amount of information on almost every aspect of trauma experience, research, interventions, and theories is brought together in this book, which ... has a distinctly holistic feel to it.'' - European Journal of Psychotraumatology
|No Comfort Zone:|
Notes on Living with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
highly personal account that helps us understand what PTSD is.
|Walking The Tiger: Healing Trauma|
Peter A. Levine
Why are animals in the wild, though threatened routinely, rarely traumatized? By understanding the dynamics that make wild animals virtually immune to traumatic symptoms, the mystery of human trauma is revealed.
From Surviving to Thriving, A Guide And Map For Recovering From Childhood Trauma
''This book is a practical, user-friendly self-help guide to recovering from the lingering effects of childhood trauma, and to achieving a rich and fulfilling life. It is copiously illustrated with examples of my own and my clients' journeys of recovering.''
|Nowhere Near Normal:|
A Memoir of OCD
Foust pokes fun at her own sense of self-pity and describes the lack of empathy in others, giving readers an intimate look at OCD from the inside.
Kimberly Rae Miller
In this dazzling memoir, Miller brings to life her experience growing up in a rat-infested home, hiding her father’s shameful secret from friends for years, and the emotional burden that ultimately led to her suicide attempt. In beautiful prose, Miller sheds light on her complicated yet loving relationship with her parents, which has thrived in spite of the odds.
|More about PTSD and Anxiety: local_library theaters|
Books about Dissociative Identity Disorder (aka Multiple Personality Disorder), where it comes from and how we live with it.
|Got Parts? An Insider's Guide to Managing Life Successfully with Dissociative Identity Disorder|
a survivor of DID in association with her therapist.
|Amongst Ourselves: A Self-Help Guide to Living with Dissociative Identity Disorder|
Tracy Alderman, PhD, and Karen Marshall, LCSW
Practical steps to cope with DID/MPD and emerge with greater self-awareness and the skills to live a rich and rewarding life.
|Engaging Multiple Personalities I|
The author practiced psychiatry for 40 years and on three continents. "Talking to alters is a strange, serious and ultimately compelling experience. They are not real according to our customary definitions, but neither are they false or fake. They are essential for healing the patient."
|Engaging Multiple Personalities II:|
Continuation of the first volume; detailed guidance and practical, easily accessible techniques for working with DID, as well as pitfalls to avoid.
|When Rabbit Howls|
Classic DID/MPD memoirs of child sexual abuse, written by alters.
The Autobiography of a Multiple Personality
Joan Frances Casey
|The Sum of My Parts:|
A Survivor's Story of Dissociative Identity Disorder
Olga Trujillo JD
Olga's childhood was devastated by sexual abuse and violence.
|Treating Dissociative Identity Disorder:|
The Power of the Collective Heart
Sarah Y. Krakauer.
|More about DID/MPD: local_library theaters|
Books about suicide, self-harm, eating disorders, addictions, or any other non-accidental behaviors that are harmful to your body.
Harrowing yet compelling, this is a searing and truly inspirational account of overcoming the worst abuse and self-harm.
|A Piece of Cake|
There are shelves of memoirs about overcoming the death of a parent, childhood abuse, rape, drug addiction, miscarriage, alcoholism, hustling, prostitution, or homelessness. Cupcake Brown survived all these things before she’d even turned twenty. And that's when things got interesting...
|An Unquiet Mind:|
A Memoir of Moods and Madness
Kay Redfield Jamison
Bipolar illness from the dual perspectives of the healer and the healed. A memoir of enormous candor, vividness, and wisdom - a deeply powerful book that has both transformed and saved lives.
|It Was Me All Along|
A heartbreakingly honest, endearing memoir of incredible weight loss by a young food blogger who battles body image issues and overcomes food addiction to find self-acceptance.
|Fall To Pieces:|
A Memoir of Drugs, Rock 'n' Roll, and Mental Illness
Mary Forsberg Weiland, Larkin Warren
''A brutally honest and compelling account of Mary Weiland’s struggles with addiction and mental illness. Brave, bold and unfiltered, Mary's writing injects humor and levity in a way that is both entertaining and necessary. I have no doubt that this important book will help save many lives.'' - Dave Navarro
|Girl Walks Out of a Bar|
Lisa F. Smith
''A darkly comic, honest, and completely relatable inside look at high-functioning addiction in the world of corporate law.'' - Jennifer Belle,
|A Million Little Pieces|
An account of the author's decision to enter rehab and the six weeks he spends there, trying to recover from alcohol and drug addiction, after waking up on a plane with no memory of how he got there or of the past two weeks of his life.
|More about Self Inflictions: phone local_library theaters|
If we could first know where we are, and whither we are tending, we could then better judge what to do, and how to do it.
~ Abraham Lincoln
~ Abraham Lincoln
This page was last updated on September 27th, 2017
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