I think the most profound thing about being here is the eagerness I have gathered
to work through my issues, finding ways to do this and sharing my own ideas sometimes.
Fort Refuge is an online community of abuse survivors: a place where we come together and try to make sense of the trauma we've been through, the aftermath it left us with, and our coping with and recovery from both. Fort was founded by Lala on February 29th, 2008 and has been growing and evolving ever since, as thousands of survivors contribute to the project, each in their own way. There are 7,000+ registered members total, with 20-30 of us on forums/chat at any time, making about 150-200 new posts per day. Membership is free, anonymous, and offered to anyone over 16yo who has been abused and accepts our terms of service and guidelines.
Abuse does not discriminate and survivors come in all ages, genders, education levels, mental health diagnoses, income brackets, locations, sexual orientations, and faiths (if any). Fort isn't a clique and we welcome any survivor struggling with any issue, but we're conscious of the fact that abuse sites are there to stop abuse, not spread it, so we have 18 guidelines that we're serious about enforcing, and following them is the only condition on which Fort membership is offered. Our guidelines ensure a safe and respectful environment, free of judgment, personal attacks, preaching, gossip, or disruptions like ads, fundraisers, and petitions - yet allow each of us to speak freely and honestly, instead of walking on eggshells for fear of "triggering" others or getting ostracized for having an unpopular opinion. Diversity of experiences paired with strong and clear boundaries makes our conversations interesting, allows us to learn from each other, and offers a smooth transition from isolation to making friends in the "real world". Knowing that you aren't alone, interacting with people who get what it's like, genuinely care, and yet don't disrespect you - is priceless for abuse survivors, and we are proud of being a part of this project.
To get a feel for our community you can browse our poetry, art, things we talk about in our weekly hosted chats, or check out what people say about us. Some of us have been around for years and still log in daily, others healed from their trauma and only step by once in a while to say hey to old friends, yet others just got here and are checking out the place. Fort Refuge is maintained by survivors just like you, and would not be possible without our mod team, our community, and each of our members and visitors, including you. We warmly thank you for being here with us, and hope to see you around!
~ Albert Einstein
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