I have been abused in the past
We're glad you found us, though regret the circumstances that brought you here. Abuse often leaves long-lasting aftermath, and it does help to talk about it with other survivors who get what it's like because they're going through the same thing. Fort membership is free and anonymous, and gives access to sixty forum folders, seven chatrooms, three weekly hosted chats, journals, social groups, etc. Forum posts, chat logs, user profiles, etc are visible to members only, and do not come up on Google. Anyone who believes they were abused, is over 16, and agrees to follow our guidelines is welcome to join us, using Fort as much or as little as they feel like.
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I am being abused currently
Abuse is a serious matter that requires immediate attention of trained professionals in your area. We've been there, understand what it's like, and we care - but we're only an anonymous support group, and aren't qualified to assist with 3D crises. Instead, we list links and numbers of over a hundred of organizations that can help you ensure your safety: emergency numbers, domestic violence shelters, rape hotlines, numbers of Child Protective Services, therapist directories, suicide chatlines, etc. The list is organized by country and by topic, for easy navigation. Please do reach out for help in 3D: abuse is a crime, nobody should be subjected to it, and there are organizations in your area that will help you escape it.
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My loved one was/is abused
Thank you for googling information on supporting your loved one! Abuse (past or present) is terribly isolating, and we're glad that our fellow abuse survivor has you in their support network. Feel free to browse our library - all of the pages there are written by abuse survivors and/or mental health professionals, and cover a wide range of topics, from personal memoirs expressing what it felt like to be abused - to articles on coping with insomnia. Awareness section includes a few pages written specifically for supporters like you.
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As you can imagine, abuse is a pretty sensitive and painful topic, so most of our forums and chatrooms are open to survivors only. However, feel free to use our Public Forum - it's free, anonymous, requires no registration, and is open to both our members and visitors. Keep in mind though that none of us offer crisis counseling, referrals, or relationship advice; we simply share our personal experiences with each other.
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I am already a member
Great, click on "Sign in" link in the top right corner of any page, enter your username and password, click "Sign in," and then click on "Forum", "Chat", or any other place you wish to go. If you forgot your password, click on "Forgot my password" under the "Sign in" menu.
Cool beans, feel free to poke around. We've been around since 2008 and are permanently growing and expanding, so you're likely to find something new no matter if it's your first of your hundredth visit. Here are some pointers:
- Library has bunch of articles written by Fort members and visitors (including mental health professionals): self-help, memoirs, how-to's, etc. We also have a decent collection of full-length documentary films, and a list of books that our members found helpful
- Quizzes are completely anonymous, results are displayed to you instantly without any ads or sign-up prompts, and your answers are not recorded. There's also a list of academic research studies you can participate in, if you feel like it.
- Playroom has a few dozen of jigsaws, physics games, nerdy puzzles, etc that you can play right here on Fort and that have no ads or triggery content. Tetris, for instance, has been shown to lessen PTSD symptoms. There's also the Calm room with a bunch of nature videos, guided imagery, meditation mp3s, etc, the Doodling page where you can play with online caleidoscopes, mandalas, or draw something creative, and a few other such pages for when you're triggered and need a calm distraction.
- Help has tons of 3D resources for anything to do with abuse or its aftermath: hotlines, DV shelters, therapist directories, rehabs, social security benefits, etc. Plus some information on online safety and a list of alternative sites you might like.
Fort started in 2008 as a private support group for abuse survivors. We've grown quite a lot in the past decade, and now offer resources for anyone affected by abuse/trauma. You're welcome to browse the site and see what you find, but if you're feeling overwhelmed and need to quickly find your way around - just select the option that best describes you above, you'll see what we have specifically for you.
A wise man should have money in his head, but not in his heart.
~ Jonathan Swift
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