Fort Refuge - Abuse Survivors Support Group

Welcome to Fort!

Everyone here, from the founding administrators to the newest members, is on a journey of healing from abuse we suffered: child abuse, incest, sexual assault, rape, domestic violence, ritual abuse, or psychological and verbal abuse. We feel that all types of abuse are damaging, and we do not minimize any person's experiences. It is our goal to reach out to as many fellow survivors as we can with compassion, understanding, and encouragement. This healing journey we all are on can feel overwhelming and isolating at times. We offer peer support and resources to help you tackle some of the difficult issues faced by abuse survivors, as well as the opportunity to give support to others.

The inner strength of people who, like you, have survived a traumatic or abusive encounter is truly amazing, and we hope that you will find your place among us and feel a sense of belonging here. Many of us battle PTSD. Many are DID/MPD. Many struggle with Self Injury, Eating Disorders and Addictions. We are each at different places on this journey, but there is comfort in knowing that we are not alone. As we share our stories, thoughts and feelings, confusions and discoveries, philosophical ponderings and raw rants, poems and artwork, light-hearted jokes and craft projects, in essence - our strength, our journey is enhanced by what we learn from each other. Fort Refuge is all of us, as a whole, including you. Welcome!

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Addiction is such a heavy topic, with so much stereotypes, judgments, blame, and shame attached to it. Truth is, many people are addicted to one thing or another: alcohol, coffee, drugs, cigs, sex, gambling, internet, drama, video games, psychotherapy, shopping - you name it. Many of them live fairly functional lives, and would be insulted if someone categorized them as addicts. Addiction only becomes a problem when you spend more time/money on it than you're comfortable with, neglecting/sacrificing other areas of your life; when the habit in question becomes a bigger part of your life than you'd like it to be - or when it starts hurting other people. ... (keep reading)
Latest additions:

04-29-2016 - Child Abuse - refresh of an old page on what's child abuse, what forms it takes, how common it is, etc.
04-17-2016 - Psych hospitals - what happens inside, what is Baker Act, difference between ER stay and admission, between inpatient and outpatient treatment, and what to pack when you're going inpatient.
03-22-2016 - If you're accused of domestic violence - 10 things to do, whether the accusation is false or not.
02-23-2016 - Addictions - 3 questions to figure out if your habit is a problem for you or not, info on how abuse and addictions are interrelated, and links to helpful organizations.
12-25-2015 - Rape of Men: Myths and Facts - Statistics, information, links for further reading.

Abuse Resources
Crisis Links:
See our list of hotlines, chatlines, and organizations that can help if you or someone you know is in crisis or needs help escaping abuse. It's organized by country and type of emergency. We care, but we're people just like you, who have been hurt and are trying to recover from the impact of this trauma. Anything you read on this website is an opinion only, based on personal experience of the author, and should not be used in place of counseling, therapy, or medical or legal advice.

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